I found out my brother is gay and I am should I try and be straight?

lonelyguy

Hi! I an 18 year old guy and I am really lost. My brother is 29.
This is what happened.
Well basically My brother was home for x-mas about a week be4 x-mas day and was staying in the spare room. I keep books and old note copies for school in there. So basically. I was doing my exams and wanted to grab a few copied before I went into school so I went into the room and grabbed the copies I thought were mine. When I got into school I opened one of the copies and the first words that popped out at me was ''I told him I was gay''. I flicked to another page and and I found a list of people who he had came out to and was planning to and my family is next. I know now my parents won't really want him to be gay at all.
I know now that since my brother will prob come out in the next few weeks or so and and my parents will be looking at me for grand kids and to keep on the family name. I actually feel like I have to get married to a woman and have kids to make them happy because If they knew that they created two gay kids they would feel like failures and I don't want that because I really love my them and they mean so much to me.
I was trying to accept my sexuality but now I feel like I have to stop and be straight!
What should I do?
Be honest I don't really mind what ye say and I'm posting here in after hours because I wanted to get more opinions than just jumped around and be gay!
Please don't lock the thread I just want to see what people say from after hours!

TeddyTedson

I wouldn't worry about it

Killer Pigeon

You've already posted like a billion of these threads before. You posted like an identical thread on AH yesterday and it was locked.

I know it's an awkward situation you're in but how many bloody opinions do you need? You've already got a ton in the other threads you've posted in other forums. I also believe you have a history of double posting threads, like that one about your father not having a drivers' license.

IBTL

(Also, I'm not intentionally trying to act all high and mighty but seriously ...)

ronnie3585

Mount your brother. In front of your parents. That'll learn them.

Irishpimpdude

Haha u like men!

banquo

That is so gay.

entropi

Exact same thread is in PI right now

Get back under your bridge...

TeddyTedson

its the 90's. people dont care about gays anymore. its bankers we hate now. makes ya wonder who'll be next..

lonelyguy

I posted it here because I wanted views from people who weren't going to tell me to run around and be happy. I just want ye to be honest!

Irishpimpdude

We will all make fun of ya for being gay, move back to PI you will like it more there.

Dean820

Wait...so both sons are gay?

RichieC

lonelyguy wrote: »

I posted it here because I wanted views from people who weren't going to tell me to run around and be happy. I just want ye to be honest!

If you like banging men you like banging men, your parents will get over it, sure you can adopt babies these days!

lonelyguy

Irishpimpdude wrote: »

We will all make fun of ya for being gay, move back to PI you will like it more there.

I honestly have no problem with that!!!

Einhard

TeddyTedson wrote: »

its the 90's. people dont care about gays anymore. its bankers we hate now. makes ya wonder who'll be next..

Gay bankers obviously.

Killer Pigeon

lonelyguy wrote: »

I posted it here because I wanted views from people who weren't going to tell me to run around and be happy. I just want ye to be honest!

I'm not going to lie, most people (not all obviously) on boards are fairly liberal minded so you're not going to get much differing opinions unless you go to the Christianity forum or Islamic forum.

Also, many people on AH only post sarcastic opinions which don't really reflect their true opinions.

Just forget about everything and enjoy the rest of the Christmas and New Years.

TeddyTedson

gays are good at shopping and dancing and that kinda thing.

Oranage2

Have you got the AIDs virus?

Irishpimpdude

Oranage2 wrote: »

Have you got the AIDs virus?

No but Youre ma does

TeddyTedson

Oranage2 wrote: »

Have you got the AIDs virus?

no he's got the gay virus:pac::pac:

Balfie

Simple.. Buy a teddy bear... and cuddle and tell it your feelings... Ya will get a better answer..

TeddyTedson

Balfie wrote: »

Simple.. Buy a teddy bear... and cuddle and tell it your feelings... Ya will get a better answer..

I'm not for sale...

lonelyguy

TeddyTedson wrote: »

no he's got the gay virus:pac::pac:

I know I do and so does my brother and I know of one cousin with it and I'm really suspicious of two of my other cousins!

Sea Sharp

I can recall reading a thread very similar to this on boards.ie before....

Irishpimpdude

lonelyguy wrote: »

I know I do and so does my brother and I know of one cousin with it and I'm really suspicious of two of my other cousins!

Did he tell you that in his gay diary?

TeddyTedson

lonelyguy wrote: »

I know I do and so does my brother and I know of one cousin with it and I'm really suspicious of two of my other cousins!

there's churches in the states that can cure you if you really want. think its big money though.

cuppa

your brother was gay first,maybe your related

Killer Pigeon

lonelyguy wrote: »

I posted it here because I wanted views from people who weren't going to tell me to run around and be happy. I just want ye to be honest!

Also, if any of the neo-cons come on this, just pay no attention to them. Can you honestly image the amount of strain that you will be put under, both psychologically and socially, if you decided not to 'come out' and continue a straight lifestyle to continue the family name just because your brother is gay too? Imagine if you married a girl who you had no real feeling for (and you most definitely won't). Imagine you decide to come out to her 30-40 years from now and say that you never really loved her and you were just doing it to please your parents? Could you imagine how hurt and betrayed she would feel? You'll be damaging another persons life! It would be a selfish thing to do. TBH, who cares what your parents think, they can't change you, they have to live and let live, they have to accept it and so do you. Coming out is the best opinion for you and live the life the way you want to live it or you could die a very depressed man who regretted his life, which might even lead to suicide. You only live once.

COME OUT OF THE CLOSET AND BE FREE!

Einhard

lonelyguy wrote: »

I know I do and so does my brother and I know of one cousin with it and I'm really suspicious of two of my other cousins!

With so many people in your family that are gay, it's quite an acievement that any of you were born in the first place!!

Also, I had never realised that trolls could catch the ghey. Explains why it was the Billy as opposed to the Nanny Goats Gruff though.

Oranage2

Killer Pigeon wrote: »

Also, if any of the neo-cons come on this, just pay no attention to them. Can you honestly image the amount of strain that you will be put under, both psychologically and socially, if you decided not to 'come out' and continue a straight lifestyle to continue the family name just because your brother is gay too? Imagine if you married a girl who you had no real feeling for (and you most definitely won't). Imagine you decide to come out to her 30-40 years from now and say that you never really loved her and you were just doing it to please your parents? Could you imagine how hurt and betrayed she would feel? You'll be damaging another persons life! It would be a selfish thing to do. TBH, who cares what your parents think, they can't change you, they have to live and let live, they have to accept it and so do you. Coming out is the best opinion for you and live the life the way you want to live it or you could die a very depressed man who regretted his life. You only live once.

I disagree with pretty much everything you say - it's his duty to have a kid to keep his family name alive also if he was to marry, he could live a perfectly happy life like a lot of gay men who married a felame have had, and I've heard scientifically that marrying a woman for over 5 years and having a kid will actually turn you straight.

macquarie

That Inception is a great movie eh :cool:

Killer Pigeon

Oranage2 wrote: »

I disagree with pretty much everything you say - it's his duty to have a kid to keep his family name alive also if he was to marry, he could live a perfectly happy life like a lot of gay men who married a felame have had, and I've heard scientifically that marrying a woman for over 5 years and having a kid will actually turn you straight.

Troll keep trolling.

Star Bingo

lonelyguy wrote: »

This is what happened.
Well basically My brother was home for x-mas about a week be4 x-mas day and was staying in the spare room. I keep books and old note copies for school in there. So basically. I was doing my exams and wanted to grab a few copied before I went into school so I went into the room and grabbed the copies I thought were mine. When I got into school I opened one of the copies and the first words that popped out at me was ''I told him I was gay''. I flicked to another page and and I found a list of people who he had came out to and was planning to and my family is next. I know now my parents won't really want him to be gay at all.
I know now that since my brother will prob come out in the next few weeks or so and and my parents will be looking at me for grand kids and to keep on the family name. I actually feel like I have to get married to a woman and have kids to make them happy because If they knew that they created two gay kids they would feel like failures and I don't want that because I really love my them and they mean so much to me.
I was trying to accept my sexuality but now I feel like I have to stop and be straight!
What should I do?
Be honest I don't really mind what ye say and I'm posting here in after hours because I wanted to get more opinions than just jump around and be gay!
!

well, first you'll have to get that monkey off your back. n i'm not referring to your brother just lose the whole gay complex. that way you might actually want to marry a woman instead of having to? n if you can flick a bean like yer such a fcuking quaint dab hand flicking through em pages; you're already at an advantage. then you might wanna bloke up. grab a few vbs; get out on the range n shoot a few billy cans. if just to take yer mind off that other cock back home

n you & your brother can jump around and be gay all you like; but yer no paddy & jimmy.

Killer Pigeon

And further to that OP,

Same-sex couples will probably be allowed to marry in the next 5 years anyway. And you could have kids in your name and possibly with your own DNA if you do that whole IVF or cloning thing. There could be wonders in medical science in the next 10-20 years too. Also, don't get married just to pass on the family name, etc.. Do it only if you love the person, man or woman. Personally I totally disagree with marriage in general, I'd sooner agree with polygamous marriage than a marriage just between two.

halpin17

Dude you will just end up badly hurting a wife in the future if you pretend to be straight and you will definitely mess up any possible kids life as eventually you will realise you should have just been who you are and be gay

TeddyTedson

halpin17 wrote: »

Dude you will just end up badly hurting a wife in the future if you pretend to be straight and you will definitely mess up any possible kids life as eventually you will realise you should have just been who you are and be gay

Also if you're gay you wouldnt find it easy to get it up with a woman. You'd be good at fashion though.

Paully D

Up the bum no harm done.

Killer Pigeon

lonelyguy wrote: »

Hi! I an 18 year old guy and I am really lost. My brother is 29.
This is what happened.
Well basically My brother was home for x-mas about a week be4 x-mas day and was staying in the spare room. I keep books and old note copies for school in there. So basically. I was doing my exams and wanted to grab a few copied before I went into school so I went into the room and grabbed the copies I thought were mine. When I got into school I opened one of the copies and the first words that popped out at me was ''I told him I was gay''. I flicked to another page and and I found a list of people who he had came out to and was planning to and my family is next. I know now my parents won't really want him to be gay at all.
I know now that since my brother will prob come out in the next few weeks or so and and my parents will be looking at me for grand kids and to keep on the family name. I actually feel like I have to get married to a woman and have kids to make them happy because If they knew that they created two gay kids they would feel like failures and I don't want that because I really love my them and they mean so much to me.
I was trying to accept my sexuality but now I feel like I have to stop and be straight!
What should I do?
Be honest I don't really mind what ye say and I'm posting here in after hours because I wanted to get more opinions than just jumped around and be gay!
Please don't lock the thread I just want to see what people say from after hours!

Take advise from this brave and honest man;

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NG4KBdiYNKA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AhIIXbrCu58

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dMAM4ob4ZXI

OutlawPete

Fuck sake man, it's not 1993!

Springsteen went to to all the trouble of writing a song to help obliterate homophobia and more precisely how it effect the how HIV and AIDs victims and how they were being treated as a direct result of that.

Now you are asking what you should do, 17 years later??

Stop pretending to be something you're not for a start.

JupiterKid

OP - Living a lie is one of the most self- destructive things anyone can do.

Second, why do you feel the need to post this not just on boards.ie, but also on Gaire and many other Internet forums? You know the answer to your question so why keep putting thus thread up again and again and again?

Or are you trolling and looking for a laugh?

TeddyTedson

why are people obsessed with everything gay nowadays?

Killer Pigeon

TeddyTedson wrote: »

why are people obsessed with everything gay nowadays?

Apparently it feels good I suppose, must try it sometime, nothing wrong with experimenting.

irelandspurs

I'd chop both your knobs off if you were my sons

irelandspurs

halpin17 wrote: »

Dude you will just end up badly hurting a wife in the future if you pretend to be straight and you will definitely mess up any possible kids life as eventually you will realise you should have just been who you are and be gay

Yeah because he'll be hammering her up the arse unless she's into that.:)

TeddyTedson

irelandspurs wrote: »

I'd chop both your knobs off if you were my sons

and throw their bodies in a suitcase in a canal?:eek:

mikemac

OP, you are a timewaster!

You started this in Personal Issues forum and the LGBT forum just this week and I gave good advice in both!

Not the first time you've done this
You posted on your father's driving licence about four times now and you were told not by me:

Well fúcking post the update in the original thread then - don't keep starting new ones! Is that so hard to understand?

You got over 60 replies in motor forum on just one thread.

OP, people in Personal Issues and well anywhere on boards give up their time to give advice

You are abusing it, get off from boards.ie, complete time-waster :rolleyes:

TeddyTedson

feelingstressed wrote: »

OP, you are a timewaster!

You started this in Personal Issues forum and the LGBT forum just this week and I gave good advice in both!

Not the first time you've done this
You posted on your father's driving licence about four times now and you were told not by me:

You got over 60 replies in motor forum on just one thread.

OP, people in Personal Issues and well anywhere on boards give up their time to give advice

You are abusing it, get off from boards.ie, complete time-waster :rolleyes:

that was a bit mean. maybe the ope is only young?

irelandspurs

Maybe his ballbag keeps hitting off his keyboard boards while splitting his brother open and keeps posting same thing.

mikemac

TeddyTedson wrote: »

that was a bit mean. maybe the ope is only young?

I gave damn good advice to this word for word exact same thread in LGBT forum.
And the OP got even more advice in Personal Issues forum, lot of replies.
There is no messing in PI forum, posters take time to give good advice so to abuse it downright low

When the OP's father was drinking driving, the OP got over 60 replies in motors forum and started the thread four times since last summer

Me, I don't like timewasters :mad:

For goodness' sake OP, posting in AH to get more opinions is akin to yelling out your problems to a crowded cafe, or at a fast food counter. Yes it's a big problem you need help with, but there's LGBT and Personal Issue forums to try.

mikemac

Deleted User wrote: »

Yes it's a big problem you need help with, but there's LGBT and Personal Issue forums to try.

The OP posted there already, I replied to both with advice

To post a third time and in After Hours of all places is just attention seeking from the OP

OutlawPete

Deleted User wrote: »

For goodness' sake OP, posting in AH to get more opinions is akin to yelling out your problems to a crowded cafe, or at a fast food counter. Yes it's a big problem you need help with, but there's LGBT and Personal Issue forums to try.

Are you trying to suggest that After Hours is not the place for advice on matters that shape one's life and that life skills cannot be garnered from being amongst it's regular frequenters?

Why I resemble such scurrilous accusations and out forth the following videos as a means of a defense and evidence of how I .. ah .. mm .. eh, just watch it:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TNzFLwsFiOM