Is pinching someone's butt sexual assault?

Lollipops23 wrote: »

Arse pinching is the least of our worries.

I doubt it's a worry at all. Nobody leaves the house thinking "I hope nobody pinches my arse tonight"

I love bums, but have never pinched one, not even girls I was with. Gentle tap of appreciation for sure (girls I've been with.)

Have had my bum pinched but shrugged it off as a joke. Sometimes there simply are double standards. There are power issues and sexual gratification, two reasons why it's different.

MadsL wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8

Isn't this just a really insincere and condescending simplification of a far more complex issue?

I'm feeling that this video is solely designed for people who just want to give themselves a smug pat on the back because they can explain consent in a "witty" way. I mean this is supposed to be "funny" right?

I find it VERY hard to believe that a victim of sexual assault would watch this and respond with "LOL, so true, my rapist was just a big dummy who didn't understand that unconscious people don't want tea. LOL". Yet, when I've seen this video doing the rounds a lot of women seem to think it's a really hilarious video. What gives?

Rapists are not a bunch of dumb dumbs who just don't understand consent. The are despicable, predatory, often violent, human beings and people need to wise up to that instead of perpetuating this "ah, sure just teach them not to do it" attitude that's doing the rounds.

If you pinch someones butt without their consent then, yeah, you are a total @$$hole. It's assault, maybe sexual assault depending on circumstances, and the law should clamp down hard on behavior like that.

Videos like the above though? Nah, sniggering away and praising yourself for understanding consent better than a rapist is no praise at all really. "Look at me! I understand that you can't force yourself on an unconscious woman!" OK then, so you're just like 99.999% of society, why are you shouting it from the rooftops?




Oh wait, is this video really just saying "Men are pretty terrible people"? Ah, NOW I understand.

Only if they're smoking it with their vagina.

I would not consider myself to be overly sensitive or a raging man hating feminist at all. However, one thing I do not tolerate at all, is being pawed at. If I'm standing at the bar and a man comes up behind me, puts his hand on my waist to get past me without shoving me out of the way, that's fine, I'll appreciate him not ramming me out of the way. Anything else? Keep your hands to yourself or you'll be picking up your broken teeth off the floor with your broken fingers.

I get dressed up. I go out. I meet my friends and we collectively go out to enjoy ourselves. I am a confident enough girl. I'm by no means a beautiful looking young wan, but I am what I am and I'm comfortable with my appearance. I enjoy fashion, I enjoy beauty. I like making an effort for myself. I do not trawl through asos and pick outfits that I think will get me laid. I pick them out based on whether or not I like them and I'd feel comfortable in them.

So, I do not need the validation of some rat faced little buffoon showing me his appreciation by groping me, slapping my arse or trying to shove his tongue in my mouth. I do not need that validation from strangers. I get enough compliments before I go out from my OH and my best friends so the opinions of strangers aren't warranted, or appreciated.

And woe betide if you tell them to **** off, then you're stuck up, you're a c u n t, you're a frigid bitch, you're only a dog anyway.

I love the comments that you should be flattered, or you should lighten up. I'm out for my own enjoyment, I don't have to leave myself feeling cheap and nasty for the enjoyment of some ugly little virgin still living at home with his mother, because a real man would not make a woman feel like that.