How much € should parents take off grown-up children towards their keep per week

acon2119 · 03-08-2014 07:48PM #1

How much is the average amount of money grown up kids living with their parents pay towards their keep per week. I have a 20 year old who had a few part time jobs with varying amounts of hours per week and I have never took money from them so far but now they are starting a job working 35 hrs per week at minimum wage and I really could do with them contributing to their share a bit as money is very tight. This 20 yr old has a car which the running of it is fully financed by themselves. I would love to hear an opinion from other parents in this situation.

Awkward Badger · 03-08-2014 07:51PM

Enough to cover their portion of the bills.

Ruu · 03-08-2014 07:52PM

I used to chip in €50 or so a week(easily), buy the shopping as well for the small household. If the phone bill was high or Sky, I'd chip in as well.

Drexel · 03-08-2014 07:52PM

acon2119 wrote: »

How much is the average amount of money grown up kids living with their parents pay towards their keep per week. I have a 20 year old who had a few part time jobs with varying amounts of hours per week and I have never took money from them so far but now they are starting a job working 35 hrs per week at minimum wage and I really could do with them contributing to their share a bit as money is very tight. This 20 yr old has a car which the running of it is fully financed by themselves. I would love to hear an opinion from other parents in this situation.

I was made hand up 1/3 of what I earned to housekeep. I'm better for it too. Friends who had to give nothing struggled to adapt to living out of home. Always late / missing rent and so on. I don't know would

Cantremember · 03-08-2014 07:53PM

Depend how much water food and energy they consume. Market rates would have to apply to rooms. If they are having regular sex with partner or one night stands then a bonking tax.

Frank Lee Midere · 03-08-2014 07:53PM

Awkward Badger wrote: »

Enough to cover their portion of the bills.

Why not rent?

catallus · 03-08-2014 07:54PM

€15.

frag420 · 03-08-2014 07:55PM

ONE FIDDY...

A Greedy Algorithm · 03-08-2014 07:55PM

None.

Awkward Badger · 03-08-2014 07:56PM

Frank Lee Midere wrote: »

Why not rent?

If there is rent to be paid or a mortgage they should contribute to that. Otherwise I don't really see a need to make them pay rent to live in what is their home.

dmc17 · 03-08-2014 07:56PM

You should pay them to stay with you

Annasopra · 03-08-2014 07:56PM

If he is earning roughly €300 per week then I think between 80-100 is an acceptable figure

darkpagandeath · 03-08-2014 07:56PM

Easy for example a house hold of 3 adults, Look at the bills for the year average it and split 3 ways. So unless they are out most nights and only coming back to sleep they are using a 3rd of the upkeep of the house.

Greenmachine · 03-08-2014 07:58PM

Awkward Badger wrote: »

If there is rent to be paid or a mortgage they should contribute to that. Otherwise I don't really see a need to make them pay rent to live in what is their home.

Near full time hour at min wage I would say about €70 euro.

Amirani · 03-08-2014 07:58PM

I think 25% is fair. That's assuming you don't buy their food, transport etc.

Recondite49 · 03-08-2014 08:06PM

acon2119 wrote: »

How much is the average amount of money grown up kids living with their parents pay towards their keep per week. I have a 20 year old who had a few part time jobs with varying amounts of hours per week and I have never took money from them so far but now they are starting a job working 35 hrs per week at minimum wage and I really could do with them contributing to their share a bit as moneay is very tight. This 20 yr old has a car which the running of it is fully financed by themselves. I would love to hear an opinion from other parents in this situation.

Hi acon,

I would suggest that you charge €150 for bed and board for someone working a 35 hour week on minimum wage.

While this sounds a large amount, you will be giving your kid a realistic sense of how much it costs "out there" - indeed some people pay a good deal more than this!

Also you don't have to spend the full amount. Anything left over each week you can put into a savings account for your kid for when they move out - they'll need to come up with a deposit and one month's rent after all.

I know other posters may feel that saving up is the young person's responsibility but at least this way they'll have something when they leave.

Also if you don't charge an amount commensurate with the cost of living there's not much incentive for them to fly the nest! :-)

Shakespeare's Sister · 03-08-2014 08:07PM

There's no set amount. Just split bills and other outgoings between all living in the household. Might not be an even split (differing amounts of usage, differing incomes) but something should be contributed by all living there and working.

Mrs Garth Brooks · 03-08-2014 08:09PM

Do what my mother did, charge the girls and not the lads. Housekeeping, bills, buy our own food...the lads were earning more and drinking it.

jamesbondings · 03-08-2014 08:10PM

I think one third Is fair. One third of wages to you, one third goes to savings and one third to spend however they like.

Hotfail.com · 03-08-2014 08:12PM

acon2119 wrote: »

How much is the average amount of money grown up kids living with their parents pay towards their keep per week. I have a 20 year old who had a few part time jobs with varying amounts of hours per week and I have never took money from them so far but now they are starting a job working 35 hrs per week at minimum wage and I really could do with them contributing to their share a bit as money is very tight. This 20 yr old has a car which the running of it is fully financed by themselves. I would love to hear an opinion from other parents in this situation.

I don't see why he should contribute nothing if he's working. Our parents take 40% of our money if we want to live at home.

Drexel · 03-08-2014 08:14PM

HardLuckWoman wrote: »

Do what my mother did, charge the girls and not the lads. Housekeeping, bills, buy our own food...the lads were earning more and drinking it.

I've seen this type of thing before on boards. The boys in the house werent expected to help with anything in the house or give up any money but the girls were. Very strange

JerCotter7 · 03-08-2014 08:15PM

Everytime this topic comes up I am amazed. I have never heard anyone talking about paying to live at home. Most parents I know just love to have their kids at home. If I said it to my parents they would just laugh at me.

Fr_Dougal · 03-08-2014 08:16PM

€300 p/m and an equal share in all bills including grocery bills.

Fresh Pots · 03-08-2014 08:16PM

JerCotter7 wrote: »

Everytime this topic comes up I am amazed. I have never heard anyone talking about paying to live at home. Most parents I know just love to have their kids at home. If I said it to my parents they would just laugh at me.

Your parents looking to adopt?!

Shakespeare's Sister · 03-08-2014 08:17PM

JerCotter7 wrote: »

Everytime this topic comes up I am amazed. I have never heard anyone talking about paying to live at home. Most parents I know just love to have their kids at home. If I said it to my parents they would just laugh at me.

Amazed at the prospect of people working full-time and contributing towards bills and other household outgoings?

It's not "paying to live at home". Why should any working adult get free electricity/heating/food/TV/internet/more?

I agree it should be proportionate to income and usage (I don't agree with lump sums being thrown out like €300, a third etc) but not paying anything and effectively expecting your parents to pay for the household expenses you incur, as if you were a child, is pretty crap.

Drexel · 03-08-2014 08:18PM

JerCotter7 wrote: »

Everytime this topic comes up I am amazed. I have never heard anyone talking about paying to live at home. Most parents I know just love to have their kids at home. If I said it to my parents they would just laugh at me.

Ah you need to prepare people for the real world. They are adults and need to pay their way in the world. Even if I was never asked to hand something up I would have.

Mrs Garth Brooks · 03-08-2014 08:18PM

jonny666 wrote: »

I've seen this type of thing before on boards. The boys in the house werent expected to help with anything in the house or give up any money but the girls were. Very strange

It boils my piss.

smileyj1987 · 03-08-2014 08:20PM

Divide up the bills that come in the door for the amount of adults in the house and that's the figure you need to charge . So that would be shopping , electricity , sky /UPC and any other bill that the house has .

How Soon Is Now · 03-08-2014 08:22PM

HardLuckWoman wrote: »

It boils my piss.

You might want to get that checked out!.

lulu1 · 03-08-2014 08:26PM

JerCotter7 wrote: »

Everytime this topic comes up I am amazed. I have never heard anyone talking about paying to live at home. Most parents I know just love to have their kids at home. If I said it to my parents they would just laugh at me.

I dont see why they dont have to give something towards the bills especially if they are working full time. I wouldn't call it paying to live at home. Dont see why their parents have to pay for everything.

acon2119 · 03-08-2014 08:28PM

JerCotter7 wrote: »

Everytime this topic comes up I am amazed. I have never heard anyone talking about paying to live at home. Most parents I know just love to have their kids at home. If I said it to my parents they would just laugh at me.

Lucky for you your parents must be comfortably well off, but the reality for most people is that its not always easy to meet the many bills that have to be paid to keep a family even a small family and home. I love having my kids at home but it costs a lot of money and the decent thing is to help pay your way in life. Kids will never have the inclination to get fully independent of their parents if their parents keep carrying them financially

How much € should parents take off grown-up children towards their keep per week

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