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a guy that watches too much porn?is it a dealbreaker?

06-07-2012 01:16AM

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how much porn watching does your man do?

is their a such thing as too much watching of pornography?

and would it be a deal breaker,how would you view it?

what if for example,if he asked you and constantly pestered you to renact porn scenes?

if it took the center stage in your sex life would you see it as a problem?

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#2 06-07-2012 01:18AM

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How do you know when you are watching too much porn? Look she has a new tattoo.

Why do women watch porn?
To see if they get married.

Hope this helps ......

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#3 06-07-2012 01:20AM

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how would watching porn help you get married im sorry im not following your train of thought..

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#4 06-07-2012 01:23AM

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christmas2012 wrote: »

how would watching porn help you get married im sorry im not following your train of thought..

I'm pretty sure that post was meant to be humour.

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#5 06-07-2012 01:59PM

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How much is too much?
Watch it together- it's 10 times more fun! :P

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#6 06-07-2012 02:55PM

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I'm a girl and I watch porn so not sure I could turn around to a guy and say you watch too much porn, it's off! It might be a dealbreaker for him to have a GF who watches porn [and reads it, porn isn't just limited to poor quality internet video clips] but wanting babies and listening to Leonard Cohen are the only dealbreakers for me.

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#7 06-07-2012 03:58PM

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how much [activity] does your man do?

is their a such thing as too much [activity]?

and would it be a deal breaker,how would you view it?

what if for example,if he asked you and constantly pestered you to renact [activity]?

if it took the center stage in your sex life would you see it as a problem?

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#8 06-07-2012 07:28PM

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why replace the word porn with activity?if he only gets randy after watching porn then hes watching porn too often..

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#9 06-07-2012 07:39PM

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christmas2012 wrote: »

why replace the word porn with activity?if he only gets randy after watching porn then hes watching porn too often..

Because too much of anything is a bad idea

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#10 06-07-2012 08:04PM

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so you would have put the word anything instead of porn .. okay got it :pac:

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#11 06-07-2012 08:07PM

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The only dangerous amount of porn to watch is none.

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#12 06-07-2012 08:11PM

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christmas2012 wrote: »

how much porn watching does your man do?

is their a such thing as too much watching of pornography?

and would it be a deal breaker,how would you view it?

what if for example,if he asked you and constantly pestered you to renact porn scenes?

if it took the center stage in your sex life would you see it as a problem?

What is it with you and porn? Well too much of anything is a bad thing I suppose. If its taking over the sex life then there's a problem.

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#13 06-07-2012 08:11PM

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RobbingBandit wrote: »

The only dangerous amount of porn to watch is none.

can you back that statement up with social findings/comments from public heads on it?

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#14 06-07-2012 08:14PM

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Daveysil15 wrote: »

What is it with you and porn? Well too much of anything is a bad thing I suppose. If its taking over the sex life then there's a problem.

hey im not saying watch no porn etc,but i think there should be a limit on the amount one watches in a day,if for example it takes up somebodys sex life then its not such a good thing,if however its a mutual thing then i suppose its not as bad,but im sure there are mutual couples out there who are obsessed with it,and watch way to much of it..

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#15 06-07-2012 08:19PM

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christmas2012 wrote: »

hey im not saying watch no porn etc,but i think there should be a limit on the amount one watches in a day,if for example it takes up somebodys sex life then its not such a good thing,if however its a mutual thing then i suppose its not as bad,but im sure there are mutual couples out there who are obsessed with it,and watch way to much of it..

hey im not saying don't watch TV/play video-games/read books/play football/use the internet/etc/etc/etc etc,but i think there should be a limit on the amount one does in a day,if for example it takes up somebodys sex life then its not such a good thing

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#16 06-07-2012 08:21PM

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christmas2012 wrote: »

can you back that statement up with social findings/comments from public heads on it?

Yes I can, the study will take place over the next 90 days and will cost €50,000.

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#17 06-07-2012 08:21PM

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28064212,how is parroting and putting in TV/xbox and games in place of porn constitute a valid argument?

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#18 06-07-2012 08:30PM

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christmas2012 wrote: »

how much porn watching does your man do?

I'm a guy. Usually I 'watch' about 10mins per day about 3-4 days a week. I read(and write ) another hour or two per week. Sometimes more depending on work/stress/free time etc.

is there such a thing as too much watching of pornography?

Of course. Same as too much of any other activity. Is there such a thing as too much playing golf? Or too much posting on boards?

and would it be a deal breaker,how would you view it?

Define too much first. Daily? I personally don't understand people who watch entire 2 hour plus movies of porn, unless its a decent sex session(and lets face it, how much 'watching' gets done?

what if for example,if he asked you and constantly pestered you to renact porn scenes?

If he constantly pestered you, then he is a muppet. Re-enact porn scenes? Are there famous ones that I don't know about? Like Act 3 of Hamlet?

if it took the center stage in your sex life would you see it as a problem?

If anything took centre stage in my sex life other than my partner and the pursuit of sexual pleasure, then yes I would view it as a problem.

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#19 06-07-2012 08:30PM

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christmas2012 wrote: »

how is parroting and putting in TV/xbox and games constitute a valid argument?

You really don't understand? You can't figure out the incredibly obvious point that is being made? Wow.

Too much of ANYTHING can be a bad thing. Porn is a form of entertainment, like everything I listed, and many more besides. If any form of entertainment is taking over your life, or parts of it, it's a bad thing. The particular type of entertainment is irrelevant

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#20 06-07-2012 08:34PM

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I notice i seem to be getting guys views on it,im more interested in what other womens views on it are,as i posted in the ladies lounge,but guys i welcome your input here

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#21 06-07-2012 08:44PM

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christmas2012 wrote: »

I notice i seem to be getting guys views on it,im more interested in what other womens views on it are,as i posted in the ladies lounge,but guys i welcome your input here

Which posters exactly are women in here? By "women's views" do you just mean views that agree with yours?

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#22 06-07-2012 08:45PM

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nope certainly not as if that were the case there would be no intersesting views that reflect many in here,so no i wouldnt say that..

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#23 06-07-2012 09:12PM

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How about your own perspective Christmas ?
Would it be a deal breaker for you ? or how much is to much in your own opinion ?
Herself at home here, is prone to a bit now and again, often after a bottle of vino.

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#24 06-07-2012 09:31PM

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Few pleasures in life are free (well, so long as you use the right sites..!)
I've found porn very useful for seeing what a guy is into and getting new kinky ideas- obviously if he's fapping over it 24/7 there's a problem, but I've heard so many women get so neurotic about it, you'd swear he was starring in them as opposed to innocently watching

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#25 06-07-2012 10:11PM

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I dont see why it would be to be honest!

If he wants to watch porn then he can, im not going to stop him! But like Siuin said, if hes doing it 24/7 then i would have a problem with it becaue it would be like he has an addiction to it!

Other than that i wouldnt really care!

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#26 06-07-2012 10:32PM

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Nobody can answer your questions. How much is too much? Well an addiction or obsession is too much but other than that I don't know. In general it wouldn't bother me.

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#27 06-07-2012 11:07PM

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My boyf lied to me about the amount he watches for the last 3 years. I only found out recently that he watches it from looking up stuff on his laptop and going into his history. I was quite shocked at the amount he watched and really upset that he lied to me about it! He told me he was only watching it because he was stressed from exams and that he usually doesnt watch it and I said fair enough but then I caught him out again stop and I know he is lying about it.
He told me he only lied to protect our relationship because he didnt know how he felt about it. To be honest im more annoyed that he has lied to me and lied very convincingly it has me paranoid about what else he has lied to me about. It makes me feel quite sh!t!

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#28 06-07-2012 11:15PM

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christmas2012 wrote: »

I notice i seem to be getting guys views on it,im more interested in what other womens views on it are,as i posted in the ladies lounge,but guys i welcome your input here

Female view: If it affects your sex life as a couple then there's a problem. If it's just something he does on his own time, then I don't see the issue.

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#29 06-07-2012 11:35PM

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rainbow kirby wrote: »

Female view: If it affects your sex life as a couple then there's a problem. If it's just something he does on his own time, then I don't see the issue.

Same as, you beat me to it.

If excessive anything affected our relationship negatively then we'd need to have a chat but as it's something that does not impact our relationship negatively then I've no problem with it.

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#30 07-07-2012 03:03AM

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It's not a dealbreaker for me. Only one real dealbreaker for me tbh - cheating. My bf watching porn wouldn't worry me in the slightest.

If it's affecting his life/your sex life then it's probably too much.

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#31 07-07-2012 07:53AM

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Meh as long as it didn't affect the relationship I wouldn't mind. And as long as it was normal, not sick disturbed stuff. That would probably put me off.

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