No gays allowed

HardenendMan wrote: »

Kind of yes. I cannot be sure that a man/women are into mad stuff that I would find disgusting - I have no evidence. But I know two men are into stuff that makes me cringe - sorry!



Its not a problem I have with my brother. Thats for him to decide, not you.

I am not looking for excuses - just replying to the subject at hand. This does not consume my life I assure you.

If my reasoning is unfair then I accept that. I have self awareness and self doubt. Some people should learn that before labelling me a bigot.

You posted that you wouldn't let him stay because you are afraid he would have sex with his partner. That is a problem that YOU have.

Ah now hardened man you are completely changing your story

Earlier on your story was

Straight sex = Fine
Lesbian sex = Fine
Gay sex = Not Fine

Now you're backtracking and trying to say something different

All sex = not fine

Nodin wrote: »

That's a bit odd, tbh.

Very odd considering earlier on in the thread he claimed something entirely the opposite.

reprise wrote: »

What if they don't?

Then if it was my house, I would obviously have to clean it up, and I am not anybodies maid. They wouldn't be invited back, gay, straight, brother, sister, mother, father. Wouldn't matter, what your into, along as I don't have to see it or deal with the aftermath. You are perfectly welcome to stay with me.

bjork wrote: »

I've just invited some gay people to stay at mine for the weekend. I have a question on etiquette (as it'll be valentines day)


If I hear them at it, should I clap when they finish to show my support for their gay activities, or not?

I want to avoid any embarrassing faux pas and demonstrate to them that I'm not a homophobe

Wait till the next morning, and ask them what position it was because you might want to try it.

HardenendMan wrote: »

Wait..what?

Where did I say All sex = Not fine?

In your reply to Nodin

Zhane wrote: »

You posted that you wouldn't let him stay because you are afraid he would have sex with his partner. That is a problem that YOU have.

I fully agree it is MY problem. I just don't accept that I am a bigot because of it. I am against lots of things, all of which are MY problem. Sometimes I am wrong, and democracy allows things against my judgements. I accept this. I am self aware. I am never sure my opinion is the correct one. Is this not an acceptable position?

HardenendMan wrote: »

Yep you got it. But I need a reason to believe such activities would be happening.

So your just embarrassed or prude about sex then?

Zhane wrote: »

You're going around in circles. You said you didn't have a problem, but now you're admitting you do.

You are what you are. You can believe what you want to believe. However, you have to be open to criticism of your views. As I said earlier, Its your home, you can decide who stays there, but I hope for your brothers sake that he knows better than to ask you.

Point taken (somewhat). I am open to criticism. I think some of the uber liberals should also listen to people's opinions.

20Cent wrote: »

So your just embarrassed or prude about sex then?

Ah no, don't get me wrong. I think I may have explained myself badly (based on the number of people questioning my reasoning).

Let me set the record straight;

I would never advertise a property as "no gays allowed". And I will even be this honest - lesbians turn me on!!

But I can understand how some people would find the thought of gays in their property off putting. Like I said - my gay brother knows not to bring guys home to bed. He is ok with that.

I do not "treat" people differently day to day because of their sexual orientation. My replies may look like I do because they are focused on the context of the thread, not on day-to-day living.

And frankly, I would be upset if a gay man thought of me as a bad person that would treat him any less of a human being because of my wee shudders at the thought of gay sex.

Sorry if I offended anyone.

HardenendMan wrote: »

And frankly, I would be upset if a gay man thought of me as a bad person that would treat him any less of a human being because of my wee shudders at the thought of gay sex.

Don't worry. Straight people think less of you for it as well.

HardenendMan wrote: »

No, man and man showing sexual affection to each other makes me shudder. I have no problem with anal sex in principle, in fact I am always trying to get the wife to try it out :pac:

You've just lost your own argument.

Zhane wrote: »

You've just lost your own argument.

Fair enough. I don't need to win arguments to feel accepted.

reprise wrote: »

Uhuh... because real straight people just love the thoughts of two men having anal sex in their homes, right?

What a world we live in.

I don't know what you're trying to say. "real straight people" I know have no issues with sex, gay or straight. It's "girls have cooties, ew!" level of thought.