Would you date a man who's had plastic surgery?

smash wrote: »

Examples I gave were pec implants or a penis enlargement. No doubt these would be because of self-esteem issues, in the same way that a lot of women get implants purely because they just want bigger boobs.

Honestly, it would be a total turn-off for me.

smash wrote: »

I guess this was my reason for bringing it up, I had a feeling this would be the popular answer and I'm wondering why it's the case but women are rarely questioned when they get it done.

I'm probably the wrong person to ask as I find breast implants equally ridiculous (no offence to anyone who has them). I think there'd be plenty of men out there who'd be put off by fake boobs tbh.

As far as I know penile enhancement only makes a difference to how it looks flaccid but doesn't increase it's size when erect (good lord I sound like a spambot)

I think it's all based on personal taste so starting off with the assumption there is an inherent double-standard and waiting for posters to indulge confirmation bias is a bit silly...unless you have means to poll absolutely everyone on their specific tastes regarding whatever gender they are attracted to then there is no way to make the assumption that "women" think X while "men" think Y.

That "some" men have no issue with "some" women who have plastic surgery really has no bearing on whether "some" women have an issue with "some" men who have plastic surgery. Logic dictates that it goes both ways for both genders.

For me, merely the fact they've had plastic surgery would be irrelevant - after all there could be some medical reason that necessitates surgical intervention. Really, it would be how attractive I found the person as a whole (and surgery may well affect that), what impact that surgery would potentially have on our relationship and whatever psychological reasons were behind the surgery which might also impact on our relationship.

Relationships are based on conditional affection and like it not, peoples appearances, the levels they are prepared to go in order to create/recreate their appearances, etc, etc all combine along with a bazillion other things to affect how attractive one person can find another - and that along with all the other personal tastes out there is obviously going to vary from person to person.

smash wrote: »

Pretty much everyone. While people may not agree with it, they don't really bat an eyelid at the news that someone has had say a breast augmentation.

Who doesn't? Pretty much everyone? How can you speak for pretty much everyone? I'd certainly bat an eye-lid if someone I knew had plastic surgery & I don't know anyone who wouldn't bat an eyelid at someone they know having surgery so I'm not sure why you keep insisting, without providing a shred of evidence, that that's the case...

smash wrote: »

Do you know of any men who have had elective plastic surgery to enhance their body?

I know several men who have had nose-jobs and cosmetic dentistry - I am not aware of any woman in my circle of family or friends who has had breast augmentation, tummy-tuck or the like...that's not to say they haven't, I'm just not aware of any...mind you, my male friends could have pec implant and penis enlargement galore and I might just not be aware of that either.

smash wrote: »

That's just your opinion based on you pointlessly picking apart my post for no reason when you knew what the question was.

It's not pointless - your posts read like you had already made your mind up what the answer was and then you decided you'd poll tLL for affirmation. As I said earlier, it's not really much of a question, is it? You may as well be asking hands-up who prefers blonde hair or tall guys when you've already convinced yourself the general preference is X, Y or Z.

smash wrote: »

Well I'm asking a question about male elective surgeries which are not heard of much and I'm wondering if the reason behind it is because of the stigma which would be associated with them. And I'm asking how women would react to such surgeries.

I think all surgery for purely aesthetic reasons carry a degree of stigma - I think one which shouts that you have such an incredibly small cock or such warped body image that you are willing to risk surgical enhancement is surely going to carry stigma for very obvious reasons, no?

I'm also not convinced that penis enlargement is the equivalent to a tummy tuck or breast implants. Unlike a penis, breasts are sometimes viewed as having no other function than being decorative and no exercise is going to help them magically and permanently balloon from an AA to a DD whereas exercise can create defined pecs on a guy. I imagine penis enlargement requires much more intricate and risky surgery or at the very least greater risk of destroying all sexual function which clearly isn't the case when getting implants or a tummy tuck...my initial reaction to hearing a man has risked all the nerve endings and sexual pleasure they derive from their perfectly functioning penis just in order to make it look bigger would be to think there is something seriously amiss going on behind the scenes - and that wouldn't be something I'd instantly find attractive. For the record, I'd view any woman looking for clitoral enlargement the same way.

But even with that said, unless he whaps it out on the table or gets his fake pecs out on date one then any decision on whether to continue onto or with a relationship is going to based on far more than whatever surgeries have been done - as the parts of my posts you selectively ignored clearly state.

smash wrote: »

Again you're picking apart my post to suit yourself. Once again, I'm talking about pretty big elective surgery to enhance ones body appearance. I even gave examples from the start.

So, really you aren't asking about elective surgeries, you aren't asking about surgeries for aesthetics as you've ruled out the examples I gave about eye-lids and moles. You should re-name the thread "would you date a man who's had his penis surgically enhanced" if that's all you mean - but it would still be hypothetical and subjective to the point of meaningless.

I have to agree with newport2; I don't think many people would actually refuse to date someone they otherwise were attracted to because that person didn't fit exactly to whatever exacting set of preferences they have held previously - that goes for anything, including surgery. There are lots of things we consider critical to our tastes for attraction but for the most part they go out the window when any meaningful connection is made.