hello friends. quickquestion regarding appropriate eye contact

yellow poole water

long time reader first time poster here with a quick question I hope you guys can answer for me.

what is the appropriate length of time to maintain eye contact with a lady?

Ive tried everything from no eye contact at all, simply staring at the ground for the entire time we talk, to a solid 30 seconds of intense, unwavering eye contact, and nothing seems to be working for me. the ladys always seem to find me creepy and are not shy about telling me this.

I recently did a little experiment. I spoke to 4 different women giving each of them a different amount of eye contact to see which would respond more favorably to me, and NONE of them felt comfortable around me.
I started with darting eyes, and never meeting their gaze, then increased the direct eye contact in increments of 10 seconds with each new girl I spoke to.
so I spoke to 4 ladys and gave them, 0, 10, 20, and 30 seconds of eye contact.
no positive responses.

what am I doing wrong here?
maintaining silent eye contact for longer than 30 seconds seems a little creepy to me, but everything up to 30 seconds hasent worked for me.

please help, Im 28 years young and really need to learn how to talk to women.

cherryghost

Are you cross-eyed? Maybe that's it.

Riamfada

Try longer. About 5 minutes , try one not blinking.

Zed Bank

Always maintain eye contact.

Frosty McSnowballs

You need to relax the fcuk.

Quit that eye rubbish, that's so 2003. It's all about where you place your hand on her back now.

uch

Just stare at her Gee

mfceiling

Concentrate on her knockers OP.

Women love men staring at their baps...

shopaholic01

We like it when you follow us around for a while first, make sure we notice you. We'll recognise you then and will automatically feel more comfortable. Don't worry about eye contact, talk to our boobs. We love that.

Dr. Zaius Dr. Zaius!

I think you might be over thinking this!
I know it's easier said than done but try to relax, the less you think about it, the more natural it becomes!
Good luck, I know it's tough out there OP!

Howshocowpownw

Maybe stroke your penis before trying to chat with women ?

Agricola

Remember to tuck your chin into your chest when your maintaining eye contact, as if you are looking at them over a pair of reading glasses. A maniacal grin would be good too, they love that.

cherryghost

Maybe you should sort out the yellow pool of water thing you have going on. I bet that's it.

BearBanjer

I give you, the Irish Elliot Rodger.

shopaholic01

Howshocowpownw wrote: »

Maybe stroke your penis before trying to chat with women ?

Better to do it while talking to us, we really love that.

corner of hells

Try looking at them with your one eye trouser mouse.

darkpagandeath

I go into shops twitching my Right eye and ask staff questions on products you would be surprised how truthful they become. :pac::pac::pac:

yellow poole water

Senor Fancy Pants wrote: »

You need to relax the fcuk.

Quit that eye rubbish, that's so 2003. It's all about where you place your hand on her back now.

on her back.
good advise friend.

I have noticed that I get cold responses from ladys when I have physical contact with them, similar to when I speak to them or make eye contact with them.

I have a system where I will rapidly approach a lady who I fancy, then stop dead in my tracks infront of them so that they know they are the reason I was traveling so quickly.
this makes them feel special, and I make sure I keep at least 2 inches, and at most 4 inches of space between our faces. I feel that this is not close enough to be invading their personal space, and yet still close enough to indicate my intentions.
after I establish my dominance (women like dominance) with a solid 10 seconds of silent eye contact, I usually like to tell them my name, my full name, and my home address. this lets them know who I am. then to establish trust I engage them in some simplephysical contact, like grabbing their wrist. now that they know me, and trust me, I ask for their full name and home address.

I honestly dont see any flaws in my system aside from the fact that it apparantly doesnt work.
introductions, establishing trust, appropriate eye contact, what am I missing here guys?

Gran Hermano

Stare away, at least until she secures a barring order.

GalwayGuy2

Probably a joke, but I'll give a serious answer :P

Look in a triangular pattern that comprises of both her eyes and the top of her head/hair. About, at most, 3 seconds before changing your eye contact along those three lines.

jubella

yellow poole water wrote: »

on her back.
good advise friend.

I have noticed that I get cold responses from ladys when I have physical contact with them, similar to when I speak to them or make eye contact with them.

I have a system where I will rapidly approach a lady who I fancy, then stop dead in my tracks infront of them so that they know they are the reason I was traveling so quickly.
this makes them feel special, and I make sure I keep at least 2 inches, and at most 4 inches of space between our faces. I feel that this is not close enough to be invading their personal space, and yet still close enough to indicate my intentions.
after I establish my dominance (women like dominance) with a solid 10 seconds of silent eye contact, I usually like to tell them my name, my full name, and my home address. this lets them know who I am. then to establish trust I engage them in some simplephysical contact, like grabbing their wrist. now that they know me, and trust me, I ask for their full name and home address.

I honestly dont see any flaws in my system aside from the fact that it apparantly doesnt work.
introductions, establishing trust, appropriate eye contact, what am I missing here guys?

Try introduce the element of surprise by approaching from behind.

30 seconds of intense eye contact

say that left a impression !!

Howshocowpownw

shopaholic01 wrote: »

Better to do it while talking to us, we really love that.

Sweeeet

shopaholic01

yellow poole water wrote: »

on her back.
good advise friend.

I have noticed that I get cold responses from ladys when I have physical contact with them, similar to when I speak to them or make eye contact with them.

I have a system where I will rapidly approach a lady who I fancy, then stop dead in my tracks infront of them so that they know they are the reason I was traveling so quickly.
this makes them feel special, and I make sure I keep at least 2 inches, and at most 4 inches of space between our faces. I feel that this is not close enough to be invading their personal space, and yet still close enough to indicate my intentions.
after I establish my dominance (women like dominance) with a solid 10 seconds of silent eye contact, I usually like to tell them my name, my full name, and my home address. this lets them know who I am. then to establish trust I engage them in some simplephysical contact, like grabbing their wrist. now that they know me, and trust me, I ask for their full name and home address.

I honestly dont see any flaws in my system aside from the fact that it apparantly doesnt work.
introductions, establishing trust, appropriate eye contact, what am I missing here guys?

Dispense with all these preliminaries and just dry hump then, you're going to an awful lot of trouble.

Frosty McSnowballs

yellow poole water wrote: »

I honestly dont see any flaws in my system aside from the fact that it apparantly doesnt work.
introductions, establishing trust, appropriate eye contact, what am I missing here guys?

You seem to be doing all the right things, I would suggest perhaps, getting a nice juicy tongue full of saliva and licking the face off her.

That will work

Frosty McSnowballs

jubella wrote: »

Try introduce the element of surprise by approaching from behind.

Takes notes!

JeffKenna

Hello back at you 'friend'

GalwayGuy2

Senor Fancy Pants wrote: »

Takes notes!

On her boobs.

Coopaloop

yellow poole water wrote: »

on her back.
good advise friend.

I have noticed that I get cold responses from ladys when I have physical contact with them, similar to when I speak to them or make eye contact with them.

I have a system where I will rapidly approach a lady who I fancy, then stop dead in my tracks infront of them so that they know they are the reason I was traveling so quickly.
this makes them feel special, and I make sure I keep at least 2 inches, and at most 4 inches of space between our faces. I feel that this is not close enough to be invading their personal space, and yet still close enough to indicate my intentions.
after I establish my dominance (women like dominance) with a solid 10 seconds of silent eye contact, I usually like to tell them my name, my full name, and my home address. this lets them know who I am. then to establish trust I engage them in some simplephysical contact, like grabbing their wrist. now that they know me, and trust me, I ask for their full name and home address.

I honestly dont see any flaws in my system aside from the fact that it apparantly doesnt work.
introductions, establishing trust, appropriate eye contact, what am I missing here guys?

When the 'serial killer' alarm bells start going off we tend to run away quickly!!!

yellow poole water

listen guys.
I really appreciate all the serious responses.
but some of you arent taking this seriously at all.
I didnt come here to get mocked.
if you cant offer some serious advise then could you please refrain from posting in my thread.

thank you.

fussyonion

Just take her headphones off again, Teddy.

BillyMitchel

yellow poole water wrote: »

listen guys.
I really appreciate all the serious responses.
but some of you arent taking this seriously at all.
I didnt come here to get mocked.
if you cant offer some serious advise then could you please refrain from posting in my thread.

thank you.

Stop staring, you are freaking them out. They think you are Ted Bundy.

L

shopaholic01

fussyonion wrote: »

Just take her headphones off again, Teddy.

Or her underwear.

_Brian

yellow poole water wrote: »

long time reader first time poster here with a quick question I hope you guys can answer for me.

what is the appropriate length of time to maintain eye contact with a lady?

Ive tried everything from no eye contact at all, simply staring at the ground for the entire time we talk, to a solid 30 seconds of intense, unwavering eye contact, and nothing seems to be working for me. the ladys always seem to find me creepy and are not shy about telling me this.

I recently did a little experiment. I spoke to 4 different women giving each of them a different amount of eye contact to see which would respond more favorably to me, and NONE of them felt comfortable around me.
I started with darting eyes, and never meeting their gaze, then increased the direct eye contact in increments of 10 seconds with each new girl I spoke to.
so I spoke to 4 ladys and gave them, 0, 10, 20, and 30 seconds of eye contact.
no positive responses.

what am I doing wrong here?
maintaining silent eye contact for longer than 30 seconds seems a little creepy to me, but everything up to 30 seconds hasent worked for me.

please help, Im 28 years young and really need to learn how to talk to women.

I'd guess the fact that you were preoccupied with your crazy eye movements and timing each section of the stare, they probably found you either creepy of just crazy !! Ya must come across like a right nut job at that crack.

Try relaxing and having a conversation with them rather than some silly game that makes you seem loopers..

shopaholic01

BillyMitchel wrote: »

Stop staring, you are freaking them out. They think you are Ted Bundy.

L

And what do you suggest he do to appear normal?

_Brian

yellow poole water wrote: »

listen guys.
I really appreciate all the serious responses.
but some of you arent taking this seriously at all.
I didnt come here to get mocked.
if you cant offer some serious advise then could you please refrain from posting in my thread.

thank you.

In fairness you came to the After Hours forum and expected to be taken seriously and not mocked... Now thats just mad ted :rolleyes:

Pinch Flat

Staring for 10 seconds you say? Much too short. Try 10 minutes at least. You'll start drooling naturally after about 3 minutes. The wimmin love that

Lingua Franca

yellow poole water wrote: »

what am I missing here guys?

The guy with the same attitude of "women as objects" murdering a bunch of people the other day, rendering your schtick deeply unfunny.

maguic24

yellow poole water wrote: »

long time reader first time poster here with a quick question I hope you guys can answer for me.

what is the appropriate length of time to maintain eye contact with a lady?

Ive tried everything from no eye contact at all, simply staring at the ground for the entire time we talk, to a solid 30 seconds of intense, unwavering eye contact, and nothing seems to be working for me. the ladys always seem to find me creepy and are not shy about telling me this.

I recently did a little experiment. I spoke to 4 different women giving each of them a different amount of eye contact to see which would respond more favorably to me, and NONE of them felt comfortable around me.
I started with darting eyes, and never meeting their gaze, then increased the direct eye contact in increments of 10 seconds with each new girl I spoke to.
so I spoke to 4 ladys and gave them, 0, 10, 20, and 30 seconds of eye contact.
no positive responses.

what am I doing wrong here?
maintaining silent eye contact for longer than 30 seconds seems a little creepy to me, but everything up to 30 seconds hasent worked for me.

please help, Im 28 years young and really need to learn how to talk to women.

I think you are over-thinking the eye contact thing.....

fussyonion

You need to look at them with widened eyes, Ted.

kingchess

make her laugh,the ladies love a guy who can make them laugh,so scratch your backside as you approach the lady,then hold your finger under her nose and ask-very casually-does my finger smell(while maintaining eye contact) and do not forget to smile.

burstbuckle

Just stare at her through her bedroom window. That'll melt her heart

whupdedo

Ride them

JeffKenna

I think your eye contact is fine.
Cut out the drooling maybe.

InReality

How did you know it was exactly 10 seconds ? Did you have an alarm ?

Renegade Mechanic

You need just one simple question mate.
"Does this rag in my hand smell funny to you?"
And whatever you do, don't pull out her earphones!!!

Gran Hermano

burstbuckle wrote: »

Just stare at her through her bedroom window. That'll melt her heart

Plus if he gets snackish he can always lick the window panes.

BillyMitchel

shopaholic01 wrote: »

And what do you suggest he do to appear normal?

Get drunk, tell them he has cheap wine in a hotel room across the road and hope for the best.

yellow poole water

yellow poole water wrote: »

I honestly dont see any flaws in my system aside from the fact that it apparantly doesnt work.

Dear God.


By the way, if you're only 2 inches away from someones face, you're definitely invading their space in the most intimidating way possible.

If someone was giving me 30 seconds of intense eye contact and they were 2 inches from my nose, I'd be mentally noting the exits and groping in my bag for the mace.

fussyonion

Candie wrote: »

Dear God.


By the way, if you're only 2 inches away from someones face, you're definitely invading their space in the most intimidating way possible.

If someone was giving me 30 seconds of intense eye contact and they were 2 inches from my nose, I'd be mentally noting the exits and groping in my bag for the mace.

It's such a versatile spice isn't it?

Maphisto

Howshocowpownw wrote: »

Maybe stroke your penis before trying to chat with women ?

While you're chatting works for me

fussyonion

fussyonion wrote: »

It's such a versatile spice isn't it?

I'm not talking spice

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