What is it all about.

08-07-2015 08:29PM

Agricola wrote: »

Hmmm. Teenage boys notice you and call you sexy. You maintain you are middle aged and wrinkly. Someone is wrong here. I doubt it's the young lads!

Although it could have been a very sarcastic young lad..........

I don't think you get this, he was attempting to big himself up/ excessing his power a bit by shouting at a lone woman, they would not do it if I was with my husband. what I was asking why the need to big yourself up in front of you mates what about a more appropriate way of feeling big about yourself not one that involves shouting at women.

anncoates · 08-07-2015 08:30PM

hatrickpatrick wrote: »

The one I really struggle to understand is the (uniquely Dublin if I'm not mistaken?) roaring of "What are yewwwwwwwww lookin' a'?!" at random passers-by

Just reply , "your aul wan".

Earthhorse · 08-07-2015 08:31PM

mariaalice wrote: »

Strangely enough when I was a teenager and had long summer holidays hanging around with my friends, I never felt the urge to shout at people passing by.

Nor I. I guess we're just better people than them.

Cold War Kid · 08-07-2015 08:35PM

Cormac... wrote: »

Well you've failed there :pac:

She has? It need not have anything to do with feminism.

anncoates · 08-07-2015 08:39PM

mariaalice wrote: »

Strangely enough when I was a teenager and had long summer holidays hanging around with my friends, I never felt the urge to shout at people passing by.

Never did it to women as far as I remember, but I did similarly dumb things like it in my early teens, or at least silently went along with it. Nor nasty things, just clownish stuff like your OP. It's a mixture of peer pressure, insecurity, imbecility and bravado: to wit, just being a teenage boy.

Most of them will be mortified about it even by the end of their teens.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 08-07-2015 08:40PM

mariaalice wrote: »

I don't think you get this, he was attempting to big himself up/ excessing his power a bit by shouting at a lone woman, they would not do it if I was with my husband. what I was asking why the need to big yourself up in front of you mates what about a more appropriate way of feeling big about yourself not one that involves shouting at women.

I doubt they think that deeply about it. While walking home one evening two young lads were walking towards me and one of them stuck his finger into my face as I passed, shouting "here smell my finger". I don't think they mean to be intimidating, they're just bold little sh1ts with too much time on their hands

Capt'n Midnight · 08-07-2015 08:43PM

The hokey pokey is what is it all about.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5 · 08-07-2015 08:45PM

I remember once some young fella came up to me in a shop and said "Here you hey, my friend over there fancies you" and I looked him dead in the eye and said "Really? That's great, I fancy him too!". Got the equivalent of a blue screen in a facial expression. Probably should have thought that through a bit more though, they were about 12 :eek:

To be honest, young kids doing it is one thing. I don't particularly get bothered by it and I've no problem making an absolute show of them in the hopes they'll think twice the next time. Grown fcuking men on the other hand, that's seriously pathetic behaviour and some of them really do seem to get some kind of kick out of genuinely intimidating lone women, which is a weird way of "showing off"

One eyed Jack · 08-07-2015 08:48PM

Samaris wrote: »

Not particularly feminist, just one of those things.

The ones I find really annoying are those gits that shout abuse/chat up lines from moving cars. It's so amazingly cowardly.

I'm not proud of it, but I can't help the thought of this happening to them one day :pac:

Samaris · 08-07-2015 09:19PM

DeadHand wrote: »

Not saying you're claiming they don't but, while young males are the major culprits, girls do this too. I've (male) had it a few times. I was able to laugh it off but I do appreciate if it were a more regular occurrence (as it undeniable is for most women) and/or if I was more sensitive (as most women are, in my experience) it might eventually get to me.

I've never passed sexual remarks to random, passing women; not out of some noble feminist ideal but because it is simply bad manners.

You have a good point. Boys probably don't do it to men, and girls don't do it much to women, so we'd only really notice the brats of the opposite sex yelling, since they don't tend to dare do it when the person isn't totally alone.

Letree · 08-07-2015 09:57PM

I'm a man and i've often walked past a group of kids and they have shouted something. Its like they have a form of group tourette's.

PucaMama · 08-07-2015 10:09PM

I really don't like when people dismiss this as "just teenagers". I've had remarks about my appearance (and not nice ones) from people of all ages. Vast majority are from males. It's not acceptable. There are grown men who should know better. But I also believe these teenagers should know better. They are not 2. The understand exactly what they are saying and doing.

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