Saved family €4,000, shockingly ungrateful

PLL · 23-05-2014 11:08pm #1

My other half's brother and his girlfriend moved to Australia in May 2012, we offered to store their possesions in our spare bedroom so they didn't have to put it into storage, saving them €2,000 a year. At the time when we offered to take the stuff they were going for a year. However they stayed longer abroad and these belongings are due to be taken tomorrow morning. So we have had the stuff 2 years, saving them €4,000.

What I have an issue with is the fact that they haven't spoken to us or contacted us in those 2 years. When they decided to stay longer abroad they told my oh's parents who told us. We had to move house soon after this as our rent went up and we couldn't afford it, so we had to move all their stuff with us. They have a lot of stuff, it fills a double bedroom floor to ceiling. We were never botherd by this, ok it was annoying to move all their stuff as well as ours but they're family. But we never got a message to say thanks for taking the stuff for another year, nothing.

But possibly the worst part of this and the part that makes me want to say something is that they have been sending presents to the brother's 2nd cousin and have ignored our daughter who is his niece and goddaughter. It's not necessarily the lack of gifts but they don't even send a card or a message on Facebook for her birthday or even to ask how she is. While they send the cousin easter, christmas and birthday presents. These children are the same age and I honestly think leaving a child out is dispecable.

They moved to England in Janaury, again they planned to come home but chanaged their minds and didn't tell us, and didn't feel the need to take their possessions back. It is only because we are moving to a different county that we cant keep their stuff any longer. When we told them, again, no reply but they spoke to oh's parents about it, saying they were broke (both working full time, one in a manager position, the other on commission, while living rent free with family) oh's parents offered to pay for a van they could drive over to collect their stuff, they said no and arranged a courier to bring it over for them instead. I was happy that it was going and I wouldn't have to think about it anymore, until the last 2 days.

Yday while we were packing up our house, more of their stuff was dropped off. We were never informed about a drop off, a man turned up with a van unloaded the stuff and said this was to be added to the stuff being removed by the courier. My oh's father came over that evening and took a picture of all their stuff, which barely fit the room. Saying it was insane and they at least owe us a night out. He then put the picture on facbook making a joke about them opening a furniture store. They got mad. The girlfriend left a comment about how she would prefer to see a pic of our daughter as she hasn't seen any in a while and this is were my blood is boiling. They have ignored us and our daughter for 2 years, not even saying thanks for all the stuff we have done. They never comment on pics of our daughter (of which their is plenty) but are all over the cousin, yeah I know petty facebook but the fact that she wrote that like she pretends to care is driving me insane. We even had to write up an inventory for the courier of their stuff, measuring every box and what the contents was. I e-mailed them this last week, I was very friendly asking how they they were, hope the new job was going well. I then asked them to let me know when the courier was coming, again they let oh's parents know and not us.

Should I be angry?, should I say something?, how would you feel?

Hotale.com · 23-05-2014 11:11pm

Burn it.

Burn it all.

wazky · 23-05-2014 11:11pm

Stick it up on adverts and send them on a link of the advert.

Conmaicne Mara · 23-05-2014 11:12pm

The words you are looking for are "Yard Sale".

Larianne · 23-05-2014 11:12pm

Leave their shíte out on the lawn and then take a picture of it. Put up on Facebook.
Won't be long before they come looking for their stuff.

It's a bit ridiculous really.

SafeSurfer · 23-05-2014 11:13pm

Maybe they're just not that into you.

Hotale.com · 23-05-2014 11:13pm

Did anyone actually reed the OP?

Who'd be be f*cking bothered?

Mrs Garth Brooks · 23-05-2014 11:14pm

You should sell their stuff and keep your mouth shut. Play their own stupid ignorant game.

gg2 · 23-05-2014 11:15pm

Why don't you just ask them?
Whats the worst that could happen they ain't talking to you anyway!

michael999999 · 23-05-2014 11:15pm

Move. And leave all there stuff behind.

131spanner · 23-05-2014 11:16pm

Pawn it for cash to fook.

Mrs Garth Brooks · 23-05-2014 11:17pm

michael999999 wrote: »

Move. And leave all there stuff behind.

So someone else can sell it and make money? No

23-05-2014 11:17pm

They are obnoxiously ungrateful and entitled. Don't let them drag you into an argument where you run the risk of looking ungracious. But never do them a favour again either.

Sam Kade · 23-05-2014 11:18pm

Hotale.com wrote: »

Did anyone actually reed the OP?

Who'd be be f*cking bothered?

TBH I started got to the second line and stopped, if you have a boring story to tell make it short

By the way reeds grow in wetlands

Sam Kade · 23-05-2014 11:19pm

HardLuckWoman wrote: »

You should sell their stuff and keep your mouth shut. Play their own stupid ignorant game.

Probably isn't worth selling.

Hotale.com · 23-05-2014 11:19pm

Sam Kade wrote: »

TBH I started got to the second line and stopped, if you have a boring story to tell make it short By the way reeds grow in wetlands

So THAT's what it was last night :rolleyes:

JOSman · 23-05-2014 11:20pm

part of this could be embarrassment, give them a little lee way and see how it goes.
If you want to say something, tell them to talk to you directly if they want something and not to be worried, perhaps they need a bit of encouragement/support at this stage.
Best of luck, relationships are difficult enough

shamrock55 · 23-05-2014 11:20pm

Firstly you need to get these arseholes out of your lives, then simply tell them either they collect their **** or you burn it, im raging just reading about it

Frosty McSnowballs · 23-05-2014 11:21pm

What a pack of bastards!

You are too good OP, I'd donate the fcuk out of the lot of it, cnuts.

Karl Stein · 23-05-2014 11:22pm

Stop letting selfish people take advantage of you. You should have told them their stuff was going into a skip if they hadn't taken responsibility for it after the first year you agreed to hold it for.

Sir Arthur Daley · 23-05-2014 11:24pm

Nothing worse than ungrateful cunts, I would not waste my time any longer, gallon of diesel and one match.

Pwindedd · 23-05-2014 11:25pm

Sell it, keep 4,000 if you get that much - send them a receipt for payment of 2 years storage. Post Facebook picture of you on your holiday...!

BBDBB · 23-05-2014 11:25pm

Its not shocking, some people are self centred, ungrateful and will take advantage every single time, leaving a wake of pissed off friends and relations. Either call them on it or simply accept they are ego centric users but don't let it eat away at you.

cailinardthair · 23-05-2014 11:25pm

Put there stuff into storage and send them the details and bill! Saying ye had enough and needed the room and 2 years is long enough without a valuable room in your house! Its your house! If they want there stuff they be quick enough getting it, if they have to pay for it!

UserNo1 · 23-05-2014 11:27pm

lol 2 years free storage surely you could use the spare room for something ?? then paying for there stuff yourselves to be moved by courier and spending time organizing there stuff me thinks you care about there stuff more that they do

Yes you should be Very Angry

Sam Kade · 23-05-2014 11:27pm

Hotale.com wrote: »

So THAT's what it was last night :rolleyes:

What, did you get stuck in someone's wetland?

Mrs Garth Brooks · 23-05-2014 11:28pm

gg2 wrote: »

Why don't you just ask them?
Whats the worst that could happen they ain't talking to you anyway!

Careful getting the blame by asking what his problem is.

I did this last year. I asked my brother why he wasn't talking to us at home. Well he fcked a whole load of abuse over the phone at me. Somehow it was my fault ?? He was ringing everyone else including the neighbours.

No problem using me for money while he was at home....and never payed it back. .... Call me every name under the sun asshole brother....but I sold half his ****. Made a nice profit on ebay.

Sam Kade · 23-05-2014 11:30pm

So op how did you calculate that it would cost them 4k?

mickydoomsux · 23-05-2014 11:31pm

Not really surprising from that kind of person to be honest.

I have a brother who moved to Australia a little under a decade ago and makes **** all effort to stay in touch and there's a bunch of his stuff still in my parents house that he keeps on ****eing on about moving over. I couldn't care less if I ever see or hear from him again but I know it bothers my parents.

It is a trait that I find with a lot of people who move to another country. The people they leave behind are used as someone to dump the crap they leave behind with.

Hotale.com · 23-05-2014 11:32pm

Sam Kade wrote: »

What, did you get stuck in someone's wetland?

Yep, most people think it's weird that I f*ck bog, but I like it.

NZ_2014 · 23-05-2014 11:33pm

Spare room my arse.

You should have been using that room as an exercise studio, for yoga and stretches, and/or as an office, not for storing all their Shiite.

Hococop · 23-05-2014 11:34pm

Sam Kade wrote: »

So op how did you calculate that it would cost them 4k?

I did a quick search there off one storage area and it starts at 10 euro a week, the fact op said the stuff filled a double bedroom means it could cost maybe 30 a week or more its possible to see it at a cost of 4 grand

GonnaFreak1994 · 23-05-2014 11:34pm

Yes, you should say that they have abused your generosity and that they have been very ungrateful. Feel sorry for your daughter, I know how it feels never getting any presents..... Never even really receive a Birthday, Xmas cards off my Aunts and uncles, even though my sister gets expensive watches and perfumes off them

T'is distressing.

gg2 · 23-05-2014 11:36pm

GonnaFreak1994 wrote: »

Yes, you should say that they have abused your generosity and that they have been very ungrateful. Feel sorry for your daughter, I know how it feels never getting any presents..... Never even really receive a Birthday, Xmas cards off my Aunts and uncles, even though my sister gets expensive watches and perfumes off them

T'is distressing.

Why do they ignore you though?

LETHAL LADY · 23-05-2014 11:36pm

The thing I find with some inlaws is that they feel because they are family that you owe them something. OP you have every right to let fly on this one. So what if you ruffle a few feathers, they need to be put right and have done so for some time.

hfallada · 23-05-2014 11:37pm

I dont know why everyone is being so hateful. Im sure saint vincent de paul would love a large donation of assorted belongings

Sam Kade · 23-05-2014 11:38pm

Hotale.com wrote: »

Yep, most people think it's weird that I f*ck bog, but I like it.

Here's a secret for you spell checker

It will save you embarrassment in future even with simple words that you should have picked up on in first class

PLL · 23-05-2014 11:38pm

Sam Kade wrote: »

So op how did you calculate that it would cost them 4k?

When they told us they were moving to OZ they said they got the storage estimated and it was going to be €2,000 a yr. I then said they could keep it in our spare room to save the money and keep it for their trip to oz.

Thanks for all the replies, it is good to see so many other points of view. In regards to selling it, it is pure junk. 14" large back tv, boxes VHS Disney videos, sentimental crap. They are pure hoarders. If any of it was useful we would be using it, but it has sat there. We would love the extra room. It is our only spare room, visitors have to sleep on the sofa bed in the dining room.

Hotale.com · 23-05-2014 11:39pm

PLL wrote: »

When they told us they were moving to OZ they said they got the storage estimated and it was going to be €2,000 a yr. I then said they could keep it in our spare room to save the money and keep it for their trip to oz.

Thanks for all the replies, it is good to see so many other points of view. In regards to selling it, it is pure junk. 14" large back tv, boxes VHS Disney videos, sentimental crap. They are pure hoarders. If any of it was useful we would be using it, but it has sat there. We would love the extra room. It is our only spare room, visitors have to sleep on the sofa bed in the dining room.

Keep the telly.

Sam Kade · 23-05-2014 11:42pm

PLL wrote: »

When they told us they were moving to OZ they said they got the storage estimated and it was going to be €2,000 a yr. I then said they could keep it in our spare room to save the money and keep it for their trip to oz.

Thanks for all the replies, it is good to see so many other points of view. In regards to selling it, it is pure junk. 14" large back tv, boxes VHS Disney videos, sentimental crap. They are pure hoarders. If any of it was useful we would be using it, but it has sat there. We would love the extra room. It is our only spare room, visitors have to sleep on the sofa bed in the dining room.

Take it to a car boot sale even if it didn't make much you will be rid of it.

pablo128 · 23-05-2014 11:42pm

Fook it out and text them saying some 'roving copper gathering gentlemen of the road' broke into your house, and cleaned out the lot of it.

Sure what can you do. It's gone.:pac:

Mrs Garth Brooks · 23-05-2014 11:43pm

PLL wrote: »

When they told us they were moving to OZ they said they got the storage estimated and it was going to be €2,000 a yr. I then said they could keep it in our spare room to save the money and keep it for their trip to oz.

Thanks for all the replies, it is good to see so many other points of view. In regards to selling it, it is pure junk. 14" large back tv, boxes VHS Disney videos, sentimental crap. They are pure hoarders. If any of it was useful we would be using it, but it has sat there. We would love the extra room. It is our only spare room, visitors have to sleep on the sofa bed in the dining room.

Rule number 1: You don't help family when it comes to money.

NZ_2014 · 23-05-2014 11:44pm

PLL wrote: »

When they told us they were moving to OZ they said they got the storage estimated and it was going to be €2,000 a yr. I then said they could keep it in our spare room to save the money and keep it for their trip to oz.

Thanks for all the replies, it is good to see so many other points of view. In regards to selling it, it is pure junk. 14" large back tv, boxes VHS Disney videos, sentimental crap. They are pure hoarders. If any of it was useful we would be using it, but it has sat there. We would love the extra room. It is our only spare room, visitors have to sleep on the sofa bed in the dining room.

Shocking.. How much could you let /sublet the room for? €350 a month × 24 months

Send them a bill for €8400

Hotale.com · 23-05-2014 11:45pm

NZ_2014 wrote: »

Shocking.. How much could you let /sublet the room for? €350 a month × 24 months

Send them a bill for €8400

I think you were born to be an American lawyer.

corner of hells · 23-05-2014 11:46pm

PLL wrote: »

When they told us they were moving to OZ they said they got the storage estimated and it was going to be €2,000 a yr. I then said they could keep it in our spare room to save the money and keep it for their trip to oz.

Thanks for all the replies, it is good to see so many other points of view. In regards to selling it, it is pure junk. 14" large back tv, boxes VHS Disney videos, sentimental crap. They are pure hoarders. If any of it was useful we would be using it, but it has sat there. We would love the extra room. It is our only spare room, visitors have to sleep on the sofa bed in the dining room.

Bagsy the Disney videos , any fishing gear there or a bumper for a Micra ?

Mrs Garth Brooks · 23-05-2014 11:48pm

NZ_2014 wrote: »

Shocking.. How much could you let /sublet the room for? €350 a month × 24 months

Send them a bill for €8400

+ €4000 storage

= €12,400

and off down under yourself OP

Riesen_Meal · 23-05-2014 11:48pm

corner of hells wrote: »

Bagsy the Disney videos , any fishing gear there or a bumper for a Micra ?

This ain't adverts mofo....

Sam Kade · 23-05-2014 11:48pm

HardLuckWoman wrote: »

Rule number 1: You don't help family it comes to money.

By fcuk that's the truest word you ever said

also don't ever work for family, same result

GonnaFreak1994 · 23-05-2014 11:48pm

gg2 wrote: »

Why do they ignore you though?

Don't know, get on really well with my aunts and uncles and best friends with my two of my cousins. Last time I got an Xmas present off an aunt/uncle was when I was 3 which was about 15 years ago.

But my granny gets me a present, last year I got €10 jumper that was on sale (had the label on) and my 3 sisters got designer make up =/.

To be honest I don't mind as they have got families of their own, but if your going to get my sisters presents and not me then you shouldn't give any at all (being the jealous twat I am) and I suppose I see them far more. My sisters live in Dublin and rarely see them whereas I often visit them and vice-versa.

GonnaFreak1994 · 23-05-2014 11:51pm

Sam Kade wrote: »

By fcuk that's the truest word you ever said also don't ever work for family, same result

Damn RIGHT, slave labour working for my dad. On the holidays I have to work a lot on the farm, even the day before the my JC he had me working (to be fair he did say ''You aren't studying anyway'' which was true).

Gongoozler · 23-05-2014 11:52pm

Someone will want their crap, even if they don't pay much for it, if anything at all, at least you'll have it gone. Or as someone said car boot styley. You could let them know, but maybe don't bother as it'll be easier to forget about them and the whole fiasco if you can just let it go when the stuff is gone.

Saved family €4,000, shockingly ungrateful

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