Getting asked to buy her a drink... Am I missing something?

Fukuyama

So, this has happened to me a few times and I'm starting to think I look like an easy mark to scam or whatever. Either that, or I'm missing something.

In nightclub at bar buying a round of drinks. Suddenly approached by nice girl, all smiles, eye lashes... etc.

Then SHE asks if I'm going to buy her a drink.

Then I say "Ha Ha....no" and normally turn back to my friends or maybe just stand there and let awkwardness hang in the sweaty, stale air.

Am I right in assuming this is some kind of ploy to get free drinks?

I've known none of these girls btw. Just a cold approach and a request for a drink.... :pac:

Not something I've over analysed before - but its happened a lot recently and I'm starting to think I'm missing some new kind of exploitative flirting trend. :pac: :eek:

Panthro

Dean0088 wrote: »

So, this has happened to me a few times and I'm starting to think I look like an easy mark to scam or whatever. Either that, or I'm missing something.

In nightclub at bar buying a round of drinks. Suddenly approached by nice girl, all smiles, eye lashes... etc.

Then SHE asks if I'm going to buy her a drink.

Then I say "Ha Ha....no" and normally turn back to my friends or maybe just stand there and let awkwardness hang in the sweaty, stale air.

Am I right in assuming this is some kind of ploy to get free drinks?

I've known none of these girls btw. Just a cold approach and a request for a drink.... :pac:

Not something I've over analysed before - but its happened a lot recently and I'm starting to think I'm missing some new kind of exploitative flirting trend. :pac: :eek:

At the risk of sounding like a pessimist, bingo to the bit I've bolded.
Fair focks for seeing though it.
Next time one of them says that respond with "Only if you buy me one first!" See what the reaction is, if she does, happy days, if she storms off in a huff..I'm afraid it wasn't meant to be (wonk wonk wonk!)

froggy1985

I was away myself last week on a stag in Kilkenny, outside a bar having a smoke and overheard some poor eejit who bought a girl a drink and watched her hand it to her bloke a few yards away

dee_mc

froggy1985 wrote: »

I was away myself last week on a stag in Kilkenny, outside a bar having a smoke and overheard some poor eejit who bought a girl a drink and watched her hand it to her bloke a few yards away

Ouch! Bruised pride anyone?

smcgiff

froggy1985 wrote: »

I was away myself last week on a stag in Kilkenny, outside a bar having a smoke and overheard some poor eejit who bought a girl a drink and watched her hand it to her bloke a few yards away

Ouch.

I understand the term is blagging.

Fukuyama

Panthro wrote: »

At the risk of sounding like a pessimist, bingo to the bit I've bolded.
Fair focks for seeing though it.
Next time one of them says that respond with "Only if you buy me one first!" See what the reaction is, if she does, happy days, if she storms off in a huff..I'm afraid it wasn't meant to be (wonk wonk wonk!)

I'm normally so taken aback by it I don't have a chance to come up with a quck retort I'll remember that one though.

I kind of see their strategy - and judging by the amount of times I've been asked , it must work to some extent.

My mind boggles at it though. I can't put myself in a mindset where I'd just ramble up to a total stranger and outright ask for them to buy me a drink.

GalwayGuy2

Next time one of them says that respond with "Only if you buy me one first!" See what the reaction is, if she does, happy days, if she storms off in a huff..I'm afraid it wasn't meant to be (wonk wonk wonk!)

I think it would be better to say something along the lines of 'Sure, we can buy each other one'.

Sauve

One good thing about it is you instantly know that's not the kind of girl you'd be interested in chatting to

Jesus :eek:

That's mental. I wouldn't have the cheek nor the balls!

Panthro

Sauve wrote: »

One good thing about it is you instantly know that's not the kind of girl you'd be interested in chatting to

Haha! Something along the lines of:

Girl: "Hi!"...
Guy: "Hello!"....(instantly thinking "hello... to the future Missus Howard Walowitz...")
Girl: "Wana buy me a drink?!"
Guy: (....or not....) nope, sorry!

LOTD

All she said was are you going to buy me a drink, that's all! I'd expect at least some chat up line or compliment (polite lie), sheer laziness IMO

hfallada

I know guys that go to gay bars to get guys to buy them drinks. Thats using someone

Sauve

LOTD wrote: »

All she said was are you going to buy me a drink, that's all! I'd expect at least some chat up line or compliment (polite lie), sheer laziness IMO

But a chat up line is "Can I buy you a drink?", not "Are you going to buy me a drink?" The girl had it backwards!

LOTD

Sauve wrote: »

But a chat up line is "Can I buy you a drink?", not "Are you going to buy me a drink?" The girl had it backwards!

True. Tbh totally taken a back that somebody can go up to somebody and bluntly ask them to buy them a drink. I think it's low and rude to expect somebody just to outright pay for you.

Sauve

LOTD wrote: »

True. Tbh totally taken a back that somebody can go up to somebody and bluntly ask them to buy them a drink. I think it's low.

Uh huh.
OP you should answer next time with a "oh have you lost your purse, what happened? Can I help you look for it?"

Dean0088

Dean0088 wrote: »

So, this has happened to me a few times and I'm starting to think I look like an easy mark to scam or whatever. Either that, or I'm missing something.

In nightclub at bar buying a round of drinks. Suddenly approached by nice girl, all smiles, eye lashes... etc.

Then SHE asks if I'm going to buy her a drink.

Then I say "Ha Ha....no" and normally turn back to my friends or maybe just stand there and let awkwardness hang in the sweaty, stale air.

Am I right in assuming this is some kind of ploy to get free drinks?

I've known none of these girls btw. Just a cold approach and a request for a drink.... :pac:

Not something I've over analysed before - but its happened a lot recently and I'm starting to think I'm missing some new kind of exploitative flirting trend. :pac: :eek:

i just cant believe you've never heard this before!!
im in my late 30's and a friend of mine has been at this since we were 15!!!

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

i can never get upset about this, if I was an attractive young woman I'd get all the free drinks I could from gullible morons.

smcgiff

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar wrote: »

i can never get upset about this, if I was an attractive young woman I'd get all the free drinks I could from gullible morons.

To be fair why else would god have invented low cut tops.

Galwayguy35

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar wrote: »

i can never get upset about this, if I was an attractive young woman I'd get all the free drinks I could from gullible morons.

Have to agree to a certain extent, it's very silly to buy a complete stranger a drink just cos they ask for one.

But at the same time it's meaness for women to expect men to buy booze for them and to use their looks to try and get lads to do this and give him the impression that she is interested in him.

wexie

smcgiff wrote: »

To be fair why else would god have invented low cut tops.

grapes

's all I'm saying

Fukuyama

bubblypop wrote: »

i just cant believe you've never heard this before!!
im in my late 30's and a friend of mine has been at this since we were 15!!!

I've heard of it before (and have had it happen to me a few times over the past few years) but its normally been accompanied by some kind of chatting... a bit of effort put in.

But recently I've had a few outright, blunt requests. As in the first thing they say is
"Hey! Wanna buy me a drink!"
and I'm like "Tha fuk? Do I know you".
"No! G'wan! Buy me a drink!"
"Ehhh..." *spidey senses tingling* "Nooo"

Gran Hermano

"I'd rather just give you cash. What do you normally charge for an hour?".

Banjo

And the thing is, if you walked up to her and asked for a hand shandy, you'd be the villain!

Lucena

Banjo wrote: »

And the thing is, if you walked up to her and asked for a hand shandy, you'd be the villain!

It's political correctness gone mad, Joe!

Lucena

This happened my brother one time. A girl comes over to him with her drink nearly finished, small talks to him for about 30 seconds (that Madonna song is great, isn't it?), finishes the drink and asks him if he'd like to buy her a drink. He was taken aback, but managed to mumble out a refusal and yer wan wanders off.

When he told me about it later, he was kicking himself, as he'd missed the chance to put her in her place as follows:

Him: Would you like a drink.
Her: Ooh, I'd love a *name of drink*
Him: Bar's over there.

Lemming

Gran Hermano wrote: »

"I'd rather just give you cash. What do you normally charge for an hour?".

Oh to be a fly on the wall when that line gets used in response :pac:

Gran Hermano

Lemming wrote: »

Oh to be a fly on the wall when that line gets used in response :pac:

Yep, you have to watch yourself around those harlots.
Anyone who's spent time on the pub/club scene will know they are responsible for causing a large percentage of the fights that breakout. Misleading guys into thinking they are in with a chance and sparking rivalry between different guys who've been buying them drinks all night.

You can also try "is that your sister/friend over there? I'll buy her a drink, she's prettier than you".

To these girls its just a numbers game where they know some guys will cave in and buy a drink. They don't care if they get 50 negative replies as long as they get 5-10 positive.
May as well give a retort that hits a nerve.

Lucena

It's fairly scummy behaviour though.

I was out with a few people one time, there was this one guy in the group who was a bit of a tool (not quite harmless, but not far off). Some girls obviously spotted this and spent most of the night milking him for drink. I didn't know the guy well enough to say anything, but one of his friends eventually got sick of seeing the girls ripping him off and told them to leave him alone.

So basically not only was the poor sap getting his wallet emptied, but he also got his hopes up for nothing.:mad:

That is so unreal

Snako

just go sure girl you look thirsty, and order them a big old pint of water. (warning this approach could result in being covered in water!)

I got stung really bad recently, girl I knew very distantly was like do you fancy a drink, and obviously I accepted, so she brought me over to the bar, ordered two drinks, and then told the bar man I was paying.

I coughed up cause I thought the cheek of it was funny, and we did have a cheeky snog and a dance after so I was happy.

knotknowbody

I overheard this happen a guy years ago, he was in the group standing beside mine, didn't know him at all just happened to be standing near him in the pub, this girl comes up to him and asks for a drink, she was a bit over weight not huge but a little bit over weight, his retort was to point at her stomach and ask her should she be drinking in her condition.

joeguevara

Point just below your belt and tell her she can drink straight from the tap.

Daveysil15

I'd simply ask the girl what would I get in return. I remember a few years ago, some random girl asked me for money so she could buy her own. Madness. Shur a lot of these clubs nowadays offer free drinks for women anyway.

pa4

Buy her a sparkling water.. wonder what her reaction would be then!

dorkacle

Dean0088 wrote: »

I'm normally so taken aback by it I don't have a chance to come up with a quck retort I'll remember that one though.

I kind of see their strategy - and judging by the amount of times I've been asked , it must work to some extent.

My mind boggles at it though. I can't put myself in a mindset where I'd just ramble up to a total stranger and outright ask for them to buy me a drink.

Its happened to me a couple of times and I have reacted exactly the same as you :rolleyes:

Gonna have to remember that come back too!:pac:

Women tho... eh!?

Elmer Blooker

Gran Hermano wrote: »

Yep, you have to watch yourself around those harlots.
Anyone who's spent time on the pub/club scene will know they are responsible for causing a large percentage of the fights that breakout. Misleading guys into thinking they are in with a chance and sparking rivalry between different guys who've been buying them drinks all night.

the irony of it all, it's the guy who would tell her to go and p**s off who would be the one in with a chance.

C.K Dexter Haven

Never understood women who did this. Knew one once who used to brag about the amount of drink she got men to buy her. I thought it was some sort of insecurity thing she had. I certainly wouldn't entertain it.

johndaman66

Daveysil15 wrote: »

Shur a lot of these clubs nowadays offer free drinks for women anyway.

Eh? Do they? Name a few please

beks101

What? Is this a common thing for men to hear on a night out?

It's a pretty scummy thing to do IMO, I can't think of any female friend of mine who would have the neck to do it. I struggle enough as it is to let a guy buy me a drink when we're dating, let alone a complete randomer.

catallus

It's young women moving in packs and daring each other to try out some randomer. All in good fun. Don't see why people are getting offended by it. It isn't all that common as far as I can see.

padma

just as bad as,.... any spare change bud....

KonFusion

I remember being in The Academy one night. I can't remember what club night they had on but it was notorious for being risqué, for lack of a better word (it was the club night that was in the papers over the indecent facebook pics).

Anyway, I recall on one of the nights I saw a lad walk up to a girl, started chatting her up and then leaned in for a kiss.

The girl pushed him away, refused, and asked him for a drink. So he took out some money and got her a drink.

Chatted some more. He leaned in for a kiss again, and again she refused. So he took a handful of money out of his pocket, which looked like a handful of change, and gave it to her. She counted it, put it away, and began wearing the face off him...

The mind boggles.

ElWalrus

Just tell her to order what ever she wants from the bar, giving the impression that you'll cover it (take out your wallet or something), then after she's ordered and the barkeep returns with the drink, just walk away! :pac:

April O Neill

Dean0088 wrote: »

Am I right in assuming this is some kind of ploy to get free drinks?

I think, I *think* you might be on to something there.


:pac::p

April O Neill

Sauve wrote: »

One good thing about it is you instantly know that's not the kind of girl you'd be interested in chatting to

Exactly, see it as a gobshíte filter, OP.

April O Neill

LOTD wrote: »

True. Tbh totally taken a back that somebody can go up to somebody and bluntly ask them to buy them a drink. I think it's low and rude to expect somebody just to outright pay for you.

It's kinda saying "I'm so hot that even getting to buy me a drink is a privilege".

April O Neill

bubblypop wrote: »

i just cant believe you've never heard this before!!
im in my late 30's and a friend of mine has been at this since we were 15!!!

It's not going to work for her for too much longer! :eek:

endacl

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Jesus :eek:

That's mental. I wouldn't have the cheek nor the balls!

If you had balls, you'd be the target of the scam. Not the scammer...

Sleepy

As a single man I always gave the same answer to that (assuming I found the girl attractive): "nope, but I'll let you buy me one if you like?".

90% of the time they'd try to persist and eventually get told to **** off or the smarter ones would recognise the refusal and just turn on their heel but there were a few who actually ended up buying me a pint.

Festy

ElWalrus wrote: »

Just tell her to order what ever she wants from the bar, giving the impression that you'll cover it (take out your wallet or something), then after she's ordered and the barkeep returns with the drink, just walk away! :pac:

Brilliant

cantdecide

A mate had this happen to him once as he was going to the bar and she asked for her particular cocktail. He arrived back with a couple of pints for the lads and she said something like 'is the Guinness for me' and he said 'oh no, this is mine- the bar's over there' (or something to that effect). He was lucky he didn't end up wearing the pint but she beat a red-faced retreat.

I like to think that that was the last time she did this but I'd assume she just re-thunk her strategy...