Craic with engagement rings

Irishcrx · 29-07-2014 04:12PM #1

So I've been entertaining the idea of getting married recently, took me eleven years to entertain it but I reckon i'm heading that way now...maybe...

I decided to look into getting a ring of some sort , now my other half isn't really into rings or jewellery so she has told me before if I ever do decide to 'finally' ask her she doesn't want me to spend big money on a ring would rather use the money towards the wedding or house/whatever.

So I went to the jewlers and made some enquiries and by the time I left my head was already spinning and my stomach was doing 360's from the stress and thought of actually having to plan a wedding.

I'd imagine she would want a purple stone or something , doesn't like diamonds or that, so I looked at a couple of nice rings under a grand but according to the store clerk, 'there aren't engagement rings' so she points me in the direction of anything that is over 2k - 3k.

I ask what the differance is as they look the exact same as the one's I was looking at just in a differant section, I explain I don't care nor does she about carrots , diamond quality or what mine they had to prize it out of I just want something simple and symbolic of my intent....again I got not an engagement ring.

So lads , what's a man to do?(Don't say run I'd years to do that) I might get drunk before I go back in to a store...

Sir Arthur Daley · 29-07-2014 04:14PM

A ring is a ring, use a 3/4 olive from a plumbing fitting.

solomafioso · 29-07-2014 04:14PM

Irishcrx wrote: »

So lads , what's a man to do?

Ask complete randomers on a website for (sound...?) advice of course!

29-07-2014 04:14PM

Loada bollox.
You know your girlfriend better than a jeweller on commission knows her. Get her what she wants, not what society says she should want.

Xios · 29-07-2014 04:14PM

Load of arse, terrible waste of money.

MagicIRL · 29-07-2014 04:14PM

Irishcrx wrote: »

I decided to look into getting a ring of some sort , now my other half isn't really into rings or jewellery so she has told me before if I ever do decide to 'finally' ask her she doesn't want me to spend big money on a ring would rather use the money towards the wedding or house/whatever.

I don't know much about women, but that is a trap.

I'd imagine she would want a purple stone or something , doesn't like diamonds or that, so I looked at a couple of nice rings under a grand but according to the store clerk, 'there aren't engagement rings' so she points me in the direction of anything that is over 2k - 3k.

Trrrrrrrrrrap!

Trust me, I'm an internet forum-poster.

Gran Hermano · 29-07-2014 04:15PM

Chicks love surprises and spontaneity.
Get yourself a Prince Albert instead

29-07-2014 04:15PM

Irishcrx wrote: »

So I've been entertaining the idea of getting married recently, took me eleven years to entertain it but I reckon i'm heading that way now...maybe...

I decided to look into getting a ring of some sort , now my other half isn't really into rings or jewellery so she has told me before if I ever do decide to 'finally' ask her she doesn't want me to spend big money on a ring would rather use the money towards the wedding or house/whatever.

So I went to the jewlers and made some enquiries and by the time I left my head was already spinning and my stomach was doing 360's from the stress and thought of actually having to plan a wedding.

I'd imagine she would want a purple stone or something , doesn't like diamonds or that, so I looked at a couple of nice rings under a grand but according to the store clerk, 'there aren't engagement rings' so she points me in the direction of anything that is over 2k - 3k.

That's because she wants to fleece you
Pick whatever ring your gf would like and don't be minding them

Lisha · 29-07-2014 04:15PM

Congrats and best of luck op
Take her ring shopping with you.

biko · 29-07-2014 04:16PM

Get her a car instead. Or a cat.

endacl · 29-07-2014 04:17PM

Xios wrote: »

Load of arse, terrible waste of money.

Also, that's a different sorta ring....

:pac:

dgt · 29-07-2014 04:19PM

Get a lead ring and plate it in gold. For a diamond break a car window and use the biggest piece.

Sorted

Irishcrx · 29-07-2014 04:20PM

MagicIRL wrote: »

I don't know much about women, but that is a trap.

Trrrrrrrrrrap!

Trust me, I'm an internet forum-poster.

Not a trap lads , she really isn't into them. She would want something for sure but she would actually kill me if I spent over a grand on a ring. We just want to keep the whole thing low key, wedding and all , close friends and family that's what were into... I just felt a bit awkward in there sweating and all, they almost want to make you feel poor just because you don't want to spend huge money...i'm not poor I just don't see the point in it..

Wabbit Ears · 29-07-2014 04:23PM

MagicIRL wrote: »

I don't know much about women, but that is a trap.

Trrrrrrrrrrap!

Trust me, I'm an internet forum-poster.

Seriously Its a trap.

Everything she has ever told you about her ring preferences is a LIE.

Seriously

No, Really, Seriously.

The ring is NOT about you. Its not about her, its about her friends, family and co-workers.

She will be judged and by proxy, YOU will be judged. Forever.

Buy her a proper engagement ring, if you want it to be special, it can actually work out better value to actually have one made to your design or requirements.

Seriously, you're making an epic fcukup that will haunt you forever here.

Just, you know, my opinion and stuff.

AlmightyCushion · 29-07-2014 04:24PM

Just get her a ring from one of those 50p machines. You might get some free bubble gum too.

29-07-2014 04:24PM

Wabbit Ears wrote: »

Seriously Its a trap.

Everything she has ever told you about her ring preferences is a LIE.

Seriously

No, Really, Seriously.

The ring is NOT about you. Its not about her, its about her friends, family and co-workers.

She will be judged and by proxy, YOU will be judged. Forever.

Buy her a proper engagement ring, if you want it to be special, it can actually work out better value to actually have one made to your design or requirements.

Seriously, you're making an epic fcukup that will haunt you forever here.

Just, you know, my opinion and stuff.

:rolleyes:

Irishcrx · 29-07-2014 04:26PM

Wabbit Ears wrote: »

Seriously Its a trap.

Everything she has ever told you about her ring preferences is a LIE.

Seriously

No, Really, Seriously.

The ring is NOT about you. Its not about her, its about her friends, family and co-workers.

She will be judged and by proxy, YOU will be judged. Forever.

Buy her a proper engagement ring, if you want it to be special, it can actually work out better value to actually have one made to your design or requirements.

Seriously, you're making an epic fcukup that will haunt you forever here.

Just, you know, my opinion and stuff.

Haha thanks for that, but I really don't care about what anyone else thinks it's not their marriage or family..

Fluxfan · 29-07-2014 04:27PM

Irishcrx wrote: »

I ask what the differance is as they look the exact same as the one's I was looking at just in a differant section, I explain I don't care nor does she about carrots .

Does she like parsnips? :pac:

Wabbit Ears · 29-07-2014 04:27PM

bluewolf wrote: »

:rolleyes:

Ok, I fold under your rolleye stare, Its me, I judge people with [EMAIL="cr@p"]cr@p[/EMAIL] engagement rings.

snaphook · 29-07-2014 04:28PM

Propose and then later take her on a trip to a few Jewellers.
Let her pick out something that she likes.

3 months salary and all that BS is for brainwashed dopes.
It would eat me up to spend a couple of grand on a shiny bit of carbon.

If you're minted then sure spend thousands for a top notch ring, but scrimping or worse getting into debt for a ring just to save face to snobby arseholes is a bad state of affairs.

_Redzer_ · 29-07-2014 04:28PM

I'd say it costs lesbians thousands to get engaged

29-07-2014 04:28PM

Irishcrx wrote: »

Haha thanks for that, but I really don't care about what anyone else thinks it's not their marriage or family..

Even a grand is a fair whack.

Sure look, €375 for a purple stone and diamonds.

If she's not into it, then definitely no need to spend a fortune

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 29-07-2014 04:32PM

You don't need to buy an "engagement ring". Buy a ring that she'll love, and use that. There's no laws that say a ring less than 1 grand isn't allowed be used to propose.

Sir Arthur Daley · 29-07-2014 04:33PM

Deleted User wrote: »

Sure look, €375 for a purple stone and diamonds.

There is acres of stuff for sale on that website.

Fluxfan · 29-07-2014 04:33PM

snaphook wrote: »

Propose and then later take her on a trip to a few Jewellers.
Let her pick out something that she likes.

3 months salary and all that BS is for brainwashed dopes.
It would eat me up to spend a couple of grand on a shiny bit of carbon.

Ya I agree. Play it safe dude. Don't let them make ya feel like sh1te for not spending a lot of money either. Good luck with the engagement, sounds like a nice girl you have there

fits · 29-07-2014 04:35PM

Jaypers, just propose and pick out the ring together afterwards. She'll love the job and you wont need to stress out about it.

29-07-2014 04:35PM

Sir Arthur Daley wrote: »

There is acres of stuff for sale on that website.

I didn't even look. Just looked for purple gemstone!

awec · 29-07-2014 04:36PM

Mate bought his now wife an engagement ring that cost about 5000 sterling and I think the thing is terrible looking. Diamond is far too big so it looks really out of place among other jewellery. Actually looks a bit tacky.

More money doesn't mean better!

Wishiwasa Littlebitaller · 29-07-2014 04:38PM

Irishcrx wrote: »

..my other half isn't really into rings or jewellery so she has told me before if I ever do decide to 'finally' ask her she doesn't want me to spend big money on a ring would rather use the money towards the wedding or house/whatever.

LOL.

Pay no attention to what she said. Women also say stuff like 'Don't be getting me anything expensive for Christmas now, I'd much rather the money went on things we need, blah blah blah' but you try getting her an Argos value blender and see how much you enjoy the holidays. For the rest of your lives there will be a story behind whatever ring you buy. No matter what she, or any other woman says, she will attach meaning to the amount of money that you decide to spend and so make sure it's an amount that hurts, not much, but enough that she will always be able to say that 'even though we couldn't afford, he bought me this' as she shows her family and friends. She'll roll her eyes of course and tut tut you as she does it, but deep down she will be so happy that you bought the best ring for her that you possibly could, without it meaning that you both ended up on the streets.

In fact, I would say if the ring means you have to sleep rough for just a few weeks, still buy the damn thing. The sex will be awesome, who cares if strangers get to see it too.

I Heart Internet · 29-07-2014 04:39PM

Irishcrx wrote: »

So lads , what's a man to do?(Don't say run I'd years to do that) I might get drunk before I go back in to a store...

Do not believe the hype.

An engagement ring, if you choose to have one, may be any ring you like, with any metal or stone or setting you like.

Make a tinfoil ring and ask your GF to marry you with that. Then visit a jeweller or, better still, a goldsmith/silversmith and get the ring that she actually wants. That could be anywhere from €100 - €100,000.

Wossack · 29-07-2014 04:39PM

get a placeholder ring, and bring her to a jewelers once the question has been asked

herself had no clue whatsoever what she liked, and in the end went for something I wouldnt have picked in a million years

Craic with engagement rings

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