Are you getting contrarier as you get older?

blackcard

For me, the answer would have to be yes.I don't have patience in queues, fume at indecisive drivers, give out about referees, am less prepared to put up with fools at work. When I was younger, I was more placid and prepared to put up with things. Are you different?

me_irl

No. Feck off!

Ruu

Well I'm very cynical as you know!

endacl

Nah. Not a bit. Patience and understanding has come with experience.

B17G

What was the question again OP?

Azalea

No, more laidback - stuff that bothered me when younger does not now; I have a lot more perspective and I'm a lot more positive.

But I am becoming less left-wing. Still left of centre and will always be, but whereas ten years ago I would have been all over stuff like Indymedia, I can't bear that rantiness now.

I used to read The Guardian a lot before too, but it has become a parody of itself.

Torricelli

Fup off ya fuppin' grasshole!

Ciderswigger

I was born contrary!!!

tupenny

Ah sure lookit

whatismyname

There's no such English word as 'contrarier'.. I think you mean 'more contrary'!!!!!

Dyr

When you get older it's no longer your first rodeo so you have some perspective and you see how much more **** things have become in general and it makes you contrary

Dodgy knee's, back, impending death etc does'nt do anything for your mood either

LETHAL LADY

Nope, but I'm not that old really. In my experience older people only really start to get contrary when they get health or mobility issues. No point in being an auld grumpy pants for no reason I say.

CageWager

There is little in life more satisfying than arriving at a point where you truly don't give a bollix what anyone thinks about you. For me the first thing to go was suffering fools gladly. No need to be mean or impolite, just a complete indifference to gob****es and twats.

The Backwards Man

Who's getting older?

wil

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Who's getting older?

Think he meant maturer. Sure, I'mmaturer.

Medusa22

I actually think I was more bitter and cynical about people and society in general and what motivated others when I was in my early twenties. Now I've begun to see the good in people again, that most people are generally decent, or that they are trying to be decent and just get on with their lives.

The Backwards Man

wil wrote: »

Think he meant maturer. Sure, I'mmaturer.

Who asked you?

Filmer Paradise

endacl wrote: »

Nah. Not a bit. Patience and understanding has come with experience.

Bollacks!

I was an angry young man. Middle aged now & too busy to be contrary.

Looking forward to being an 'Old Git' though!:D

buried

This whole "I get contrarier as I get older" gibberish is just a lame excuse for certain people to think they now have a licence to be the total narky sh!thead that they always wanted to be

Mostly I'd say the opposite. With a bit of maturity comes the realisation that you're not special or unique or important, and that your time isn't any more valuable than someone elses, and that the things that were urgent five years ago are of absolutely minimal significance now.

allthedoyles

maybe more frustratier but not contrarier

The Sidewards Man

allthedoyles wrote: »

maybe more frustratier but not contrarier

Difficulty in getting an erection?

the evasion_kid

yeah i am,i cant even hide the fact anymore when i dont like someone...i just cant do it anymore

I think you also spend less time worrying about what other people think of you, after the penny drops and you finally realise that they don't think of you at all.

It's pretty liberating.

Yamanoto

Definitely more zen overall, especially when it comes to dealing with the myriad things which are outside my control. One thing I'm far less tolerant of however is people who love a bit of drama & those who are overly needy.

I think you develop an eye for folks like that over time (and avoid 'em from the get-go accordingly).

Filmer Paradise

the evasion_kid wrote: »

yeah i am,i cant even hide the fact anymore when i dont like someone...i just cant do it anymore

I'm just counting down the days when my last kid leaves home.

Then I won't have to be polite to the neighbours anymore.

Happy Days!

RayM

I've become a lot more tolerant and patient, especially when driving. If someone makes a silly mistake, blasting the horn at them won't teach them a lesson. There's enough unnecessary noise already. And it's not my job to teach them lessons anyway, especially when I'm not immune to making the odd mistake myself. In heavy traffic where the N11 merges with the M50 north of Bray, I like to see how many cars I can allow to merge in front of me before the driver behind starts getting annoyed (not many, as it happens).

In some ways, I've become more cranky though. There's a certain type of right-wing 'internet hard-man' that I just... fucking despise. Cynical, racist and/or misogynistic, deeply unpleasant, completely devoid of empathy. I'm sure there's a perfectly valid reason (probably neurodevelopmental) for their behaviour, but I just find them insufferable.

Disgruntled Badger

What a lovely philosophical thread this is becoming:

It's not age. It's the length of time you've been a dad I think. YES, it's kids that put you on the road to grumpvile.

It starts with giving out about the cost of ****e just cause it's got a teddy bear sticker on it. Then it's the bloody mess, when you realise you are the only bollox cleaning up anything anymore. Then the little feckers and the missus too, can't be arsed to switch off the lights, I have the fuppin' kardashians or whatever ****e reality TV on a loop on every tele in the house. is it really such a stretch to put a plate IN the dishwasher as opposed to ON it??? Then they say I am getting forgetful but that's not true...the wee gits keep movin' stuff from where it's supposed to be into places where it's NOT SUPPOSED TO BE!!!

NO, TO BE HONEST I DONT THINK IM ANY LESS PATIENT THAN I USED TO BE

NOW GO TO BED AND TURN THAT FECKIN' LIGHT OFF IN THE HALL!!!!

Definitely not me, it's just the rest of the world is wrong all the time these days. BTW, please allow me to introduce myself:

DEFTLEFTHAND

Becoming more conservative with each passing year. I wouldn't view that as being a bad thing by any stretch.

We all grow up.

everlast75

It would be interesting to glean the demographics from the "Trivial things that annoy you thread" over time and see what throws up

Robsweezie

My name ain't mary, and don't ****ing ask me how my garden grows.

Badly Drunk Boy

I used to be fairly chilled-out and relaxed all the time when I was young. Now that I'm a grumpy old man, I'm probably more chilled-out.

everlast75

Yes - but I have the good grace to keep the vast majority of the very frequent homicidal thoughts to myself and not, despite sometimes a near overwhelming urge, act on them....

Badly Drunk Boy

everlast75 wrote: »

It would be interesting to glean the demographics from the "Trivial things that annoy you thread" over time and see what throws up

I often post in that thread but any of those annoyances are, amazingly, trivial. Something might annoy me and even if I comment on it, I'd usually do it in a fairly lighthearted way. I rarely get frustrated by stuff.

_Brian

Very short tempered. Have been on medication for my blood pressure recently. I can feel it going up when some rubbish annoys me, really feel like lashing out at people who are in general IDIOTS !!

22catch

Absolutely. As you get older you feel more comfortable with who you are and have a far lower tolerance level for idiots and arseholes and others who generally try to take the piss. On the other hand you can relate more to what other people might be going through so in other respects it can make you more tolerant and empathic about things you wouldn't have put up with when you were younger.

biko

Only when driving, otherwise I think I'm fairly easygoing still.

Menas

I am not more contrary...I just have more to complain about.

OldGoat

I wear RantyPants. They allow me to be loud, rude and belligerent while keeping me dry.

Wibbs

biko wrote: »

Only when driving, otherwise I think I'm fairly easygoing still.

Ditto. I run about the same level of rant now as I did at 25.

Figbiscuithead

Infinitely more laid-back and more so with every passing year. I used to expect an awful lot from others (and from myself) and be quite black and white in my thinking and now I'm much more accepting of others' human-ness and my own. No one is perfect, we all feck up and most of us are doing the best we can with the resources we have. I don't tend to come into contact with too many pricks in my life, thankfully.

The only place I get wound up now is online, particularly the comments pages of online news sources so I have to make a conscious effort not to get involved, or when I drink too much red wine: there's a point of no return for me when I can become a bit ranty.

No not for me or more correctly I wont let myself be that person every time I feel it beginning I saw to myself, chill does it really matter in the grand scale of things.

My husband definitely. I occasionally get a lift to work with him and before we get in the car I say, please don't snarl at bad driving, rant about cyclists with no lights or hi-vis ( maybe he has a point about the cyclists) He doesn't realise he is doing it most of the time, the majority of the time he is driving to work alone so he is his own audience, but it cant be good for you to start the day in ill humour.

griffin100

I'm not sure I'm getting grumpier, but I'm certainly getting more right wing / conservative - somewhere between the Iona Institute and Donald Trump.

Boom_Bap

I'm just getting more odd. I read the thread title and immediately in my mind sniggered and said in my head 'Are you getting c*nt hairy as you get older?'

Medusa22

Boom_Bap wrote: »

I'm just getting more odd. I read the thread title and immediately in my mind sniggered and said in my head 'Are you getting c*nt hairy as you get older?'

Ah you're just becoming a dirty old man

Boom_Bap

Medusa22 wrote: »

Ah you're just becoming a dirty old man

Don't be getting c*nt hairycontrary with me

Figbiscuithead

Yamanoto wrote: »

Definitely more zen overall, especially when it comes to dealing with the myriad things which are outside my control. One thing I'm far less tolerant of however is people who love a bit of drama & those who are overly needy.

I think you develop an eye for folks like that over time (and avoid 'em from the get-go accordingly).

I had a friend for about 5 years who was in her 40s who always had drama in her life. It got to the point where I was consoling her over some ridiculous situation every time we met (more fool me). It was all about her. I finally ended the friendship last Summer and I'd say I breathe a sigh of relief at least once a day when I remember. I found myself getting more and more intolerant of her bull**** with every passing day to the point where I snapped.

She owes me quite a bit of money and I've been trying to get it back off her (she keeps promising me it's coming - it's been 8 months now - more bloody drama) and sent her yet another message via Facebook the other day as she's taken to not responding to my emails and she keeps her page on public (course she does :rolleyes:) and I saw this meme posted up:

"As I have grown older, I've learned that pleasing everyone is impossible, but pissing everyone off is a piece of cake".

No love, if that's the case, you should make changes in your life and to how you treat people instead of affirming your crappy behaviour with a stupid meme created by some self-absorbed gob****e.


I'm not bitter at all! Oh no!:) Glad I've got that out now. :pac:

Medusa22

Boom_Bap wrote: »

Don't be getting c*nt hairycontrary with me

That reminds me, I have to shave today

melissak

Most definitely. I used to be a lot more c'est la vie about things.

I'm a lot more laid back and a lot more tolerant, and generally nicer, than I would have been 10 years ago.

My intolerance of bullsh*t and assholes though is developing daily.