What's worse, dumping someone or being dumped?

SpaceSasqwatch · 23-04-2015 12:22AM

Both are tough.

Bottom line its no point lying to yourself so if you have to dump you have to dump.

Being dumped is sh1te too...especially if you find out later said dumper has being fukking other people.Then its just a case of not getting mad but getting even.

Junkyard Tom · 23-04-2015 12:26AM

The best thing to do is trick the person you're dumping into thinking it's their decision!

:pac:

the evasion_kid · 23-04-2015 12:29AM

I don't really know which is worse,I do know I wouldn't want to be with someone who was having doubts over the relationship in fact in the past I've been rather blase about being dumped Much to the dumpers surprise,it was just a "fair enough" "see ya later" type thing.

C.D. · 23-04-2015 02:17AM

Being dumped.. though while it can be messy, having sex with someone who dumped you is incredible.

23-04-2015 02:36AM

Being dumped removes any power you may want to have over the situation. Doing the dumping puts all the control in your own hands. Always easier to handle!

waulie_palnuts · 23-04-2015 03:24AM

Dump em, **** em, flee.

SeantheMan · 23-04-2015 03:28AM

ardmacha wrote: »

while a Corkman said
"It is not those who can inflict the most, but those that can suffer the most who will prevail"

Sounds a lot like Rocky.......it's not how hard you hit, but how hard you can get hit...and keep moving forward.

On the topic of Dumping vs Being dumped...it's not as black and white as some people are making it out to be.

In some cases if you were dumped, it might not be too bad, maybe the relationship had gone a bit stagnant and boring...so you are a bit apathetic really about the ending. As mentioned by others, this can be solved with a few pints and weekends with the lads.
But on the other hand you could be madly in love with someone, and then they dump you and break your heart because they don't feel the same way, or circumstances arise....this is obviously a lot worse.

With regards to dumping, you could dump someone and not be too worried about it...if you knew they had a strong character, and weren't really 'invested' in the relationship.
Whereas dumping someone who is head over heels in love with you, and you know this will crush them and break their heart......is an awful thing to have to do.

So being dumped when in love is worse than dumping someone who you know will bounce back soon.
Dumping someone you know will be crushed is worse than being dumped by someone you know you'll get over.

up for anything · 23-04-2015 07:19AM

That's a silly question. Yes, it's not nice dumping someone but once you have the relief swamps you and you feel free and unburdened until you see him hiding in the bushes outside your house with duct tape, black bin bags and a spade.

Being dumped when you are still in love with person rejecting you is the worst feeling in the world. Wondering how your world can turn upside down in a few seconds and how you are going to cope with the actual shattering of your heart, the pain in your chest which stops you from breathing to deeply which is good because you can't. The panic when you realise that you have to live the rest of your life without them. The continual going over and over and over events and wondering if you said such and such or done this or that could things have been different. The trying to stop yourself from sending texts/making phone calls/seeing them and begging, pleading, reasoning with them to come back to you. After many sleepless nights the realisation that this is it and that there is nothing you can do to change their mind. Then the hour after hour getting cold sitting in the bushes outside their house with duct tape, black bin bags and a spade.

I know which I'd prefer.

blade1 · 23-04-2015 07:27AM

Dumping with a burst pile is the worst dumping!

galljga1 · 23-04-2015 07:42AM

ardmacha wrote: »

a middle eastern person said
"For with the judgement you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. "

while a Corkman said
"It is not those who can inflict the most, but those that can suffer the most who will prevail"

Arthur Daley:
"Do unto others as they would do unto you...if you gave them the chance".

galljga1 · 23-04-2015 07:44AM

Peppermintoil wrote: »

Going to dump my wife soon, not looking forward to it. We are good friends and get on great but the sex life just isn't good enough.

Just leave the laptop open on this page, job done.

anncoates · 23-04-2015 08:05AM

Being dumped by somebody you were about to dump.

poeticjustice · 23-04-2015 12:52PM

anncoates wrote: »

Being dumped by somebody you were about to dump.

Seriously?? That's actually the best scenario in my opinion.

...after conscious uncoupling of course, which is just so hot right now

galljga1 · 24-04-2015 09:20AM

poeticjustice wrote: »

Seriously?? That's actually the best scenario in my opinion.

...after conscious uncoupling of course, which is just so hot right now

Yeah, I would go along with that apart from the time I was breaking up with someone who talked me out of it only to dump me a week later. She just did not want to be dumped. I laughed and she was not happy. Still not happy.

ShowMeTheCash · 24-04-2015 09:25AM

Being dumped because she found out you where cousins

galljga1 · 24-04-2015 09:34AM

ShowMeTheCash wrote: »

Being dumped because she found out you where cousins

Being dumped by your sister.

ShowMeTheCash · 24-04-2015 10:54AM

galljga1 wrote: »

Being dumped by your sister.

Being dumped by your sister who is also your cousin!

conorhal · 24-04-2015 11:45AM

Dumped.

I always liked the honesty of Jessie's take on the matter of getting dumped in 'Before Sunrise':

You know what's the worst thing about somebody breaking up with you? It's when you remember how little you thought about the people you broke up with and you realize that is how little they're thinking of you. You know, you'd like to think you're both in all this pain but they're just like "Hey, I'm glad you're gone"

galljga1 · 24-04-2015 12:22PM

ShowMeTheCash wrote: »

Being dumped by your sister who is also your cousin!

That you Chardonnay?

ShowMeTheCash · 24-04-2015 12:36PM

galljga1 wrote: »

That you Chardonnay?

No it's your brother/cousin Cletus! And stay away from Chardonnay!

Lollipops23 · 24-04-2015 02:32PM

Being dumped. But it's only really stung once, as it was a 2 year relationship. Had a 3.5 yr relationship before it that didn't bother me in the slightest when it ended (entirely mutual), but jesus did the 2 yr one hurt. I hadn't wanted it to end, was completely in love and didn't see it coming.

Have since realised it was the best thing that ever happened me, given how much I had gotten worn down due to his emotional and mental abuse of me.

ToddyDoody · 24-04-2015 02:51PM

Mr.Plough wrote: »

Being dumped on is worse than both obviously.

Is it though? (I'd say a raft of porn videos is just a click away)

Nasty business the whole dumping thing. I'd much prefer to be dumped politely but in no uncertain terms, next best might be a slow protracted dumping with the worst being having to try and dump someone myself because how dare I?

What's worse, dumping someone or being dumped?

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