How many of your Facebook "Friends" are dead?

SeanW · 27-03-2014 08:48PM

CJC999 wrote: »

I only 'friend' dead people. There's a lot less ****e in my news feed and no one ever argues with me. It's better that way.

How do they accept your friend request? :pac:

con___manx1 · 27-03-2014 09:09PM

i have one friend who is dead on Facebook. he died of a brain tumor at 27. i remember meeting him down the pub and asking him how he was and he told me he was fine dont worry about me. a few weeks later he got a bad headache collapsed and died. i wrote a pm to him on fb kinda sad i know. i was unable to attend the funeral because i was in a different country and couldn't afford to go so the pm was the only option.

Jesus Wept · 27-03-2014 09:39PM

Obliq wrote: »

This is going to sound a little harsh/cold maybe, but I de-friended my departed friend, alongside everyone else on my friends list last year. I have gone back to fb since, but in a much smaller way, re-friending only some. I'd find it a little odd to "friend" him again since it would be someone else accepting/rejecting the request. I'd rather remember him the way I remember others of my friends and family who died, but left no active face book account but I can see that it works as a memorial alright.

what are ya at.

Gran Hermano · 27-03-2014 09:54PM

Coming soon the non-embalmed selfie.

January · 27-03-2014 10:09PM

Just one, she died a few years ago in a car accident.

Bebo stunnah · 27-03-2014 10:20PM

SeanW wrote: »

How do they accept your friend request? :pac:

They accept before, then a few days later....

Stainless_Steel · 27-03-2014 10:26PM

It's all a bit odd to me. Why tell your 200 online "friends" that you're thinking of a passed love one? I don't even tell these things to my real friends whom I actually see.

Death is life's natural change agent. Online social media shouldn't cause people to live forever.

LoonyLovegood · 27-03-2014 10:28PM

I've three. One died in a car accident last year, the other two were suicides. It's nice to look at their page and remember the good times we had together.

emz8 · 27-03-2014 10:34PM

My brothers page is still active. I've never posted anything on it, none of my family have. His friends occasionally post stuff, like stuff they found funny, songs he would like etc. it's nice! Shows us they still think about him.

anncoates · 27-03-2014 11:15PM

My cousin killed himself a few years ago and his kids, family and friends still post to his page on important days. It's sounds mawkish but it's quite touching to me and I often check the page and think of him.

kowloon · 27-03-2014 11:39PM

Javon Chubby Self-starter wrote: »

...Paul was a biker and got a bike hearse to bring him on his final ride..

That's a damn fine send off.

Richard Hillman · 28-03-2014 02:08AM

I am friends with a guy that killed somebody and is in prison if that counts.

Sir Arthur Daley · 28-03-2014 02:11AM

All my facebook friends are not real so if they declare themself dead its only in their imagination.

Cee-Jay-Cee · 28-03-2014 02:28AM

SeanW wrote: »

How do they accept your friend request? :pac:

I dunno, I tried asking them but they're dead and don't reply.

scdublin · 28-03-2014 12:40PM

One. Her children still leave comments on her page about how much they miss her and they post pictures of their kids....she didn't get to meet all of her grandchildren. It's very sad but I think it's therapeutic for some people.

Snickers Man · 16-04-2015 11:57AM

This might be worth a bump after more than a year becuase

a) another elderly relative died over Christmas so now I have four dead Facebook Friends.

b) Somebody is writing about this very issue in today's Irish Times.

Brief highlights

Facebook and Gmail: what happens to your data after your death?

By Marie Boran

First published:
Thu, Apr 16, 2015, 01:55

In 2005, a motorcycle accident took the life of 22-year-old Nebraskan Loren Williams. In an effort to find out more about her son’s life, Karen Williams obtained his Facebook password from a friend and emailed the social networking company asking if she could log into the account and read his posts.

Within a couple of hours the password had been changed and she was locked out. By logging in to her son’s Facebook account, Williams was in breach of the terms of service.

Under US law Williams was forced to sue Facebook Inc in order to obtain a court order to gain access to the account. At the time, this case was unique but as social networking sites grew in popularity, more users inevitably meant more deceased users.

Apparently there are a few things you can do now to get at your deceased family member's data but it's difficult.

padd b1975 · 16-04-2015 12:26PM

Just one.

I PM him the Mayo GAA results.

16-04-2015 03:44PM

padd b1975 wrote: »

Just one.

I PM him the Mayo GAA results.

Do you actually do that?

Miaireland · 16-04-2015 03:48PM

None, however one of my friend's brother has passed away and it seem his account was hackedrecently. She has been getting posts from his account advertising cheap sunglasses etc. There has been a family falling out and they were all blaming each other for the posts.

NachoBusiness · 16-04-2015 04:11PM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Do you actually do that?

I do the very same with GAA result with someone that was from Leitrim.

I figure if they ever manage to win, it might just shock 'em back to life

16-04-2015 04:15PM

NachoBusiness wrote: »

I do the very same with GAA result with someone that was from Leitrim.

I figure if they ever manage to win, it might just shock 'em back to life

I think that's class. Seriously. That gave me warm fuzzies.

LizT · 16-04-2015 05:16PM

Just one, as far as I'm aware. He's a guy I was in college with who died suddenly. He still pops up on my newsfeed every now and again when he's tagged in stuff (his parents and close friends on Facebook tag him at times when they see something that reminds them of him). It's obviously their way of remembering and grieving for him and I think it's nice.

RhubarbCrumble · 16-04-2015 05:37PM

One. A guy that I went to school with who sadly died a couple of years ago due to suicide. Young guy in his early thirties

anncoates · 16-04-2015 05:42PM

Another one now, since the thread started.

zcorpian88 · 16-04-2015 05:46PM

One unfortunately, poor chap fell asleep on his sister's couch and didn't wake up, it was SADS, only 26 years old.

Was absolutely gutted over it, haven't removed him off my page yet and he's been gone about 3 years.

PLL · 16-04-2015 05:48PM

Two of my female cousins who both committed suicide. They were so young and it sent shock waves through the family that i think it helps to include them on Facebook. Strange maybe but it's not the type of thing you would ever fully get over so the parents / sisters should grieve any way it helps.

Tomagotchye · 16-04-2015 05:55PM

One. A guy I knew (friend of sorts) died in China doing TEFL. Realistically though I (and all the friends I actually have) don't really use Facebook bar to occasionally see how others are getting on. If they did die and they weren't close, I wouldn't be aware nor would I probably care.

Facebook is a check-in point for people you half know. I half know you...you're doing science/you have a baby/you've emigrated...better not talk to you again. Good to know info.

StewartGriffin · 16-04-2015 05:59PM

All of them.

(evil chuckle).

degrassinoel · 16-04-2015 05:59PM

One, accidental overdose. He'd been dead two days before his dad (also deceased now) kicked in the door to his flat to find him.

His family and some of his friends still wish him happy birthday/Christmas etc.. each year, i just cant bring myself to do that. Gutting even reading through the stuff he'd been posting before.

muddypaws · 16-04-2015 06:00PM

My Dad died last year, my brothers and I had his FB log in details while he was alive anyway, a few months after he died my older brother unfriended everyone 'on his behalf' except very close family, and the page is still there. Its nice to look at it every now and then, see the things he posted to people, look at the photos, none of us ever post to it, just read it.

How many of your Facebook "Friends" are dead?

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