Saved family €4,000, shockingly ungrateful

Hococop · 24-05-2014 12:34AM

Sam Kade wrote: »

So op how did you calculate that it would cost them 4k?

I did a quick search there off one storage area and it starts at 10 euro a week, the fact op said the stuff filled a double bedroom means it could cost maybe 30 a week or more its possible to see it at a cost of 4 grand

GonnaFreak1994 · 24-05-2014 12:34AM

Yes, you should say that they have abused your generosity and that they have been very ungrateful. Feel sorry for your daughter, I know how it feels never getting any presents..... Never even really receive a Birthday, Xmas cards off my Aunts and uncles, even though my sister gets expensive watches and perfumes off them

T'is distressing.

gg2 · 24-05-2014 12:36AM

GonnaFreak1994 wrote: »

Yes, you should say that they have abused your generosity and that they have been very ungrateful. Feel sorry for your daughter, I know how it feels never getting any presents..... Never even really receive a Birthday, Xmas cards off my Aunts and uncles, even though my sister gets expensive watches and perfumes off them

T'is distressing.

Why do they ignore you though?

LETHAL LADY · 24-05-2014 12:36AM

The thing I find with some inlaws is that they feel because they are family that you owe them something. OP you have every right to let fly on this one. So what if you ruffle a few feathers, they need to be put right and have done so for some time.

hfallada · 24-05-2014 12:37AM

I dont know why everyone is being so hateful. Im sure saint vincent de paul would love a large donation of assorted belongings

Sam Kade · 24-05-2014 12:38AM

Hotale.com wrote: »

Yep, most people think it's weird that I f*ck bog, but I like it.

Here's a secret for you spell checker

It will save you embarrassment in future even with simple words that you should have picked up on in first class

PLL · 24-05-2014 12:38AM

Sam Kade wrote: »

So op how did you calculate that it would cost them 4k?

When they told us they were moving to OZ they said they got the storage estimated and it was going to be €2,000 a yr. I then said they could keep it in our spare room to save the money and keep it for their trip to oz.

Thanks for all the replies, it is good to see so many other points of view. In regards to selling it, it is pure junk. 14" large back tv, boxes VHS Disney videos, sentimental crap. They are pure hoarders. If any of it was useful we would be using it, but it has sat there. We would love the extra room. It is our only spare room, visitors have to sleep on the sofa bed in the dining room.

Hotale.com · 24-05-2014 12:39AM

PLL wrote: »

When they told us they were moving to OZ they said they got the storage estimated and it was going to be €2,000 a yr. I then said they could keep it in our spare room to save the money and keep it for their trip to oz.

Thanks for all the replies, it is good to see so many other points of view. In regards to selling it, it is pure junk. 14" large back tv, boxes VHS Disney videos, sentimental crap. They are pure hoarders. If any of it was useful we would be using it, but it has sat there. We would love the extra room. It is our only spare room, visitors have to sleep on the sofa bed in the dining room.

Keep the telly.

Sam Kade · 24-05-2014 12:42AM

PLL wrote: »

When they told us they were moving to OZ they said they got the storage estimated and it was going to be €2,000 a yr. I then said they could keep it in our spare room to save the money and keep it for their trip to oz.

Thanks for all the replies, it is good to see so many other points of view. In regards to selling it, it is pure junk. 14" large back tv, boxes VHS Disney videos, sentimental crap. They are pure hoarders. If any of it was useful we would be using it, but it has sat there. We would love the extra room. It is our only spare room, visitors have to sleep on the sofa bed in the dining room.

Take it to a car boot sale even if it didn't make much you will be rid of it.

pablo128 · 24-05-2014 12:42AM

Fook it out and text them saying some 'roving copper gathering gentlemen of the road' broke into your house, and cleaned out the lot of it.

Sure what can you do. It's gone.:pac:

Mrs Garth Brooks · 24-05-2014 12:43AM

PLL wrote: »

When they told us they were moving to OZ they said they got the storage estimated and it was going to be €2,000 a yr. I then said they could keep it in our spare room to save the money and keep it for their trip to oz.

Thanks for all the replies, it is good to see so many other points of view. In regards to selling it, it is pure junk. 14" large back tv, boxes VHS Disney videos, sentimental crap. They are pure hoarders. If any of it was useful we would be using it, but it has sat there. We would love the extra room. It is our only spare room, visitors have to sleep on the sofa bed in the dining room.

Rule number 1: You don't help family when it comes to money.

NZ_2014 · 24-05-2014 12:44AM

PLL wrote: »

When they told us they were moving to OZ they said they got the storage estimated and it was going to be €2,000 a yr. I then said they could keep it in our spare room to save the money and keep it for their trip to oz.

Thanks for all the replies, it is good to see so many other points of view. In regards to selling it, it is pure junk. 14" large back tv, boxes VHS Disney videos, sentimental crap. They are pure hoarders. If any of it was useful we would be using it, but it has sat there. We would love the extra room. It is our only spare room, visitors have to sleep on the sofa bed in the dining room.

Shocking.. How much could you let /sublet the room for? €350 a month × 24 months

Send them a bill for €8400

Hotale.com · 24-05-2014 12:45AM

NZ_2014 wrote: »

Shocking.. How much could you let /sublet the room for? €350 a month × 24 months

Send them a bill for €8400

I think you were born to be an American lawyer.

corner of hells · 24-05-2014 12:46AM

PLL wrote: »

When they told us they were moving to OZ they said they got the storage estimated and it was going to be €2,000 a yr. I then said they could keep it in our spare room to save the money and keep it for their trip to oz.

Thanks for all the replies, it is good to see so many other points of view. In regards to selling it, it is pure junk. 14" large back tv, boxes VHS Disney videos, sentimental crap. They are pure hoarders. If any of it was useful we would be using it, but it has sat there. We would love the extra room. It is our only spare room, visitors have to sleep on the sofa bed in the dining room.

Bagsy the Disney videos , any fishing gear there or a bumper for a Micra ?

Mrs Garth Brooks · 24-05-2014 12:48AM

NZ_2014 wrote: »

Shocking.. How much could you let /sublet the room for? €350 a month × 24 months

Send them a bill for €8400

+ €4000 storage

= €12,400

and off down under yourself OP

24-05-2014 12:48AM

corner of hells wrote: »

Bagsy the Disney videos , any fishing gear there or a bumper for a Micra ?

This ain't adverts mofo....

Sam Kade · 24-05-2014 12:48AM

HardLuckWoman wrote: »

Rule number 1: You don't help family it comes to money.

By fcuk that's the truest word you ever said

also don't ever work for family, same result

GonnaFreak1994 · 24-05-2014 12:48AM

gg2 wrote: »

Why do they ignore you though?

Don't know, get on really well with my aunts and uncles and best friends with my two of my cousins. Last time I got an Xmas present off an aunt/uncle was when I was 3 which was about 15 years ago.

But my granny gets me a present, last year I got €10 jumper that was on sale (had the label on) and my 3 sisters got designer make up =/.

To be honest I don't mind as they have got families of their own, but if your going to get my sisters presents and not me then you shouldn't give any at all (being the jealous twat I am) and I suppose I see them far more. My sisters live in Dublin and rarely see them whereas I often visit them and vice-versa.

GonnaFreak1994 · 24-05-2014 12:51AM

Sam Kade wrote: »

By fcuk that's the truest word you ever said also don't ever work for family, same result

Damn RIGHT, slave labour working for my dad. On the holidays I have to work a lot on the farm, even the day before the my JC he had me working (to be fair he did say ''You aren't studying anyway'' which was true).

Gongoozler · 24-05-2014 12:52AM

Someone will want their crap, even if they don't pay much for it, if anything at all, at least you'll have it gone. Or as someone said car boot styley. You could let them know, but maybe don't bother as it'll be easier to forget about them and the whole fiasco if you can just let it go when the stuff is gone.

Sam Kade · 24-05-2014 12:55AM

GonnaFreak1994 wrote: »

Damn RIGHT, slave labour working for my dad. On the holidays I have to work a lot on the farm, even the day before the my JC he had me working (to be fair he did say ''You aren't studying anyway'' which was true).

Yep did the same myself plenty work on the farm but no money

But the way I look at it I own the farm now

not the same for everyone but it worked in my favour

Raminahobbin · 24-05-2014 12:55AM

Conmaicne Mara wrote: »

The words you are looking for are "Yard Sale".

No no. No. NO.

It's Jumble Sale.

mfergus · 24-05-2014 12:56AM

Start a little auction.

Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeep.

Sam Kade · 24-05-2014 12:59AM

Raminahobbin wrote: »

No no. No. NO.

It's Jumble Sale.

Yeah, yard sales only happen in America.

Hotale.com · 24-05-2014 12:59AM

Christ this thread is sh*t.

shruikan2553 · 24-05-2014 01:00AM

Swap for anything in our spare room? Pretty sure there's a now that's what I call music CD from the previous pigs/tenants and a broken seat for a small child. At least 1 baby shoe too

Strumms · 24-05-2014 01:01AM

I know they are family and no offence meant and don't take this the wrong way and ****... But they are the worst kind of leeches there are. Family members who use the connection of family to put upon others for their own gain... You did them a rather huge favour and helped them out of a hole on more then one occasion and yet they never kept in touch. They are the type that if you asked for something small as in some help or a favour it would be all just too much. Some people are just like that and I've seen it myself. Don't feel bad about ruffling feathers or telling it to them like it is. Nothing worse then being taken for a ride like that **** em.

GonnaFreak1994 · 24-05-2014 01:03AM

Sam Kade wrote: »

Yep did the same myself plenty work on the farm but no money But the way I look at it I own the farm now not the same for everyone but it worked in my favour

Oh yeah, don't get me wrong I enjoy and it is better than playing xbox, but I've been working on it since I was 5 (obviously doing small stuff then) but now I own a few bulls and will be selling them next year (3 big herefords)

Also, just finished reading all of the OP post, how the fcuk can they expect you to to look after their stuff when your in the black!!!! I say step up now and ask them what's going on, otherwise they will just continue to abuse your position further! Tell them to deal directly to you, if they have the indecency to leave you with their stuff for 2 years then they should at least talk to you directly. Honestly, just shows what they are if anything. There's always someone in the family willing to take advantage off bro/sis.

Strumms · 24-05-2014 01:17AM

If you are someone who doesn't direct like confrontation... Just send them a link to this thread... It's what your fellow boardsies are for after all....

cuana · 24-05-2014 01:21AM

JOSman wrote: »

part of this could be embarrassment, give them a little lee way and see how it goes.
If you want to say something, tell them to talk to you directly if they want something and not to be worried, perhaps they need a bit of encouragement/support at this stage.
Best of luck, relationships are difficult enough

They did them a huge favor and should be grateful for it! IT COST NOTHING TO SAY THANK YOU

When my sister first emigrated after a while she needed a helping hand financially & asked if we didn't mind we all put a few euro together & help her out. It was a tiny amount but just enough to keep her going. We each sent what we could afford & never expected payment but she never ever forgot.

Thing is much like the poster we helped because we could... a little gratitude is all it took. Two years later when she was settled she sent us each a cheque and was furious with us for never cashing them!! Enough said all it took we a thank you for helping me. At some point we all need a little support. They sound like horrible ungrateful people and if they are any way embarrassed about there situation well then suck it up and say so. What bothers me most about this whole situation is that they couldn't be bothered to keep in contact which just shows how little respect or care they have for them in the first place.

I'd happily burn there stuff or donate it, its been two years they obviously don't need it.

Saved family €4,000, shockingly ungrateful

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