Bobblehead Panda wrote: » That's a load of rubbish. Pressure? If someone wants a quiet hen night then they should have a quiet one. If someone wants no hen night, then they don't have to have a hen night. If people feel pressured into doing something that they do not want to do by their friends, then they need to look at what kind of friends they have.
Diddler1977 wrote: » This is pure marketing. Websites and companies promote this idea because they know that bridezillas will choose to whatever they want to do....because they know that all of their guests will end up paying for it anyway...
SSFG wrote: » My hotel are giving me a free make up in the beauty salon because I told them the price they gave me was too much, so am I a bridezilla because this will be covered in the overall price????
SSFG wrote: » @Heineken Helen, maybe we should just cancel the weddings altogether if we are putting cost onto guests for travelling , hotels, outfits, drinks etc...:D
SSFG wrote: » Nope its not rubbish at all, if I said I was just staying at home for a party, ppl would be asking why aren't you having a hen, you have to have a hen, you can't stay at home, you have to go away......... Some of the girls wanted me to go to Edinburgh and I said no way. Its one night only thats it. And there's nothing wrong with my friends
Diddler1977 wrote: » Is it just me or does anyone else notice a huge amount of Bridezillas these days?? It seems almost fashionable to become a complete "me (may) feiner" about your wedding day the second you get engaged. Personally I blame that tv program about bridezillas.
Diddler1977 wrote: » My opinion hasn't changed.... In fact I think my feelings may be stronger on this issue
Heineken Helen wrote: » LOL so I'm a bridezilla for suggesting what drinks people bring to a cocktail party? WOWZA! I'm just glad I know my friends well enough
Diddler1977 wrote: » A cocktail party that YOU are hosting!!!! You should be supplying the drinks!
Heineken Helen wrote: » Who said anything about hosting? I'm supplying the venue and the soft drinks and the food There's way too much 'etiquette' involved with stuff... that's a thing of the past in a recession. If you look at many other countries, the host would certainly NOT be expected to supply everything. My south african friend told me that at a braii they have such a thing as a dop and drop where people bring their own meat to a BBQ. That's where we're heading Diddler... otherwise there'll be more parties anywhere... or it'll just be for the rich or the indebted??? I'd rather keep the parties.:)
Diddler1977 wrote: » Are you asking your guest to bring their own alcohol to the wedding too? Or are you not hosting that too, even though you are supplying the venue and the food
amdublin wrote: » Anyhoo, back on topic, my best friends cousin got married about a month ago. My friend was her bm. Apparently she cried all the time over the smallest little detail. She rang my friend one day crying because she had one of her dress fittings saying that the dressmakers had made a mess of the dress and it didn't fit her. My friend was like "omg they cut your dress" :eek: then her cousin was like, sob sob "well, no sniffle sniffle they haven't cut it yet, they took it in too much". My friend was like "em so they just have to let it back out and take it in less and it will fit"? The cousin: "sniffle sniffle, "yeah but that's not the point, sob sob, they've RUINED My Day". My friend was like, oh, em, okay... :rolleyes:
Heineken Helen wrote: » besides at the wedding they can BUY their own drink... we don't have to supply it at all.:D
Diddler1977 wrote: » Lucky for your guests......
Toots* wrote: » Guys stop the sniping, if posters can't converse civilly I'll lock the thread.
Diddler1977 wrote: » A new one on me..... A Groomonster!!!!http://www.etiquettehell.com/content/eh_wedding/bridezillas/ebridezilla.shtml
Cellygirl wrote: » I've never heard of a 'Me' party before. But it turns out that's what I'm having! I don't drink so didn't want a traditional hen and didn't want to go away as it's just huge expense and I couldn't afford it myself let alone expect others to. So I'm having a bridal shower/hen night at home instead. In my own house. My sisters are organising it for me. Basically lots of food, lots of drink, music, silly games (dressing me up in a toilet paper wedding dress anyone?!) bit of dancing, maybe some games on the Wii and a bit of craic. My sisters are paying for everything, I'm going to have to find a way to slip something into their handbags, cos they're refusing point blank to talk to me about money. All the food and wine and champagne is costing them a fortune. But that's another matter! I'm not asking anyone to bring a gift though, it's a no gift party. Instead my sisters have asked everyone to write out their favourite recipe and bring that with them. All the recipes will then be put together in a 'book' for me and I'll start married life with a brill recipe book! I can't wait for it! I think it'll be a great night and all it'll cost guests will be their taxi home.
Diddler1977 wrote: » I guess that is the difference between some people. I would never host a party and then expect guests to supply the alcohol. When I host a party I provide everything for my guests - I see that as my role as host. I don't put further costs on to my guests for a party I am giving. I am the host - I take the hit on food, drink, venue, etc.
Diddler1977 wrote: » If you can't afford it don't have it. You just hoisted the cost on to your guests. Bad form imo
Shellygoose wrote: » i have a friend getting married this Sept. one of my closest friends is her bridesmaid and her head is wreaked already!! not only is she having a hen party (weekend away) and a "me" party, but she is also having a mini-hen in our town for her mother and grooms mother as they dont want to go on the "Proper" hen. Then herself and the groom decided they would like....wait for it....a Sten party - a mix of a stag and a hen. They want all the couples to travel to Killarney (we are in East Cork) for a nite away. So between now and Sept im supposed to attend 2 hen parties, a me party and a sten party. Plus the expense of getting a present, outfit for wedding and overnight accomodation the night of the wedding plus drinking money. There will probably be something on the day after the wedding too. I've already declined the Sten party....
Cadyboo wrote: » A work friend getting married abroad. Only invited two of us from work, am fairly close to her so want to go. Its costing us 1400 to go. On top of that is spending money, present for the couple, clothes etc. (Maybe 1500) She is having a hen up the country in June,For TWO nights.(At least 250e to 300e) Also having a night in Cork for those that cant make the Proper hen.(80 to 100e) Her sisters are then planning 'A ME' party for her, (present for her, and my drink) Her mam is having a kitchen party/neighbours night (my drink). And she is having a 'cocktail night for the girls' and the boys will have one too when we are abroad. And she expects us to attend them all. Myself and the other girl from work had words with her because that ridiculous. Attending her wedding and the parties will set us as a couple back at about 4000 if we are to do everything she wants.. I told her I will go for one night up the country, and she is not getting a pressie for 'me' as I am giving her a gift for her wedding.
bills wrote: » That is crazy & so selfish!! I am getting married this year & would not dream of asking anyone to that many events for my wedding. I think she is concentrating more on the wedding than the marriage. At the moment, how could anyone afford all of that. Its expensive enough getting married without throwing money away on numerous parties. A wedding is important but she needs to seriously cop on to herself.
amdublin wrote: » Oh Bills wait until you see some of the replies you are going to get: "she's probably only having all those parties to suit everyone else"
Martina05 wrote: » I'm stressed out just from reading the thread, so much fuss & expense for the lead-up to someone else's wedding. I'm having a very small wedding this year, but most of the guests are either redundant (As I am myself now) or struggling to make ends meet. I've no intention of having a big fussy hen night, & I'm telling people on the invites that we don't want any presents. I want people to enjoy themselves & look forward to it, not stress about it!
