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Bridezillas
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Diddler1977 wrote: »This is pure marketing.
Websites and companies promote this idea because they know that bridezillas will choose to whatever they want to do....because they know that all of their guests will end up paying for it anyway...
My hotel are giving me a free make up in the beauty salon because I told them the price they gave me was too much, so am I a bridezilla because this will be covered in the overall price????
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Nope its not rubbish at all, if I said I was just staying at home for a party, ppl would be asking why aren't you having a hen, you have to have a hen, you can't stay at home, you have to go away.........
Some of the girls wanted me to go to Edinburgh and I said no way.
Its one night only thats it.
And there's nothing wrong with my friends
I've had all kinds of suggestions for the hen party... when I went to run with it, others said they couldn't afford it so I'm having a house party so hopefully everyone can afford it. However I cannot afford to spend more than £200 (even that's really really pushing it) so I would like a hen party, they would like to come to a hen party, the best thing for all is that I provide the venue and food and they bring the alcohol. I've been with them at every point of the decision making and have a facebook group where people suggest things and they agree or disagree. EVERYONE was delighted with this idea.
There's nothing wrong with my friends either
in fact, they're great! I love the fact that we can all be so honest about our financial situation and nobody has to get into any debt or spend too much by bearing the entire financial burden - there is a recession on after all and it's just the sensible thing to do if you ask me 0 -
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Diddler1977 wrote: »Is it just me or does anyone else notice a huge amount of Bridezillas these days??
It seems almost fashionable to become a complete "me (may) feiner" about your wedding day the second you get engaged.
Personally I blame that tv program about bridezillas.
My opinion hasn't changed....
In fact I think my feelings may be stronger on this issue
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Diddler1977 wrote: »My opinion hasn't changed....
In fact I think my feelings may be stronger on this issue
LOL
so I'm a bridezilla for suggesting what drinks people bring to a cocktail party? WOWZA!
I'm just glad I know my friends well enough
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Heineken Helen wrote: »LOL so I'm a bridezilla for suggesting what drinks people bring to a cocktail party? WOWZA!
I'm just glad I know my friends well enough
A cocktail party that YOU are hosting!!!! You should be supplying the drinks!0 -
Who said anything about hosting? I'm supplying the venueDiddler1977 wrote: »A cocktail party that YOU are hosting!!!! You should be supplying the drinks! and the soft drinks and the food
There's way too much 'etiquette' involved with stuff... that's a thing of the past in a recession. If you look at many other countries, the host would certainly NOT be expected to supply everything. My south african friend told me that at a braii they have such a thing as a dop and drop where people bring their own meat to a BBQ. That's where we're heading Diddler... otherwise there'll be more parties anywhere... or it'll just be for the rich or the indebted??? I'd rather keep the parties.:)0 -
Heineken Helen wrote: »Who said anything about hosting? I'm supplying the venue and the soft drinks and the food
There's way too much 'etiquette' involved with stuff... that's a thing of the past in a recession. If you look at many other countries, the host would certainly NOT be expected to supply everything. My south african friend told me that at a braii they have such a thing as a dop and drop where people bring their own meat to a BBQ. That's where we're heading Diddler... otherwise there'll be more parties anywhere... or it'll just be for the rich or the indebted??? I'd rather keep the parties.:)
Are you asking your guest to bring their own alcohol to the wedding too?
Or are you not hosting that too, even though you are supplying the venue and the food
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Anyhoo, back on topic, my best friends cousin got married about a month ago. My friend was her bm. Apparently she cried all the time over the smallest little detail.
She rang my friend one day crying because she had one of her dress fittings saying that the dressmakers had made a mess of the dress and it didn't fit her.
My friend was like "omg they cut your dress" :eek: then her cousin was like, sob sob "well, no sniffle sniffle they haven't cut it yet, they took it in too much".
My friend was like "em so they just have to let it back out and take it in less and it will fit"?
The cousin: "sniffle sniffle, "yeah but that's not the point, sob sob, they've RUINED My Day".
My friend was like, oh, em, okay... :rolleyes:0 -
Diddler1977 wrote: »Are you asking your guest to bring their own alcohol to the wedding too?
Or are you not hosting that too, even though you are supplying the venue and the food
The wedding and the hen party are slightly different:rolleyes:... besides at the wedding they can BUY their own drink... we don't have to supply it at all.:D0 -
Anyhoo, back on topic, my best friends cousin got married about a month ago. My friend was her bm. Apparently she cried all the time over the smallest little detail.
She rang my friend one day crying because she had one of her dress fittings saying that the dressmakers had made a mess of the dress and it didn't fit her.
My friend was like "omg they cut your dress" :eek: then her cousin was like, sob sob "well, no sniffle sniffle they haven't cut it yet, they took it in too much".
My friend was like "em so they just have to let it back out and take it in less and it will fit"?
The cousin: "sniffle sniffle, "yeah but that's not the point, sob sob, they've RUINED My Day".
My friend was like, oh, em, okay... :rolleyes:
There could well be underlying issues behind that... I know there's been once or twice that I've got upset over certain people who won't be there and it's come out at inopportune times but not the time to talk about it so it's probably seemed like I've been stupid over something small. When you get married, if there are any cracks in your past at all, it can tend to highlight it and make ya really sad. So ya take that sadness and turn it into ORGANISING! 0 -
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Diddler1977 wrote: »A new one on me.....
A Groomonster!!!!
http://www.etiquettehell.com/content/eh_wedding/bridezillas/ebridezilla.shtml
Oh I LOVE that site! It gave me such a laugh when we were planning our wedding. I was googling trying to find out wording for invitations and came across that site. The rest of the afternoon was not the most productive 0 -
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Diddler1977 wrote: »I guess that is the difference between some people.
I would never host a party and then expect guests to supply the alcohol. When I host a party I provide everything for my guests - I see that as my role as host. I don't put further costs on to my guests for a party I am giving.
I am the host - I take the hit on food, drink, venue, etc.Diddler1977 wrote: »If you can't afford it don't have it.
You just hoisted the cost on to your guests. Bad form imo
I think the point would be that if she took on the entire cost it would be an enormous amount, but if she asked/suggested people bring something the cost is divided out between a larger number of people. Also, if she'd had it in a local pub they would have been buying their own drink (while she still paid for finger food). They probably are getting more for their money (since they'll have a huge variety to choose from).
It's just a difference in style, and if it's not too bad a form to say it, a difference in the size of wallet...
Not sure myself if I'll have a hen. Personally though I'm probably going to leave it up to my sister and sister-in-law/best friend. They've already said they want to and have already begun threatening a stripper... I may have to have a talk with them about that. I might suggest the "cocktail party in own house" idea though... It sounds brill!0 -
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That is crazy & so selfish!! I am getting married this year & would not dream of asking anyone to that many events for my wedding.
I think she is concentrating more on the wedding than the marriage.
At the moment, how could anyone afford all of that. Its expensive enough getting married without throwing money away on numerous parties. A wedding is important but she needs to seriously cop on to herself.
Oh Bills wait until you see some of the replies you are going to get:
"she's probably only having all those parties to suit everyone else" 0 -
It's true Amdublin! and the thread continues in circles
I should just be a case of whoever can make the date can, if not see you at the wedding. If they can't make the wedding either, it's unfortunate. But presumably these are ppl who you see on a regular basis anyway so they'd surely be able to give you well wishes at some point. Cannot believe the idea of a 'me' party. It's cringeworthy and just immensely selfish imo0 -
Oh Bills wait until you see some of the replies you are going to get:
"she's probably only having all those parties to suit everyone else"
Well she is not suiting anyone but herself, she wants all these night because wait for it... SHE WILL ONLY GET MARRIED ONCE!! She has chosen all these nights without even consulting any of the girls, only her sisters. You know all the drama about them is actually turning me off the whole thing!0 -
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