How much money do you spend on your girlfriend

AARRRRGH · 07-03-2010 4:45pm

Giselle wrote: »

Most girls pay their own way

Anyone who has ever dated a woman knows thats not true.

SLUSK, maybe you should start a kitty before that dates. You both contribute equally, and when it runs out she can either top it up with the same as you, or put in an IOU for some favors to be collected later.

Giselle · 07-03-2010 4:49pm

AARRRRGH wrote: »

Anyone who has ever dated a woman knows thats not true.

Its certainly is true within my social circle.

mood · 07-03-2010 4:56pm

Giselle wrote: »

Its certainly is true within my social circle.

+1.

Maybe the guy who said that is just had bad luck or poor taste in women!

dolliemix · 07-03-2010 4:56pm

I actually don't have a problem with Slusk wanting to know how much it's going to cost him. Relationships can be expensive and if you're trying to save dates/ weekends/ gifts etc do eat into your savings.

However, when you actually fall for somebody hard, all that goes out the window and expense doesn't matter.

Slusk I reckon you haven't met the 'one' yet. When you do, you won't be wondering how she's going to cost you.

07-03-2010 5:00pm

OP. How much a girlfriend costs entirely depends on the girl in question. She may be the type that expects you to pay for everything, she may not be. There is no "average". I think these days most women pay equally, I would be mortified to have the guy pay for everything.

Just a bit of info though. The two traits I cannot stand in a man is 1. Lying and 2. Stinginess. They are mega turn offs and I can't see any woman sticking around for long with a man who does/is either.

You can't like this potential girlfriend very much if you're already calculating costs and for that reason I would say, don't bother. You will be back on here bitching about how you had spent x y and z on her and now she has dumped you and you can't understand why.

Odysseus · 07-03-2010 5:01pm

mood wrote: »

Is that supposed to make it right? Why are you referring to women as 'parts'. Again, very strange!

Now to be fair, Slusk has every right to pay for sex if he wants, its an individual choice, nothing either good or bad about it. However, trying to transpose this on to a relationship is a different thing. Many men choose to have sex with street workers, the only part of it I have issues with is the person is in a relationship.

Dr Galen · 07-03-2010 5:04pm

dolliemix wrote: »

I actually don't have a problem with Slusk wanting to know how much it's going to cost him. Relationships can be expensive and if you're trying to save dates/ weekends/ gifts etc do eat into your savings.

However, when you actually fall for somebody hard, all that goes out the window and expense doesn't matter.

Slusk I reckon you haven't met the 'one' yet. When you do, you won't be wondering how she's going to cost you.

+1 to the above really. I couldn't put it better and also have no bother with someone asking a real question like this.

If on the other hand this thread is nothing more a vehicle to provide some amusement on a quiet Sunday afternoon, well then I wouldn't be impressed.

Giselle · 07-03-2010 5:06pm

Odysseus wrote: »

Many men choose to have sex with street workers, the only part of it I have issues with is the person is in a relationship.

Now I always thought street workers were the ones who swept the pavements and emptied the dog poo bins, and that prostitutes were sex workers.

But each to their own I suppose.:D

Odysseus · 07-03-2010 5:07pm

Giselle wrote: »

Now I always thought street workers were the ones who swept the pavements and emptied the dog poo bins, and that prostitutes were sex workers.

But each to their own I suppose.:D

Interchangable in my line of work;)

vanh84 · 07-03-2010 5:11pm

Women have money too you know. You don't HAVE to pay for everything. If you go into a relationship at the start with that attitude it won't last long for sure.....mind you if she's invited round to a mouldy house and you take yer shoes off she'll be out the door before you know it

Dj Stiggie · 07-03-2010 5:18pm

SLUSK, you seem to be looking at this in very practical terms, so think of it this way:

You have €500.

The man always pays for the first date, IMO, and after that you can go Dutch or whatever.

First date: €60 (If you're lucky)

Birthday: €50

Chirstmas: €50

Valentines Day: €80 (Dinner and present)

Easter (May or may not be relevant): €10 (not too sure here tbh)

Straight away that's €250.

Surely you'd want to buy her flowers or something occasionally, so over the course of a year I'd estimate that at €80.

Then you're left with €180 for anything else that could come up. She had a bad day, you take her to the cinema, €20, etc.

After all that, my point is, you should get most of that back. With the exception of the first date. Like if that's too much for you, you shouldn't go out with her. I do see your point, you don't want a moocher, but really if you're getting away with spending €500 per annum, she is by no means a moocher, IMO

star-pants · 07-03-2010 5:57pm

Whilst I personally couldn't see how the 'price of a girlfriend' would come into your head before 'do I want to date her' - I'll answer.

Having an OH costs money - end of.
Having friends costs money.
Having family costs money.
Having a life costs money.

How much you spend on all of the above, is technically up to you.

Assuming 'omg a girl is going to cost me a bomb' is a bit one sided really. How much are you going to cost her?
I personally spend money if I'm dating someone, buying gifts or whatever. Regarding dinner/dates/cinema/food, depends really, if one person offers to pay for the date that evening and you try to offer too and they insist - I'm not going to be rude. But I don't expect it, nor do I forget it. I'll catch the bill next time.
So it's not like a girl dating a guy is getting the relationship for free and he's footing the bill. In some relationships it costs the girls more. I've had female friends fork out more than twice the amount the guys do, cuz maybe they're the ones that are working or the guy 'doesn't have any money at the minute but would love to hang out'. This stuff happens on both sides of the relationship.

Yes there will be female moochers, there are also male moochers. There are girls who expect everything to be paid for and there are guys who will insist upon paying for everything.

In friendships sometimes I'll pick up the tickets to the cinema, I won't demand my friend pay me. Might be my treat, or it might be her/his treat. Or if either is short on funds ye do something that doesn't cost too much. It's about give and take, and so is a relationship.

If the first thought is 'I don't want to pay to have a gf' then *clearly* you've not met a girl you're really interested in. Because if you're stuck for money or not, it doesn't stop you spending time with a gf, if ye care about each other, if one or both of ye are short on funds then they'll understand.
Same with friends - they're not your friends for money, but if you or they have money it might get spent on the friendship.

I've never thought to myself 'gods can I afford another friend'? same way I wouldn't think 'I can't afford a bf'. I'm not stingy and I wouldn't like someone else being stingy either. Not having money is one thing, being stingy is another. I wouldn't stand for a bf who expected me to pay for everything, the same way I don't expect a bf to pay for everything.

tl;dr
Things cost. How much is up to you.

K-9 · 07-03-2010 6:55pm

Remember the value of your investment may go up or down.

07-03-2010 6:56pm

K-9 wrote: »

Remember the value of your investment may go up or down.

he's hoping for down.

donfers · 07-03-2010 9:48pm

star-pants wrote: »

Whilst I personally couldn't see how the 'price of a girlfriend' would come into your head before 'do I want to date her' - I'll answer.

Having an OH costs money - end of.
Having friends costs money.
Having family costs money.
Having a life costs money.

How much you spend on all of the above, is technically up to you.

Assuming 'omg a girl is going to cost me a bomb' is a bit one sided really. How much are you going to cost her?
I personally spend money if I'm dating someone, buying gifts or whatever. Regarding dinner/dates/cinema/food, depends really, if one person offers to pay for the date that evening and you try to offer too and they insist - I'm not going to be rude. But I don't expect it, nor do I forget it. I'll catch the bill next time.
So it's not like a girl dating a guy is getting the relationship for free and he's footing the bill. In some relationships it costs the girls more. I've had female friends fork out more than twice the amount the guys do, cuz maybe they're the ones that are working or the guy 'doesn't have any money at the minute but would love to hang out'. This stuff happens on both sides of the relationship.

Yes there will be female moochers, there are also male moochers. There are girls who expect everything to be paid for and there are guys who will insist upon paying for everything.

In friendships sometimes I'll pick up the tickets to the cinema, I won't demand my friend pay me. Might be my treat, or it might be her/his treat. Or if either is short on funds ye do something that doesn't cost too much. It's about give and take, and so is a relationship.

If the first thought is 'I don't want to pay to have a gf' then *clearly* you've not met a girl you're really interested in. Because if you're stuck for money or not, it doesn't stop you spending time with a gf, if ye care about each other, if one or both of ye are short on funds then they'll understand.
Same with friends - they're not your friends for money, but if you or they have money it might get spent on the friendship.

I've never thought to myself 'gods can I afford another friend'? same way I wouldn't think 'I can't afford a bf'. I'm not stingy and I wouldn't like someone else being stingy either. Not having money is one thing, being stingy is another. I wouldn't stand for a bf who expected me to pay for everything, the same way I don't expect a bf to pay for everything.

tl;dr
Things cost. How much is up to you.

I disagree with most of that I am afraid.

You and a few other women have posted on this forum and the consensus from the girls in this thread would seem to be that they pay their way.

That seems to be the trend. I have plenty of male and female friends and the funny thing is the vast majority of the guys think they pay for most things whereas most of the girls say that they shell out occassionally and it's not always the guy.

Somebody is telling porkies then, or at the very least being equivocal with the truth.

This being the gentlemen's club, and I being male, mean that I can only speak from the male perspective. And almost every guy I know says that they pay more. Most of them don't mind or think twice about it.

So the two points I think that are interesting are

1. I find it a little hypocritical that some modern liberal-minded progressive women are happy to consent to an old-fashioned conservative "male provides for female" mentality where it suits them.

2. Many women, in my view, are in denial about this and perhaps justify their position with some self-delusion about how much they actually spend in comparison to their partner on each other. I have heard many women, indeed in this thread, claim they pay as much as their partner but when we drill down to the actual cold hard truth of who bears the expenses, she will often realise he pays a hell of a lot more. Maybe she sometimes takes stuff he pays for for granted and disproportionally highlights her spends as it is so outside the expected norm. Often the woman will say "well remember i got you dinner on x date or I always get a round in etc etc" failing to realise the guy can't recall a date he pays for dinner on as it is almost every date, or that he would only love to get 1 round on a nightout and leave it at that, patting himself on the back for doing his bit. No, for him the norm is round after round after round after round. I also know couples who earn roughly equal but the guy pays the full rent and covers most of the expenses on a night out. To be honest both of them are equally culpable for this and if they are both content with it then fine. I even know guys who have no job and are near broke who are still expected by their career girlfriends to not just go halves but continue to provide for her.

I know my views are not pc and of course I can't be arsed trawling the net for imperical evidence to back up these views. These are purely anecdotal observations that I have cherrypicked to get across my point. I know and have dated women who are very generous and go out of their way to pay their share. Fair play to them but my honest opinion is that a lot of women do willingly or unwillingly take advantage of the "men should provide" societal expectation on men, and shamefully some of these women do so on the one hand while advocating the whole "sisters are doing it for themselves" ethos on the other hand.

I simply have a problem with pick and choose nature to their socio-political ideologies especially when the ideologies are in conflict. For me it means they lose all credibility.

SLUSK · 07-03-2010 9:53pm

Thb the angels working the backstreets have treated me much better than normal girls

Mr Yellow · 07-03-2010 9:59pm

donfers wrote: »

I disagree with most of that I am afraid.

I agree with your statement of disagreement.

By the way Op, with an outlook such as yours, might be best to stick to the world of ladies of the night, being no strings attached etc..cheaper, & thats what you seem to prefer

mood · 07-03-2010 10:04pm

donfers wrote: »

I disagree with most of that I am afraid.

You and a few other women have posted on this forum and the consensus from the girls in this thread would seem to be that they pay their way.

That seems to be the trend. I have plenty of male and female friends and the funny thing is the vast majority of the guys think they pay for most things whereas most of the girls say that they shell out occassionally and it's not always the guy.

Somebody is telling porkies then, or at the very least being equivocal with the truth.

This being the gentlemen's club, and I being male, mean that I can only speak from the male perspective. And almost every guy I know says that they pay more. Most of them don't mind or think twice about it.

So the two points I think that are interesting are

1. I find it a little hypocritical that some modern liberal-minded progressive women are happy to consent to an old-fashioned conservative "male provides for female" mentality where it suits them.

2. Many women, in my view, are in denial about this and perhaps justify their position with some self-delusion about how much they actually spend in comparison to their partner on each other. I have heard many women, indeed in this thread, claim they pay as much as their partner but when we drill down to the actual cold hard truth of who bears the expenses, she will often realise he pays a hell of a lot more. Maybe she sometimes takes stuff he pays for for granted and disproportionally highlights her spends as it is so outside the expected norm. Often the woman will say "well remember i got you dinner on x date or I always get a round in etc etc" failing to realise the guy can't recall a date he pays for dinner on as it is almost every date, or that he would only love to get 1 round on a nightout and leave it at that, patting himself on the back for doing his bit. No, for him the norm is round after round after round after round. I also know couples who earn roughly equal but the guy pays the full rent and covers most of the expenses on a night out. To be honest both of them are equally culpable for this and if they are both content with it then fine. I even know guys who have no job and are near broke who are still expected by their career girlfriends to not just go halves but continue to provide for her.

I know my views are not pc and of course I can't be arsed trawling the net for imperical evidence to back up these views. These are purely anecdotal observations that I have cherrypicked to get across my point. I know and have dated women who are very generous and go out of their way to pay their share. Fair play to them but my honest opinion is that a lot of women do willingly or unwillingly take advantage of the "men should provide" societal expectation on men, and shamefully some of these women do so on the one hand while advocating the whole "sisters are doing it for themselves" ethos on the other hand.

I simply have a problem with pick and choose nature to their socio-political ideologies especially when the ideologies are in conflict. For me it means they lose all credibility.

Well, you or your friends have never gone out with me. I always pay my way, always.

mood · 07-03-2010 10:10pm

Mr Yellow wrote: »

I agree with your statement of disagreement.

By the way Op, with an outlook such as yours, might be best to stick to the world of ladies of the night, being no strings attached etc..cheaper, & thats what you seem to prefer

I agree. I can't see you having a healthy relationship with a woman with your attitude. Comparing a potential girlfriend to prostitutes it not healthy and no self respecting woman would want a relationship with a guy with such views. Maybe you should get some counselling.

SLUSK · 07-03-2010 10:11pm

mood wrote: »

I agree. I can't see you having a healthy relationship with a woman with your attitude. Comparing a potential girlfriend to prostitutes it not healthy and no self respecting woman would want a relationship with a guy with such views. Maybe you should get some counselling.

Are you suggesting I am mentally ill?

mood · 07-03-2010 10:14pm

SLUSK wrote: »

Are you suggesting I am mentally ill?

No. I'm just saying it's not a normal, healthy attitude to have. Counselling is not only for the mentally ill.

SLUSK · 07-03-2010 10:17pm

mood wrote: »

No. I'm just saying it's not a normal, healthy attitude to have. Counselling is not only for the mentally ill.

If I am not mentally ill I don't see why I should see a shrink.

mood · 07-03-2010 10:24pm

SLUSK wrote: »

If I am not mentally ill I don't see why I should see a shrink.

Because you don't have a normal, healthy attitude towards women and relationships. Counsellers are not shrinks and loads of people seek their help for all sorts of reasons.

james998964 · 07-03-2010 10:25pm

SLUSK wrote: »

Thb the angels working the backstreets have treated me much better than normal girls

Because you are there customer, and you are paying for sex.

opinion guy · 07-03-2010 10:27pm

SLUSK wrote: »

Are you suggesting I am mentally ill?

To be perfectly honest, and I apologise ahead of time if this offends anyone but I've been wondering if you have some psychological condition. You don't seem to have any emotions in relation to this whole thing ? I mean why are you even interested in having this particular girl as your girlfriend ?

SLUSK · 07-03-2010 10:30pm

opinion guy wrote: »

To be perfectly honest, and I apologise ahead of time if this offends anyone but I've been wondering if you have some psychological condition. You don't seem to have any emotions in relation to this whole thing ? I mean why are you even interested in having this particular girl as your girlfriend ?

She looks pretty good and she seems nice so far. I want her but not if the price is too high.

james998964 · 07-03-2010 10:40pm

SLUSK wrote: »

She looks pretty good and she seems nice so far. I want her but not if the price is too high.

You want her but not if the price is too high?!?! I hope your a troll. If not you are seriously unwell and I hope she has no interest in you as you sound like a creep. She's not a possesion with a price. If you like someone price is not something you think about.

Stheno · 07-03-2010 10:41pm

SLUSK wrote: »

She looks pretty good and she seems nice so far. I want her but not if the price is too high.

Well I'm female OP and for nights out myself and my OH rotate the bill, I pay one night he pays the next.

We go out usually twice a week, average €50 per night, so over a year, for each of us that's €2600

Then there are Birthdays and Christmas, estimate €150-€250 each per occasion so that's another €500 bringing it up to €3000

Then say €500 each on one holiday, €3500

Then the odd special gift, or surprise, maybe another €500 over the year, so all in all we'd both spend a min. of €4000 over the year.

We do actually split things evenly so that's a fairly accurate assessment.

drunkmonkey · 07-03-2010 10:50pm

SLUSK wrote: »

She looks pretty good and she seems nice so far. I want her but not if the price is too high.

Why are you so worried about money, she's not a hooker, she won't charge for a ride. If you've got no money tell her you can't afford a happy meal, if she loves you she'll understand.

See that word up there in bold, say it to yourself 3 times while looking backwards in a mirror, it'll all start to make sense then;)

Mr. Presentable · 07-03-2010 10:55pm

After the initial €300.00, about €5.00 per month on cleaning and puncture repair.

Stheno · 07-03-2010 10:56pm

DUH! I forgot contraception, our choice of it costs us €360 per year!

So OP I reckon on a budget of €500 you'll have about €320 per year left for your gf after you pay for your half of the contraception costs.

€320 per year divided by €52 leaves you with the princely sum of €6.15 per week to spend on a gf.

That's not even a round of drinks! BUT the contraception is important, it will save you up to €150 per week in child maintenance if you/she have an accident and end up having a child together

mood · 07-03-2010 11:02pm

nouggatti wrote: »

DUH! I forgot contraception, our choice of it costs us €360 per year!

So OP I reckon on a budget of €500 you'll have about €320 per year left for your gf after you pay for your half of the contraception costs.

€320 per year divided by €52 leaves you with the princely sum of €6.15 per week to spend on a gf.

That's not even a round of drinks! BUT the contraception is important, it will save you up to €150 per week in child maintenance if you/she have an accident and end up having a child together

There is also the cost of getting checked out and possibly treated for STIs (after all the OP has slept with prostitutes).

candlegrease · 07-03-2010 11:27pm

SLUSK wrote: »

How much money do you spend on your girlfriend on an annual basis? It looks like I might be getting a girlfriend but I'm worried that she will be a financial burden. How much should one expect to spend on a girlfriend?

If it looks like it will be to expensive for me like if I'm expected to spend €500 on her annually I do not want her! :mad:

Classic!

CDfm · 07-03-2010 11:28pm

I reckon I spend between 3 to 4,000 a year on my girlfriend and she a similar amount on me.

That gives us a reasoinable social life and it depends what you want from life.`

Funnily enough OP, two weeks ago I had a chat with a very good friend of mine whose brother estimated he could live grocery wise on 5.83 a week from Lidl (each for him and his partner). They are spending twice that but their diet includes a lot of porriage, bananas and fruit and veg past its sell by date. I couldnt live like that.

So part of it is going to be the quality of life you want and she wants and what you are going to spend your life doing.

Whatever floats your boat but it has to float hers too.

I often see people live in cheap substandard housing and poor clothes find thats living but its subsistance living. Now thats fine if two people agree that they are going to live like that. Relatively, if you live in the far east etc the cost of living etc is different to here and you have to adjust to it and not it to you.

Now you might have found someone who has shared values to you like my friends brother did and they are very happy hippies and they are both content not to work.

dearg lady · 07-03-2010 11:35pm

mood wrote: »

There is also the cost of getting checked out and possibly treated for STIs (after all the OP has slept with prostitutes).

OT, but the suggestion that the OP is more likely to have an STD cos he slept with prostitutes does not sit well with me. I can't be sure, I don't have figures to justify my opinion, but my guess is sex workers would be even more diligent than your average person when it comes to contraception.

OP, I think it's a fairly reasonable question, there's a lot of women out there who do expect the man to pay for everything, but there's plenty who are happy to pay their way, insist upon it even, I'm guessing that's the kind of girl you're after.

I don't know if I missed your answer to Thaedydals question, but I also wonder what you mean by spending money on the girl?? As other have said, you'll be probably be goin out more, on dates with the girl, that will cost money for yourself, are you including this??

Diabhal_Glas · 07-03-2010 11:37pm

This thread is cracking me up, I really cant decide if your taking the piss or not SLUSK,

No better man to head to Aldi for the condoms

humberklog · 08-03-2010 12:08am

mood wrote: »

There is also the cost of getting checked out and possibly treated for STIs (after all the OP has slept with prostitutes).

Ah sure it seems a while ago that the OP is talking about paying for hookers so the scratch and sniff test should suffice (if he's not scratching and there's no peculiar bang off the tackle by now then he's good to go).

Just very curious as to how the accounts break down into this 500 squids over the course of a year.

Oh and Slusk, I wouldn't bother with the counselling suggestion. It takes all sorts to make the world go around and there's no need for society to try and iron out every blip. You're doing grand, bit over cautious fiscally perhaps but that ain't my business (nor your use of hookers).

But what were you planning on splashing the, no doubt hard earned, moola on with this very, very, lucky lady?

CDfm · 08-03-2010 12:21am

Ya -lots of posters are being very unfair on you OP - you have a different cultural view to lots of us.

Humberklog has asked quite a good question on the 500 euro breakdown.

My questions are similarily basic what would you expect do for 500 euro and what can she expect to get from the relationship. Also, lots of the women who have posted here are Irish -what nationality is this woman acquaintance of yours.

argosy2006 · 08-03-2010 12:27am

Iago wrote: »

if you multiply that figure by 10 you might start to close to what you might spend in a year.

500 x 10 sounds about right,, i just hope she doesn't find out about your other 9 GF's

humberklog · 08-03-2010 12:32am

Indeed CD, I think that there are cultural differences at work here, with a twist of foible. If counselling could sort such things out then the U.S would be carpet bombing Iraq with Dr. Anthony Clare clones.

So Slusk to help us in our merry quest to figure out your positioning a couple of tidbits would be helpful: where are you originally from? where is your quarry from? and what would you be thinking this 500 snoots would be spent on?

SlickRic · 08-03-2010 12:40am

SLUSK wrote: »

Why do you guys want to spend insane amounts of money per year on your girlfriend? Is it really worth it?

it's the 21st Century.

1) Girls are more independent than ever.

2) Most will spend a fair amount of money on you too.

3) I suggest you wait until you're at least 13 before getting a GF. you clearly have no idea about socialising, doing something for your other half because you want to give them a good time or make them happy, or just generally living in society with other people.

it costs money.

unlucky.

CDfm · 08-03-2010 1:23am

argosy2006 wrote: »

500 x 10 sounds about right,, i just hope she doesn't find out about your other 9 GF's

Thats a bit mean.

humberklog wrote: »

Indeed CD, I think that there are cultural differences at work here, with a twist of foible. If counselling could sort such things out then the U.S would be carpet bombing Iraq with Dr. Anthony Clare clones.

totally agree

So Slusk to help us in our merry quest to figure out your positioning a couple of tidbits would be helpful: where are you originally from? where is your quarry from? and what would you be thinking this 500 snoots would be spent on?

It made me think back to years back in recessionary times when at the cinema I overheard an exchange between a couple I know. " I ll get the tickets and you get the sweets" and a trip to the cinema was considered quite a respectable date and both people splashed their moneys and probably did not have much to splash.

PrettyBoy · 08-03-2010 1:54am

OP, have you ever had sex without paying for it?

The way you are talking about your experiences with prostitutes is seriously worrying. It's as if you're saying that if this girl will cost you more than €500 a year you will stick to brazzers in Thailand. €500 wouldn't even cover your flights to Thailand in the first place. If you are willing to travel half-way around the world to pay for sex then, IMO, you a very sad individual.

I genuinely feel sorry for this poor girl you're talking about and I hope she comes to her senses soon and starts running.

miss5 · 08-03-2010 2:09am

PrettyBoy wrote: »

OP, have you ever had sex without paying for it?

The way you are talking about your experiences with prostitutes is seriously worrying. It's as if you're saying that if this girl will cost you more than €500 a year you will stick to brazzers in Thailand. €500 wouldn't even cover your flights to Thailand in the first place. If you are willing to travel half-way around the world to pay for sex then, IMO, you a very sad individual.

I genuinely feel sorry for this poor girl you're talking about and I hope she comes to her senses soon and starts running.

I completely agree,
OP you are comparing having a girlfriend to paying prostitutes.
Do you actually care about this girl at all?
It doesn't sound like you have the maturity level to be in a relationship.

CDfm · 08-03-2010 4:21am

PrettyBoy wrote: »

OP, have you ever had sex without paying for it?

I genuinely feel sorry for this poor girl you're talking about and I hope she comes to her senses soon and starts running.

miss5 wrote: »

I completely agree,
OP you are comparing having a girlfriend to paying prostitutes.

This is probably a different discussion on guys paying and sex.

Some years back I met up with a Canadian ex colleague in Dublin City centre for drinks eats and general have a good time on his company expence account. He had gotten a great job with a company based in Berkely California.

Here is what transpired -after a few hours -we had planned to go for eats to a certain named resterant. The girls hadnt paid for anything all evening. And one asked once food was mentioned where are we going. Quick as anything Gary said well me and CD are going some place that had been in the news cos Charlie Haughey used it and then on to some club where he and I were on the guest list to the VIP area .

Anyway -he quickly made it clear that if the girls we joining us there would be sleepovers and he was very up front about it.

So while in the context of this thread this is the other end of the spectrum -there seems to be a discussion about the amount of money being spent and the expectation of sex.

mood · 08-03-2010 9:50am

humberklog wrote: »

Ah sure it seems a while ago that the OP is talking about paying for hookers so the scratch and sniff test should suffice (if he's not scratching and there's no peculiar bang off the tackle by now then he's good to go).

Just very curious as to how the accounts break down into this 500 squids over the course of a year.

Oh and Slusk, I wouldn't bother with the counselling suggestion. It takes all sorts to make the world go around and there's no need for society to try and iron out every blip. You're doing grand, bit over cautious fiscally perhaps but that ain't my business (nor your use of hookers).

But what were you planning on splashing the, no doubt hard earned, moola on with this very, very, lucky lady?

I hope your joking! There are STIs that have no symptoms at all so that fact that someone doesn't have a rash or smell doesn't mean they are clear.

Also I'm sure prostitutes don't go to a STI clinic after sex with each client. Say they have two clients a night over a year, that could mean they sleep with 480 mean a year and might only get checked out every six months. I know I wouldn't like my chances!

mood · 08-03-2010 9:52am

PrettyBoy wrote: »

OP, have you ever had sex without paying for it?

The way you are talking about your experiences with prostitutes is seriously worrying. It's as if you're saying that if this girl will cost you more than €500 a year you will stick to brazzers in Thailand. €500 wouldn't even cover your flights to Thailand in the first place. If you are willing to travel half-way around the world to pay for sex then, IMO, you a very sad individual.

I genuinely feel sorry for this poor girl you're talking about and I hope she comes to her senses soon and starts running.

Totally agree. Comparing this poor girl to prostitutes is not right or normal.

SLUSK · 08-03-2010 12:14pm

To answer your questions, I am a Swedish man. I lived in Ireland roughly 2,5 years but moved back to Sweden.

krudler · 08-03-2010 12:33pm

Cost of a girlfriend=€500 per year
Cost of a Thai hooker=€10 a session

finding out Thai hooker has a knob=priceless

star-pants · 08-03-2010 12:34pm

donfers wrote: »

I disagree with most of that I am afraid.

You can believe what you like and you're entitled to your opinion, however you are not entitled to say that I am lying.

SLUSK wrote: »

To answer your questions, I am a Swedish man. I lived in Ireland roughly 2,5 years but moved back to Sweden.

I don't need to reiterate what I and others have said - if you want a girlfriend I'm sure you'll find one, if you want a prostitute I'm sure you can buy one.

How much money do you spend on your girlfriend

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