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What do you LOVE about being Single?

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  • #62
    Ella
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,772 ✭✭✭Ella


    catallus wrote: »

    Do you think she's just unhappy generally or because she's in bad relationships?
    Generally. And can't cope with being alone. So she'll shack up with anyone. She wants to get married and has done forever, so each time she meets someone no matter how unsuited he is, she'll keep him and morph into how she thinks she should be for him. pathetic!


  • #63
    catallus
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,106 ✭✭✭catallus


    Ella wrote: »
    Generally. And can't cope with being alone. So she'll shack up with anyone. She wants to get married and has done forever, so each time she meets someone no matter how unsuited he is, she'll keep him and morph into how she thinks she should be for him. pathetic!

    I know a few people like that, men and women, and they seem usually really annoyed with the world. It's odd.


  • #64
    Ella
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,772 ✭✭✭Ella


    Nate--IRL-- wrote: »
    That to me is their prerogative. As as happy or unhappy as they may be. **** it, it is their life.

    Nate
    Well Nate. When you're the one picking up the pieces of your mate come back to me and talk to me!


  • #65
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,337 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    Ella wrote: »
    Well Nate. When you're the one picking up the pieces of your mate come back to me and talk to me!
    Aye that's the problem. I'm with Nate on the "it's their life" part, unfortunately with some their lives spill over into others lives and that's the problem as Ella noted. Friends suffering fallout is the obvious one, but the less obvious one can be their partner(s). If someone is unhappy in the relationship with themselves how can they help create a happy and healthy relationship with others.

    Many worry about Artificial Intelligence. I worry far more about Organic Idiocy.



  • #66
    cantdecide
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,363 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    If I began a relationship with someone and realised you couldn't wedge a credit card between their past relationships I would definitely have very serious reservations about the future.


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  • #67
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,337 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    cantdecide wrote: »
    If I began a relationship with someone and realised you couldn't wedge a credit card between their past relationships I would definitely have very serious reservations about the future.
    Oh I was caught out there myself many years ago. I was told she was single when we met, found out later on she was "kinda seeing someone". Then found out she hadn't been single since she was 16 and in all but one case, never mind wedging credit cards, there had been overlap between relationships. And so pattern established, but of course like the young fool I was :D thought "I/We" would be different. Nope. We ended like all her others with overlap and off she went with a new bloke.

    A couple of years later I bumped into him and found out she did the same to him. I told him he had dodged a bullet. It being recent he wasn't so sure, but my take was that sooner or later the music would stop for her and she'd be "stuck" with one bloke and unless she had a major personality change, that guy would likely not have an easy life.

    Many worry about Artificial Intelligence. I worry far more about Organic Idiocy.



  • #68
    The Corinthian
    Closed Accounts Posts: 19,777 ✭✭✭✭The Corinthian


    Ella wrote: »
    Someone who jumps from relationship to relationship for fear of being alone does have problems.
    The term for such people is serial monogamist.

    There's a lot of them around, the most extreme of whom begin the next relationship while still in the previous. What's worse is many seem to follow an incredibly predictable pattern, that everyone other than themselves, can see.

    One I know - Korean-German woman - meets a guy, is on cloud nine for about six months (where she drops of the face of the Earth), then moves in and sets up house. Things are stable for about a further six to twelve months, by the end of which she begins to complain about the relationship. Things then steadily deteriorate over the next twelve months (possibly also including her cheating on him) and finally they break up and she (always) moves out. She will then be single for no more than three or four months before entering a new relationship. Rinse and repeat.

    You can literally mark the future stages on a calendar with a frightening degree of accuracy.


  • #69
    Roisy7
    Closed Accounts Posts: 548 ✭✭✭Roisy7


    The Corinthian wrote: »
    The term for such people is serial monogamist.

    There's a lot of them around, the most extreme of whom begin the next relationship while still in the previous. What's worse is many seem to follow an incredibly predictable pattern, that everyone other than themselves, can see.

    One I know - Korean-German woman - meets a guy, is on cloud nine for about six months (where she drops of the face of the Earth), then moves in and sets up house. Things are stable for about a further six to twelve months, by the end of which she begins to complain about the relationship. Things then steadily deteriorate over the next twelve months (possibly also including her cheating on him) and finally they break up and she (always) moves out. She will then be single for no more than three or four months before entering a new relationship. Rinse and repeat.

    You can literally mark the future stages on a calendar with a frightening degree of accuracy.

    Knew someone like this too. He was always single for the college summer holidays!


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