How would you feel if your child was gay?

willmunny1990 · 08-10-2011 01:04AM #1

Personally, and I'm slightly ashamed to say this, but I'd be very disappointed.

I have no problem with gay people, I know a few and get on with them just fine. But, I would be devastated if I found out my child was gay. It would be an unmitigated disaster in my view.

Why? First of all for selfish reasons. I would love to be a grandfather one day and would find it hard to accept of being deprived that aspiration.

Secondly, I think gay people are unfortunately still heavily discriminated against in life. Especially when they are younger and in School. And it is not my wish to have my son go through hardships like this.

So, how would you feel if your child was gay?

Unique User Name · 08-10-2011 01:05AM

I'd be delighted to have a happy child

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 08-10-2011 01:05AM

willmunny1990 wrote: »

Personally, and I'm slightly ashamed to say this, but I'd be very disappointed.

I have no problem with gay people, I know a few and get on with them just fine. But, I would be devastated if I found out my child was gay. It would be an unmitigated disaster in my view.

Why? First of all for selfish reasons. I would love to be a grandfather one day and would find it hard to accept of being deprived that aspiration.

Secondly, I think gay people are unfortunately still heavily discriminated against in life. Especially when they are younger and in School. And it is not my wish to have my son go through hardships like this.

So, how would you feel if your child was gay?

perhaps stop discriminating then...?

woodoo · 08-10-2011 01:05AM

I would prefer that not to happen. Its bound to be more difficult that being straight.

Jaxxy · 08-10-2011 01:05AM

The same way I'd feel if he/she wasn't gay?

mackg · 08-10-2011 01:07AM

If you have a kid and they turn out to be gay you should show them this topic...

orourkeda · 08-10-2011 01:08AM

They're still your child no matter what.

Stacey. · 08-10-2011 01:09AM

Exactly the same whether they were gay or not.

humbert · 08-10-2011 01:09AM

Gay or straight I don't mind. If they were to become camp they'd be sent straight to the CBS to have it bullied out of them.

willmunny1990 · 08-10-2011 01:09AM

Smcgie wrote: »

Obvious troll is obvious

How in the name of God is this trolling? It's a serious discussion that I'm sure many have differing views about.

JaxxYChicK wrote: »

The same way I'd feel if he/she wasn't gay?

Fair enough, that's your opinion. I feel differently, for reasons stated in the OP.

Duggy747 · 08-10-2011 01:09AM

If my son was gay I'd disown him if he ever became the over-the-top, dramatic camp type in my house!! That position is already taken and nobody is stealing my thunder :pac:

mackg · 08-10-2011 01:10AM

woodoo wrote: »

I would prefer that not to happen. Its bound to be more difficult that being straight.

To be fair, once they're broken in it's probably all the one, the line between fellas and girls blurs more everyday. I saw a lad with an earring the other day

face1990 · 08-10-2011 01:12AM

You could still be a grandfather. I'm gay myself and I reckon I'll probably adopt in the future. The plus side is that you won't have any 'unexpected' grandchildren!

Yellowledbetter · 08-10-2011 01:13AM

willmunny1990 wrote: »

Personally, and I'm slightly ashamed to say this, but I'd be very disappointed.

I have no problem with gay people, I know a few and get on with them just fine. But, I would be devastated if I found out my child was gay. It would be an unmitigated disaster in my view.

Why? First of all for selfish reasons. I would love to be a grandfather one day and would find it hard to accept of being deprived that aspiration.

Secondly, I think gay people are unfortunately still heavily discriminated against in life. Especially when they are younger and in School. And it is not my wish to have my son go through hardships like this.

So, how would you feel if your child was gay?

With all due respect, you should
A. Be thankful to have a child
B. Not be so narrow minded
C. Not look in AH for a solution to your problem.

Aoifey! · 08-10-2011 01:13AM

I'd be happy, as long as my child is happy.

Sonics2k · 08-10-2011 01:13AM

Wouldn't give a flying ****.
As long as my child is happy in who they are and are leading a loving life with someone, then I'm happy as can be for them.

You can still have Grandchildren by the way >.>

Leeg17 · 08-10-2011 01:18AM

Wouldn't make a difference to me, gay or not, as long as they're happy and healthy, surely that's all that matters?

willmunny1990 · 08-10-2011 01:19AM

face1990 wrote: »

You could still be a grandfather. I'm gay myself and I reckon I'll probably adopt in the future. The plus side is that you won't have any 'unexpected' grandchildren!

I have thought about that, but I can't help think it wouldn't be the same? I assume it's more difficult to adopt if you're gay? Sorry if I'm wrong there btw.

And I'd also worry about the potential bullying the adopted child would get for having two male parents. It's difficult to ignore that aspect.

But I do accept it would definitely be better than no grandchild.

Yellowledbetter wrote: »

With all due respect, you should
A. Be thankful to have a child
B. Not be so narrow minded
C. Not look in AH for a solution to your problem.

Aoifey! wrote: »

I'd be happy, as long as my child is happy.

Sonics2k wrote: »

Wouldn't give a flying ****.
As long as my child is happy in who they are and are leading a loving life with someone, then I'm happy as can be for them.

You can still have Grandchildren by the way >.>

That's all well and good in an ideal world, but this is reality. And an unfortunate circumstance of reality is that bullying. discrimination etc. is prevalent in modern day society.

Spread · 08-10-2011 01:19AM

I'd feel disappointed but would love him/her as a father. But, lets face it folks, the reason why all species exist is for propagation. No more, no less. Unless hermaphroditic (intersex) ........ you generally have to, er, couple with the opposite sex. Don't want to get into an argument - it's just my own take.

Jaxxy · 08-10-2011 01:21AM

willmunny1990 wrote: »

That's all well and good in an ideal world, but this is reality. And an unfortunate circumstance of reality is that bullying. discrimination etc. is prevalent in modern day society.

Yes it is reality. And in reality people are discriminated against and bullied for a very wide variety of different things. One of your responsibilities as a parent is to support your child through these experiences.

mackg · 08-10-2011 01:22AM

willmunny1990 wrote: »

I have thought about that, but I can't help think it wouldn't be the same? I assume it's more difficult to adopt if you're gay? Sorry if I'm wrong there btw.

And I'd also worry about the potential bullying the adopted child would get for having two male parents. It's difficult to ignore that aspect.

But I do accept it would definitely be better than no grandchild.

That's all well and good in an ideal world, but this is reality. And an unfortunate circumstance of reality is that bullying. discrimination etc. is prevalent in modern day society.

If you had a straight daughter and she couldn't conceive and then decided to adopt would you feel the same way?

orourkeda · 08-10-2011 01:23AM

willmunny1990 wrote: »

I have thought about that, but I can't help think it wouldn't be the same? I assume it's more difficult to adopt if you're gay? Sorry if I'm wrong there btw.

And I'd also worry about the potential bullying the adopted child would get for having two male parents. It's difficult to ignore that aspect.

But I do accept it would definitely be better than no grandchild.

That's all well and good in an ideal world, but this is reality. And an unfortunate circumstance of reality is that bullying. discrimination etc. is prevalent in modern day society.

That is one thing I'd certainly be mindful of.

Kids really can be cruel and while it shouldnt be an issue it's almost inevitable that it would be at some point.

starbelgrade · 08-10-2011 01:23AM

willmunny1990 wrote: »

Personally, and I'm slightly ashamed to say this, but I'd be very disappointed.

Disappointed in yourself that you passed the "gay gene" to your kid?

Sonics2k · 08-10-2011 01:24AM

willmunny1990 wrote: »

That's all well and good in an ideal world, but this is reality. And an unfortunate circumstance of reality is that bullying. discrimination etc. is prevalent in modern day society.

Hate to tell you this, kids will get bullied for everything.

From being Ginger, fat, skinny, short, pale, black, white, asian, a loner, a weirdo, a goth and so on.

Bullying is part of being a child.

Being a loving parent is about your child, and not their god damn sexuality which has no real impact on their personality.

3hn2givr7mx1sc · 08-10-2011 01:24AM

Have to agree with the OP, I would be slightly disappointed. I'd still cherish them and love them all the same, but there would be a twinge of disappointment.

Bannasidhe · 08-10-2011 01:24AM

face1990 wrote: »

You could still be a grandfather. I'm gay myself and I reckon I'll probably adopt in the future. The plus side is that you won't have any 'unexpected' grandchildren!

I'm gay (well, Lesbian) and have grandchildren. My parent's are delighted to be Great-Grandparents!

Sonics2k · 08-10-2011 01:25AM

orourkeda wrote: »

That is one thing I'd certainly be mindful of.

Kids really can be cruel and while it shouldnt be an issue it's almost inevitable that it would be at some point.

My mothers gay, I was raised by 2 women.

I honestly cannot remember getting bullied because of that as a kid, at least nothing bad, maybe a few comments.

I did however get bullied a **** tonne, and even beaten up, because I had an English accent.

mackg · 08-10-2011 01:26AM

starbelgrade wrote: »

Disappointed in yourself that you passed the "gay gene" to your kid?

I guess he is expecting the kid to carry the burden and repress it the way he did. :pac::pac:

starbelgrade · 08-10-2011 01:26AM

Spread wrote: »

But, lets face it folks, the reason why all species exist is for propagation. No more, no less.

I think you've got it the wrong way around.. species don't exist solely to propagate, though they do exist because they propagate.

It still doesn't mean that the members of any species who don't propagate don't serve any purpose.

humbert · 08-10-2011 01:27AM

Sonics2k wrote: »

From being Ginger, fat, skinny, short, pale, black, white, asian, a loner, a weirdo, a goth and so on.

I've never been bullied for being white or pale...

orourkeda · 08-10-2011 01:28AM

Sonics2k wrote: »

Hate to tell you this, kids will get bullied for everything.

From being Ginger, fat, skinny, short, pale, black, white, asian, a loner, a weirdo, a goth and so on.

Bullying is part of being a child.

Being a loving parent is about your child, and not their god damn sexuality which has no real impact on their personality.

Kids will get bullied for anything. This is absolutely true. Would the child of a gay couple be subjected to a more virulent of verbal abuse as a result? This question cannot be easy to answer

How would you feel if your child was gay?

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