Online dating sites...

Artful_Badger · 31-12-2013 02:06AM

looking_around wrote: »

eeesh

I never thought it was a "match-making" service!! I met my current partner online. I'm not looking for another :rolleyes:

Never again eh ? I hear ya, sometimes you end up worse off than when ya started.

Call Me Jimmy · 31-12-2013 02:09AM

ElecKtrA wrote: »

I think when we were all younger we wanted only to go out with hot looking people...but screw that now!!! It's our flaws that make us individual and perhaps attractive to others!

That is such a beautiful sentiment! I am deeply moved (as I am on occasion because I am capable of being a Sensitive Man (TM)). <--- nested brackets :cool:

beks101 · 31-12-2013 02:14AM

You sound like a lovely girl OP, sure give it a bash, you'll probably clean up

Personally physical attraction isn't something that can be gauged in an online sense, I'll know within ten seconds whether or not I'm attracted to someone when I meet them in the flesh....not so easy when you're chatting online and only have a few one-dimensional photos to work off.

So I'd say don't spend all night and all day chatting to anyone, organize a date asap. And if you're looking for something a bit more substantial than sexy times, don't jump into bed with anyone right away.

Good luck, have fun!

J_E · 31-12-2013 02:15AM

Starscream25 wrote: »

I've given up on online dating, I'm an average looking guy, have had girlfriends before but online dating has left me somewhat demoralised, sent out many a friendly hello messages with a paragraph or 2, but I was rarely if ever replied to, but for women who knows it might be better.

Yeah, I've found online dating incredibly shallow and meaningless in a sense. Much more success just going out there into the real world!

ElecKtrA · 31-12-2013 02:15AM

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

That is such a beautiful sentiment! I am deeply moved (as I am on occasion because I am capable of being a Sensitive Man (TM)). <--- nested brackets :cool:

Thank you lol

And fair play to you for expressing your feelings so publicly...that takes extreme courage, I applaud you lol

thegreatgonzo · 31-12-2013 02:17AM

ElecKtrA wrote: »

Hi guys,

Ok so I'm just wondering if there is any point in joining up to one of these?

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You should try it if you are curious but don't expect too much or you might be disappointed. It does work for some people.
I tried it briefly a couple of years ago after I stopped seeing someone...it was an impulse decision made on the journey back from Cork after finishing with him and I signed up and PAID to the most dismal dating site of them all, parship. Why I picked a site that sounded like a vegetable I don't know but everyone on it pretty much seemed to have given up on life and I don't recommend it. My location wouldn't be great though, you might have better luck if you are near a city.

Applause · 31-12-2013 02:17AM

I think it's a shame that people limit themselves to dating sites, you can find love anywhere online these days. I would advise you to join all of the free dating websites, but don't limit yourself, if you visit other forums, or if you post around here frequently and get talking to someone then go for it.

I met my boyfriend in an online game surprisingly enough, we've been dating for two and a half years now. It makes me believe that there's a chance for everyone in the place that they will least expect it.

Mully_2011 · 31-12-2013 02:19AM

If your as good looking and sound as you claim you are your not going to need online dating.

ElecKtrA · 31-12-2013 02:21AM

beks101 wrote: »

You sound like a lovely girl OP, sure give it a bash, you'll probably clean up

Personally physical attraction isn't something that can be gauged in an online sense, I'll know within ten seconds whether or not I'm attracted to someone when I meet them in the flesh....not so easy when you're chatting online and only have a few one-dimensional photos to work off.

So I'd say don't spend all night and all day chatting to anyone, organize a date asap. And if you're looking for something a bit more substantial than sexy times, don't jump into bed with anyone right away.

Good luck, have fun!

Awe, cheers beks!

I shall take your advice on board..if I dare to venture into the world of cyber dating...but I definitely won't be interested in guys who are looking for ONS's....ugh!!!

F1ngers · 31-12-2013 02:22AM

ElecKtrA wrote: »

Hi guys,

Carmen?

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Call Me Jimmy · 31-12-2013 02:23AM

Oh. My. God.

I HATE one night stands. this is crazy! wow.

PS: Hows the inbox looking? Name n' shame the rascals!

looking_around · 31-12-2013 02:31AM

Artful_Badger wrote: »

Never again eh ? I hear ya, sometimes you end up worse off than when ya started.

What

ElecKtrA · 31-12-2013 02:31AM

Mully_2011 wrote: »

If your as good looking and sound as you claim you are your not going to need online dating.

Ok, well I'm not shallow and beauty is only skin deep...but I've been told I'm attractive (but that term is thrown around so loosely these days!)...to me I just look like a normal gal...I dont believe there is anything special about me!

I'm tired of hearing cheesy one liners and how guys comment on how you look...I'm not interested in compliments of the superficial kind!!! I'm more interested in getting to know someone properly and have a CONNECTION with...it's really that simple!

Artful_Badger · 31-12-2013 02:31AM

looking_around wrote: »

What

Le Joke.

ElecKtrA · 31-12-2013 02:37AM

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

Oh. My. God.

I HATE one night stands. this is crazy! wow.

PS: Hows the inbox looking? Name n' shame the rascalBt/QUOTE]

I don't see the point in one nighters...it's not my scene! Everyone has their own standards I guess so I shall not frown upon those that do!

Btw...it would be unfair for me to give any details away on my inbox status :-P

looking_around · 31-12-2013 02:38AM

Artful_Badger wrote: »

Le Joke.

but it doesn't make sense...

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ElecKtrA wrote: »

I don't see the point in one nighters...it's not my scene! Everyone has their own standards I guess so I shall not frown upon those that do!

Btw...it would be unfair for me to give any details away on my inbox status :-P

Empty then? :pac:

Artful_Badger · 31-12-2013 02:44AM

looking_around wrote: »

but it doesn't make sense...
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Its reads a little bit like you met the old ball and chain online, why on earth would you want more hassle.

Granted it wasnt my finest hour

Call Me Jimmy · 31-12-2013 02:45AM

Artful_Badger wrote: »

Le Joke.

He's looking_around... he missed it! ARRRGGHHH I think im actually going insane tonight...

Pen.Island · 31-12-2013 02:54AM

I'm a 22 year old fella and I'm on a dating site.

I browse it the same that I would any other site. I have been chatting with some lovely women. Haven't met with any of them yet but I have met people from online in the past and it went very well.

It's a good way of getting to meet new people. Can see their interests and quick enough after messaging you know if you click and like to meet. Not looking for a wife either myself.

tim3000 · 31-12-2013 02:56AM

ElecKtrA wrote: »

Awe, cheers beks!

I shall take your advice on board..if I dare to venture into the world of cyber dating...but I definitely won't be interested in guys who are looking for ONS's....ugh!!!

I have been on a few of them in my time. If I could recommend one it would be Okcupid. This was the best run and most interesting one. I have heard Tagged and Badoo are all right but are more geared toward quick hook ups rather than dating and relationships especially the latter.

Try Match.com and POF while you are at it. The wider you cast your net the better.

I didnt have much luck with them partly because the women on them want men and I am a mere man child :P

Trebor176 · 31-12-2013 03:01AM

I was sceptical about the whole online dating thing for a long time, but I took the bull by the horns and signed up to Plenty Of Fish several months ago. Apart from chatting with a couple of girls (nothing went past that stage), I haven't had much luck.

These sites can work for some, but not for many. I prefer to read a profile that has some detail in it, and where some mutual interests may be listed. If I like the look of someone, I'll read her profile. If I like it, I'll message it. So far, there's been nothing in the way of replies, but they view my profile, as do others. So, perhaps there is something wrong somewhere.

Anyway, I do think the sites are worth a shot, even if it's just out of curiosity. A couple of friends have met others through the sites, and have gone on dates. I am not willing to pay a fee to message someone or whatever, and I don't want to pay to upgrade either.

awec · 31-12-2013 03:05AM

I reckon those sites are a nightmare if you're a woman. It must be like a 10 to 1 ratio of men to women.

Just don't come across as a total reprobate on your profile and you'll get dates.

thegreatgonzo · 31-12-2013 03:07AM

Trebor176 wrote: »

I was sceptical about the whole online dating thing for a long time, but I took the bull by the horns and signed up to Plenty Of Fish several months ago. Apart from chatting with a couple of girls (nothing went past that stage), I haven't had much luck.

Yeah I'm not sure about POF. 2 of my housemates have been on it since September and a lot of the guys just seem to want to send messages to them indefinitely and never meet up.

Blue Crystal · 31-12-2013 03:09AM

ElecKtrA wrote: »

Hi guys,

Ok so I'm just wondering if there is any point in joining up to one of these?

My story:

Long time single girl in my twenties, very independent, outgoing, attractive (apparently), intelligent, wide range of interests and a good circle of friends.

As a new year approaches I am looking at making some resolutions that I can keep!
I'm getting alittle tired and bored of the same auld ding dong of going out Fri/Sat night's and getting chatting to guys that are half wasted and not being able to hold a conversation together but insists on getting your number!! Im not looking at finding a boyfriend/soulmate as such as I am definitely very content with my life at present. But I wouldn't mind going on a few dates just to appear somewhat normal....I suppose there isn't anything wrong with putting yourself out there...and i really need to get out of my comfort zone!

I've heard mixed reviews on cyber dating....and I am really sceptical about it all.....
What do ye guys think? Would I be better off just avoiding such sites?

PM Sent

Pen.Island · 31-12-2013 03:10AM

Blue Crystal wrote: »

PM Sent

I don't think you need to tell her you sent a PM, I think she'll see it!

thegreatgonzo · 31-12-2013 03:10AM

awec wrote: »

I reckon those sites are a nightmare if you're a woman. It must be like a 10 to 1 ratio of men to women.

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Parsnip sure as hell wasn't.

Call Me Jimmy · 31-12-2013 03:14AM

awec wrote: »

I reckon those sites are a nightmare if you're a woman. It must be like a 10 to 1 ratio of men to women.

Just don't come across as a total reprobate on your profile and you'll get dates.

Love that word.

Care to look over my draft profile? awec you seem in tune with things.

Profile wrote:

Hi, my name is Josh and I am a guy. I like just being me and not not being me. hah I'm comfortable in my own skin and just all round really good craic. I like craic ye know, who doesn't hah? I'm completely non-threatening but in a 'I COULD be threatening if I HAD TO BE' kind of way (ie to protect you if we were on a date and hyenas (literal or otherwise)) <--- nested brackets :cool: required being told to go away (or in the case of literal hyenas, I would kick lumps out of them, but with a heavy heart because I am of course AN ANIMAL LOVER) hah not in a sexual way, just really really like them.

Anyway, all shapes and sizes that fit inside a relatively slim and tall hourglass are welcome!

Big Smile

Josh (a guy)

Trebor176 · 31-12-2013 03:15AM

thegreatgonzo wrote: »

Yeah I'm not sure about POF. 2 of my housemates have been on it since September and a lot of the guys just seem to want to send messages to them indefinitely and never meet up.

In my case, the first girl seemed genuine enough, but she deleted her profile soon after, which was a shame. The other seemed ok in the beginning, not the most chatty (she did reply to my original message), but after a while, she seemed to be quite bitchy. That was that.

Without trying to sound cocky, I am a genuine guy, I don't BS anyone, but I realise that online, it can be hard to determine if someone is genuine or just extracting the urine.

grenache · 31-12-2013 03:26AM

Starscream25 wrote: »

I've given up on online dating, I'm an average looking guy, have had girlfriends before but online dating has left me somewhat demoralised, sent out many a friendly hello messages with a paragraph or 2, but I was rarely if ever replied to, but for women who knows it might be better.

^^^^^^ This

The three sites I've been on:
Plenty Of Fish - the Budweiser of dating sites, absolutely useless and full of silly immature people doing those fish-lips poses while thinking they're shexy. The amount of skangers on that site has to be seen to be believed. Most of the members are on the site only to pass the time, very few are interested in meeting up for a date. POF is free for a reason. Avoid!

Another Friend - was on this yonks back, it's a lot better than POF, but it's still hit and miss. Plenty of time wasters on it too but I still got a few dates out of it. It's based in Limerick if I remember correctly.

Mate1 - The best site by far, but it costs - €33 a month so it ain't cheap. But at least members there are willing to chat to you and also go on dates. The fee sorts the time wasters from the serious date seeking folk. Got lots of dates out of this. Recommended!

Edit: I might add that I joined OK Cupid last week, not many people on there but it's going ok so far.

thegreatgonzo · 31-12-2013 03:27AM

Trebor176 wrote: »

In my case, the first girl seemed genuine enough, but she deleted her profile soon after, which was a shame. The other seemed ok in the beginning, not the most chatty (she did reply to my original message), but after a while, she seemed to be quite bitchy. That was that.

Without trying to sound cocky, I am a genuine guy, I don't BS anyone, but I realise that online, it can be hard to determine if someone is genuine or just extracting the urine.

Yeah well I only tried it for about 2 months in all. I just didn't enjoy the preliminary messages about what you do etc etc, I'd rather go and meet a complete stranger and see how it turned out. I preferred the time I went speed dating, that was a bit of craic.

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