Farming and Relationships

welton john · 25-01-2015 12:22PM

Mehaffey1 wrote: »

Recently broke up with my fiancé of 3 years. Both full time farming in NZ thankfully on different farms.

Boards not inspiring me for this onslaught of young women throwing themselves at my feet I was hoping for haha

look on the brightside , only a short spin to thailand ;-)

Miname · 25-01-2015 12:48PM

In fairness farms put most women off going with a lad, and who could blame them. There's far more to life than a bit of ground

Kovu · 25-01-2015 12:50PM

Miname wrote: »

In fairness farms put most women off going with a lad, and who could blame them. There's far more to life than a bit of ground

Gawd, you think they'd be happy with getting the men out of the house for the evening :rolleyes:

micraX · 25-01-2015 01:00PM

Genghis Cant wrote: »

Big lump of blonde Russian ya want for that job.
Breed the right type of a lad too I'd say.

There's one like that that's married to a lad in Rush, except she's Irish. Some lump of a moth, she does be out snigging caulis all winter.

Reggie. · 25-01-2015 01:00PM

micraX wrote: »

There's one like that that's married to a lad in Rush, except she's Irish. Some lump of a moth, she does be out snigging caulis all winter.

The likes that would put manners on ya

Genghis Cant · 25-01-2015 01:08PM

All messing aside a good woman is something else.
I'm lucky enough I managed to corner one. She really is great.

( She reads F&F the odd time too :-) )

Reggie. · 25-01-2015 01:15PM

Genghis Cant wrote: »

All messing aside a good woman is something else.
I'm lucky enough I managed to corner one. She really is great.

( She reads F&F the odd time too :-) )

Clever lad

visatorro · 25-01-2015 01:34PM

micraX wrote:

There's one like that that's married to a lad in Rush, except she's Irish. Some lump of a moth, she does be out snigging caulis all winter.

as long as she doesn't go mad and snig anything else, she'd be grand.

Kovu · 25-01-2015 01:37PM

Genghis Cant wrote: »

All messing aside a good woman is something else.
I'm lucky enough I managed to corner one. She really is great.

( She reads F&F the odd time too :-) )

Howaya luv

Mehaffey1 · 25-01-2015 01:51PM

Reggie. wrote: »

Rough times Mehaffey. Only thing I suppose to look on the bright side is that it was a break up and not a divorce. Them things are messy

As for these fellas here...They are out from the dating game a while only living out their fantasies...:D:P

Bring the rain....

Think I would've faired better in a divorce to be honest left with no car, no dog and only one bath towel to my name.

Friend from home (Co.Armagh) is planning to marry a lady from Thailand and hoping to move there to teach P.E and English.

As for back in Ireland I have no idea as to how females view single farmers however I have heard a Kiwi girl express her hearts desire to marry a share milker/ equity owner, sometimes I can't understand how this world works lol

C0N0R · 25-01-2015 02:07PM

Mehaffey1 wrote: »

Think I would've faired better in a divorce to be honest left with no car, no dog and only one bath towel to my name.

Friend from home (Co.Armagh) is planning to marry a lady from Thailand and hoping to move there to teach P.E and English.

As for back in Ireland I have no idea as to how females view single farmers however I have heard a Kiwi girl express her hearts desire to marry a share milker/ equity owner, sometimes I can't understand how this world works lol

Sorry to hear about the missus, what's meant for you won't pass you by.

I'm just back from a mates wedding in Thailand!

There are a lot of women in New Zealand looking for Hectares and a Hilux, sort that out and your sorted!! In fairness I did some of my best pulling in New Zealand, had a few young ones who would have moved to Ireland and all!

Mehaffey1 · 25-01-2015 02:14PM

C0N0R wrote: »

Sorry to hear about the missus, what's meant for you won't pass you by.

I'm just back from a mates wedding in Thailand!

There are a lot of women in New Zealand looking for Hectares and a Hilux, sort that out and your sorted!! In fairness I did some of my best pulling in New Zealand, had a few young ones who would have moved to Ireland and all!

Cheers, strangely not bothered by it, no one seems shocked about it so was definitely the writing on the wall.

God if you buy a Hilux anywhere in the world at the moment it seems you need your head examined.

kowtow · 25-01-2015 03:24PM

dove2011 wrote: »

Ideally the farmer would live near me & where I work so I dont have to change my life for them!

and would there be any road frontage?

rangler1 · 25-01-2015 03:50PM

Feckthis wrote: »

This is getting way out of hand.

Yea this is the WORLD WIDE web

visatorro · 25-01-2015 04:18PM

nobody should want anyone for what they have.

Miname · 25-01-2015 04:23PM

visatorro wrote: »

nobody should want anyone for what they have.

Does that include tommy tucker

visatorro · 25-01-2015 04:24PM

???

Bullocks · 25-01-2015 04:29PM

Is farming that much of a consideration in a relationship anymore ? I think they have as much time if not more to spend with their other halves .
Maybe there are seasonal sacrifices in time but it's not the end of the world . I know plenty of other jobs that are demanding long hours and time away from home nowadays .

darragh_haven · 25-01-2015 05:09PM

Bullocks wrote: »

Is farming that much of a consideration in a relationship anymore ? I think they have as much time if not more to spend with their other halves .
Maybe there are seasonal sacrifices in time but it's not the end of the world . I know plenty of other jobs that are demanding long hours and time away from home nowadays .

It is still a huge consideration for those starting a relationship. For a girl or guy starting to go out with a farmer and the realisation that you can't wake up on a Saturday or Sunday and just strike off on a day out with out planning (like any normal job).
I was told by a previous girlfriend that "I'm going out with you, not your fcuking farm". She wanted at least every second weekend to ourselves (and it was fair of her to request that at least), and that just wasn't possible.

jfh · 25-01-2015 07:18PM

Bullocks wrote: »

. I know plenty of other jobs that are demanding long hours and time away from home nowadays .

yeah but there's usually money out of those jobs:P

whelan2 · 25-01-2015 07:25PM

i think a farm is a great place for kids to be brought up, they realise the long hours, hard graft that goes into the job. They know its not 9 to 5 with weekends off and paid holidays. That plans have to be cancelled at the last minute. I know in this day its very hard to get a partner who understands farm life but there has to be give and take on both sides.

freedominacup · 25-01-2015 07:41PM

whelan2 wrote: »

i think a farm is a great place for kids to be brought up, they realise the long hours, hard graft that goes into the job. They know its not 9 to 5 with weekends off and paid holidays. That plans have to be cancelled at the last minute. I know in this day its very hard to get a partner who understands farm life but there has to be give and take on both sides.

Weekends have to be about the kids as much as possible though. Earliest starts here always at the weekend, can have matches both days. You'll never get to them all esp during calving time but it's well worth the effort. Second lad here playing in his second rugby blitz this morning. I had to go away for a while before it started. When I got back they were about five minutes into the first game. I could see him checking the sideline to see where I was. He caught my eye immediately and big wink for me straight away. Made my day. Tiredness wasn't long disappearing then.

whelan2 · 25-01-2015 07:51PM

freedominacup wrote: »

Weekends have to be about the kids as much as possible though. Earliest starts here always at the weekend, can have matches both days. You'll never get to them all esp during calving time but it's well worth the effort. Second lad here playing in his second rugby blitz this morning. I had to go away for a while before it started. When I got back they were about five minutes into the first game. I could see him checking the sideline to see where I was. He caught my eye immediately and big wink for me straight away. Made my day. Tiredness wasn't long disappearing then.

ha, youngest lad does the thumb up when he sees me. Hate listening to other parents on the sidelines with all their plans for the weeked etc, but thats the way it is

yourpics · 26-01-2015 11:31AM

whelan2 wrote: »

ye you can never trust them, best way is to stay single and bring it all with you when you die

Not much to leave but I will leave it to relatives, had my fingers burned already with gold diggers!

A cow called Daisy · 26-01-2015 12:01PM

yourpics wrote: »

Not much to leave but I will leave it to relatives, had my fingers burned already with gold diggers!

Would say we all know people in that situation.
My mam - who used to have a lot of sayings etc- used to say ' you're better off being single than wishing you were (single)
Or maybe she knew nobody would want me.

Charliebull · 26-01-2015 12:20PM

A cow called Daisy wrote: »

Would say we all know people in that situation.
My mam - who used to have a lot of sayings etc- used to say ' you're better off being single than wishing you were (single)
Or maybe she knew nobody would want me.

ah jayus daisy

could you not go to Thailand for a husband

or there is knock

Kovu · 26-01-2015 12:26PM

Charliebull wrote: »

ah jayus daisy

could you not go to Thailand for a husband

or there is knock

Willie Daly down in Clare either! Or Daisy could give batting for the other side a try

whelan2 · 26-01-2015 12:27PM

yourpics wrote: »

Not much to leave but I will leave it to relatives, had my fingers burned already with gold diggers!

not all men/women are gold diggers, i suppose if someone is worried that they might get into trouble down the line is a pre-nup agreement worth the paper its written on? Read the problem page in the farmers journal , theres a good few from spouses who have been treated like dirt by their oh.

A cow called Daisy · 26-01-2015 12:47PM

Charliebull wrote: »

ah jayus daisy

could you not go to Thailand for a husband

or there is knock

Kovu wrote: »

Willie Daly down in Clare either! Or Daisy could give batting for the other side a try

So many options. ....so little time:)

Genghis Cant · 26-01-2015 12:52PM

A cow called Daisy wrote: »

Would say we all know people in that situation.
My mam - who used to have a lot of sayings etc- used to say ' you're better off being single than wishing you were (single)
Or maybe she knew nobody would want me.

I know for sure that there's somebody out there for everyone.
You seem to me to be somebody worth knowing!

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