Trying to conceive/Planned parenthood/Assisted Reproduction Chat thread.

Hopefully pregnant... wrote: »

How do ye cope with the wait from ovulation to your period being due? I'm due next Friday but have had sore boobs since last week, my boobs have hurt in the past but only for a day not 5 days straight so I have convinced myself that I'm pregnant.

Since I came off the pill 10 months ago I now get tender boobs around the time of ovulation, during my period and most especially during the few days leading up to my period. I'm starting to come to the conclusion tender boobs as a sign of pregnancy: pish posh! ....biggest red herring ever?!?

Lucuma wrote: »

Since I came off the pill 10 months ago I now get tender boobs around the time of ovulation, during my period and most especially during the few days leading up to my period. I'm starting to come to the conclusion tender boobs as a sign of pregnancy: pish posh! ....biggest red herring ever?!?

One of my biggest pregnancy symptoms was no sore boobs on the run up to when my period was due, they were normally too sore to touch!!

mok86 wrote: »

so sorry to hear how you are feeling at the moment. we have not been ttc for as long as ye but its been over a year now. i know how it feels two people close to me told me a few months back that they were expecting and just a day apart! its so hard to stop the tears as they tell you their happy news. and then to be asked if i would like another i already have been blessed with a 4 year old but its still heartbreaking. i have finally stopped putting off things and went to see doc and she suspects pcos waiting to be called for ultrasound now. i know you feel awful and exhausted right now but dont give up just yet. its hard to hold on hope month after month but keep going its ok to get upset it isnt fair but you have to have belief it will happen. have you seen a doc or gynae? hope you are feeling a bit bettern

Thanks for understanding. Feeling better now, just trying to reconcile all the differnt emotions that I feel! I have just recently been referred to a fertility doc. The reason that it has taken 3 years is because in the past 3 years I have gotten pregnant twice, but had 2 miscarriages (one very late). It has now been over a year trying since the last mc, so we are finally getting some medical help. Hopefully that will mean things work out for us, I shouldn't have been so negative in my last post.

Sittingpretty wrote: »

I wouldn't worry too much about it, it's just your body's reaction to a decrease in hormones from the ocp

Yeah I was well warned, but never felt as low as I did yesterday. It was actually frightening!

Has anyone else experienced the least romantic sex they've ever had in the name of Trying To Conceive?!?
Today had to be a new low for us.....if I told use the story ye actually wouldn't believe me ;-)

Lucuma wrote: »

Has anyone else experienced the least romantic sex they've ever had in the name of Trying To Conceive?!?
Today had to be a new low for us.....if I told use the story ye actually wouldn't believe me ;-)

Yep. We call it metronome sex. Really just going through the motions. Thankfully it was like that just the once and made us really grateful for a sex life we both enjoy lots every other time. Imagine for some people it's like that a lot whether they are ttc or not!!
This month it was pretty great around the fertile time not at all metronome!!

Lucuma wrote: »

Has anyone else experienced the least romantic sex they've ever had in the name of Trying To Conceive?!?
Today had to be a new low for us.....if I told use the story ye actually wouldn't believe me ;-)

Oh, I'd believe ya. Experienced plenty of them ourselves, its just the stress of it all. Just make up for it when off duty. We went on date nights during the two week wait a lot.

broody_kitten wrote: »

Well done! I have quite a bit to lose so hoping it'll work for me. If this doesn't motivate me nothing will

I'm loving being off the pill so far, the only negative symptom really is spots appearing on my chest! Did anyone else get this and were you able to get rid of it?

I lost 24lbs in 10 weeks starting at 12st8, I would recommend it to anyone!

I started getting acne again since I've come off the pill, there are OTC creams you can get with alcohol in them that help, but I just bought baby wipes and use them in between showering

On a side note, just out from my first gynae app, and she said my cervical mucus is definitely indicating fertility and ovulation (I just started getting it as white/clear and elastic today).
Never thought to ask her, but maybe someone here knows. Does this indicate imminent ovulation, or does it just mean it's going to happen soon? Any sort of time frame?

So I'm late.......again. 6 days.

Was 9 days late before and had gotten my hopes up massively then but stupid period arrived. Trying not to now but its hard.
Symptoms are wrecking my head. I have very tender boobs and they are a bit bigger.... am I imagining that they are bigger and more tender than other times? :o I was very emotional a few days ago, felt like crying for absolutely no reason at all. That was certainly nothing like I had experienced before. Yet it could all still be bloody PMS.
Scared to take a test. We had very targeted sex this month, did it lots coming up and during the fertile period so it could actually have worked.

Will wait it out a week more I think and then if no period will feel a little more hopeful about taking a test. Its dreadful when you want something so much that you're scared to test.

ShaShaBear wrote: »

On a side note, just out from my first gynae app, and she said my cervical mucus is definitely indicating fertility and ovulation (I just started getting it as white/clear and elastic today).
Never thought to ask her, but maybe someone here knows. Does this indicate imminent ovulation, or does it just mean it's going to happen soon? Any sort of time frame?

You need to get on the opks Shasha Bear! Then you'll be able to pin point your ovulation date.

I have fairly normal cycles now, and I get the egg white mucus for probably 5 or 6 days before ovulation, also on the day of ovulation and it continues (but lighter) for maybe 2 or 3 days after it.

Lucuma wrote: »

Did you ever find out the reason for being 9 days late before Penny? That seems quite late given your tests were all negative (indicating you didn't have a chemical preg right? more experienced ppl here could prob comment more)

What's your normal cycle length? How many cycles of this (the normal) length have you had? I presume you're tracking them all like I am on my phone app

Actually I didn't test the last time when I was 9 days late. Myself and my husband had agreed that we'd test at the end of the second week if there was still no period. I had to give him the pregnancy test to hide away from me as it was killing me not to test.
Then I got my period.:(
It could well have been a chemical pregnancy as my period was heavier and more painful than normal. I wasn't 100% sure if it could have been this or the fact that I'd started acupuncture and it might have been responsible. In some ways I was glad that I hadn't tested and shown a positive with the way it ended up. That way I didn't have to think about having been and then no longer being pregnant. Granted on the flip side of that it would have shown that I could actually get pregnant so who knows what the right thing would have been.
I do track on the phone app. Its a little hobby of mine almost at this stage:P My cycle is 31 days on average. Occasionally 32 or 34 but averages out at 31 for sure.
So guess I'll sit tight and wait. ...............

Penny Dreadful wrote: »

Granted on the flip side of that it would have shown that I could actually get pregnant so who knows what the right thing would have been.
I do track on the phone app. Its a little hobby of mine almost at this stage:P My cycle is 31 days on average. Occasionally 32 or 34 but averages out at 31 for sure.
So guess I'll sit tight and wait. ...............

A real conundrum but I'd rather know if I had a chemical pregnancy, although sad, at least it would show that I'm capable of conception as you say. At this stage (i.e. with no children) I would see a chemical pregnancy as progress, and something to be worked on and improved. At least that's how I think I'd feel about it anyway.....

Also if I had a few chemical pregnancies in a row, it would be some info to go to the doctor with I suppose.

Good luck !! xxxxx

ShaShaBear wrote: »

We have a very active sex life anyway, so pinpointing ovulation isn't necessary. We usually do it once a day (even before TTC) and the odd time twice a day. Hasn't really changed since I came off the pill, apart from three days my partner had to go away and I couldn't come with him like I usually do
Was just curious to see if it was a ballpark indicator or what. I was concerned it might take months for me to even ovulate, so that's a real comfort, and now I can track other symptoms to compare to next month! I'll also have a fair idea of when to expect a period.

You can buy the opks in the chemist (expensive) or order them cheaply online. It's nice to know what's happening inside your own body I think, especially when it's on your mind the whole time anyway when you're TTC so this takes the guess work out of it!