At What Age Is It Right To Tell A Child About "Sex"

sam34 · 29-04-2010 05:34PM

this thread got me thinking about my mother's woeful attempts at sex education...

despite having been told what periods were, she explained it so badly that i had no idea what was happening the time mine first started

but i think the following two gems take the biscuit:

re sex "a mammy and daddy put the parts of them that are different together and that makes a baby"

and....

re condoms "they're something the daddy wears when he and the mammy are trying to make a baby so that the baby cant be made"

the mind boggles

i'm not quite sure how i manage to have a normal sex life after all that

oh wait...

Helix · 29-04-2010 06:13PM

me_right_one wrote: »

Hey whats your fcukin problem? Of course I'm for real. Did YOU know everything about sex at 14? Maybe you did, but not every kid does. And the reason this information is kept controlled is nothing to do with modesty:rolleyes:, its about being mature enough to know how to handle it. would you let a 14 year old drive a car? FFS

if you raise a child by not having anything as taboo with them, and answering their questions, theyre going to be a hell of a lot mature about things like sex than kids

youre being VERY naieve if you think that kids at 14 dont know about sex. at 14 kids are in second or third year of secondary school. i doubt there are very many kids who make it as far as 6th class without having a bit of knowledge about sex

and knowing the facts about sex doesnt mean kids are going to be riding. thats a pathetically backwards viewpoint

OutlawPete · 29-04-2010 06:17PM

Helix wrote: »

if you raise a child by not having anything as taboo with them, and answering their questions, theyre going to be a hell of a lot mature about things like sex ..

What, and have After Hours empty? :eek:

me_right_one · 29-04-2010 06:51PM

Helix wrote: »

youre being VERY naieve if you think that kids at 14 dont know about sex. at 14 kids are in second or third year of secondary school. i doubt there are very many kids who make it as far as 6th class without having a bit of knowledge about sex

Hang on a second, I didnt say kids dont know anything at 14. THIS is what I said:

me_right_one wrote: »

When puberty is in full swing, 14-15 ish. That way all the bits and pieces they learned from school will start to make sense.

The OP asked at what age should his friend TELL their child. I agree they should be told when they ask. But, obviously the OP's friends' child hasn't asked yet. I'm saying, if they dont know by 14, sit them down and let them know everything. That way at least they have enough knowledge about sex to make mature choices for themselves. I even used driving a car as an example. Several posters said they practiced in fields. ie. NONE of them went out around the roads trying to drive like a pro at age 14.

Helix wrote: »

and knowing the facts about sex doesnt mean kids are going to be riding. thats a pathetically backwards viewpoint

Dunno where you got that from. In future read all posts. It'll help save you making naive, pathetically backward assumptions.

Indubitable · 29-04-2010 10:44PM

When they start watching porn, duh

Sulmac · 29-04-2010 10:46PM

quicklickpaddy wrote: »

I hesitantly clicked on that expecting the Blue Waffle... Phew

That'd be one way to instil abstinence into them, anyway.

brummytom · 29-04-2010 10:49PM

Motley Crue wrote: »

and looking back I didn't need to know at 11 what my penis did other then I used it to go to the toliet.

You didn't know about sex when you were 11?!

Chuchoter · 29-04-2010 10:55PM

All of this needs to be done in school and at home. You should know very basic stuff at 8, as I think most 11 or 12 year olds know what people think 15/16 year olds know.As in an 8 year old should know nothing that your swimsuit covers should be touched by anyone but you. I think that periods/sex and so on should be taught at 10 and contraceptives/consequences of sex at 12. After that I think they should cover emotions/good relationships and bad relationships and at 2nd or 3rd year they need to get into attitudes to sexuality ie gay and lesbian people. It would prevent a hell of a lot of bullying. Its just naive and stupid to say it ruins childhood, innocence died a long time ago. When I was doing my work experience in 1st class/ senior infants, I was called a slut, whore so on and so forth.

4zn76tysfajdxp · 29-04-2010 11:19PM

Cheap Thrills! wrote: »

I knew everything at 7.

Wow, everything? Even Dutch ruddering? Tea-bagging? Bagpiping?

Cheap Thrills! · 29-04-2010 11:39PM

Melissa Most Wishbone wrote: »

Wow, everything? Even Dutch ruddering? Tea-bagging? Bagpiping?

I invented that stuff. Especially the bag ruddering.

Tail Wagger · 29-04-2010 11:58PM

Motley Crue wrote: »

I got asked this question by a friend with children the other day. Wondering at what age he should tell his children about sex, and more importantly, the role sex plays - both biologically and the link with romance. If a child see's sex in a clinical way, without knowing what it is, he could think Dad is hurting Mom. On the other hand, another work friend had their child taught sex education at 11, and I'm not sure if that isn't too young....but if children are having their own relations at 13 (and sometimes younger) then maybe we should be telling them. My problem is that it destroys childhood in a way.

Personally, I had a pretty closed childhood as far as sex was concerned, whether it was because they didn't teach me sex education at school - every lesson descended to shouts of "show us your tits miss" - or because none of my friends were girls so I never really got the chance to spend time with them (I also went to a single sex school my entire Primary and Secondary education) and as a result I learned about sex through the Science book in basic Biology. The chapter on reproduction was quite insightful. It was only after that I started to learn more about what sex actually was beyond the act of reproduction.

When I finally did mix with girls in college I appreciated the "female form" more then just a dumping ground for my sperm. When I finally did sleep with a girl I had more confidence and maturity then most. But again, I was older then most of my friends when I lost my virginity, and I think that helped a lot.

On the other hand, I also enjoyed being innocent about the whole thing, and looking back I didn't need to know at 11 what my penis did other then I used it to go to the toliet.

What do you guys think, when should a child be told about sex, and what should be discussed when?

Ok then is that Fr. Motley Crew, and what parish are you from then?

Tail Wagger · 30-04-2010 12:00AM

Melissa Most Wishbone wrote: »

Wow, everything? Even Dutch ruddering? Tea-bagging? Bagpiping?

Yea he was an alter boy!

m5ex9oqjawdg2i · 30-04-2010 12:16AM

I think I began to understand sex at about the age of 12, but I discovered sex through playboy and other pornos. That's no way for anybody to discover sex as it's completely fake. First orgasim at about 14 and lost my virginity at 17. The sex ed teacher tried her best, and she done a decent job, but it should have been thought at an earlier stage and the people teaching it should be much more approachable. It's not something you just spurt out "This is a penis, the penis goes in the vagina" etc etc.

I think it's good to teach very young children that their private parts are private and nobody should touch them there, but it would be very difficult to explain that to a 4 or 5 year old I guess. I don't think there is anything wrong with being open with children about sex. The mentality now days is wrong. Completely wrong. This thing of taken pictures of children, or videos means you're a pedo is sickening. Personally, I don't see a problem with a family showering together, or the likes. Many would see that to be very wrong, but I am not sure why. I know some naturalists, and they have on many occasions, gone with their children to naturalists resorts, where everyone is naked. I think that's great, but there are people who will view it as disgusting and wrong, but once nobody is harmed, what does it matter?

whiteboy · 30-04-2010 12:33AM

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