I found out my brother is gay and I am should I try and be straight?

Star Bingo · 31-12-2010 05:54AM

lonelyguy wrote: »

This is what happened.
Well basically My brother was home for x-mas about a week be4 x-mas day and was staying in the spare room. I keep books and old note copies for school in there. So basically. I was doing my exams and wanted to grab a few copied before I went into school so I went into the room and grabbed the copies I thought were mine. When I got into school I opened one of the copies and the first words that popped out at me was ''I told him I was gay''. I flicked to another page and and I found a list of people who he had came out to and was planning to and my family is next. I know now my parents won't really want him to be gay at all.
I know now that since my brother will prob come out in the next few weeks or so and and my parents will be looking at me for grand kids and to keep on the family name. I actually feel like I have to get married to a woman and have kids to make them happy because If they knew that they created two gay kids they would feel like failures and I don't want that because I really love my them and they mean so much to me.
I was trying to accept my sexuality but now I feel like I have to stop and be straight!
What should I do?
Be honest I don't really mind what ye say and I'm posting here in after hours because I wanted to get more opinions than just jump around and be gay!
!

well, first you'll have to get that monkey off your back. n i'm not referring to your brother just lose the whole gay complex. that way you might actually want to marry a woman instead of having to? n if you can flick a bean like yer such a fcuking quaint dab hand flicking through em pages; you're already at an advantage. then you might wanna bloke up. grab a few vbs; get out on the range n shoot a few billy cans. if just to take yer mind off that other cock back home

n you & your brother can jump around and be gay all you like; but yer no paddy & jimmy.

Killer Pigeon · 31-12-2010 05:59AM

And further to that OP,

Same-sex couples will probably be allowed to marry in the next 5 years anyway. And you could have kids in your name and possibly with your own DNA if you do that whole IVF or cloning thing. There could be wonders in medical science in the next 10-20 years too. Also, don't get married just to pass on the family name, etc.. Do it only if you love the person, man or woman. Personally I totally disagree with marriage in general, I'd sooner agree with polygamous marriage than a marriage just between two.

halpin17 · 31-12-2010 06:07AM

Dude you will just end up badly hurting a wife in the future if you pretend to be straight and you will definitely mess up any possible kids life as eventually you will realise you should have just been who you are and be gay

TeddyTedson · 31-12-2010 06:12AM

halpin17 wrote: »

Dude you will just end up badly hurting a wife in the future if you pretend to be straight and you will definitely mess up any possible kids life as eventually you will realise you should have just been who you are and be gay

Also if you're gay you wouldnt find it easy to get it up with a woman. You'd be good at fashion though.

Paully D · 31-12-2010 06:16AM

Up the bum no harm done.

Killer Pigeon · 31-12-2010 06:17AM

lonelyguy wrote: »

Hi! I an 18 year old guy and I am really lost. My brother is 29.
This is what happened.
Well basically My brother was home for x-mas about a week be4 x-mas day and was staying in the spare room. I keep books and old note copies for school in there. So basically. I was doing my exams and wanted to grab a few copied before I went into school so I went into the room and grabbed the copies I thought were mine. When I got into school I opened one of the copies and the first words that popped out at me was ''I told him I was gay''. I flicked to another page and and I found a list of people who he had came out to and was planning to and my family is next. I know now my parents won't really want him to be gay at all.
I know now that since my brother will prob come out in the next few weeks or so and and my parents will be looking at me for grand kids and to keep on the family name. I actually feel like I have to get married to a woman and have kids to make them happy because If they knew that they created two gay kids they would feel like failures and I don't want that because I really love my them and they mean so much to me.
I was trying to accept my sexuality but now I feel like I have to stop and be straight!
What should I do?
Be honest I don't really mind what ye say and I'm posting here in after hours because I wanted to get more opinions than just jumped around and be gay!
Please don't lock the thread I just want to see what people say from after hours!

Take advise from this brave and honest man;

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NG4KBdiYNKA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AhIIXbrCu58

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dMAM4ob4ZXI

OutlawPete · 31-12-2010 06:38AM

Fuck sake man, it's not 1993!

Springsteen went to to all the trouble of writing a song to help obliterate homophobia and more precisely how it effect the how HIV and AIDs victims and how they were being treated as a direct result of that.

Now you are asking what you should do, 17 years later??

Stop pretending to be something you're not for a start.

JupiterKid · 31-12-2010 06:41AM

OP - Living a lie is one of the most self- destructive things anyone can do.

Second, why do you feel the need to post this not just on boards.ie, but also on Gaire and many other Internet forums? You know the answer to your question so why keep putting thus thread up again and again and again?

Or are you trolling and looking for a laugh?

TeddyTedson · 31-12-2010 06:45AM

why are people obsessed with everything gay nowadays?

Killer Pigeon · 31-12-2010 06:47AM

TeddyTedson wrote: »

why are people obsessed with everything gay nowadays?

Apparently it feels good I suppose, must try it sometime, nothing wrong with experimenting.

irelandspurs · 31-12-2010 07:25AM

I'd chop both your knobs off if you were my sons

irelandspurs · 31-12-2010 07:29AM

halpin17 wrote: »

Dude you will just end up badly hurting a wife in the future if you pretend to be straight and you will definitely mess up any possible kids life as eventually you will realise you should have just been who you are and be gay

Yeah because he'll be hammering her up the arse unless she's into that.:)

TeddyTedson · 31-12-2010 07:29AM

irelandspurs wrote: »

I'd chop both your knobs off if you were my sons

and throw their bodies in a suitcase in a canal?:eek:

mikemac · 31-12-2010 07:30AM

OP, you are a timewaster!

You started this in Personal Issues forum and the LGBT forum just this week and I gave good advice in both!

Not the first time you've done this
You posted on your father's driving licence about four times now and you were told not by me:

Well fúcking post the update in the original thread then - don't keep starting new ones! Is that so hard to understand?

You got over 60 replies in motor forum on just one thread.

OP, people in Personal Issues and well anywhere on boards give up their time to give advice

You are abusing it, get off from boards.ie, complete time-waster :rolleyes:

TeddyTedson · 31-12-2010 07:34AM

feelingstressed wrote: »

OP, you are a timewaster!

You started this in Personal Issues forum and the LGBT forum just this week and I gave good advice in both!

Not the first time you've done this
You posted on your father's driving licence about four times now and you were told not by me:

You got over 60 replies in motor forum on just one thread.

OP, people in Personal Issues and well anywhere on boards give up their time to give advice

You are abusing it, get off from boards.ie, complete time-waster :rolleyes:

that was a bit mean. maybe the ope is only young?

irelandspurs · 31-12-2010 07:37AM

Maybe his ballbag keeps hitting off his keyboard boards while splitting his brother open and keeps posting same thing.

mikemac · 31-12-2010 07:38AM

TeddyTedson wrote: »

that was a bit mean. maybe the ope is only young?

I gave damn good advice to this word for word exact same thread in LGBT forum.
And the OP got even more advice in Personal Issues forum, lot of replies.
There is no messing in PI forum, posters take time to give good advice so to abuse it downright low

When the OP's father was drinking driving, the OP got over 60 replies in motors forum and started the thread four times since last summer

Me, I don't like timewasters :mad:

31-12-2010 07:41AM

For goodness' sake OP, posting in AH to get more opinions is akin to yelling out your problems to a crowded cafe, or at a fast food counter. Yes it's a big problem you need help with, but there's LGBT and Personal Issue forums to try.

mikemac · 31-12-2010 07:46AM

Deleted User wrote: »

Yes it's a big problem you need help with, but there's LGBT and Personal Issue forums to try.

The OP posted there already, I replied to both with advice

To post a third time and in After Hours of all places is just attention seeking from the OP

OutlawPete · 31-12-2010 07:47AM

Deleted User wrote: »

For goodness' sake OP, posting in AH to get more opinions is akin to yelling out your problems to a crowded cafe, or at a fast food counter. Yes it's a big problem you need help with, but there's LGBT and Personal Issue forums to try.

Are you trying to suggest that After Hours is not the place for advice on matters that shape one's life and that life skills cannot be garnered from being amongst it's regular frequenters?

Why I resemble such scurrilous accusations and out forth the following videos as a means of a defense and evidence of how I .. ah .. mm .. eh, just watch it:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TNzFLwsFiOM

31-12-2010 07:51AM

I would, but i'm on a phone. Can't be arsed to go to the nearby web kiosk to view it.

Gummy Panda · 31-12-2010 10:05AM

OP live a lie. You know its the right thing to do.

/trollface

spurious · 31-12-2010 10:11AM

Dean820 wrote: »

Wait...so both sons are gay?

That's not as unusual as many here (AH) probably think.
I know a number of 'the gayers' who have a gay or lesbian sibling.

wyndham · 31-12-2010 10:40AM

spurious wrote: »

That's not as unusual as many here (AH) probably think.
I know a number of 'the gayers' who have a gay or lesbian sibling.

I think maybe when they are put in the bath together as babies/infants the ghey is transmitted and they all catch it.

fakearms123 · 31-12-2010 10:42AM

Is your brother hot? Does he want to get AIDS with me, all up in our asses? If so tell him to give me a call on 1800 201187, its the number for HIV Testing Centre, Baggot Street Clinic. The reason I give him this number is because thats where I'll be after he rogers my anal cavity so much I'll get the AIDS.

Gummy Panda · 31-12-2010 10:45AM

fakearms123 wrote: »

Is your brother hot? Does he want to get AIDS with me, all up in our asses? If so tell him to give me a call on 1800 201187, its the number for HIV Testing Centre, Baggot Street Clinic. The reason I give him this number is because thats where I'll be after he rogers my anal cavity so much I'll get the AIDS.

But do you eat da poo poo?

fakearms123 · 31-12-2010 11:01AM

Gummy Panda wrote: »

But do you eat da poo poo?

Only in prison

Pherekydes · 31-12-2010 11:37AM

Say the odds of someone being gay are 20 to 1. What are the odds of two brothers being gay?

MyKeyG · 31-12-2010 11:44AM

ronnie3585 wrote: »

Mount your brother. In front of your parents. That'll learn them.

MAKE HIM SQUEEL LIKE A PIG!!!

AntiMatter · 31-12-2010 11:57AM

Pherekydes wrote: »

Say the odds of someone being gay are 20 to 1. What are the odds of two brothers being gay?

20 + 1 = 21

21 x 21 = 441 - 1 = 440

440 to one.

I found out my brother is gay and I am should I try and be straight?

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