Are you getting contrarier as you get older?

Robsweezie · 15-01-2016 06:46AM

My name ain't mary, and don't ****ing ask me how my garden grows.

Badly Drunk Boy · 15-01-2016 06:48AM

I used to be fairly chilled-out and relaxed all the time when I was young. Now that I'm a grumpy old man, I'm probably more chilled-out.

everlast75 · 15-01-2016 07:05AM

Yes - but I have the good grace to keep the vast majority of the very frequent homicidal thoughts to myself and not, despite sometimes a near overwhelming urge, act on them....

Badly Drunk Boy · 15-01-2016 08:24AM

everlast75 wrote: »

It would be interesting to glean the demographics from the "Trivial things that annoy you thread" over time and see what throws up

I often post in that thread but any of those annoyances are, amazingly, trivial. Something might annoy me and even if I comment on it, I'd usually do it in a fairly lighthearted way. I rarely get frustrated by stuff.

_Brian · 15-01-2016 08:40AM

Very short tempered. Have been on medication for my blood pressure recently. I can feel it going up when some rubbish annoys me, really feel like lashing out at people who are in general IDIOTS !!

22catch · 15-01-2016 08:53AM

Absolutely. As you get older you feel more comfortable with who you are and have a far lower tolerance level for idiots and arseholes and others who generally try to take the piss. On the other hand you can relate more to what other people might be going through so in other respects it can make you more tolerant and empathic about things you wouldn't have put up with when you were younger.

biko · 15-01-2016 10:17AM

Only when driving, otherwise I think I'm fairly easygoing still.

Menas · 15-01-2016 10:26AM

I am not more contrary...I just have more to complain about.

OldGoat · 15-01-2016 10:26AM

I wear RantyPants. They allow me to be loud, rude and belligerent while keeping me dry.

Wibbs · 15-01-2016 10:33AM

biko wrote: »

Only when driving, otherwise I think I'm fairly easygoing still.

Ditto. I run about the same level of rant now as I did at 25.

Figbiscuithead · 15-01-2016 10:53AM

Infinitely more laid-back and more so with every passing year. I used to expect an awful lot from others (and from myself) and be quite black and white in my thinking and now I'm much more accepting of others' human-ness and my own. No one is perfect, we all feck up and most of us are doing the best we can with the resources we have. I don't tend to come into contact with too many pricks in my life, thankfully.

The only place I get wound up now is online, particularly the comments pages of online news sources so I have to make a conscious effort not to get involved, or when I drink too much red wine: there's a point of no return for me when I can become a bit ranty.

15-01-2016 10:55AM

No not for me or more correctly I wont let myself be that person every time I feel it beginning I saw to myself, chill does it really matter in the grand scale of things.

My husband definitely. I occasionally get a lift to work with him and before we get in the car I say, please don't snarl at bad driving, rant about cyclists with no lights or hi-vis ( maybe he has a point about the cyclists) He doesn't realise he is doing it most of the time, the majority of the time he is driving to work alone so he is his own audience, but it cant be good for you to start the day in ill humour.

griffin100 · 15-01-2016 10:58AM

I'm not sure I'm getting grumpier, but I'm certainly getting more right wing / conservative - somewhere between the Iona Institute and Donald Trump.

Boom_Bap · 15-01-2016 11:06AM

I'm just getting more odd. I read the thread title and immediately in my mind sniggered and said in my head 'Are you getting c*nt hairy as you get older?'

Medusa22 · 15-01-2016 11:08AM

Boom_Bap wrote: »

I'm just getting more odd. I read the thread title and immediately in my mind sniggered and said in my head 'Are you getting c*nt hairy as you get older?'

Ah you're just becoming a dirty old man

Boom_Bap · 15-01-2016 11:12AM

Medusa22 wrote: »

Ah you're just becoming a dirty old man

Don't be getting c*nt hairycontrary with me

Figbiscuithead · 15-01-2016 11:13AM

Yamanoto wrote: »

Definitely more zen overall, especially when it comes to dealing with the myriad things which are outside my control. One thing I'm far less tolerant of however is people who love a bit of drama & those who are overly needy.

I think you develop an eye for folks like that over time (and avoid 'em from the get-go accordingly).

I had a friend for about 5 years who was in her 40s who always had drama in her life. It got to the point where I was consoling her over some ridiculous situation every time we met (more fool me). It was all about her. I finally ended the friendship last Summer and I'd say I breathe a sigh of relief at least once a day when I remember. I found myself getting more and more intolerant of her bull**** with every passing day to the point where I snapped.

She owes me quite a bit of money and I've been trying to get it back off her (she keeps promising me it's coming - it's been 8 months now - more bloody drama) and sent her yet another message via Facebook the other day as she's taken to not responding to my emails and she keeps her page on public (course she does :rolleyes:) and I saw this meme posted up:

"As I have grown older, I've learned that pleasing everyone is impossible, but pissing everyone off is a piece of cake".

No love, if that's the case, you should make changes in your life and to how you treat people instead of affirming your crappy behaviour with a stupid meme created by some self-absorbed gob****e.

I'm not bitter at all! Oh no!:) Glad I've got that out now. :pac:

Medusa22 · 15-01-2016 11:13AM

Boom_Bap wrote: »

Don't be getting c*nt hairycontrary with me

That reminds me, I have to shave today

melissak · 15-01-2016 04:23PM

Most definitely. I used to be a lot more c'est la vie about things.

15-01-2016 04:25PM

I'm a lot more laid back and a lot more tolerant, and generally nicer, than I would have been 10 years ago.

My intolerance of bullsh*t and assholes though is developing daily.

nelly17 · 15-01-2016 05:19PM

The older I get the less ****s I give

Mesrine65 · 15-01-2016 05:21PM

Are you getting contrarier as you get older?

I am...what's it to you OP? :mad:

caille · 15-01-2016 05:50PM

Definitely, but for all the right reasons :-()

I am way more tolerant of good friends and family and their ways and problems because life is very short and you never know what's around the corner.

I am way less tolerant of other people's dramas, first world problems, work issues etc because they are all BS and I have got very good at tuning them out and pretending I don't hear (which I can put down also to getting older :-) )

blackcard · 15-01-2016 07:26PM

Candie wrote: »

I think you also spend less time worrying about what other people think of you, after the penny drops and you finally realise that they don't think of you at all.

It's pretty liberating.

I agree with this completely and even if some people are thinking about me, so what? I am who I am and as long as I am happy with that, I don't care what other people think

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 15-01-2016 07:51PM

I find I'm more tolerant in many ways but also more likely to speak my mind if I think something is wrong or misleading. If something doesn't affect me or my family I often let it wash over me. I find though that I can't stand negative attitudes and ranting when I can see right through the bias or ignorance of the offender.

mansize · 15-01-2016 07:52PM

I've chilled out more, live and let live

mansize · 15-01-2016 07:53PM

My only intolerance now is to, well, intolerance

Bullocks · 15-01-2016 07:57PM

I was only thinking about this last week . A lot of things are annoying me lately that used not .
Other drivers
The price of everything
People's attitudes are all wrong usually.
Kids are way louder than when I was a young lad
Other drivers again

ToddyDoody · 15-01-2016 07:59PM

I'd say yes. When I was younger I assumed it was all my fault, now I'm older I'm adimant it's everyone else's fault

jeremymurphy · 15-01-2016 08:06PM

Yes contrarier for 2 reasons
1. Care less and less what people think of me.
2. Priorities change so something that I couldn't care less about 20 years ago is more important now to me. Therefore 50 year old me is incensed by something 30 year old me couldn't give a **** about.

Are you getting contrarier as you get older?

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