How are your chatting up skills-how do you try to pull

whiskeyman · 05-04-2016 08:34AM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Are people more interested in the "not interested" vibes people give off?

Best way to pull for a bloke is to act married.

Seriously...

I could be out for a few pints with mates not giving a damn and I'll get attention.

When I was single and went out on the pull, it was tough!

Guess it's the whole 'smell of desperation' thing...

Wibbs · 05-04-2016 08:38AM

I sit at the bar licking my eyebrows.

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Are people more interested in the "not interested" vibes people give off?

Can be the case alright. The fewer fcuks you give, the more fcuks you get tendency.

Specialun wrote:

You cant beat agood watch.

Rolex would be the best known, but I've very rarely had comments from women about the watches I own and there would be a few "good ones" in the mix. Of the ones that were noticed they were all oddball looking watches. It was the style rather than the name. I've had way more comments about my shoes. Shoes get noticed.

05-04-2016 08:43AM

Wibbs wrote: »

Rolex would be the best known, but I've very rarely had comments from women about the watches I own and there would be a few "good ones" in the mix. Of the ones that were noticed they were all oddball looking watches. It was the style rather than the name. I've had way more comments about my shoes. Shoes get noticed.

I would notice your watch Wibbs

05-04-2016 08:47AM

Specialun wrote: »

Well lads what are your tactics..get her a drink..throw some shapes and try lob the gob..just talking to them normally..whats your approach

Dont have one. Never have. The idea of going out with the intention of "getting a girl" - in other words treating the opposite sex as a means to an end rather than an end in and of themselves - just makes me feel ikky and disgusting personally.

As does the idea of walking up to someone to use a "tactic" or a "line" to try and ingratiate myself sexually with them. I want a shower for merely even thinking about acting like that. Talking about "tactics" and procedures makes it sound to me more like discussing how to capture an animal - like sitting around comparing lures used in fly fishing or some such. Or like if I do just the right mating call or ritual I will attract some mindless mate like I am a finch or a peacock or something.

Anyone of the opposite sex I have ended up involved with romantically and/or sexually developed merely from them entering my life somehow - and our relationship evolving and maturing naturally on it's own. So who knows - perhaps the best tactic is no tactic for some people.

All that said - when guys I know did ask me for advice on how to "pull" women - because apparently quite a few of them insanely see me as some sort of expert on the subject - I simply made something up on the spot. They implemented it and "pulled" every time. Consistently.

Which means I either hit on the best tactic in the world by sheer unadulterated luck - or there is no tactic - you just have to find a reason or motivation to put yourself out there confidently and the rest works itself out.

Which is probably why PUA stuff and "tactics" work - like those abhorrent "put them down and build them up" manipulative nonsense some people throw out.

Almost like a placebo - if you invest enough belief and confidence in an approach - that makes it work more than anything about the tactic or approach itself.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 05-04-2016 08:56AM

Haha I love that, put them down and build them up.

"You're hot"
I know
"**** you, snobby bitch"

HensVassal · 05-04-2016 08:58AM

Deleted User wrote: »

Dont have one. Never have. The idea of going out with the intention of "getting a girl" - in other words treating the opposite sex as a means to an end rather than an end in and of themselves - just makes me feel ikky and disgusting personally.

As does the idea of walking up to someone to use a "tactic" or a "line" to try and ingratiate myself sexually with them. I want a shower for merely even thinking about acting like that. Talking about "tactics" and procedures makes it sound to me more like discussing how to capture an animal - like sitting around comparing lures used in fly fishing or some such. Or like if I do just the right mating call or ritual I will attract some mindless mate like I am a finch or a peacock or something.

Anyone of the opposite sex I have ended up involved with romantically and/or sexually developed merely from them entering my life somehow - and our relationship evolving and maturing naturally on it's own. So who knows - perhaps the best tactic is no tactic for some people.

All that said - when guys I know did ask me for advice on how to "pull" women - because apparently quite a few of them insanely see me as some sort of expert on the subject - I simply made something up on the spot. They implemented it and "pulled" every time. Consistently.

Which means I either hit on the best tactic in the world by sheer unadulterated luck - or there is no tactic - you just have to find a reason or motivation to put yourself out there confidently and the rest works itself out.

Which is probably why PUA stuff and "tactics" work - like those abhorrent "put them down and build them up" manipulative nonsense some people throw out.

Almost like a placebo - if you invest enough belief and confidence in an approach - that makes it work more than anything about the tactic or approach itself.

ikky? Fcukin IKKY??

Baron Kurtz · 05-04-2016 09:04AM

Specialun wrote: »

I have a big red watch..an addidas one..women seem to like to comment on it..which starts off the convo

What, to go with your velcro wallet?:)

smash · 05-04-2016 09:09AM

Deleted User wrote: »

The idea of going out with the intention of "getting a girl" - in other words treating the opposite sex as a means to an end rather than an end in and of themselves - just makes me feel ikky and disgusting personally.

People go out on the pull every night of the week. From both sexes! Sometimes they hook up, sometimes they don't. Sometimes it's a one night stand and sometimes it turns in to a relationship. It's not ikky at all.

lawred2 · 05-04-2016 09:12AM

Jim Bob Scratcher wrote: »

My chat up lines are shoite but my pulling skills are top class, currently pulling the willy of meself to the lovely ladies of babestation

hmmmmm

Olishi4 · 05-04-2016 09:41AM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Which is probably why PUA stuff and "tactics" work - like those abhorrent "put them down and build them up" manipulative nonsense some people throw out.
.

I believe they call it "negging".

I don't mind someone being a bit aloof or whatever especially if that is how they actually are or maybe they are just shy or something but going out of your way to put someone down is just weird and mean.

philstar · 05-04-2016 09:44AM

i get all nervous like Norm & Cliff....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W3j6XXL1l2M

lawred2 · 05-04-2016 09:45AM

Olishi4 wrote: »

I believe they call it "negging".

I don't mind someone being a bit aloof or whatever especially if that is how they actually are or maybe they are just shy or something but going out of your way to put someone down is just weird and mean.

It's being an @rsehole really

If you can't enjoyably chat to someone then no amount of 'tactics' are going to help you..

Anyone ever read 'The Game'? What a load of unadulterated d!ckheadery

philstar · 05-04-2016 09:58AM

its all about eye contact, if the girl/lady doesn't give you the "glad eyes" then you're just wasting you're time

the "glad eyes" is a woman's subtle permission to approach (in my mind anyway)

Minderbinder · 05-04-2016 10:05AM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Dont have one. Never have. The idea of going out with the intention of "getting a girl" - in other words treating the opposite sex as a means to an end rather than an end in and of themselves - just makes me feel ikky and disgusting personally.

As does the idea of walking up to someone to use a "tactic" or a "line" to try and ingratiate myself sexually with them. I want a shower for merely even thinking about acting like that. Talking about "tactics" and procedures makes it sound to me more like discussing how to capture an animal - like sitting around comparing lures used in fly fishing or some such. Or like if I do just the right mating call or ritual I will attract some mindless mate like I am a finch or a peacock or something.

Anyone of the opposite sex I have ended up involved with romantically and/or sexually developed merely from them entering my life somehow - and our relationship evolving and maturing naturally on it's own. So who knows - perhaps the best tactic is no tactic for some people.

All that said - when guys I know did ask me for advice on how to "pull" women - because apparently quite a few of them insanely see me as some sort of expert on the subject - I simply made something up on the spot. They implemented it and "pulled" every time. Consistently.

Which means I either hit on the best tactic in the world by sheer unadulterated luck - or there is no tactic - you just have to find a reason or motivation to put yourself out there confidently and the rest works itself out.

Which is probably why PUA stuff and "tactics" work - like those abhorrent "put them down and build them up" manipulative nonsense some people throw out.

Almost like a placebo - if you invest enough belief and confidence in an approach - that makes it work more than anything about the tactic or approach itself.

nice line. maybe a bit too long and serious in a nightclub but I can definitely see this working on the bookish types in a coffee shop or a quiet bar

Liamario · 05-04-2016 10:07AM

Non-existent.

smash · 05-04-2016 10:07AM

lawred2 wrote: »

Anyone ever read 'The Game'? What a load of unadulterated d!ckheadery

I thought this was only for lads who still live at home, wash once a week and bulk buy Lynx Africa?

lawred2 · 05-04-2016 10:10AM

smash wrote: »

I thought this was only for lads who still live at home, wash once a week and bulk buy Lynx Africa?

well they would usually be the same type who would discuss 'tactics' for what basically amounts to having conversations..

smash · 05-04-2016 10:11AM

The same people who hit their late 20's and suddenly realise they're going nowhere so they start to read 'The Secret'.

pickarooney · 05-04-2016 10:22AM

I've a really expensive watch but the strap is one link too big and I just CBA getting it resized. It was a present. Should I sell it? Or wear it anyway and pull loads of posh birds and get hired by companies?

cowboyBuilder · 05-04-2016 10:27AM

Thank Christ I don't have to worry about all that shyte anymore!!

smash · 05-04-2016 10:28AM

pickarooney wrote: »

I've a really expensive watch but the strap is one link too big and I just CBA getting it resized. It was a present. Should I sell it? Or wear it anyway and pull loads of posh birds and get hired by companies?

Put it on Adverts. I'll give you a fiver for it as long as you'll post it.

pickarooney · 05-04-2016 10:46AM

smash wrote: »

Put it on Adverts. I'll give you a fiver for it as long as you'll post it.

Swap you for a PS1 NTSC?

smash · 05-04-2016 10:48AM

pickarooney wrote: »

Swap you for a PS1 NTSC?

Do you have a PAL converter?

05-04-2016 11:19AM

HensVassal wrote: »

ikky? Fcukin IKKY??

No - just ikky thanks.

smash wrote: »

It's not ikky at all.

I did not say it was. I said that is just how it makes _me_ feel. It is a comment about me not the activity itself. Hard to put into words what I mean - I just feel ikky at the thought of going out with the agenda of getting _someone_.

Like the intention comes before the person you implement it with - rather than the other way around. If that makes any sense.

No comment or judgement of anyone who does do it that way - I mean nothing other than _I_ feel ikky at the thought of it.

pickarooney · 05-04-2016 11:34AM

smash wrote: »

Do you have a PAL converter?

I'm not your PAL, buddy!

GavRedKing · 05-04-2016 11:37AM

Best method I've found is just to propose to the women straight away.

Hi, you're beautiful, want to get married?

It shows them you're not afraid of commitment.

The Moldy Gowl · 05-04-2016 11:42AM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

No - just ikky thanks.

I did not say it was. I said that is just how it makes _me_ feel. It is a comment about me not the activity itself. Hard to put into words what I mean - I just feel ikky at the thought of going out with the agenda of getting _someone_.

Like the intention comes before the person you implement it with - rather than the other way around. If that makes any sense.

No comment or judgement of anyone who does do it that way - I mean nothing other than _I_ feel ikky at the thought of it.

Aren't you the chap that has 2 wives?

GLaDOS · 05-04-2016 11:44AM

I am incapable of the whole "chatting up" thing, simply cannot do it.

Thankfully don't have to care about it any more.

05-04-2016 11:48AM

The Moldy Gowl wrote: »

Aren't you the chap that has 2 wives?

Sure but we are not "married" in any traditional sense of the word. There is a stack of signed legal papers - most of which I can barely read and probably contain me signing away my soul or some such - which deal with the likes of inheritance, next of kin, medical proxy rights, parental rights and all sorts. But that is probably as hard to describe as "marriage" as it would be to call it "romantic"

smash · 05-04-2016 11:51AM

ScienceNerd wrote: »

I am incapable of the whole "chatting up" thing, simply cannot do it.

Have you tried 'chatting down'? Chicks love a good insult!

How are your chatting up skills-how do you try to pull

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