Ghosted after a few good dates

Lesalare · 04-05-2021 5:38pm

partyguinness wrote: »

Even my wife does not know how much I earn. Hell, she doesn't even know I own a 2 bed apartment with a sitting tenant that I operate through my own limited company- she doesnt even know about the company either.

That's odd as heck. Your wife doesn't know you are a landlord/own property/have private companies?

Bizarre. :eek:

YellowLead · 04-05-2021 6:09pm

partyguinness wrote: »

People ask that...:eek:

Even my wife does not know how much I earn. Hell, she doesn't even know I own a 2 bed apartment with a sitting tenant that I operate through my own limited company- she doesnt even know about the company either.

I don’t think anybody ever asks that.

04-05-2021 6:16pm

partyguinness wrote: »

People ask that...:eek:

Even my wife does not know how much I earn. Hell, she doesn't even know I own a 2 bed apartment with a sitting tenant that I operate through my own limited company- she doesnt even know about the company either.

maith an fear

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Surreptitious · 04-05-2021 8:43pm

YellowLead wrote: »

I don’t think anybody ever asks that.

Yes they do. I had people analyse every single fragment of myself.

raclle · 04-05-2021 10:28pm

Sounds like being interviewed for a job nowadays

Thelonious Monk · 04-05-2021 10:29pm

what is with this sea swimming obsession with women on dating apps nowadays?

Surreptitious · 04-05-2021 10:30pm

raclle wrote: »

Sounds like being interviewed for a job nowadays

One guy asked me 25 times about my job. Then the alarm was broken in our house. It was going off for hours. He contacted me and I told him about it. He said what kind of job do you do again.
Thought I'd fcking lose it

triona1 · 04-05-2021 10:39pm

Surreptitious wrote:

One guy asked me 25 times about my job. Then the alarm was broken in our house. It was going off for hours. He contacted me and I told him about it. He said what kind of job do you do again. Thought I'd fcking lose it

And you kept answering???

Surreptitious · 04-05-2021 10:58pm

triona1 wrote: »

And you kept answering???

Where did I say that. I didn't talk to him after. Basically so it's my fault? Typical Boards craic again

04-05-2021 11:05pm

Surreptitious wrote: »

Where did I say that. I didn't talk to him after. Basically so it's my fault? Typical Boards craic again

You ignored 26 duplicate questions though. When did you stop talking to him? After question 7?

Surreptitious · 04-05-2021 11:12pm

Deleted User wrote: »

You ignored 26 duplicate questions though. When did you stop talking to him? After question 7?

What's it to you?

sassyj · 04-05-2021 11:16pm

Thelonious Monk wrote: »

what is with this sea swimming obsession with women on dating apps nowadays?

Same with guys profiles currently. I do actually swim, got chatting to someone who had it on his profile, became clear he didn't actually swim, had got in once and was too cold lol

Zinchenko231 · 04-05-2021 11:32pm

Surreptitious wrote: »

What's it to you?

It's amusing witnessing people like you in action. What type of job do people like you have?

YellowLead · 05-05-2021 12:13am

Surreptitious wrote: »

Yes they do. I had people analyse every single fragment of myself.

They asked you straight out? Like not even what your job is, your exact salary?

Surreptitious · 05-05-2021 12:23am

YellowLead wrote: »

They asked you straight out? Like not even what your job is, your exact salary?

Some have. One guy asked how I afforded to pay for college and got very abusive. I blocked him then.
Now that I think about it, quite a few have.

YellowLead · 05-05-2021 7:51am

Surreptitious wrote: »

Some have. One guy asked how I afforded to pay for college and got very abusive. I blocked him then.
Now that I think about it, quite a few have.

Sounds like you are talking to mad people. Jesus! I’ve never had anyone ask that or heard anyone else ever being asked a direct salary question.
At least you know to get rid!

Thelonious Monk · 05-05-2021 8:16am

sassyj wrote: »

Same with guys profiles currently. I do actually swim, got chatting to someone who had it on his profile, became clear he didn't actually swim, had got in once and was too cold lol

ha, yeah I got in last October and it was f*cking freezing so it's not really for me in this country anyway. Seriously though, pretty much every woman who isn't the type with fake nails and lots of makeup mentions sea swimming in their bio, and when I did swim last year it was mostly women there, seems to be a phenomenon that took hold over lockdown.

YellowLead · 05-05-2021 8:26am

Thelonious Monk wrote: »

ha, yeah I got in last October and it was f*cking freezing so it's not really for me in this country anyway. Seriously though, pretty much every woman who isn't the type with fake nails and lots of makeup mentions sea swimming in their bio, and when I did swim last year it was mostly women there, seems to be a phenomenon that took hold over lockdown.

Maybe you are right, I don’t do it myself so I don’t know - but I will say I have guy friends who took it up over lockdown so not sure it’s a woman thing per se.

I do like active people so outdoor shots are always good - however it’s pretty easy to tell the difference between the perfectly posed ones and the just out there having fun ones.

Thelonious Monk · 05-05-2021 8:30am

YellowLead wrote: »

Maybe you are right, I don’t do it myself so I don’t know - but I will say I have guy friends who took it up over lockdown so not sure it’s a woman thing per se.

I do like active people so outdoor shots are always good - however it’s pretty easy to tell the difference between the perfectly posed ones and the just out there having fun ones.

Yeah active is good but some go too far and there's only so many Tough Mudder pictures I can look at! Maybe I should get someone to take photos of me jogging or cycling to work...

partyguinness · 05-05-2021 10:57am

If someone is asking the same question over and over it is because they have so many "dates" on the go they are struggling to keep track.

Feisar · 05-05-2021 11:09am

partyguinness wrote: »

If someone is asking the same question over and over it is because they have so many "dates" on the go they are struggling to keep track.

Cheat sheets/notes required.

05-05-2021 11:19am

partyguinness wrote: »

If someone is asking the same question over and over it is because they have so many "dates" on the go they are struggling to keep track.

I used to do that, messaging multiple people at once. It's too much to handle and it's difficult to make a meaningful connection with someone. I stick to one at a time, once I've got a conversation going.

But it depends on what you're looking for. If you're looking for ONS, then you may as well use the machine gun approach.

Mad_maxx · 05-05-2021 11:25am

I once went on several dates with a lady who showed up one afternoon to tell me she was still in love with a married man or a man who was going through a divorce

It was decent of her to show up in person to tell me

YellowLead · 05-05-2021 1:23pm

Mad_maxx wrote: »

I once went on several dates with a lady who showed up one afternoon to tell me she was still in love with a married man or a man who was going through a divorce

It was decent of her to show up in person to tell me

Hearing other people’s weird encounters always make me feel better about mine!

partyguinness · 05-05-2021 2:00pm

I went on a dinner date with this Polish lady circa 2006/2007.

She was effing nuts. The picture on her profile was clearly not her and she insisted on sitting beside me at the table. Who the eff goes on a dinner date and sits beside the date rather than face to face? well this crazy bird did because it was blatantly obvious that her profile pic was some one completely different. She was a bitter disappointment on the looks front compared to the pic.

She spent the whole time telling me about her campaign to make the life of the father of her 5 year old daughter (which she also kept from me) absolute hell. Dragging him in and out of Court every five minutes. I felt sorry for him as she was clearly very vindictive. She didnt even bad mouth him or say he was a bastard but she just enjoyed fcking with him. I was left with the distinct impression she got pregnant on purpose with some poor lad, ditched him, she ran rings around him and then proceeded to screw him for every penny. I just got pissed on two bottles of red wine to myself and left it at that.

Another Polish date was obsessed with learning Irish. She would literally pull out text books in her front room and want to start practising. That was sum total of our two "dates". One day she insisted we go to Easons and I would help her pick out a suitable Irish textbook which we then had to go back to her place to read.

Another Polish girl I actually met the old fashioned way (in a bar) was lying in my bed after a night of unprotcted sex. I walked in and she was making all sorts of yoga poses under the sheets. I asked her what she was doing and I quote "I am making Irish babies"...:eek: I ditched her at the airport PDQ back to Poland and blocked her number.

Another Polish girl was just so much hard work I just gave up.

partyguinness · 05-05-2021 2:05pm

Mad_maxx wrote: »

I once went on several dates with a lady who showed up one afternoon to tell me she was still in love with a married man or a man who was going through a divorce

It was decent of her to show up in person to tell me

but you still "sealed the deal" right?..:D

Mad_maxx · 05-05-2021 2:54pm

YellowLead wrote: »

Hearing other people’s weird encounters always make me feel better about mine!

it wasnt all that weird , its not like we knew each other well or anything , she just met me in a cafe and told me about it

YellowLead · 05-05-2021 3:47pm

Mad_maxx wrote: »

it wasnt all that weird , its not like we knew each other well or anything , she just met me in a cafe and told me about it

Oh I read it wrong - I thought you were being sarcastic with the it’s nice of her line! Sorry

Also I missed the fact that you had several dates, I thought it was the first date where she had told you she was in love with somebody else.

raclle · 05-05-2021 4:48pm

Mad_maxx wrote: »

I once went on several dates with a lady who showed up one afternoon to tell me she was still in love with a married man or a man who was going through a divorce

I just don't understand people. Maybe she was trying to move on or using it as an excuse

Username here · 05-05-2021 5:17pm

partyguinness wrote: »

I went on a dinner date with this Polish lady.....

Another Polish date....

Another Polish girl.....

Another Polish girl.....

There seems to be a common thread there..... Have you ever had a NON Polish girl date?! :eek:

:pac: :pac:

Ms. Newbie18 · 05-05-2021 5:18pm

partyguinness wrote: »

I went on a dinner date with this Polish lady circa 2006/2007.

She was effing nuts. The picture on her profile was clearly not her and she insisted on sitting beside me at the table. Who the eff goes on a dinner date and sits beside the date rather than face to face? well this crazy bird did because it was blatantly obvious that her profile pic was some one completely different. She was a bitter disappointment on the looks front compared to the pic.

She spent the whole time telling me about her campaign to make the life of the father of her 5 year old daughter (which she also kept from me) absolute hell. Dragging him in and out of Court every five minutes. I felt sorry for him as she was clearly very vindictive. She didnt even bad mouth him or say he was a bastard but she just enjoyed fcking with him. I was left with the distinct impression she got pregnant on purpose with some poor lad, ditched him, she ran rings around him and then proceeded to screw him for every penny. I just got pissed on two bottles of red wine to myself and left it at that.

Another Polish date was obsessed with learning Irish. She would literally pull out text books in her front room and want to start practising. That was sum total of our two "dates". One day she insisted we go to Easons and I would help her pick out a suitable Irish textbook which we then had to go back to her place to read.

Another Polish girl I actually met the old fashioned way (in a bar) was lying in my bed after a night of unprotcted sex. I walked in and she was making all sorts of yoga poses under the sheets. I asked her what she was doing and I quote "I am making Irish babies"...:eek: I ditched her at the airport PDQ back to Poland and blocked her number.

Another Polish girl was just so much hard work I just gave up.

YIKES -:eek:

I think i'd having given up entirely after dealing with those ladies...

YellowLead · 05-05-2021 5:21pm

Ms. Newbie18 wrote: »

YIKES -:eek:

I think i'd having given up entirely after dealing with those ladies...

I just assumed that poster was having a little joke....

Ms. Newbie18 · 05-05-2021 5:30pm

YellowLead wrote: »

I just assumed that poster was having a little joke....

I truly hope so - he has me fearing them now :P

Ronaldinho · 05-05-2021 6:03pm

partyguinness wrote: »

she insisted on sitting beside me at the table. Who the eff goes on a dinner date and sits beside the date rather than face to face? well this crazy bird did

It's not that bad of an idea actually on a 3rd (maybe second if there was a good connection on the 1st) date.

If you find somewhere with a booth. Sitting beside each other it's a lot easier to get closer, to touch them occasionally or to kiss if the moment is right.

Leg End Reject · 05-05-2021 6:12pm

Ronaldinho wrote: »

It's not that bad of an idea actually on a 3rd (maybe second if there was a good connection on the 1st) date.

If you find somewhere with a booth. Sitting beside each other it's a lot easier to get closer, to touch them occasionally or to kiss if the moment is right.

Kissing during a meal? Wait until you're somewhere more private.

Ronaldinho · 05-05-2021 6:24pm

Leg End Reject wrote: »

Kissing during a meal? Wait until you're somewhere more private.

I'm not talking about atein' the face off someone but if the right moment arises - why not.
Have to be able to read the situation and needs to be the right type of kiss.

Bobblehats · 05-05-2021 6:27pm

Ronaldinho wrote: »

I'm not talking about atein' the face off someone but if the right moment arises - why not.

You’re coming off like a preying mantis

Fuzzyduzzy · 05-05-2021 6:42pm

Generally on dating apps, a girl who is normally perceived to be a 6/10 gets treated like an 8 while a guy who is normally perceived to be a 6/10 gets treated like a 4. Most average looking guys will receive 1 or 2 likes per day (maybe one of those from 5,000 miles away) while most average looking women match with pretty much everyone.

In fairness, if guys got this celebrity treatment they could probably get lazy about responding too if they lose interest due to someone better coming along.

I do just wonder where these women end up, like attractiveness is usually on par when people settle together and usually have relationships within their own league.

The return of bars and clubs would be good for single guys as the competition is tough on apps these days!

YellowLead · 05-05-2021 6:58pm

Ronaldinho wrote: »

It's not that bad of an idea actually on a 3rd (maybe second if there was a good connection on the 1st) date.

If you find somewhere with a booth. Sitting beside each other it's a lot easier to get closer, to touch them occasionally or to kiss if the moment is right.

I think it’s a bit weird for a meal. Drinks fair enough esp on 2nd date.

Mad_maxx · 05-05-2021 7:11pm

raclle wrote: »

I just don't understand people. Maybe she was trying to move on or using it as an excuse

She was genuine , not like it's hard to drop someone after three dates

raclle · 05-05-2021 7:36pm

Fuzzyduzzy wrote: »

The return of bars and clubs would be good for single guys as the competition is tough on apps these days!

That's generally harder for people in their 30s and 40s

partyguinness · 05-05-2021 7:53pm

YellowLead wrote: »

I just assumed that poster was having a little joke....

No man. All 100% true....Jesus I couldnt make up that stuff.

Winter Potatoe · 05-05-2021 7:55pm

I'm surpriised this thread is still on the go. Don't girls do this to guys all the time in order to validate their egos?

partyguinness · 05-05-2021 7:57pm

Username here wrote: »

There seems to be a common thread there..... Have you ever had a NON Polish girl date?! :eek:

:pac: :pac:

Oh absolutely. Just seems to be that the crazy stand out ones happened to be Polish.

I was left with the distinct impression after those dates that Polish women all wanted something and there was always an angle. It felt more like a business transaction and they would make you jump through a lot of hoops.

Best to stick with your own I thought.

Fuzzyduzzy · 05-05-2021 8:24pm

raclle wrote: »

That's generally harder for people in their 30s and 40s

It's the culture we live in unfortunately. It's a choice between drinking at weekends, dating apps or social clubs, two of which are pretty much non existent these days. Hence the rise of dating apps and all the flaws they bring. I'm glad I escaped the dating world when I did but I really do feel for guys who are not above average in looks these days as they are not getting the superstar treatment average looking girls are getting.

Thelonious Monk · 05-05-2021 8:34pm

Fuzzyduzzy wrote: »

It's the culture we live in unfortunately. It's a choice between drinking at weekends, dating apps or social clubs, two of which are pretty much non existent these days. Hence the rise of dating apps and all the flaws they bring. I'm glad I escaped the dating world when I did but I really do feel for guys who are not above average in looks these days as they are not getting the superstar treatment average looking girls are getting.

You come across a little bitter over "average" girls getting attention on these apps tbh. If it makes you feel any better I, as a man, often ignore messages and have stopped talking to people when I just couldn't be bothered any more.

KeepItLight · 05-05-2021 8:45pm

when i was in Brazil I was constantly getting tinder matches with women that would have been way out of my league here. after a while i started just ignoring messages because i just couldn't be arsed, so i can totally see why women are generally much less attentive to their matches.
lads shouldn't get pissed off about it because if the roles were reversed they would be just as picky

Mad_maxx · 05-05-2021 9:00pm

KeepItLight wrote: »

when i was in Brazil I was constantly getting tinder matches with women that would have been way out of my league here. after a while i started just ignoring messages because i just couldn't be arsed, so i can totally see why women are generally much less attentive to their matches.
lads shouldn't get pissed off about it because if the roles were reversed they would be just as picky

Why were you attractive to Brazilian women?

Would they know much about Ireland?

KeepItLight · 05-05-2021 9:11pm

Mad_maxx wrote: »

Why were you attractive to Brazilian women?

no idea, maybe the paler complexion? they would message in Portuguese so they thought i was Brazilian, at least initially.

Mad_maxx wrote: »

Would they know much about Ireland?

about what you'd expect, some had friends/relations who are here and wanted to visit sometime. some thought that it meant i was British and that they 'loved the UK'

Church on Tuesday · 05-05-2021 9:29pm

Brazilian women usually only match to improve their English.

Ghosted after a few good dates

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