hello friends. quickquestion regarding appropriate eye contact

yellow poole water · 30-05-2014 09:38PM #1

long time reader first time poster here with a quick question I hope you guys can answer for me.

what is the appropriate length of time to maintain eye contact with a lady?

Ive tried everything from no eye contact at all, simply staring at the ground for the entire time we talk, to a solid 30 seconds of intense, unwavering eye contact, and nothing seems to be working for me. the ladys always seem to find me creepy and are not shy about telling me this.

I recently did a little experiment. I spoke to 4 different women giving each of them a different amount of eye contact to see which would respond more favorably to me, and NONE of them felt comfortable around me.
I started with darting eyes, and never meeting their gaze, then increased the direct eye contact in increments of 10 seconds with each new girl I spoke to.
so I spoke to 4 ladys and gave them, 0, 10, 20, and 30 seconds of eye contact.
no positive responses.

what am I doing wrong here?
maintaining silent eye contact for longer than 30 seconds seems a little creepy to me, but everything up to 30 seconds hasent worked for me.

please help, Im 28 years young and really need to learn how to talk to women.

cherryghost · 30-05-2014 09:40PM

Are you cross-eyed? Maybe that's it.

Riamfada · 30-05-2014 09:40PM

Try longer. About 5 minutes , try one not blinking.

Zed Bank · 30-05-2014 09:40PM

Always maintain eye contact.

Frosty McSnowballs · 30-05-2014 09:41PM

You need to relax the fcuk.

Quit that eye rubbish, that's so 2003. It's all about where you place your hand on her back now.

uch · 30-05-2014 09:42PM

Just stare at her Gee

mfceiling · 30-05-2014 09:43PM

Concentrate on her knockers OP.

Women love men staring at their baps...

shopaholic01 · 30-05-2014 09:44PM

We like it when you follow us around for a while first, make sure we notice you. We'll recognise you then and will automatically feel more comfortable. Don't worry about eye contact, talk to our boobs. We love that.

Dr. Zaius Dr. Zaius! · 30-05-2014 09:45PM

I think you might be over thinking this!
I know it's easier said than done but try to relax, the less you think about it, the more natural it becomes!
Good luck, I know it's tough out there OP!

Howshocowpownw · 30-05-2014 09:45PM

Maybe stroke your penis before trying to chat with women ?

Agricola · 30-05-2014 09:46PM

Remember to tuck your chin into your chest when your maintaining eye contact, as if you are looking at them over a pair of reading glasses. A maniacal grin would be good too, they love that.

cherryghost · 30-05-2014 09:47PM

Maybe you should sort out the yellow pool of water thing you have going on. I bet that's it.

BearBanjer · 30-05-2014 09:48PM

I give you, the Irish Elliot Rodger.

shopaholic01 · 30-05-2014 09:48PM

Howshocowpownw wrote: »

Maybe stroke your penis before trying to chat with women ?

Better to do it while talking to us, we really love that.

corner of hells · 30-05-2014 09:49PM

Try looking at them with your one eye trouser mouse.

darkpagandeath · 30-05-2014 09:49PM

I go into shops twitching my Right eye and ask staff questions on products you would be surprised how truthful they become. :pac::pac::pac:

yellow poole water · 30-05-2014 09:51PM

Senor Fancy Pants wrote: »

You need to relax the fcuk.

Quit that eye rubbish, that's so 2003. It's all about where you place your hand on her back now.

on her back.
good advise friend.

I have noticed that I get cold responses from ladys when I have physical contact with them, similar to when I speak to them or make eye contact with them.

I have a system where I will rapidly approach a lady who I fancy, then stop dead in my tracks infront of them so that they know they are the reason I was traveling so quickly.
this makes them feel special, and I make sure I keep at least 2 inches, and at most 4 inches of space between our faces. I feel that this is not close enough to be invading their personal space, and yet still close enough to indicate my intentions.
after I establish my dominance (women like dominance) with a solid 10 seconds of silent eye contact, I usually like to tell them my name, my full name, and my home address. this lets them know who I am. then to establish trust I engage them in some simplephysical contact, like grabbing their wrist. now that they know me, and trust me, I ask for their full name and home address.

I honestly dont see any flaws in my system aside from the fact that it apparantly doesnt work.
introductions, establishing trust, appropriate eye contact, what am I missing here guys?

Gran Hermano · 30-05-2014 09:51PM

Stare away, at least until she secures a barring order.

GalwayGuy2 · 30-05-2014 09:51PM

Probably a joke, but I'll give a serious answer :P

Look in a triangular pattern that comprises of both her eyes and the top of her head/hair. About, at most, 3 seconds before changing your eye contact along those three lines.

jubella · 30-05-2014 09:52PM

yellow poole water wrote: »

on her back.
good advise friend.

I have noticed that I get cold responses from ladys when I have physical contact with them, similar to when I speak to them or make eye contact with them.

I have a system where I will rapidly approach a lady who I fancy, then stop dead in my tracks infront of them so that they know they are the reason I was traveling so quickly.
this makes them feel special, and I make sure I keep at least 2 inches, and at most 4 inches of space between our faces. I feel that this is not close enough to be invading their personal space, and yet still close enough to indicate my intentions.
after I establish my dominance (women like dominance) with a solid 10 seconds of silent eye contact, I usually like to tell them my name, my full name, and my home address. this lets them know who I am. then to establish trust I engage them in some simplephysical contact, like grabbing their wrist. now that they know me, and trust me, I ask for their full name and home address.

I honestly dont see any flaws in my system aside from the fact that it apparantly doesnt work.
introductions, establishing trust, appropriate eye contact, what am I missing here guys?

Try introduce the element of surprise by approaching from behind.

30-05-2014 09:52PM

30 seconds of intense eye contact

say that left a impression !!

Howshocowpownw · 30-05-2014 09:53PM

shopaholic01 wrote: »

Better to do it while talking to us, we really love that.

Sweeeet

shopaholic01 · 30-05-2014 09:54PM

yellow poole water wrote: »

on her back.
good advise friend.

I have noticed that I get cold responses from ladys when I have physical contact with them, similar to when I speak to them or make eye contact with them.

I have a system where I will rapidly approach a lady who I fancy, then stop dead in my tracks infront of them so that they know they are the reason I was traveling so quickly.
this makes them feel special, and I make sure I keep at least 2 inches, and at most 4 inches of space between our faces. I feel that this is not close enough to be invading their personal space, and yet still close enough to indicate my intentions.
after I establish my dominance (women like dominance) with a solid 10 seconds of silent eye contact, I usually like to tell them my name, my full name, and my home address. this lets them know who I am. then to establish trust I engage them in some simplephysical contact, like grabbing their wrist. now that they know me, and trust me, I ask for their full name and home address.

I honestly dont see any flaws in my system aside from the fact that it apparantly doesnt work.
introductions, establishing trust, appropriate eye contact, what am I missing here guys?

Dispense with all these preliminaries and just dry hump then, you're going to an awful lot of trouble.

Frosty McSnowballs · 30-05-2014 09:55PM

yellow poole water wrote: »

I honestly dont see any flaws in my system aside from the fact that it apparantly doesnt work.
introductions, establishing trust, appropriate eye contact, what am I missing here guys?

You seem to be doing all the right things, I would suggest perhaps, getting a nice juicy tongue full of saliva and licking the face off her.

That will work

Frosty McSnowballs · 30-05-2014 09:56PM

jubella wrote: »

Try introduce the element of surprise by approaching from behind.

Takes notes!

JeffKenna · 30-05-2014 09:57PM

Hello back at you 'friend'

GalwayGuy2 · 30-05-2014 09:57PM

Senor Fancy Pants wrote: »

Takes notes!

On her boobs.

Coopaloop · 30-05-2014 09:57PM

yellow poole water wrote: »

on her back.
good advise friend.

I have noticed that I get cold responses from ladys when I have physical contact with them, similar to when I speak to them or make eye contact with them.

I have a system where I will rapidly approach a lady who I fancy, then stop dead in my tracks infront of them so that they know they are the reason I was traveling so quickly.
this makes them feel special, and I make sure I keep at least 2 inches, and at most 4 inches of space between our faces. I feel that this is not close enough to be invading their personal space, and yet still close enough to indicate my intentions.
after I establish my dominance (women like dominance) with a solid 10 seconds of silent eye contact, I usually like to tell them my name, my full name, and my home address. this lets them know who I am. then to establish trust I engage them in some simplephysical contact, like grabbing their wrist. now that they know me, and trust me, I ask for their full name and home address.

I honestly dont see any flaws in my system aside from the fact that it apparantly doesnt work.
introductions, establishing trust, appropriate eye contact, what am I missing here guys?

When the 'serial killer' alarm bells start going off we tend to run away quickly!!!

yellow poole water · 30-05-2014 09:58PM

listen guys.
I really appreciate all the serious responses.
but some of you arent taking this seriously at all.
I didnt come here to get mocked.
if you cant offer some serious advise then could you please refrain from posting in my thread.

thank you.

fussyonion · 30-05-2014 10:03PM

Just take her headphones off again, Teddy.

BillyMitchel · 30-05-2014 10:03PM

yellow poole water wrote: »

listen guys.
I really appreciate all the serious responses.
but some of you arent taking this seriously at all.
I didnt come here to get mocked.
if you cant offer some serious advise then could you please refrain from posting in my thread.

thank you.

Stop staring, you are freaking them out. They think you are Ted Bundy.

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hello friends. quickquestion regarding appropriate eye contact

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