hello friends. quickquestion regarding appropriate eye contact

shopaholic01 · 30-05-2014 10:04PM

fussyonion wrote: »

Just take her headphones off again, Teddy.

Or her underwear.

_Brian · 30-05-2014 10:04PM

yellow poole water wrote: »

long time reader first time poster here with a quick question I hope you guys can answer for me.

what is the appropriate length of time to maintain eye contact with a lady?

Ive tried everything from no eye contact at all, simply staring at the ground for the entire time we talk, to a solid 30 seconds of intense, unwavering eye contact, and nothing seems to be working for me. the ladys always seem to find me creepy and are not shy about telling me this.

I recently did a little experiment. I spoke to 4 different women giving each of them a different amount of eye contact to see which would respond more favorably to me, and NONE of them felt comfortable around me.
I started with darting eyes, and never meeting their gaze, then increased the direct eye contact in increments of 10 seconds with each new girl I spoke to.
so I spoke to 4 ladys and gave them, 0, 10, 20, and 30 seconds of eye contact.
no positive responses.

what am I doing wrong here?
maintaining silent eye contact for longer than 30 seconds seems a little creepy to me, but everything up to 30 seconds hasent worked for me.

please help, Im 28 years young and really need to learn how to talk to women.

I'd guess the fact that you were preoccupied with your crazy eye movements and timing each section of the stare, they probably found you either creepy of just crazy !! Ya must come across like a right nut job at that crack.

Try relaxing and having a conversation with them rather than some silly game that makes you seem loopers..

shopaholic01 · 30-05-2014 10:04PM

BillyMitchel wrote: »

Stop staring, you are freaking them out. They think you are Ted Bundy.

L

And what do you suggest he do to appear normal?

_Brian · 30-05-2014 10:05PM

yellow poole water wrote: »

listen guys.
I really appreciate all the serious responses.
but some of you arent taking this seriously at all.
I didnt come here to get mocked.
if you cant offer some serious advise then could you please refrain from posting in my thread.

thank you.

In fairness you came to the After Hours forum and expected to be taken seriously and not mocked... Now thats just mad ted :rolleyes:

Pinch Flat · 30-05-2014 10:06PM

Staring for 10 seconds you say? Much too short. Try 10 minutes at least. You'll start drooling naturally after about 3 minutes. The wimmin love that

Lingua Franca · 30-05-2014 10:06PM

yellow poole water wrote: »

what am I missing here guys?

The guy with the same attitude of "women as objects" murdering a bunch of people the other day, rendering your schtick deeply unfunny.

maguic24 · 30-05-2014 10:06PM

yellow poole water wrote: »

long time reader first time poster here with a quick question I hope you guys can answer for me.

what is the appropriate length of time to maintain eye contact with a lady?

Ive tried everything from no eye contact at all, simply staring at the ground for the entire time we talk, to a solid 30 seconds of intense, unwavering eye contact, and nothing seems to be working for me. the ladys always seem to find me creepy and are not shy about telling me this.

I recently did a little experiment. I spoke to 4 different women giving each of them a different amount of eye contact to see which would respond more favorably to me, and NONE of them felt comfortable around me.
I started with darting eyes, and never meeting their gaze, then increased the direct eye contact in increments of 10 seconds with each new girl I spoke to.
so I spoke to 4 ladys and gave them, 0, 10, 20, and 30 seconds of eye contact.
no positive responses.

what am I doing wrong here?
maintaining silent eye contact for longer than 30 seconds seems a little creepy to me, but everything up to 30 seconds hasent worked for me.

please help, Im 28 years young and really need to learn how to talk to women.

I think you are over-thinking the eye contact thing.....

fussyonion · 30-05-2014 10:07PM

You need to look at them with widened eyes, Ted.

kingchess · 30-05-2014 10:08PM

make her laugh,the ladies love a guy who can make them laugh,so scratch your backside as you approach the lady,then hold your finger under her nose and ask-very casually-does my finger smell(while maintaining eye contact) and do not forget to smile.

burstbuckle · 30-05-2014 10:08PM

Just stare at her through her bedroom window. That'll melt her heart

whupdedo · 30-05-2014 10:08PM

Ride them

JeffKenna · 30-05-2014 10:09PM

I think your eye contact is fine.
Cut out the drooling maybe.

InReality · 30-05-2014 10:12PM

How did you know it was exactly 10 seconds ? Did you have an alarm ?

Renegade Mechanic · 30-05-2014 10:12PM

You need just one simple question mate.
"Does this rag in my hand smell funny to you?"
And whatever you do, don't pull out her earphones!!!

Gran Hermano · 30-05-2014 10:13PM

burstbuckle wrote: »

Just stare at her through her bedroom window. That'll melt her heart

Plus if he gets snackish he can always lick the window panes.

BillyMitchel · 30-05-2014 10:14PM

shopaholic01 wrote: »

And what do you suggest he do to appear normal?

Get drunk, tell them he has cheap wine in a hotel room across the road and hope for the best.

30-05-2014 10:32PM

yellow poole water wrote: »

I honestly dont see any flaws in my system aside from the fact that it apparantly doesnt work.

Dear God.

By the way, if you're only 2 inches away from someones face, you're definitely invading their space in the most intimidating way possible.

If someone was giving me 30 seconds of intense eye contact and they were 2 inches from my nose, I'd be mentally noting the exits and groping in my bag for the mace.

fussyonion · 30-05-2014 10:34PM

Candie wrote: »

Dear God.

By the way, if you're only 2 inches away from someones face, you're definitely invading their space in the most intimidating way possible.

If someone was giving me 30 seconds of intense eye contact and they were 2 inches from my nose, I'd be mentally noting the exits and groping in my bag for the mace.

It's such a versatile spice isn't it?

Maphisto · 30-05-2014 10:34PM

Howshocowpownw wrote: »

Maybe stroke your penis before trying to chat with women ?

While you're chatting works for me

30-05-2014 10:35PM

fussyonion wrote: »

It's such a versatile spice isn't it?

I'm not talking spice

http://i247.photobucket.com/albums/gg158/MDA2008/Mace.jpg

GalwayGuy2 · 31-05-2014 09:47PM

BillyMitchel wrote: »

Stop staring, you are freaking them out. They think you are Ted Bundy.

L

I was about to joke that Ted Bundy still got laid, and then I remember what Ted Bundy went away for...

yellow poole water · 01-06-2014 04:43AM

okay listen.
Im not some wierdo or anything.
Im not going to stalk outside a womans window and Im not bundy-esque and theres no need for you people to question my character.

sure, I have trouble guaging how much eye contact is appropriate, but is that a crime?
no, its not.
and none of the sex crimes I have been accused of have stuck so why dont you all just BACK OFF! okay?!

now, lets get real here.
I need serious help with this.
my old flat mate was helping me with my eye contact issues, but then he moved out when he awoke at 4 in the morning to see me 2 inches from his sleeping face, mouth breathing directly into his mouth, sharing his air.

I didnt see what the big deal was but he threw a fit and stormed out like a crazy person.
so here I am.
reaching out for help from all of you.
so just keep all the insults and ridicule to your selves.

fussyonion · 01-06-2014 12:20PM

yellow poole water wrote: »

okay listen.
Im not some wierdo or anything.
Im not going to stalk outside a womans window and Im not bundy-esque and theres no need for you people to question my character.

sure, I have trouble guaging how much eye contact is appropriate, but is that a crime?
no, its not.
and none of the sex crimes I have been accused of have stuck so why dont you all just BACK OFF! okay?!

now, lets get real here.
I need serious help with this.
my old flat mate was helping me with my eye contact issues, but then he moved out when he awoke at 4 in the morning to see me 2 inches from his sleeping face, mouth breathing directly into his mouth, sharing his air.

I didnt see what the big deal was but he threw a fit and stormed out like a crazy person.
so here I am.
reaching out for help from all of you.
so just keep all the insults and ridicule to your selves.

I imagine you looking like a Bundy bun.

looking_around · 01-06-2014 12:51PM

Blah..recent post..is overly trollish

Homer · 01-06-2014 01:03PM

That you Larry murphy?

kingchess · 01-06-2014 01:38PM

wear very dark glasses,you can stare all you want then,

osarusan · 01-06-2014 02:40PM

Start by asking the young apples of your eye exactly how much eye contact they'd be comfortable with you making.

That should sort it out.

yeahimhere · 01-06-2014 04:18PM

I know the OP is trolling but actually, just thinking about it, a fella I used to work with had major issues with personal space and extreme eye contact at the same time. Every time you took a step back he'd step towards you again - ended up looking like we were dancing. So scary thought, maybe the OP isn't trolling :eek:

job seeker · 01-06-2014 04:24PM

OP it's eye contact, not a staring contest!!

( o ) ( o ) <

don't do this!

biko · 01-06-2014 04:31PM

hello friends. quickquestion regarding appropriate eye contact

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