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Getting asked to buy her a drink... Am I missing something?

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  • #32
    joeguevara
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,263 ✭✭✭joeguevara


    Point just below your belt and tell her she can drink straight from the tap.


  • #33
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    I'd simply ask the girl what would I get in return. I remember a few years ago, some random girl asked me for money so she could buy her own. Madness. Shur a lot of these clubs nowadays offer free drinks for women anyway.


  • #34
    pa4
    Closed Accounts Posts: 617 ✭✭✭pa4


    Buy her a sparkling water.. wonder what her reaction would be then!


  • #35
    dorkacle
    Closed Accounts Posts: 346 ✭✭dorkacle


    Dean0088 wrote: »
    I'm normally so taken aback by it I don't have a chance to come up with a quck retort :o I'll remember that one though.

    I kind of see their strategy - and judging by the amount of times I've been asked , it must work to some extent.

    My mind boggles at it though. I can't put myself in a mindset where I'd just ramble up to a total stranger and outright ask for them to buy me a drink.

    Its happened to me a couple of times and I have reacted exactly the same as you :rolleyes:

    Gonna have to remember that come back too!:pac:

    Women tho... eh!?


  • #36
    Elmer Blooker
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,304 ✭✭✭Elmer Blooker


    Gran Hermano wrote: »
    Yep, you have to watch yourself around those harlots.
    Anyone who's spent time on the pub/club scene will know they are responsible for causing a large percentage of the fights that breakout. Misleading guys into thinking they are in with a chance and sparking rivalry between different guys who've been buying them drinks all night.
    the irony of it all, it's the guy who would tell her to go and p**s off who would be the one in with a chance.


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  • #37
    C.K Dexter Haven
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,711 ✭✭✭C.K Dexter Haven


    Never understood women who did this. Knew one once who used to brag about the amount of drink she got men to buy her. I thought it was some sort of insecurity thing she had. I certainly wouldn't entertain it.


  • #38
    johndaman66
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,102 ✭✭✭johndaman66


    Daveysil15 wrote: »
    Shur a lot of these clubs nowadays offer free drinks for women anyway.

    Eh? Do they? Name a few please


  • #39
    beks101
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,802 ✭✭✭beks101


    What? Is this a common thing for men to hear on a night out?

    It's a pretty scummy thing to do IMO, I can't think of any female friend of mine who would have the neck to do it. I struggle enough as it is to let a guy buy me a drink when we're dating, let alone a complete randomer.


  • #40
    catallus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,106 ✭✭✭catallus


    It's young women moving in packs and daring each other to try out some randomer. All in good fun. Don't see why people are getting offended by it. It isn't all that common as far as I can see.


  • #41
    padma
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,874 ✭✭✭padma


    just as bad as,.... any spare change bud....


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  • #42
    KonFusion
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,559 ✭✭✭KonFusion


    I remember being in The Academy one night. I can't remember what club night they had on but it was notorious for being risqué, for lack of a better word (it was the club night that was in the papers over the indecent facebook pics).

    Anyway, I recall on one of the nights I saw a lad walk up to a girl, started chatting her up and then leaned in for a kiss.

    The girl pushed him away, refused, and asked him for a drink. So he took out some money and got her a drink.

    Chatted some more. He leaned in for a kiss again, and again she refused. So he took a handful of money out of his pocket, which looked like a handful of change, and gave it to her. She counted it, put it away, and began wearing the face off him...

    The mind boggles.


  • #43
    ElWalrus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 173 ✭✭ElWalrus


    Just tell her to order what ever she wants from the bar, giving the impression that you'll cover it (take out your wallet or something), then after she's ordered and the barkeep returns with the drink, just walk away! :pac:


  • #44
    April O Neill
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,305 ✭✭✭April O Neill


    Dean0088 wrote: »
    Am I right in assuming this is some kind of ploy to get free drinks?

    I think, I *think* you might be on to something there.


    :pac::p


  • #45
    April O Neill
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,305 ✭✭✭April O Neill


    Sauve wrote: »
    One good thing about it is you instantly know that's not the kind of girl you'd be interested in chatting to :p

    Exactly, see it as a gobshíte filter, OP. :D


  • #46
    April O Neill
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,305 ✭✭✭April O Neill


    LOTD wrote: »
    True. Tbh totally taken a back that somebody can go up to somebody and bluntly ask them to buy them a drink. I think it's low and rude to expect somebody just to outright pay for you.

    It's kinda saying "I'm so hot that even getting to buy me a drink is a privilege".


  • #47
    April O Neill
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,305 ✭✭✭April O Neill


    bubblypop wrote: »
    i just cant believe you've never heard this before!!
    im in my late 30's and a friend of mine has been at this since we were 15!!!

    It's not going to work for her for too much longer! :eek:


  • #48
    endacl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,435 ✭✭✭✭endacl


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    Jesus :eek:

    That's mental. I wouldn't have the cheek nor the balls!

    If you had balls, you'd be the target of the scam. Not the scammer...

    :D


  • #49
    Sleepy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 24,602 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    As a single man I always gave the same answer to that (assuming I found the girl attractive): "nope, but I'll let you buy me one if you like?".

    90% of the time they'd try to persist and eventually get told to **** off or the smarter ones would recognise the refusal and just turn on their heel but there were a few who actually ended up buying me a pint.

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  • #50
    Festy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,425 ✭✭✭Festy


    ElWalrus wrote: »
    Just tell her to order what ever she wants from the bar, giving the impression that you'll cover it (take out your wallet or something), then after she's ordered and the barkeep returns with the drink, just walk away! :pac:

    Brilliant


  • #51
    cantdecide
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,363 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    A mate had this happen to him once as he was going to the bar and she asked for her particular cocktail. He arrived back with a couple of pints for the lads and she said something like 'is the Guinness for me' and he said 'oh no, this is mine- the bar's over there' (or something to that effect). He was lucky he didn't end up wearing the pint but she beat a red-faced retreat.

    I like to think that that was the last time she did this but I'd assume she just re-thunk her strategy...


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  • #52
    Sauve
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,646 ✭✭✭✭Sauve


    All that said, I was out one night with a friend, her boyfriend and a gang of his friends. So two girls and 5-6 lads.
    They wouldn't let us buy a round. She's well used to being out with them so didn't bat an eyelid, but I was very uncomfortable with it.
    None of them were trying to chat me up, it was simply 'the done thing' for them.
    Neither were they flashy/showy about it.
    I think maybe it's a throwback to days gone by when having a lady in your company for a night (regardless of intentions), she didn't take out her purse for any reason..


  • #53
    kitnan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 110 ✭✭kitnan


    You should have bought the drink but then asked for the money back. Worst case scenario you have your second round ready to go.


  • #54
    frag420
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,161 ✭✭✭frag420


    Was in Hogans/secret bar in Dublin about 18 months ago. Was well on it at this stage when at the bar I got aproached by some girl who started with the small talk and then asked me would I buy her a drink. Now I was too pissed to refuse and as she was hot I asked her what she wanted. She said she wanted a G&T and that she would be back in a minute as she had to run to the bathroom. So I waited at the bar........and waited. Then she came back and went up to the barman and ordered a G&T. I went over and was like here you go, I bought this for you. So we kept chatting and I was getting w eird vibe of her as if she had no idea who I was. So I ended up leaving with her and as I was walking down the stairs who did I meet..............the girl who asked me for a drink and went to the toilet!! I was like WTF..........tuerns out I was so drunk that I got them mixed up and thought the second girl was the first girl. Still got me hole though.........just about!!


  • #55
    wallycharlo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 344 ✭✭wallycharlo


    frag420 wrote: »
    Was in Hogans/secret bar in Dublin about 18 months ago. Was well on it at this stage when at the bar I got aproached by some girl who started with the small talk and then asked me would I buy her a drink. Now I was too pissed to refuse and as she was hot I asked her what she wanted. She said she wanted a G&T and that she would be back in a minute as she had to run to the bathroom. So I waited at the bar........and waited. Then she came back and went up to the barman and ordered a G&T. I went over and was like here you go, I bought this for you. So we kept chatting and I was getting w eird vibe of her as if she had no idea who I was. So I ended up leaving with her and as I was walking down the stairs who did I meet..............the girl who asked me for a drink and went to the toilet!! I was like WTF..........tuerns out I was so drunk that I got them mixed up and thought the second girl was the first girl. Still got me hole though.........just about!!

    FFS :)


  • #56
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    johndaman66 wrote: »
    Eh? Do they? Name a few please

    Mantra in Maynooth is one. The court in Naas is another. It's actually a common thing for clubs to do. Free drinks for the women means a lot of women will show up, which in turn means a lot of men will show up, and before you know it, the place is packed.


  • #57
    A Primal Nut
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭A Primal Nut


    Daveysil15 wrote: »
    Mantra in Maynooth is one. The court in Naas is another. It's actually a common thing for clubs to do. Free drinks for the women means a lot of women will show up, which in turn means a lot of men will show up, and before you know it, the place is packed.

    This is true. I've been to a few ladies nights, mostly abroad; where girls got free/cheaper drinks. There are always 70-80% men. Randy hoors. :D


  • #58
    padma
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,874 ✭✭✭padma


    A Primal Nut wrote: »
    This is true. I've been to a few ladies nights, mostly abroad; where girls got free/cheaper drinks. There are always 70-80% men. Randy hoors. :D

    A Mass boycott would sort them out pretty lively.


  • #59
    Pug160
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,088 ✭✭✭Pug160


    It's a little bit rude for someone to ask that. But you could decline in a lighthearted way or jokingly ask her to buy you one instead. Drink is expensive these days, so it's no surprise that this is happening.


  • #60
    arctan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 354 ✭✭arctan


    got called cheap when I said no before, so I said she buys drinks, I'll buy shots ... she wasn't game :-(

    I genuinely heard wedding bells, then the scribbling of a pen on divorce papers


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  • #61
    padma
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,874 ✭✭✭padma


    Next time it happens, just say in a loud voice. I thought begging was illegal in Ireland. And of course followed by a, I'm just joking but seriously **** off and bring money with you the next time you go out for a few drinks.


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