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Have you ever been stood up?

beks101

Sitting here in a packed restaurant in central London drinking wine and waiting for my very very late boyfriend to show up.

And I can't help but think, bet these lads at the next table think I'm on some first date but my date hasn't showed. Wondering if the waiting staff are placing bets on how long it will take him to show / them to leave..

So AH, entertain me. Ever been stood up? Or did the standing up? Feck it, lets make it general - most appalling/mortifying dating experience youve had?

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Fat Christy wrote: »

Dates or just people in general?

First dates. I've done it three and a half times.

1st was with a guy I liked for ages but he was a complete player, anyway, after months of treating me bad, he asked me out. I agreed to go, and never showed up. This only made him more interested though and he asked me out twice afterwards but I never committed myself to anything after that.

2nd was my friend in Canada before he got married. I met him years and years ago in America one summer. He flew to Ireland with his dad and his brothers and I wouldn't meet him. The following summer, after major heart to hearts he came to Ireland again, this time on his own. I made it as far as the hotel bar he was staying at, (in Dublin) and just as I was standing outside an ambulance drove past and he heard the same siren as I did, and I completely panicked and ran away. He was so patient but I was absolutely freaked and couldn't do it.

3rd was actually a boardsie, we were talking for a few months, agreed to meet (as just friends), he showed up. I wouldn't meet him, I was so worried he'd hate me in real life. He waited around for ages, I felt bad, he was really patient with me, understood, wasn't mad at me, didn't ridicule me, so like 5 hours later, I calmed down enough to go meet him. So, technically I didn't really stand him up, but almost.

stmol32

LizzieJones wrote: »

I was stood up once. I was going to go on a blind date with a guy after being set up by my girl friend at the time. They were supposed to pick me up at 7 pm and never showed until 11 pm. I never even bothered to open my front door of my apartment when my gf knocked. Switched off the tv, lights and went to bed.

OMG are you still on that!!

I already explained to you, I only turned up at 11 because I'm a horrible, horrible person. If you can't deal with that then maybe we won't work out, it's almost as if you have.... like....self worth or something!

LizzieJones

stmol32 wrote: »

OMG are you still on that!!

I already explained to you, I only turned up at 11 because I'm a horrible, horrible person. If you can't deal with that then maybe we won't work out, it's almost as if you have.... like....self worth or something!

I'm willing to give you a second chance.

Faith

pharmaton wrote: »

Felt bad after reading that. I just sent a text to apologise for missing calls.

Good to hear! At least something positive came from my massive waste of time

Senna

Once was invited back to a girls flat after meeting her in a club, I got the flat number and arrived at her flat about 20 minutes after seeing her (reason for leaving are long and complicated).
Pressed the buzzer for her flat and she buzzed me up, arrived up to the door, knocked and no answer, but I could hear some movement inside, awarkard.
So standing there like a spare prick at a wedding I turned and left.

pauliebdub

Gay dating can be a nightmare of shallowness, meanness and odd behaviour, I had a first date look me and down on first meeting say "nah" and walk off. Another date legged it while I went up to the bar to order beer, I came back to an empty table with two pints of Guinness. I sat there waiting for a bit puzzled thinking he went to the loo, then text and nothing. Sat there, drank the two pints then went home. I had a lucky escape on both counts.

stmol32

LizzieJones wrote: »

I'm willing to give you a second chance.

Oh go on then let's give it another go.

Let's go for a drink here http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=91986660 I'm guessing it'll be the quietest pub in Dublin tonight for a a chatnapint.:pac:

Faith

Faith wrote: »

Good to hear! At least something positive came from my massive waste of time

And I just got a call apologising and rescheduling! (I'm 8 hours behind, so it was an appropriate early-evening call, not a middle-of-the-night call.)

stmol32

pauliebdub wrote: »

Gay dating can be a nightmare of shallowness, meanness and odd behaviour, I had a first date look me and down on first meeting say "nah" and walk off. Another date legged it while I went up to the bar to order beer, I came back to an empty table with two pints of Guinness. I sat there waiting for a bit puzzled thinking he went to the loo, then text and nothing. Sat there, drank the two pints then went home. I had a lucky escape on both counts.

I have to ask out of curiousity do you reckon gay dating is more fraught than straight dating generally?

It's possible that you just had the misfortune to meet two arseholes or is this something that happens more with gay blind (I'm presuming based on your post) dates than straight.

I only ask because I've recently started dating again after a hiatus and I always expect the worst like those (excuse me) c**nts.

LizzieJones

stmol32 wrote: »

I'm guessing it'll be the quietest pub in Dublin tonight for a a chatnapint.:pac:

The chance of getting shot is pretty much nil by now.

stmol32

LizzieJones wrote: »

The chance of getting shot is pretty much nil by now.

That sounds like a double-dare to me!
To be fair LizzieJones you've never been on a blind date with me, I've been shot shot by both datee and bar tender on a frighteningly regular basis.

I'm starting to slowly think maybe it's actually me and not them, am I wrong?

LizzieJones

stmol32 wrote: »

I'm starting to slowly think maybe it's actually me and not them, am I wrong?

You're probably not wrong.

beks101

Ah ye're a lively bunch! Himself walked in the door seconds after I posted this, then drank way too much wine and woke up with my face stuck to the pillow about 20 minutes ago. I also curiously have a completely smashed up phone. Ugh. Wine is never a good choice.

I don't know what I'd do if I was ever actually stood up for a date. Especially after making a real effort to look nice. Probably either track him down and publicly humiliate him in the best/worst possible way or have a few drinks and find someone else to hang out with.

Augmerson

pauliebdub wrote: »

Gay dating can be a nightmare of shallowness, meanness and odd behaviour, I had a first date look me and down on first meeting say "nah" and walk off. Another date legged it while I went up to the bar to order beer, I came back to an empty table with two pints of Guinness. I sat there waiting for a bit puzzled thinking he went to the loo, then text and nothing. Sat there, drank the two pints then went home. I had a lucky escape on both counts.

That's f*cking lousy mate, hope you have or have had better luck in the future!

pauliebdub

Augmerson wrote: »

That's f*cking lousy mate, hope you have or have had better luck in the future!

I laugh it off and consider it a lucky escape.

shruikan2553

I would be lucky to get to the point where I could be stood up!

My girlfriend would probably be pissed at me if I was going out with other women though.

cloud493

No one comes close enough to me to set up a date or stand me up :cool: #hahaimsoalone

Fat Christy

cloud493 wrote: »

No one comes close enough to me to set up a date or stand me up :cool: #hahaimsoalone

I'll stand you up if you want?

Meet me at the spire for 5?

cloud493

Can't be bothered going into town :pac:

Mariasofia

cloud493 wrote: »

Can't be bothered going into town :pac:

Burn........ :-D

WilyCoyote

I've done it and it has been done to me. Not just once but I forget the details. It's an OK thing as people change their minds and don't want the shit of dealing with a messy situation.
So OP, if you're still sitting in that joint .......... you need to finish your drink as the staff want to go home to cook Sunday lunch

Fat Christy

cloud493 wrote: »

Can't be bothered going into town :pac:

Does it count if we both don't show up?

cloud493

I'm still gonna be disappointed.

Mariasofia

Was stood up once years ago when I was 15..... kinda blind date set up by his brother. Brother drove him to my house next day to apologise and your man said it was genuine reason and would i meet him again..... I replied no.....
Fast forward to last year got taxi home from town.....i recognised driver after seeing name.....he didnt recognise me and asked for my number.....I reminded him of all those years ago....... oh the look
on his face........ sweet :-D

Strawberry Swan

I wasn't stood up but actually he would have done me a favour if he had stood me up. The guy was 40 mins late, not very apologetic when he did turn up and just said the traffic was bad. It was a Sunday afternoon in Dublin. He didn't make any effort to smart himself up and the night ended by him telling me that I was too old for him. Not in those exact words but the message was crystal clear.

Out of interest, how long would people wait for a date before leaving?

cloud493

Assuming theres no contact, like a text or call, half an hour. If they text me to say they were stuck on the bus or something, the max is an hour.

anncoates

Was stood up once by a girl I didn't know. I'd asked her out when I saw her working in town. It was before mobiles. I rang her place and she swore that out of town friends had shown up as a surprise and she suggested meeting the next night.

I said no and never contacted her again because I was too proud but regretted it for ages because she was gorgeous

beks101

Actually now that I think about it, I got stood up by an ex of mine when I lived in Canada a few years ago.

It was our first 'date' after scoring the week before, he was in town and texted to see if I wanted to 'meet for a coffee'. So I asked him to give me an hour, did my hair, makeup, tried on about ten different outfits, then jumped on the bus and headed downtown.

Got there, texted him and he had already gone home because he'd hurt his foot playing soccer and it was acting up.

I remember feeling so distinctly deflated and disappointed that day, a theme that continued the entire time I was with him. God the grief I could have spared myself if I hadn't let him away with that!

kissmequick

Yeah did once ages ago. Can't remember what Pub we were in. We had just gotten drinks. And he went to go to the Bath-room and left me all on my lonesome and obviously must have left the Building.

Unless he got stuck down the toilet or something, he never came back anyway! What a lovely thing to do to a girl. :rolleyes: Shure I couldn't give a fcuk if he didn't want to meet me all's he had to say was he got called away or something like. Certainly not for him to disappear and vanish into thin air and leave a poor girl on her own like that. :rolleyes:

cloud493

kissmequick wrote: »

Yeah did once ages ago. Can't remember what Pub we were in. We had just gotten drinks. And he went to go to the Bath-room and left me all on my lonesome and obviously must have left the Building. Unless he got stuck down the toilet or something, he never came back anyway! What a lovely thing to do to a girl. :rolleyes: Shure I couldn't give a fcuk if he didn't want to meet me all's he had to say was he got called away or something like. Certainly not for him to disappear and vanish into thin air and leave a poor girl on her own like that. :rolleyes:

Did you at least get a free drink?