How do you deal with assholes in life?

LighterGuy · 10-04-2011 03:22AM

Sadly 90% (?) of the time you dont know an asshole is an asshole until you've gotten to know them. Which means there actions are going to be a bit more annoying, even hurtful than just some randomer being an ass.

as to how to deal with them?
... break away from them. The only people you should still keep around who are negitive in life is your family ... Even that can have its limits in situations. But you give your family more than what you give other people in life. thats just the way it is.

frankie101 · 10-04-2011 03:22AM

hondasam wrote: »

what ever, you reported him to make yourself feel better and not because you thought what he was doing was wrong.

look the man had his f**king reasons so i say fair play to him.
its the kind of people he just explained that have the country the way it is

.same. · 10-04-2011 03:23AM

Xplor.er wrote: »

i am one of the most civil people you could meet, but he really done some things he shouldnt have. hes the one whos known as a prick in the town.

She was gaggin for it, what could I do!!

hondasam · 10-04-2011 03:25AM

frankie101 wrote: »

look the man had his f**king reasons so i say fair play to him.
its the kind of people he just explained that have the country the way it is

your first post !

he only reported him after he annoyed him.

pragmatic1 · 10-04-2011 03:26AM

Avoid them if possible. If I have to work with them be an asshole back.

LighterGuy · 10-04-2011 03:27AM

Xplor.er wrote: »

a few years ago i fell out with a friend, he really, really anoyed me.
at the time he was on the dole and working full time so i

: i gave his name to the social welfare office and told them where he was working.
: i called the customs because he used green diesel all the time.
: told the guards that he had no insurance for his vehicle
: rang the dog warden and said his dog wasnt lisenced

i know it was a cruel thing to do but, s**t happens

There is a difference in "sh*t happens" and being a vengeful.
Lets be honest you probably didnt find anything he was doing to be an issue until he rubbed you the wrong way. The only question is what he did to encure your wrath? ... if he did something nasty, your right. sh*t happens. if he did something small or petty and you went out of your way to screw him over? yeah... you're the d*ck,

pragmatic1 · 10-04-2011 03:27AM

hondasam wrote: »

Try avoid them if possible, not always easy if you have mutual friends.

Even worse when you have mutual family members.

hondasam · 10-04-2011 03:31AM

pragmatic1 wrote: »

Even worse when you have mutual family members.

yes It can be difficult but life is to short to dwell on things. avoid them as much as possible.

strobe · 10-04-2011 03:46AM

letsallgotothe wrote: »

Whether in work or simply a soon to be ex friend whats your strategy in dealing with people who you can no longer stand to be associated with?

Personally I find that cutting off the person completely from me in every single way-physically ignoring the person in real life and blocking/ignoring them online is a blunt but effective way of deleting people from my life. This is especially useful against people who try to 'inject' themselves into you.

I like to engage with them at every viable opportunity. Assholes are interesting a lot of the time.

Basically just be as calm as a junkie sheep and talk to them as if they were a very drunk child. It can be pretty fun and informative. Really.

TheUsual · 10-04-2011 04:28AM

A S S H O L E

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=no6-vsHgHJg

howardmarks · 10-04-2011 04:43AM

eat them

superelliptic · 15-04-2011 12:13PM

woodturner wrote: »

Ok its not that I love where I work, I love what I do. The latest incident was where he came in one morning shouting "Morning Girls". Myself and my friend didn't respond and he said "Well don't talk to me you pair of cùnts"

Holy ****...:mad:

Is it an open plan office? Did others hear him say that?

Thats the kind of thing where you should take him aside and politely remind him that thats not on, otherwise you might end up having a chat with HR.

GrizzlyMan · 15-04-2011 12:15PM

As poster said earlier, lifes too short! I mostly just pitty them!

Auvers · 15-04-2011 12:23PM

Xplor.er wrote: »

i know it was a cruel thing to do but, s**t happens

hmmmmm no prizes for guessing who's the arsehole

superelliptic · 15-04-2011 12:28PM

woodturner wrote: »

Ok its not that I love where I work, I love what I do. The latest incident was where he came in one morning shouting "Morning Girls". Myself and my friend didn't respond and he said "Well don't talk to me you pair of cùnts"

Actually, you should read this:

http://www.amazon.com/Asshole-Rule-Civilized-Workplace-Surviving/dp/0446526568

kfallon · 15-04-2011 12:30PM

letsallgotothe wrote: »

Whether in work or simply a soon to be ex friend whats your strategy in dealing with people who you can no longer stand to be associated with?

Well I've been living with myself for 32 years now so I know exactly the best strategy to use :pac:

Yakult · 15-04-2011 12:43PM

Met up with an old mate recently, used to be best friends up until a year ago but he was heading down a dark path filled with drugs and crime so I thought "screw that" dont want to get remotely involved with anything he does so I slowly drifted away from him.
Met him yesterday and offered him a drive into town. On the way I stopped to go into the shop, came out and then dropped him off a few minutes later. Little did I know until last night that he had actually robbed my 50e which I had in my driver's side compartment

Dont know what I should do, not a violent person by any means but thats just taking the biscuit. Didnt think he would have done such a thing to someone who was he's best mate for 4 years.

gigawatt · 15-04-2011 12:50PM

Yakult wrote: »

Met up with an old mate recently, used to be best friends up until a year ago but he was heading down a dark path filled with drugs and crime so I thought "screw that" dont want to get remotely involved with anything he does so I slowly drifted away from him.
Met him yesterday and offered him a drive into town. On the way I stopped to go into the shop, came out and then dropped him off a few minutes later. Little did I know until last night that he had actually robbed my 50e which I had in my driver's side compartment
Dont know what I should do, not a violent person by any means but thats just taking the biscuit. Didnt think he would have done such a thing to someone who was he's best mate for 4 years.

its awful but it sounds like hes become an addict. drug addicted people will quite literally steal from their sick old granny never mind a mate. if i was you id just forget about it and be very wary of him in future,hes obviously got problems.

Spunge · 15-04-2011 12:54PM

Yakult wrote: »

Met up with an old mate recently, used to be best friends up until a year ago but he was heading down a dark path filled with drugs and crime so I thought "screw that" dont want to get remotely involved with anything he does so I slowly drifted away from him.
Met him yesterday and offered him a drive into town. On the way I stopped to go into the shop, came out and then dropped him off a few minutes later. Little did I know until last night that he had actually robbed my 50e which I had in my driver's side compartment
Dont know what I should do, not a violent person by any means but thats just taking the biscuit. Didnt think he would have done such a thing to someone who was he's best mate for 4 years.

That sucks bro, hopefully it was the fact he might be on heroin or something that made him steal it and not just coz he was a total asshole, i mean if he needs it for a fix it's at least a little more understandable.

themadchef · 15-04-2011 01:08PM

GrizzlyMan wrote: »

As poster said earlier, lifes too short! I mostly just pitty them!

Yeah me too. I kinda wonder what happen in their lives that made them that hard and heartless.

How being nasty to someone else, stranger, friend or family can somehow make them feel better about themselves.
People like this are generally so self absorbed they rarely think of the damage they might inflict, emotionally, on another human being.

Broken wing syndrome attracts ass holes like flies on honey (im having a good day, lets leave it at honey shall we

)

That being said, i'm rather partial to The dome, so what that makes me i dont know

lesserspottedchloe · 15-04-2011 01:17PM

been friends with this guy for years, I knew he was a bit of a bitch and always fighting with people but never paid much attention really. Recently I've become VERY aware of the fact that he's more than a little bit of an asshole! Out of nowhere he started to say some really nasty particularly hurtfull things to me on nights out. He waits til im on my own and is perfectly pleasent up until he starts at me(especially in front of people). I have never done or said anything to or about him to deserve this and even defended him in a few situations! I was initially very upset with this and hurt that he could get away with it as he was so sly but the best remedy is to totally cut them out of your life-no phonecalls,texts,nights out-nothing. We have mutual friends and I try not to hang out with them if he's there.I also don't talk about him or what he does to any of them-let him be the dick!.Just don't drop to their level-that's what they want as everyone thinks it's a fair fight.I feel much better since I started doing this and I'm much more happy! Being friends with manipulative freaks like this actually leaches the joy out of your life-don't give them any air and they'll soon start to look elsewhere!

HoneyRyder · 15-04-2011 01:20PM

Shoot 'em all and let God sort it out!

woodturner · 15-04-2011 09:51PM

superelliptic wrote: »

Actually, you should read this:

http://www.amazon.com/Asshole-Rule-Civilized-Workplace-Surviving/dp/0446526568

Looks like a good read. I work really hard in work trying to get our work out on time and to the workshops high standard of finish. To be walked all over and treated like crap just p's me right off. I often thought of slacking off and do less and less but it's not in my nature and I don't want the customer to suffer because he's being a douche.

alexlyons · 15-04-2011 10:04PM

was in work today and a**hole number 1 walks up.

him: "can you help me lift a few things in ten minutes"
me (knowing it would take him far less than ten minutes): sure give me a shout when your ready, ill be near by
him: rudely "just come back in ten minutes"
I pottered around near him and watched him try lift the heavy stuff as it hadn't been 10 minutes
went over after ten minutes
him: "sure its done now, you're too late"
me: "next time give me a shout as I offered"

he didn't like the way I was so friendly! good fun though

van der vart · 15-04-2011 10:45PM

Just tell them to fxxx off and walk away

Killer Pigeon · 15-04-2011 11:27PM

But I'm an asshole!
How do I deal with myself?

dj jarvis · 16-04-2011 12:17AM

i told someone straight 2 their face i just did not like them and that's why i did not ring them when i was going for scoops - best 2 be honest with people ya dont like

life is 2 short

dj jarvis · 16-04-2011 12:22AM

Yakult wrote: »

Met up with an old mate recently, used to be best friends up until a year ago but he was heading down a dark path filled with drugs and crime so I thought "screw that" dont want to get remotely involved with anything he does so I slowly drifted away from him.
Met him yesterday and offered him a drive into town. On the way I stopped to go into the shop, came out and then dropped him off a few minutes later. Little did I know until last night that he had actually robbed my 50e which I had in my driver's side compartment
Dont know what I should do, not a violent person by any means but thats just taking the biscuit. Didnt think he would have done such a thing to someone who was he's best mate for 4 years.

punch him 50 euros worth of punching , sorted

he will know why - you will get your moneys worth - dont stroke from your mates

How do you deal with assholes in life?

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