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a guy that watches too much porn?is it a dealbreaker?

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  • #32
    Sauve
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,646 ✭✭✭✭Sauve


    christmas2012 wrote: »
    I notice i seem to be getting guys views on it,im more interested in what other womens views on it are,as i posted in the ladies lounge,but guys i welcome your input here ;)

    I'm a girl- if I was seeing a guy who watched a lot of porn it wouldn't bother me in the least. Free time is exactly that, and far be it for anybody to dictate to another what they should do with theirs.
    Where it would become a problem is if it was so excessive that is was affecting other aspects of his life and/or our sex life.
    I have hobbies that take up a lot of my time. If a guy tried to tell me I was spending too much time cycling/reading/whatever, I'd have a huge problem with that.


  • #33
    christmas2012
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,827 ✭✭✭christmas2012


    watching large amounts of porn is different to cycling,you have to acknowledge that they get their ideas from it,i know a few girls who have been put off by this in the past,im not saying this on behalf of everyone its just my view on it,there is a such thing as watching too much,its different to say someone who reads too many books or plays a little too much badminton in the summer,its a completely different kettle of fish.If you think what the repotaire and outlook of a guy who watches to much porn,to the repotraire a and outlook of a guy who doesnt watch so much,it does change the way you behave somewhat,to completely ignore this is foolish..


  • #34
    flyswatter
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,625 ✭✭✭flyswatter


    I know a guy who watches porn a lot.

    In fairness, he's a complete tosser.


  • #35
    Maple
    Hosted Moderators Posts: 16,186 ✭✭✭✭Maple


    flyswatter wrote: »
    I know a guy who watches porn a lot.

    In fairness, he's a complete tosser.

    ba dum tish.

    Keep the responses constructive and have a read of the charter before posting again.

    Maple


  • #36
    Sauve
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,646 ✭✭✭✭Sauve


    christmas2012 wrote: »
    watching large amounts of porn is different to cycling,you have to acknowledge that they get their ideas from it,.

    I suppose I was referring to conventional (ish) porn, which I see absolutely nothing wrong with whatsoever, in fact I think it's healthy. So in that regard, yes, it is comparable to spending a lot of time on another hobby (cycling was just one example btw).

    I have to ask- when you say 'their ideas' - what do you mean by this?


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  • #37
    christmas2012
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,827 ✭✭✭christmas2012


    some people get thier ideas from porn if they didnt watch it they wouldnt bother..i know some girls that have renenacted porn scenes from particular movies and down the line of the relationship decided to break up over it..

    im not saying every guy that watches porn does this,or is guilty of this,but im sure there is an unidentified number out there that does,and its a pity because i think if anything these guys lack a fertile imagination anybody that equates watching porn to someone enriching their imagination is lacking i would say..
    if you read a book you are stimulating your imagination as its up to your brain to manufacture images,and imagine what would the scene the authour is describing would be like etc..as opposed to have a movie do it for you..


  • #38
    Sauve
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,646 ✭✭✭✭Sauve


    christmas2012 wrote: »
    some people get thier ideas from porn if they didnt watch it they wouldnt bother..i know some girls that have renenacted porn scenes from particular movies and down the line of the relationship decided to break up over it..

    What ideas though? Do you mean that some guys try to convince girls to re-enact scenes that they're not comfortable doing? If that's the case, surely it's a matter of discussing it and only doing what both partners are comfortable with?
    Plenty of people are into very kinky sex, and as long as both partners are willing and open to it then there's no issue.
    At the end of the day communication is key in any sexual relationship.


  • #39
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    christmas2012 wrote: »
    some people get thier ideas from porn if they didnt watch it they wouldnt bother..i know some girls that have renenacted porn scenes from particular movies and down the line of the relationship decided to break up over it..

    if you read a book you are stimulating your imagination as its up to your brain to manufacture images,and imagine what would the scene the authour is describing would be like etc..as opposed to have a movie do it for you..

    There's nothing wrong with getting ideas from a porn scene. I've learned a few new positions this way. ;) Are porn films and regular films bad because they're ruining people's imiginations? You could say the same thing about boards.


  • #40
    christmas2012
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,827 ✭✭✭christmas2012


    at least with boards you yer talkin :pac:


  • #41
    Sauve
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,646 ✭✭✭✭Sauve


    christmas2012 wrote: »
    at least with boards you yer talkin :pac:

    Who has sex without talking?!?


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  • #42
    christmas2012
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,827 ✭✭✭christmas2012


    youre getting very kinky there sauve :pac: ..


  • #43
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    Yes its all about the talk. A girl with a sexy accent who talks dirty is a real turn-on.


  • #44
    Sauve
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,646 ✭✭✭✭Sauve


    Daveysil15 wrote: »
    Yes its all about the talk. A girl with a sexy accent who talks dirty is a real turn-on.

    If you didn't watch so much porn you wouldn't have such weird ideas. An accent? Dirty beggar :pac:


  • #45
    Maple
    Hosted Moderators Posts: 16,186 ✭✭✭✭Maple


    take it to PM

    Cheers

    Maple
    christmas2012 wrote: »
    youre getting very kinky there sauve :pac: ..
    Sauve wrote: »
    Hmmm, I thought I was being very well behaved ;)


  • #46
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    Sauve wrote: »
    If you didn't watch so much porn you wouldn't have such weird ideas. An accent? Dirty beggar :pac:

    Ohh god, you're right. Porn has corrupted my mind. I'm going to the confession box tomorrow.


  • #47
    johnjoe7
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 39 ✭johnjoe7


    Everything is a dealbreaker for Irish women as they've so many choices they just move onto the next in pursuit of mr.perfect. They aren't as feminine as women from other countries, a massive understatement.


  • #48
    johnjoe7
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 39 ✭johnjoe7


    Polish women will watch porn WITH us Irish men :D, while Irish women will do what they always do: nag (as evident in this thread). See the difference?


  • #49
    mfceiling
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,205 ✭✭✭✭mfceiling


    You know you watch too much porn when you keep watching to see if the plumber actually gets the plumbing fixed...


  • #50
    christmas2012
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,827 ✭✭✭christmas2012


    wrong i know some polish women who hold more traditional family value catholic principles than our irish counterparts swinging for fights,drinking and swearing,you have to admit on friday nights,and football fan expiditions we live up to our name :pac:
    although i will say one thing polish women tend to hold on to their figures longer,but thats down to diet,instead of crisps they eat bags of apple shavings etc,they have dinners,and cook their own dinners as opposed to take aways every night,take aways are only meant as weekenders..


  • #51
    Daftendirekt
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,312 ✭✭✭Daftendirekt


    Little tip johnjoe - if you're consistently having negative experiences with a diverse group of people, the common denominator is you, not everybody in that group.

    On topic, I find it strange that whenever anyone talks about watching porn, a lot of people immediately assume that you're talking about an obsession or addiction. It's as if you can either not watch porn at all or you can be so into it that it interferes with your sex, love or social life. Replace porn watching in the OP with throwaway paperback novel reading, or stamp collecting and it looks a lot more bizarre.

    Video games often get a similar treatment.


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  • #52
    Fluorescence
    Moderators, Music Moderators Posts: 8,490 Mod ✭✭✭✭Fluorescence


    johnjoe7 wrote: »
    Polish women will watch porn WITH us Irish men :D, while Irish women will do what they always do: nag (as evident in this thread). See the difference?

    Don't bother posting in this thread again. Your anti Irish women babble is not welcome in this forum. If you wish to retain access to The Ladies Lounge, you should read the forum charter.


    If you wish to discuss a mod decision, do so by PM and not on-thread


  • #53
    KeepCalm
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6 ✭KeepCalm


    Hmm. This is a good question. I know my boyfriend almost freaked out when I started naming off loads of porn stars lol. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. As long as it doesn't affect the relationship or sexual relations. You know like he has to watch it to get turned on.


  • #54
    analucija
    Closed Accounts Posts: 363 ✭✭analucija


    This thread smells of someone trying to make a point that porn fries your brain, destroys your life and chance of any meaningful relationship with the partner. Ad to that couple generalisations about women of x nationality and you get a great thread.

    Sex is very important in relationship and if porn helps to spice it up then even better. Porn is bad when people can't have meaningful relationship because of it but I don't know how much porn is too much. Btw I'm talking about stuff involving two consenting adults, not Illegal or very deviant porn. Two of op's friends dumping their partners does not make a relevant sample, so I'd like to know what makes watching porn so much worse than watching Fair City for example. It can't be the quality of acting or screen play.


  • #55
    Kash
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,065 ✭✭✭Kash


    OP, your posts have bewildered me, your personal experience seems to be hearsay from a couple of friends and and so you seem to be trying to live vicariously through the other posters.

    But to answer your question, I personally don't see anything wrong with my partner watching porn, or reading it or getting ideas from it or whatever. Sex is supposed to be fun, and one persons kink is another persons vanilla.

    If he wants to reenact scenes, then I am fully capable of deciding whether the idea appeals to me or not - and that we trust each other enough to be able to change our mind if the reality isn't as fun as the fantasy.

    It's only going to be a deal breaker if it is the only way he can get his groove on, or if there was repeated pressure to do something either partner was uncomfortable with.


  • #56
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    christmas2012 wrote: »
    wrong i know some polish women who hold more traditional family value catholic principles.

    Yes generally that is true, but what's that got to do with watching porn? Where's the commandment that says, "Thou shall not fiddle with thy self?"
    Daftendirekt wrote: »
    Little tip johnjoe - if you're consistently having negative experiences with a diverse group of people, the common denominator is you, not everybody in that group.

    Maybe, but what if he's having consistently better luck in other groups? You can't always blame the fisherman. He maybe just fishing in a bad sea.


  • #57
    Dolbert
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,154 ✭✭✭Dolbert


    Daveysil15 wrote: »
    Maybe, but what if he's having consistently better luck in other groups? You can't always blame the fisherman. He maybe just fishing in a bad sea.

    Then again, perhaps this isn't the right forum to start trashing Irish women. Seriously, have a read of his other posts. Women tend not to be too interested in men who appear to despise them.


  • #58
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,360 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    Dolorous wrote: »
    Then again, perhaps this isn't the right forum to start trashing Irish women.
    QFT. Now can we please move beyond this type of thing.

    Many worry about Artificial Intelligence. I worry far more about Organic Idiocy.



  • #59
    That_Guy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    OP, I watch porn. I wouldn't say I watch loads of it. At most it's probably about 5-10 minutes a day and nothing that affects my sexual relationship with my girlfriend.

    Hell, she's already told me that she watches it too which is fine by me. If anything it's a bit of a turn on and at some stage we'll more than likely end up watching it together.

    Porn for me is a way to delve a bit into various things that I'm interested in that perhaps my girlfriend wouldn't be into. I'm not going to force anything on her and vice versa. We've expressed various interests some of which we've gotten from watching porn individually.

    As long as it doesn't take over then it's not really a big deal. It's the same with any activity really.


  • #60
    Madam_X
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,327 ✭✭✭Madam_X


    A guy who enjoys watching great, exciting, a bit experimental sex - great. A guy who enjoys nasty, borderline violent porn featuring women being depicted as degraded? Would be a problem for me.


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  • #61
    Sauve
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,646 ✭✭✭✭Sauve


    Onixx wrote: »
    A guy who enjoys watching great, exciting, a bit experimental sex - great. A guy who enjoys nasty, borderline violent porn featuring women being depicted as degraded? Would be a problem for me.

    Yeah I agree, but that says more about the type of guy he is rather than the amount of porn he watches does. There's some stuff out there that I couldn't even put into the category of porn in fairness...


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