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Adverse Reaction to chatting someone up/asking someone out
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Onthe3rdDay wrote: »Women need to learn that a guy saying hello doesn't mean that person wants to jump into bed with them. Too often you're trying to be polite and the woman (and more often her friends) think you're chatting them up.
And why do you think this happens? Because when a woman does have a nice conversation with a lad who approaches her, and then subsequently tells them that no, she doesn't want to ride him, she gets a load of abuse.
It has happened to me an insane amount of times and I've seen it a lot in Irish clubs and pubs.
That said, I'm (usually
) always polite and friendly to guys that approach me but if they assume just because I'm having conversation with them, that I want their cock, they're sadly disappointed. 0 -
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lols...I know...but I'd like to know how men would tackle this one......and it appears that they have to invent wives or phantom girlfriends to do it...
I don't think there's a need to do anything
If she wanted to chat I'd chat to her but it wouldn't go anywhere as it takes two to tango but if she blurted out something silly like she liked me and wanted to go out it'd be the "I think you're great but I only like you as a friend" lark
Honestly, I can't wait until I get to say that to someone....any day now
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JaxxYChicK wrote: »I'm not so sure that that's bad form tbh. If a randomer approached me in a bar and opened with "So, what do you do?" before a simple "Hi, how are ya?" I probably wouldn't be all that interested in talking to him either. Saying that I wouldn't be rude about it but I'd automatically assume (wrongly or otherwise) that this bloke was a bit of a boring snob.
+1
I don't think it's a very acceptable start to a conversation with a stranger. I would feel much more comfortable talking to a guy who came over and said "Hi, how are ya doing? Having a good night? [if in pub/club/at an event]" etc. and go from there, instead of being approached by a stranger and interrogated as to what it is I do for a living. None of your business is what I'm doing!!
Nah, I wouldn't be rude and I'd answer the guy, but some men just have zero social skills and I don't find talking to guys like that particularly enjoyable.0 -
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georgiecasey wrote: »what... do women approach guys often? i've never been approached in my life, gotta work for my punani
Not to us ugly fellas! Unless I had a bulging.....wallet!! :P
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JaxxYChicK wrote: »I'm not so sure that that's bad form tbh. If a randomer approached me in a bar and opened with "So, what do you do?" before a simple "Hi, how are ya?" I probably wouldn't be all that interested in talking to him either. Saying that I wouldn't be rude about it but I'd automatically assume (wrongly or otherwise) that this bloke was a bit of a boring snob.jaffacakesyum wrote: »+1
I don't think it's a very acceptable start to a conversation with a stranger. I would feel much more comfortable talking to a guy who came over and said "Hi, how are ya doing? Having a good night? [if in pub/club/at an event]" etc. and go from there, instead of being approached by a stranger and interrogated as to what it is I do for a living. None of your business is what I'm doing!!
Nah, I wouldn't be rude and I'd answer the guy, but some men just have zero social skills and I don't find talking to guys like that particularly enjoyable.
Fair enough, that question can be a bit forward, but just saying i'm not interested instead of NO!! and blanking the guy thats just childish behaviour.0 -
Hello all,
I thought this might be an interesting idea for a thread. Some girls, or possible fellas (although I'd say they're in the minority) react strangely to basic human nature.
I once tried to get off with a girl in a late bar in Limerick, was getting on great with her, dancing, I threw the head on her and she pulled away. Fair enough I thought, shot down but sure it happens. Then she starts desperately pushing her way through the crowded pub as quick as she could glancing back at me frantically with terror etched all over her face, as if I had tried to rape her.
Friend of mine in a pub in Galway approached 2 girls sitting on stools near the bar, said hello how's it going to 1 of them. Instantly, the other girl leapt off her seat and whacked my friend as hard as she could in the jaw. I thought it was the funniest story I ever heard.
So, good people of After Hours, entertain us with your jocular anecdotes of unrequited love and/or lust!
what late bar in Limerick OP? I may be able to source the problem
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previous user wrote: »Fair enough, that question can be a bit forward, but just saying i'm not interested instead of NO!! and blanking the guy thats just childish behaviour.
But saying "i'm not interested" is still rude and is assuming the guy is trying to get in your pants.
I don't know how I'd get out of a conversation with a guy who came up and asked "what do you do" without coming across rude...so I'd probably have to answer the guy and then make my excuses to leave later.
It's a shame really. I am a very friendly girl and I generally talk to most people but I hate the idea that some men have, that they're entitled to a conversation when the girl doesn't have any interest in talking to him (same goes for genders reversed).
How do you say "I'm sorry, I don't really want to talk to you" without coming across weird or rude 0 -
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eh, just say I'm not interested , it's a hell of alot better than outright blanking them.jaffacakesyum wrote: »But saying "i'm not interested" is still rude and is assuming the guy is trying to get in your pants.
I don't know how I'd get out of a conversation with a guy who came up and asked "what do you do" without coming across rude...so I'd probably have to answer the guy and then make my excuses to leave later.
It's a shame really. I am a very friendly girl and I generally talk to most people but I hate the idea that some men have, that they're entitled to a conversation when the girl doesn't have any interest in talking to him (same goes for genders reversed).
How do you say "I'm sorry, I don't really want to talk to you" without coming across weird or rude0 -
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