What makes someone a failure at life?

Alactric · 11-03-2013 02:05AM

skeleton_boy wrote: »

Believing that once said life is over you're going to heaven.

Careful now.

Peetrik · 11-03-2013 02:05AM

Failure at life = Everyone who has died

Failure = Not achieving the goals they set for themselves

dh0011 · 11-03-2013 02:06AM

someone who is over 35, single, unemployed and living with their parents.

con___manx1 · 11-03-2013 02:09AM

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

Someone that puts money before friends and family.

100% agree and there are so many people like that.

Trhiggy83 · 11-03-2013 02:11AM

Themselves

Getoffmytrain · 11-03-2013 02:37AM

Stained Class wrote: »

It puts things in perspective alright.

Brian Wilson of the Beach Boys was a genius musician & created a lot of wealth for his family, but in a lot of other ways, he was a joke.

He couldn't handle the basics of living as a 'normal' person, let alone be a good husband to his wife, or be a good role model to his daughters.

It's all about perspective really...

Brian Wilson suffers from bipolar schizoaffective disorder.

11-03-2013 12:16PM

Maybe someone who has accumulated nothing by 35.. Be it a partner, great experiences or wealth. If you haven't hit any of those by that age, there's a good chance you've missed the boat.

With any of those, it's either been worth it or you still have the possibility of the others ahead of you.

mikom · 11-03-2013 12:23PM

Deleted User wrote: »

Maybe someone who has accumulated nothing by 35.. Be it a partner, great experiences or wealth. If you haven't hit any of those by that age, there's a good chance you've missed the boat.

Unfair.
Not going to be good for the heads of those reading that who are in such a situation, whether through their own choices or not.

Personally.......
Dieing, having negatively affected more people than positively affected them.

Three Seasons · 11-03-2013 12:49PM

I generally consider someone a "winner" who has mastered a skill of some sort. Too many people think you are either born with a skill or not. They don't realise the years of practice and dedication that it took past "geniuses" to master their craft. What makes a winner is someone who can persevere through the emotional minefield of mastering a skill.

monkeypants · 11-03-2013 12:53PM

If someone feels so bad that they attempt suicide and fail.

Call Me Jimmy · 11-03-2013 01:07PM

Dwork, cop onto yerself man :P you must be quite mentally strong to have set up and kept that business going (not to mention smart) for so long and as you said there are just environmental factors outside your control. Do not let negativity into your head at this stage. You are employing 5 people, that's it. If you see out this ****e who knows what'll happen in a couple of years!

A failure to me is someone who doesn't have the balls to seek out something they want. In terms of a job, high horses saying 'dole-scroungers' are the failures are probably within that group.

Not only have you settled for some office job straight out of college and applied no imagination, but you're projecting your self-loathing on imaginary people. You too have the option to go on the dole if you think it's so great. If you don't that means you have responsibilities. If you have financial responsibilities (more than could be covered by dole and rent allowance) then you take responsibility for the fact that you chose for whatever reason to have them.

juicyduckie · 11-03-2013 01:51PM

People who leave school at 17 with no Leaving Cert. who have meticulously planned to go straight on to the dole who are still on it almost 6 years later never having had a job, yet with this dole manage to rent an apartment (in culchie Ireland, not a city obviously) and smoke weed, drink copious amounts of alcohol, eat take-aways and play xbox or whatever all day every day. I'm speaking about a specific group of people I know from back in my school days who I would consider complete failures at life.

A person who just takes and never ever gives or considers giving anything back, like the previously mentioned people, essentially is a failure IMHO.

Sometimes I feel a little bit sorry for them but then I remember my taxes pay for them to sit on their ar5es and abuse the system. :pac:

old hippy · 11-03-2013 01:53PM

Someone who is happy to sit in judgement on AH for years and years and never bother to try and understand just what it is to be unemployed/single parent/gay/bisexual/black/traveller/etc etc etc

old hippy · 11-03-2013 01:55PM

dh0011 wrote: »

someone who is over 35, single, unemployed and living with their parents.

Even if they've got a serious disability? :mad:

seven_eleven · 11-03-2013 01:57PM

catallus wrote: »

I think a failure would be dying without ever having truly loved another person.

Define love

nocoverart · 11-03-2013 02:00PM

Jaysus OP, I remember reading a few of your threads and your feckin depressing. Do you ever start jolly threads?

Three Seasons · 11-03-2013 02:03PM

If you are happy and fulfilled you are a success in my book. If you are miserable and devoid of any passions you are a failure.

Saying that I don't look down on "failures".

joe stodge · 11-03-2013 02:04PM

jimmyRotator wrote: »

wake'n'bake

This.

sbsquarepants · 11-03-2013 02:09PM

Hercule Poirot wrote: »

Someone who is happy to sit on the dole for years and years and never bother to try working for a living

I wouldn't advocate sitting on the dole- but claiming someone who is happy is a failure is a little short sighted do you not think. Personally speaking i'd much rather spend my time with my family than working, i only work through neccesity. Working has rarely made me happy.

Push Pop · 11-03-2013 03:09PM

Tom_Cruise wrote: »

What would you consider a failure?

For someone to be given every possible opportunity, perhaps spoiled, handed everything and never left stuck to then not try or put any effort into life and be miserable from lack of effort.
Probably not saying it right but I'm trying to describe someone I know who was given huge educational resources, money for J1s, partying, great accommodation etc. They managed somehow to get a great 2.1 degree form a top university but didnt bother with a proper job hunt even as the economy crashed.
Compound the problem with drugs, dole, no effort to apply for jobs, more money from parents and its been 6 years since graduation. There has been no attempt to reinvent themselves just because they couldn't get a job exactly in their field. Probably far far worse failures out there but wasted talent through laziness and naivety is a good candidate.

MiseryMary · 11-03-2013 03:21PM

What makes someone a failure at life?

Very vindictive people who is greedy , jealousy because to hate to see anyone who is happy in life or someones achievement and they will try to put someone confidants down with sneer remarks to make them feel like **** ,people who feels need to bully someone else needs to get help or sort out their issues not to take it out on another individual .