What is it all about.

08-07-2015 06:03PM #1

I don't want this to be a feminist thing just in general I would like to know.

The other day a group of young lads your usual bored teenagers passed me as I was out walking, one of them made a comment at me and his mates giggled, now usually I ignore stuff like that but this time I came right back at them and they shut up. What I want to know what is this urge to shout at/ comment at women all about? In the situation I was in I would say it was a bit of bravado and bigging himself up in front of his mates.

Anyone like to enlighten me.

GreatDefector · 08-07-2015 06:05PM

I knew a fr Clint Power. Maybe she's having a go at him

Specialun · 08-07-2015 06:05PM

Maybe you have nice boobs and they wanted to tellyou..you should have said thanks

comewatmay · 08-07-2015 06:05PM

You'll be jealous and giving out in a few years when your old and wrinkly that they're not shouting at you!!

HamsterFace · 08-07-2015 06:06PM

Just kids being annoying. I get giggles going past young girls too

the groutch · 08-07-2015 06:06PM

Alfie?

Generic Dreadhead · 08-07-2015 06:07PM

mariaalice wrote: »

I don't want this to be a feminist thing....

Well you've failed there :pac:

08-07-2015 06:07PM

comewatmay wrote: »

You'll be jealous and giving out in a few years when your old and wrinkly that they're not shouting at you!!

I am old an a bit wrinkly I am a middle aged woman.

Gongoozler · 08-07-2015 06:09PM

To be funny in front of their friends so they'll like them. Or because they fancied you and that made them nervous and this was the result of that discomfort.

One eyed Jack · 08-07-2015 06:12PM

mariaalice wrote: »

I don't want this to be a feminist thing just in general I would like to know.

The other day a group of young lads your usual bored teenagers passed me as I was out walking, one of them made a comment at me and his mates giggled, now usually I ignore stuff like that but this time I came right back at them and they shut up. What I want to know what is this urge to shout at/ comment at women all about? In the situation I was in I would say it was a bit of bravado and bigging himself up in front of his mates.

Anyone like to enlighten me.

Answered your own question there OP really

Ethel · 08-07-2015 06:13PM

mariaalice wrote: »

I don't want this to be a feminist thing just in general I would like to know.

The other day a group of young lads your usual bored teenagers passed me as I was out walking, one of them made a comment at me and his mates giggled, now usually I ignore stuff like that but this time I came right back at them and they shut up. What I want to know what is this urge to shout at/ comment at women all about? In the situation I was in I would say it was a bit of bravado and bigging himself up in front of his mates.

Anyone like to enlighten me.

Maria, at that age it's all about what gets them noticed amongst their peers. So regardless of whether it was something deemed to be a nasty or nice comment, it's all about them. Simple as that.

Guys want to show off and look big in front of their mates. In girls, sadly it's bitchy comments that would get thrown at you. It's a sad state of affairs, but it's all about them more than the person they are shouting at. Ignore.

anncoates · 08-07-2015 06:16PM

Better to do it upfront instead of anonymous from behind proxy servers in a few years time, I guess.

The Backwards Man · 08-07-2015 06:18PM

Do you really wanna know?

frostyjacks · 08-07-2015 06:20PM

Ladies shouldn't walk around public without a man to defend their honour.

endacl · 08-07-2015 06:23PM

Young lads do that kind of shyte all the time. It's how they demonstrate their newly-found and incredible sense of agency in the world. The call at women. With men it's pointless funny little challenges, such as crossing the road really slowly so you have to stop. They only do it when they have an audience. On there own they won't even meet your eye.

They only do it because they're very very unsure of themselves. It's kinda comical. The best response is to cultivate a look that lets them know it's kinda comical, and that they're not worth taking seriously just yet.

Annoying if you let it be. Essentially harmless. And an opportunity to make them feel really self-conscious. Hormones. Who'd have 'em...

Earthhorse · 08-07-2015 06:26PM

mariaalice wrote: »

The other day a group of young lads your usual bored teenagers passed me as I was out walking, one of them made a comment at me and his mates giggled, now usually I ignore stuff like that but this time I came right back at them and they shut up. What I want to know what is this urge to shout at/ comment at women all about? In the situation I was in I would say it was a bit of bravado and bigging himself up in front of his mates.

I think as you say it's bravado and also boredom. There's no rhyme or reason to it really.

wp_rathead · 08-07-2015 06:27PM

mariaalice wrote: »

I don't want this to be a feminist thing just in general I would like to know.

The other day a group of young lads your usual bored teenagers passed me as I was out walking, one of them made a comment at me and his mates giggled, now usually I ignore stuff like that but this time I came right back at them and they shut up. What I want to know what is this urge to shout at/ comment at women all about? In the situation I was in I would say it was a bit of bravado and bigging himself up in front of his mates.

Anyone like to enlighten me.

I'm sorry it happened to you- is juvenile as fnck

You've answered it yourself really
A certain percentage of people are stupid enough to do this as teenagers
A certain perecentage of these teenagers don't get their recommended dose of "cop on" and continue to do it into their adulthood

the evasion_kid · 08-07-2015 06:36PM

Thought this was going to be one of those "what's the meaning of life" threads

hatrickpatrick · 08-07-2015 06:50PM

The one I really struggle to understand is the (uniquely Dublin if I'm not mistaken?) roaring of "What are yewwwwwwwww lookin' a'?!" at random passers-by, who may or may not have even been looking in the general direction of the person who shouted it.
There's a gang of kids in an estate near my college who are infamous for it... Some people find it intimidating, others just ridiculous, but what's the whole deal with it to begin with?

One eyed Jack · 08-07-2015 06:53PM

hatrickpatrick wrote: »

The one I really struggle to understand is the (uniquely Dublin if I'm not mistaken?) roaring of "What are yewwwwwwwww lookin' a'?!" at random passers-by, who may or may not have even been looking in the general direction of the person who shouted it.
There's a gang of kids in an estate near my college who are infamous for it... Some people find it intimidating, others just ridiculous, but what's the whole deal with it to begin with?

I'll bet you weren't even looking in their direction until they caught your attention by asking you what are you looking at? :pac:

Jesus that's as old as the hills that one, along with "If I hadn't called you back, where would you be now?"

(not limited to Dublin either, but countrywide, if not international even!)

NachoBusiness · 08-07-2015 07:11PM

mariaalice wrote: »

..one of them made a comment at me and his mates giggled.

What was the nature of the comment?

major bill · 08-07-2015 07:18PM

Never bothered with the shouting, much rather throw the Hungry eyes ''You'd get it'' style!!!!

biko · 08-07-2015 07:22PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tuluUJK9tHY

arayess · 08-07-2015 07:33PM

i can't be the only one wondering what he said?

Samaris · 08-07-2015 07:43PM

Not particularly feminist, just one of those things.

The ones I find really annoying are those gits that shout abuse/chat up lines from moving cars. It's so amazingly cowardly.

DeadHand · 08-07-2015 08:02PM

Samaris wrote: »

The ones I find really annoying are those gits that shout abuse/chat up lines from moving cars. It's so amazingly cowardly.

Not saying you're claiming they don't but, while young males are the major culprits, girls do this too. I've (male) had it a few times. I was able to laugh it off but I do appreciate if it were a more regular occurrence (as it undeniable is for most women) and/or if I was more sensitive (as most women are, in my experience) it might eventually get to me.

I've never passed sexual remarks to random, passing women; not out of some noble feminist ideal but because it is simply bad manners.

08-07-2015 08:09PM

What he said was Hi ya sexy, doesn't sound much, but I was on my own and am a middle age woman and there were 4 or 5 of them and they are teenagers.

lazybones32 · 08-07-2015 08:11PM

Kids are on holidays. They have more free time to be, do and say stupid things that have no substance or ulterior motive.

people here are over-analyzing the event.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 08-07-2015 08:17PM

Those young lads are horrid cheeky too. 13 years old shouting all sorts of obscenities. I just tell them I'm going to ring Santa on them if they aren't good. Then walk on before they can reply

08-07-2015 08:19PM

Strangely enough when I was a teenager and had long summer holidays hanging around with my friends, I never felt the urge to shout at people passing by.

Agricola · 08-07-2015 08:20PM

mariaalice wrote: »

What he said was Hi ya sexy, doesn't sound much, but I was on my own and am a middle age woman and there were 4 or 5 of them and they are teenagers.

Hmmm. Teenage boys notice you and call you sexy. You maintain you are middle aged and wrinkly. Someone is wrong here. I doubt it's the young lads!

Although it could have been a very sarcastic young lad..........

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