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Have you ever been stood up?

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  • #32
    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,646 ✭✭✭✭qo2cj1dsne8y4k


    Fat Christy wrote: »
    Dates or just people in general?

    First dates. I've done it three and a half times.

    1st was with a guy I liked for ages but he was a complete player, anyway, after months of treating me bad, he asked me out. I agreed to go, and never showed up. This only made him more interested though and he asked me out twice afterwards but I never committed myself to anything after that.

    2nd was my friend in Canada before he got married. I met him years and years ago in America one summer. He flew to Ireland with his dad and his brothers and I wouldn't meet him. The following summer, after major heart to hearts he came to Ireland again, this time on his own. I made it as far as the hotel bar he was staying at, (in Dublin) and just as I was standing outside an ambulance drove past and he heard the same siren as I did, and I completely panicked and ran away. He was so patient but I was absolutely freaked and couldn't do it.

    3rd was actually a boardsie, we were talking for a few months, agreed to meet (as just friends), he showed up. I wouldn't meet him, I was so worried he'd hate me in real life. He waited around for ages, I felt bad, he was really patient with me, understood, wasn't mad at me, didn't ridicule me, so like 5 hours later, I calmed down enough to go meet him. So, technically I didn't really stand him up, but almost.


  • #33
    stmol32
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 718 ✭✭✭stmol32


    LizzieJones wrote: »
    I was stood up once. I was going to go on a blind date with a guy after being set up by my girl friend at the time. They were supposed to pick me up at 7 pm and never showed until 11 pm. I never even bothered to open my front door of my apartment when my gf knocked. Switched off the tv, lights and went to bed.

    OMG are you still on that!!

    I already explained to you, I only turned up at 11 because I'm a horrible, horrible person. If you can't deal with that then maybe we won't work out, it's almost as if you have.... like....self worth or something!


  • #34
    LizzieJones
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,459 ✭✭✭LizzieJones


    stmol32 wrote: »
    OMG are you still on that!!

    I already explained to you, I only turned up at 11 because I'm a horrible, horrible person. If you can't deal with that then maybe we won't work out, it's almost as if you have.... like....self worth or something!

    I'm willing to give you a second chance. :D


  • #35
    Faith
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 30,661 Mod ✭✭✭✭Faith


    pharmaton wrote: »
    Felt bad after reading that. I just sent a text to apologise for missing calls. :(

    Good to hear! At least something positive came from my massive waste of time :)


  • #36
    Senna
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,800 ✭✭✭Senna


    Once was invited back to a girls flat after meeting her in a club, I got the flat number and arrived at her flat about 20 minutes after seeing her (reason for leaving are long and complicated).
    Pressed the buzzer for her flat and she buzzed me up, arrived up to the door, knocked and no answer, but I could hear some movement inside, awarkard.
    So standing there like a spare prick at a wedding I turned and left.


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  • #37
    pauliebdub
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,073 ✭✭✭pauliebdub


    Gay dating can be a nightmare of shallowness, meanness and odd behaviour, I had a first date look me and down on first meeting say "nah" and walk off. Another date legged it while I went up to the bar to order beer, I came back to an empty table with two pints of Guinness. I sat there waiting for a bit puzzled thinking he went to the loo, then text and nothing. Sat there, drank the two pints then went home. I had a lucky escape on both counts.


  • #38
    stmol32
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 718 ✭✭✭stmol32


    LizzieJones wrote: »
    I'm willing to give you a second chance. :D

    Oh go on then let's give it another go.

    Let's go for a drink here http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=91986660 I'm guessing it'll be the quietest pub in Dublin tonight for a a chatnapint.:pac:


  • #39
    Faith
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 30,661 Mod ✭✭✭✭Faith


    Faith wrote: »
    Good to hear! At least something positive came from my massive waste of time :)

    And I just got a call apologising and rescheduling! (I'm 8 hours behind, so it was an appropriate early-evening call, not a middle-of-the-night call.)


  • #40
    stmol32
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 718 ✭✭✭stmol32


    pauliebdub wrote: »
    Gay dating can be a nightmare of shallowness, meanness and odd behaviour, I had a first date look me and down on first meeting say "nah" and walk off. Another date legged it while I went up to the bar to order beer, I came back to an empty table with two pints of Guinness. I sat there waiting for a bit puzzled thinking he went to the loo, then text and nothing. Sat there, drank the two pints then went home. I had a lucky escape on both counts.

    I have to ask out of curiousity do you reckon gay dating is more fraught than straight dating generally?

    It's possible that you just had the misfortune to meet two arseholes or is this something that happens more with gay blind (I'm presuming based on your post) dates than straight.

    I only ask because I've recently started dating again after a hiatus and I always expect the worst like those (excuse me) c**nts.


  • #41
    LizzieJones
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,459 ✭✭✭LizzieJones


    stmol32 wrote: »

    I'm guessing it'll be the quietest pub in Dublin tonight for a a chatnapint.:pac:

    The chance of getting shot is pretty much nil by now. :D


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  • #42
    stmol32
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 718 ✭✭✭stmol32


    LizzieJones wrote: »
    The chance of getting shot is pretty much nil by now. :D

    That sounds like a double-dare to me!
    To be fair LizzieJones you've never been on a blind date with me, I've been shot shot by both datee and bar tender on a frighteningly regular basis.

    I'm starting to slowly think maybe it's actually me and not them, am I wrong?


  • #43
    LizzieJones
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,459 ✭✭✭LizzieJones


    stmol32 wrote: »

    I'm starting to slowly think maybe it's actually me and not them, am I wrong?

    You're probably not wrong.


  • #44
    beks101
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,802 ✭✭✭beks101


    Ah ye're a lively bunch! Himself walked in the door seconds after I posted this, then drank way too much wine and woke up with my face stuck to the pillow about 20 minutes ago. I also curiously have a completely smashed up phone. Ugh. Wine is never a good choice.

    I don't know what I'd do if I was ever actually stood up for a date. Especially after making a real effort to look nice. Probably either track him down and publicly humiliate him in the best/worst possible way or have a few drinks and find someone else to hang out with.


  • #45
    Augmerson
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 6,162 ✭✭✭Augmerson


    pauliebdub wrote: »
    Gay dating can be a nightmare of shallowness, meanness and odd behaviour, I had a first date look me and down on first meeting say "nah" and walk off. Another date legged it while I went up to the bar to order beer, I came back to an empty table with two pints of Guinness. I sat there waiting for a bit puzzled thinking he went to the loo, then text and nothing. Sat there, drank the two pints then went home. I had a lucky escape on both counts.

    That's f*cking lousy mate, hope you have or have had better luck in the future!


  • #46
    pauliebdub
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,073 ✭✭✭pauliebdub


    Augmerson wrote: »
    That's f*cking lousy mate, hope you have or have had better luck in the future!

    I laugh it off and consider it a lucky escape.


  • #47
    shruikan2553
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,113 ✭✭✭shruikan2553


    I would be lucky to get to the point where I could be stood up!

    My girlfriend would probably be pissed at me if I was going out with other women though.


  • #48
    cloud493
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,835 ✭✭✭✭cloud493


    No one comes close enough to me to set up a date or stand me up :cool: #hahaimsoalone


  • #49
    Fat Christy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,866 ✭✭✭Fat Christy


    cloud493 wrote: »
    No one comes close enough to me to set up a date or stand me up :cool: #hahaimsoalone

    I'll stand you up if you want?

    Meet me at the spire for 5?


  • #50
    cloud493
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    Can't be bothered going into town :pac:


  • #51
    Mariasofia
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    cloud493 wrote: »
    Can't be bothered going into town :pac:

    Burn........ :-D


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  • #52
    WilyCoyote
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,059 ✭✭✭WilyCoyote


    I've done it and it has been done to me. Not just once but I forget the details. It's an OK thing as people change their minds and don't want the shit of dealing with a messy situation.
    So OP, if you're still sitting in that joint .......... you need to finish your drink as the staff want to go home to cook Sunday lunch :)


  • #53
    Fat Christy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,866 ✭✭✭Fat Christy


    cloud493 wrote: »
    Can't be bothered going into town :pac:

    Does it count if we both don't show up?


  • #54
    cloud493
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,835 ✭✭✭✭cloud493


    I'm still gonna be disappointed.


  • #55
    Mariasofia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,887 ✭✭✭Mariasofia


    Was stood up once years ago when I was 15..... kinda blind date set up by his brother. Brother drove him to my house next day to apologise and your man said it was genuine reason and would i meet him again..... I replied no.....
    Fast forward to last year got taxi home from town.....i recognised driver after seeing name.....he didnt recognise me and asked for my number.....I reminded him of all those years ago....... oh the look
    on his face........ sweet :-D


  • #56
    Strawberry Swan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 183 ✭✭Strawberry Swan


    I wasn't stood up but actually he would have done me a favour if he had stood me up. The guy was 40 mins late, not very apologetic when he did turn up and just said the traffic was bad. It was a Sunday afternoon in Dublin. He didn't make any effort to smart himself up and the night ended by him telling me that I was too old for him. Not in those exact words but the message was crystal clear.

    Out of interest, how long would people wait for a date before leaving?


  • #57
    cloud493
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,835 ✭✭✭✭cloud493


    Assuming theres no contact, like a text or call, half an hour. If they text me to say they were stuck on the bus or something, the max is an hour.


  • #58
    anncoates
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    Was stood up once by a girl I didn't know. I'd asked her out when I saw her working in town. It was before mobiles. I rang her place and she swore that out of town friends had shown up as a surprise and she suggested meeting the next night.

    I said no and never contacted her again because I was too proud but regretted it for ages because she was gorgeous


  • #59
    beks101
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,802 ✭✭✭beks101


    Actually now that I think about it, I got stood up by an ex of mine when I lived in Canada a few years ago.

    It was our first 'date' after scoring the week before, he was in town and texted to see if I wanted to 'meet for a coffee'. So I asked him to give me an hour, did my hair, makeup, tried on about ten different outfits, then jumped on the bus and headed downtown.

    Got there, texted him and he had already gone home because he'd hurt his foot playing soccer and it was acting up.

    I remember feeling so distinctly deflated and disappointed that day, a theme that continued the entire time I was with him. God the grief I could have spared myself if I hadn't let him away with that!


  • #60
    kissmequick
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    Yeah did once ages ago. Can't remember what Pub we were in. We had just gotten drinks. And he went to go to the Bath-room and left me all on my lonesome and obviously must have left the Building. :/:( Unless he got stuck down the toilet or something, he never came back anyway! What a lovely thing to do to a girl. :rolleyes: Shure I couldn't give a fcuk if he didn't want to meet me all's he had to say was he got called away or something like. Certainly not for him to disappear and vanish into thin air and leave a poor girl on her own like that. :rolleyes:


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  • #61
    cloud493
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    kissmequick wrote: »
    Yeah did once ages ago. Can't remember what Pub we were in. We had just gotten drinks. And he went to go to the Bath-room and left me all on my lonesome and obviously must have left the Building. :/:( Unless he got stuck down the toilet or something, he never came back anyway! What a lovely thing to do to a girl. :rolleyes: Shure I couldn't give a fcuk if he didn't want to meet me all's he had to say was he got called away or something like. Certainly not for him to disappear and vanish into thin air and leave a poor girl on her own like that. :rolleyes:

    Did you at least get a free drink?


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