Online dating sites...

ElecKtrA · 31-12-2013 12:08AM #1

Hi guys,

Ok so I'm just wondering if there is any point in joining up to one of these?

My story:

Long time single girl in my twenties, very independent, outgoing, attractive (apparently), intelligent, wide range of interests and a good circle of friends.

As a new year approaches I am looking at making some resolutions that I can keep!
I'm getting alittle tired and bored of the same auld ding dong of going out Fri/Sat night's and getting chatting to guys that are half wasted and not being able to hold a conversation together but insists on getting your number!! Im not looking at finding a boyfriend/soulmate as such as I am definitely very content with my life at present. But I wouldn't mind going on a few dates just to appear somewhat normal....I suppose there isn't anything wrong with putting yourself out there...and i really need to get out of my comfort zone!

I've heard mixed reviews on cyber dating....and I am really sceptical about it all.....
What do ye guys think? Would I be better off just avoiding such sites?

Frosty McSnowballs · 31-12-2013 12:09AM

You are on one!

This place rocks for getting yer hole!

The Backwards Man · 31-12-2013 12:11AM

You had me at female.

Dublinstiofán · 31-12-2013 12:13AM

Just pm the last 10 visitors of your boards profile. Problem solved!

Chucken · 31-12-2013 12:16AM

Bob has got in there 1st lads.

Starscream25 · 31-12-2013 12:17AM

I've given up on online dating, I'm an average looking guy, have had girlfriends before but online dating has left me somewhat demoralised, sent out many a friendly hello messages with a paragraph or 2, but I was rarely if ever replied to, but for women who knows it might be better.

wazky · 31-12-2013 12:18AM

Send me a picture, Im the head of a top matchmaking agency, Ill sort out you with a fella.

caustic 1 · 31-12-2013 12:20AM

Who do you want to appear normal too?

Don't sound content, if you were you wouldn't give a flying fluck and just let it happen if meant to be.

looking_around · 31-12-2013 12:21AM

It's up to you.

If you're dating to "appear normal", I wouldn't bother, as you're not really doing it for yourself then.

People get out of it what they put in. As in any relationship/meeting people of similar interests, don't lie. The "personalty" dating profiles seem to 'work' best.

I myself prefer meeting people on forum meets, like boards beers or munches, depending on your interests.
This way you're not going just to meet someone, but for fun, with the potential of meeting someone.
Could also join clubs you're interested in.

Oh, you might have better luck in personal issues or something than After hours for answers.

I met my partner online and my best friends, but then I'm not a fan of going out, so it's my main way of socialising

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IvaBigWun · 31-12-2013 12:24AM

Prepare for yore box to be full soon OP.

Oh and pics or GTFO.

wazky · 31-12-2013 12:25AM

IvaBigWun wrote: »

Prepare for yore box to be full soon

Meauldsegosha · 31-12-2013 12:28AM

OP there is an on-line dating forum. It's a private forum. I can't link to it on my phone, maybe one of the AH mods can.

looking_around · 31-12-2013 12:31AM

Meauldsegosha wrote: »

OP there is an on-line dating forum. It's a private forum. I can't link to it on my phone, maybe one of the AH mods can.

There's an "online dating section" here? :O

Why is it private?

caustic 1 · 31-12-2013 12:31AM

:eek: There is?

syklops · 31-12-2013 12:31AM

ElecKtrA wrote: »

Hi guys,

Ok so I'm just wondering if there is any point in joining up to one of these?

My story:

Long time single girl in my twenties, very independent, outgoing, attractive (apparently), intelligent, wide range of interests and a good circle of friends.

As a new year approaches I am looking at making some resolutions that I can keep!
I'm getting alittle tired and bored of the same auld ding dong of going out Fri/Sat night's and getting chatting to guys that are half wasted and not being able to hold a conversation together but insists on getting your number!! Im not looking at finding a boyfriend/soulmate as such as I am definitely very content with my life at present. But I wouldn't mind going on a few dates just to appear somewhat normal....I suppose there isn't anything wrong with putting yourself out there...and i really need to get out of my comfort zone!

I've heard mixed reviews on cyber dating....and I am really sceptical about it all.....
What do ye guys think? Would I be better off just avoiding such sites?

To quote the spice girls, tell me what you want, what you really really want. Going on dates to appear normal? Thats not normal. You go on dates with people you fancy or want to spend time with. Don't date people you have no interest in, for the sake of other people.

If people are asking you have you "dated" anyone nice recently, tell them you have one that very night. That you like them and want to spend time with them. And then go home with a box of chocolates or your favourite comfort food and enjoy your own company. When asked, say you had a good time, and who knows?

In the meantime, decide what you want and approach that.

The Th!ng · 31-12-2013 12:34AM

With which of us would you like to mate with first?

The_Morrigan · 31-12-2013 12:36AM

looking_around wrote: »

There's an "online dating section" here? :O

Why is it private?

It's a forum to discuss online dating experiences, it's not a match making service or pick up joint!

caustic 1 · 31-12-2013 12:42AM

Ahhhhhh splains it.

rawn · 31-12-2013 12:51AM

It's all about finding the right site. I'd avoid free ones. My dad is a great man, but extremely shy. My mam was the only woman he'd been with (25 years) and they split up 4 years ago, he started getting really lonely and was depressed that he'd never have the confidence to meet anyone. I suggested online dating, even just to chat to people and build up confidence before chatting up a woman in the pub or whatever. Anyways, it worked wonders and he actually did meet a lovely woman online and they're together nearly a year now. He met a few lovely women before her too, no horror stories or crazy people! But some of the sites he was on he could tell he wasn't gonna meet anyone on it that were looking for something solid. It took a few sites (and subscription fees) before he found the right site for him. I'd recommend giving it a try anyways, just be careful! Best of luck

Meauldsegosha · 31-12-2013 12:51AM

looking_around wrote: »

There's an "online dating section" here? :O

Why is it private?

It's not a place to pick up dates. It's for people to discuss their experience of on-line dating. It's strictly moderated.

PTH2009 · 31-12-2013 01:08AM

my first new years eve single in 2 years wish i wasnt single but sure drink will be my other half tomorrow. What are the best online sites i plan on using these next year

The_Morrigan · 31-12-2013 01:21AM

PTH2009 wrote: »

my first new years eve single in 2 years wish i wasnt single but sure drink will be my other half tomorrow. What are the best online sites i plan on using these next year

I don't think there are 'best' sites as there are numerous factors to consider, like demographics, location, and of course the preferred outcome from the whole experience.

The most popular are OK Cupid and Plenty of Fish, younger people seem to head to Tinder, you have connecting singles, another friend, eharmony and match.

Plazaman · 31-12-2013 01:24AM

I have frontage if that's any benefit?

Super-Rush · 31-12-2013 01:30AM

Plazaman wrote: »

I have frontage if that's any benefit?

D cup?

RidleyRider · 31-12-2013 01:34AM

Plazaman wrote: »

I have frontage if that's any benefit?

Road frontage always impresses women.

Artful_Badger · 31-12-2013 01:40AM

Might give this a try myself, not sure my profile would attract many women but then again I could strike gold.

Long time single in my thirties, very dependent, not very outgoing, dont drive, not entirely unattractive, moderately intelligent, very few interests and no friends. Looking for attractive but desperate and financially secure mother figure to hold my hand through life.

ElecKtrA · 31-12-2013 01:45AM

wazky wrote: »

Send me a picture, Im the head of a top matchmaking agency, Ill sort out you u a fella.

No.......perhaps a spark in personality between two people should override physical appearance! it used to be the case with me that I would only be interested in very attractive guys but I'm not that shallow anymore....nobodys perfect!

Ficheall · 31-12-2013 01:52AM

ElecKtrA wrote: »

No.......perhaps a spark in personality between two people should override physical appearance! it used to be the case with me that I would only be interested in very attractive guys but I'm not that shallow anymore....nobodys perfect!

Been forced to lower your standards, eh? Well, I'm single... I suppose the question is - how low can you go?

ElecKtrA · 31-12-2013 01:53AM

syklops wrote: »

To quote the spice girls, tell me what you want, what you really really want. Going on dates to appear normal? Thats not normal. You go on dates with people you fancy or want to spend time with. Don't date people you have no interest in, for the sake of other people.

If people are I asking you have you "dated" anyone nice recently, tell them you have one that very night. That you like them and want to spend time with them. And then go home with a box of chocolates or your favourite comfort food and enjoy your own company. When asked, say you had a good time, and who knows?

In the meantime, decide what you want and approach that.

Perhaps I should elaborate .... I didnt mean that I had to go on dates to appear normal....I meant that I should be dating as I am a genuinely nice girl and always up for a laugh and I'm young...so it's kind of abnormal in a sense that I am not entirely putting myself out there in the dating world...how do i know if I fancy someone if I dont date them?!

ElecKtrA · 31-12-2013 01:56AM

Fichel228730 wrote:

Been forced to lower your standards, eh? Well, I'm single... I suppose the question is - how low can you go?

Nope....not lowering my standards at all!!! Just being realistic!
I think when we were all younger we wanted only to go out with hot looking people...but screw that now!!! It's our flaws that make us individual and perhaps attractive to others!

looking_around · 31-12-2013 02:01AM

The_Morrigan wrote: »

It's a forum to discuss online dating experiences, it's not a match making service or pick up joint!

eeesh

I never thought it was a "match-making" service!! I met my current partner online. I'm not looking for another :rolleyes:

Meauldsegosha wrote: »

It's not a place to pick up dates. It's for people to discuss their experience of on-line dating. It's strictly moderated.

Gosh, sorry, didn't realise my post could be taken this way.
I'm not looking to pick up dates at all.

Surprised such a forum existed, I think it's great to discuss experiences, the pro's and cons of it.

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