wedding invitation - "no posting of pic's on social media site's"

MsBubbles · 31-07-2014 08:44AM

Effect my Aunt and Uncle have 2 kids under 10 at the last family wedding while were waiting for the meal they kept the kids entertained with the ipad.

December2012 · 31-07-2014 08:46AM

kkcatlou wrote: »

I betcha anything though, in the few days after the wedding, she'll be dying for some photos and will be begging everybody to send them onto her!!

I don't see that as a contradiction - it's after the wedding and presumably if it's at her and her husbands request then that's different.

stinkle · 31-07-2014 08:51AM

December2012 wrote: »

I don't see that as a contradiction - it's after the wedding and presumably if it's at her and her husbands request then that's different.

And the medium doesn't have to be via social media either. There's nothing wrong with privately emailing/dropboxing/whatsapping the photos to the couple.

kkcatlou · 31-07-2014 08:58AM

Effects wrote: »

I wouldn't invite the kind of person that would bring an ipad to a wedding in the first place to be honest.

I'd have to uninvite my mother in that case

stargazer 68 · 31-07-2014 09:13AM

My sister put in on her mass booklet - no photos on social media sites until the following day. Her husband doesn't use FB etc and didn't want photos all over it while the wedding was still going on.

Have seen pics of bridesmaids on FB before they have even got to the church and the room decor while guests are still in the bar - it just spoils it for guests. If you invite someone to your wedding you want to share the day with them and not have people you didnt invite watching it 'frame by frame' before some of your guests.

DeltaWhite · 31-07-2014 09:24AM

Tbh OP just because you say she's a "facebook slut" (seriously what sort of expression is that to call a "friend") doesnt mean she cant decide that she wants no pictures taken on her wedding day by guests. Totally in her rights to do that and I dont blame her. I'd do the same if I was getting married as I despise facebook and so does my OH. Neither of us are on it so we would be mortified if people were sharing images of us for half of Dublin to see.

renofan · 31-07-2014 10:08AM

I got married in 2011 and at the end of my speech I told the guests it was ok to put photos of themselves etc. on social media but that myself and my wife didn't want pictures of us up. And I'd like to point out we didn't put any up either. Some days need to be kept special and not plastered all over the net.

Ave Sodalis · 31-07-2014 10:29AM

Princess Peach wrote: »

Presumably the bride and groom are paying a photographer who can get much better photos than guests on their phones anyway, so might just want to use those.

Good article here on how snap happy guests can ruin the professional photos!

http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/3331528/

I have to say, as a photographer, that article is actually quite whinny. I agree with the flash and people standing in the aisle but in term of people wanting a picture of the first dance and all, it's quite normal and the photographer had the whole dance to take photos. Im not a wedding photographer but even if nature, you could miss a moment and you just compensate. But then, I'm a slight bit biased after my mother was at a wedding taking her own photos and the bride and groom ended up using them as official photos as their own photographer made a mess of theirs.
Either way, taking photos during the cermony is different from putting them on fb straight away

sporina · 31-07-2014 06:18PM

kkcatlou wrote: »

To be honest, I'd be rolling my eyes up more at your friend's spelling on an invite than I would on their request!

There was a long debate on this a short while ago, and lots of divided opinions. I think it is a bit diva like, and in this case, slightly hypocritical, but as other posters pointed out, it's a sad reflection on people that it has to be pointed out!

It looks as though you are trying to find issue with this girl though, and in that case, she was bound to do something wrong!

I betcha anything though, in the few days after the wedding, she'll be dying for some photos and will be begging everybody to send them onto her!!

not trying to find an issue - i just had not seen this request before and was wondering why she would make it as she posts all type of pic's on there and i see her forever looking through it on her wall..

but i see some valid point's as to why one would request it as i said before..

but i think i would ask the priest to say it or something and hope that people would not post pic's during the ceremony - its such a private affair..

leck · 31-07-2014 10:22PM

sporina wrote: »

got a wedding invite the other day and on the back is printed : "x & y request kindly for guests to refrain from posting wedding pic's on social media site's"...

kkcatlou wrote: »

To be honest, I'd be rolling my eyes up more at your friend's spelling on an invite than I would on their request!

Me too on the spelling/grammar but maybe English is not her first language. Why is it that some people cannot resist the urge to slip an apostrophe in between the word and the ‘s’ that makes it a plural!

cactusgal · 31-07-2014 10:35PM

But even if they're a non-native English speaker, they should still ask someone to proofread the invites! (Not invite's)

In any case, I'm with the bride on this one. You shouldn't have to ask, but best to cover your bases just in case.

grind gremlin · 02-08-2014 02:56PM

I read something on a forum about someone posting a picture of the bride in her house, before she even left for the church...... Not cool ....

michellie · 02-08-2014 03:00PM

grind gremlin wrote: »

I read something on a forum about someone posting a picture of the bride in her house, before she even left for the church...... Not cool ....

Jesus tap dancing Christ!

miamee · 02-08-2014 03:30PM

michellie wrote: »

Jesus tap dancing Christ!

New favourite saying!!

Regarding social media I guess it's understandable that a couple would like some small amount of control over when photos of their big day are shared with a wider audience-strangers, people they didn't invite, etc.

mrsbyrne · 02-08-2014 03:37PM

The way I see it there are many many reasons why a couple wouldn't want the pics on social media, and absolutely NO reason why any guest HAD too put them on social media, so there's actually no argument at all.

sambuka41 · 02-08-2014 04:12PM

It's got to the point now where you are nearly expected to live your life through social media. I got engaged recently (:D) but we decided not to put anything on facebook about it, for lots of the reasons mentioned (some relatives not on social media, wanting to tell people in person or individually)

But I got a few remarks about it 'oh right, why do we have to keep it a secret?' :rolleyes: It's hardly a secret it's just not on social media! People were a bit confused by the concept of not announcing it on fb.

The wedding I was at last year had pictures of the bride up on facebook as soon as she had walked in, they were up before the ceremony was over. It was almost like a race, 'I'm going to be the first to get the good picture and get it online'. Pretty sad. I will definitely be asking people to sit back and relax, the photographers costing a bomb let him/her do the hard work!! :P

stinkle · 02-08-2014 08:27PM

McGaggs wrote: »

How's the app work?

App we had just involved logging in and uploading pics once you got a code for a specific wedding. Everyone with that code can see each others pics. Its great cos it meant they were all in the one place - ie no trawling fb to see everyone's photos. Also means that eg brides friends can see pics from grooms family without feeling like total stalkers. Our app allows comments under each photo too.

anamaria · 02-08-2014 11:47PM

The app we are using is called Wedpics. It can be used with android or iPhone. There is a setting to enable or disable sharing of photos on social media. Just give your guests the wedding code.

MsBubbles · 03-08-2014 12:35PM

anamaria how much does Wedpics cost ?
I looked at one app it cost €30

stinkle · 03-08-2014 01:11PM

MsBubbles wrote: »

anamaria how much does Wedpics cost ?
I looked at one app it cost €30

wedpics is freeeee!

anamaria · 03-08-2014 03:28PM

MsBubbles wrote: »

anamaria how much does Wedpics cost ?
I looked at one app it cost €30

It is free! Do you have an iPhone or Android? You can just search for it in the app store. Or else just go to their website www.Wedpics.com

anamaria · 03-08-2014 03:28PM

MsBubbles wrote: »

anamaria how much does Wedpics cost ?
I looked at one app it cost €30

It is free! Do you have an iPhone or Android? You can just search for it in the app store. Or else just go to their website www.Wedpics.com

silvervixen84 · 03-08-2014 03:57PM

I was bridesmaid for a friend last year. A couple of her work colleagues weren't invited to the wedding, but took their lunchbreaks at the right time so they could watch us go into the church. One of them uploaded a shaky, out of focus pic of the bride to fb, saying "last pic of X as a single woman". It's not cool and people should have some sense!

That said, one of my fb friends got married yesterday and posted a selfie of her and her new hubby from the top of the altar, with people in pews in the background!

amdublin · 03-08-2014 05:47PM

I don't know about this...

Like before social media you couldn't exactly dictate who your guests could or couldn't show the photos took.

Just imagine "I see you all have cameras with you and will be developing them after the wedding. So, those photos you take, you're not to show them to anyone I don't know...your mother, your sister, your friends, yeah I don't know them so don't show them photos of me okay"
"Oh and you know the way you generally print them off and put them in a little album and bring them into work to show all our work colleagues, yeah you're not to do that either".

If anyone asks me not to post on fb I don't post...I just don't need the hassle or argument tbh....but do I think you have some cheek, and think you're a being a spoiled princess, damn straight I do.

rainbowtrout · 03-08-2014 05:57PM

amdublin wrote: »

I don't know about this...

Like before social media you couldn't exactly dictate who your guests could or couldn't show the photos took.

Just imagine "I see you all have cameras with you and will be developing them after the wedding. So, those photos you take, you're not to show them to anyone I don't know...your mother, your sister, your friends, yeah I don't know them so don't show them photos of me okay"
"Oh and you know the way you generally print them off and put them in a little album and bring them into work to show all our work colleagues, yeah you're not to do that either".

If anyone asks me not to post on fb I don't post...I just don't need the hassle or argument tbh....but do I think you have some cheek, and think you're a being a spoiled princess, damn straight I do.

I think that's a little unfair. Ya people printed them out and probably showed them to family and friends but it was highly unlikely that it was on a wide scale or that they carried a photo album around with them to show everyone in their acquaintance.

I have yet to meet a person who's brought in an album of wedding photos to work where they were a guest.

People on FB can have hundreds of friends. Some people that they don't even know, some that they know to see but don't ever talk to etc. if you have even 100 people at a wedding that post pictures on Facebook and they have 100 unique friends each ( allowing for the fact that many have friends in common and but also that some people have 500+ friends on Facebook) then the audience for your photos is up on 10000. Easily.

I don't think anywhere like that number will see the photos if they were printed and shown in person to people that your guests personally know.

You also don't get randomers commenting on them online for everyone else to see if they're not online.

I'm a teacher and work in a small town. I could guarantee if I was getting married and even 3 or 4 of my friends posted pictures that the whole town would have seen them within a couple of days including my students. I wouldn't want all those people to have access to that aspect of my personal life or to be commenting on it.

I guess that makes me a spoiled princess.

December2012 · 03-08-2014 06:47PM

amdublin wrote: »

I don't know about this...

Like before social media you couldn't exactly dictate who your guests could or couldn't show the photos took.

Just imagine "I see you all have cameras with you and will be developing them after the wedding. So, those photos you take, you're not to show them to anyone I don't know...your mother, your sister, your friends, yeah I don't know them so don't show them photos of me okay"
"Oh and you know the way you generally print them off and put them in a little album and bring them into work to show all our work colleagues, yeah you're not to do that either".

If anyone asks me not to post on fb I don't post...I just don't need the hassle or argument tbh....but do I think you have some cheek, and think you're a being a spoiled princess, damn straight I do.

Printing out photographs, at the earliest, a day or two after the wedding for at home is completely different to immediately posting a photograph on social media.

Mrsbananas · 03-08-2014 07:49PM

I made a friend delete a photo of another friend which she uploaded while we were in the church. Just felt wrong.

BabysCoffee · 03-08-2014 07:54PM

It just seems all a little bossy to be putting rules on your invitations that your guests have to follow. And quite tacky imo.

In 10/20 years when you look back at your invitations on your anniversary are you going to be glad to have this written on your invitation???

shewasdiesel · 03-08-2014 07:56PM

rainbowtrout wrote: »

I think that's a little unfair. Ya people printed them out and probably showed them to family and friends but it was highly unlikely that it was on a wide scale or that they carried a photo album around with them to show everyone in their acquaintance.

I have yet to meet a person who's brought in an album of wedding photos to work where they were a guest.

People on FB can have hundreds of friends. Some people that they don't even know, some that they know to see but don't ever talk to etc. if you have even 100 people at a wedding that post pictures on Facebook and they have 100 unique friends each ( allowing for the fact that many have friends in common and but also that some people have 500+ friends on Facebook) then the audience for your photos is up on 10000. Easily.

I don't think anywhere like that number will see the photos if they were printed and shown in person to people that your guests personally know.

You also don't get randomers commenting on them online for everyone else to see if they're not online.

I'm a teacher and work in a small town. I could guarantee if I was getting married and even 3 or 4 of my friends posted pictures that the whole town would have seen them within a couple of days including my students. I wouldn't want all those people to have access to that aspect of my personal life or to be commenting on it.

I guess that makes me a spoiled princess.

Most people don't get Arsebook or Google. To them its just a means of sharing photos and chat. The whole reason these huge corporations carefully conduct and drive people to use "social" media, in the way corporations want it to be used and channelled, is that bulk information is a very valuable commodity, it can be sold and resold and used ad infinitum to sell targeted advertising. All these companies are not in the "social" media business, they are in the commercial information gathering and selling business. Privacy is not in their interest, anyone wishing to be a private person, and not a pawn, is to be scorned by "social" media.

rainbowtrout · 03-08-2014 08:13PM

BabysCoffee wrote: »

It just seems all a little bossy to be putting rules on your invitations that your guests have to follow. And quite tacky imo.

In 10/20 years when you look back at your invitations on your anniversary are you going to be glad to have this written on your invitation???

Well if guests have to be told not to post stuff online in order to give the couple privacy I don't think it's the couple's fault that they have to do it.

In the days before social media, it was common enough to see a photo of a bride and groom the local paper. It still happens, but it's not random guests that are putting out there in the media for all to see, it's the couple themselves or the photographer with permission from the couple.

Why should publication of wedding photos be any different. Guests are being invited to a private ceremony, why would they feel aggrieved that they are being asked to respect the couples privacy, and why would that be seen as tacky?

wedding invitation - "no posting of pic's on social media site's"

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