How much money do you spend on your girlfriend

SLUSK

How much money do you spend on your girlfriend on an annual basis? It looks like I might be getting a girlfriend but I'm worried that she will be a financial burden. How much should one expect to spend on a girlfriend?

If it looks like it will be to expensive for me like if I'm expected to spend €500 on her annually I do not want her! :mad:

AARRRRGH

You have the right attitude. If she causes you to lose money dump her.
I know some people who married hens who werent laying and they are broke now

If the hen doesnt lay when you get it first, it will never lay. And dont fall for her token paying for the cinema one out of every 10 times.

I went out with a girl once who worked and lived with her parents. Dated for about 3 months.
She used to always tell everyone she was saving for a house. It dawned on me that she was saving for a house alright - a my expense. She saved while i paid for everything. Kicked her to the kerb, but not before we went out for dinner one night and i pretended to forget my wallet when it came time to pay. It nearly killed her to pay and then i dumped her

Unless she is great in the sack, professionals are cheaper.

vanh84

Ha!! Are you serious?! How did you get a figure of 500? :rolleyes:

SLUSK

vanh84 wrote: »

Ha!! Are you serious?! How did you get a figure of 500? :rolleyes:

Paying for restuarant dates and nights out in various bars. I have seen some guys spend money on their girlfriends in a way that the costs spiral out of control.

Iago

if you multiply that figure by 10 you might start to close to what you might spend in a year.

SLUSK

Iago wrote: »

if you multiply that figure by 10 you might start to close to what you might spend in a year.

WHY ON EARTH WOULD ANYONE SPEND €5000 ON A GIRLFRIEND EACH YEAR!?:mad:

dolliemix

Female here! This thread is hilarious!!!

My first laugh of the day.

I have to say, when I'm single at Christmas, I always feel slightly delighted that I have some extra money to myself!!!

Aka Ishur

This is the best thread in ages...the OP is clearly about 12. If not in body then in spirit.

SLUSK

I don't know why you find this funny I am very concerned about the costs of having a girlfriend and it makes me feel almost ill that I might be expected to spend alot of my money on her.

During my two years in Ireland I lived like an animal to save money. I bought crappy shoes which were cheap. They made my feet bleed. I endured the pain just to save money. Me and the flat mates lived with hardly any heating during winter time just to save money.

I've bled, I've been freezing, I've been living in a cheap moldy house just to save money and I ain't about to let any girl take it from me!

Iago

SLUSK wrote: »

WHY ON EARTH WOULD ANYONE SPEND €5000 ON A GIRLFRIEND EACH YEAR!?:mad:

I said close to.......some years will be higher, some will be slightly lower, but it's a reasonable ballpark assumption on the basis that occasionally she'll pay for meals/drinks/cinema whatever.

SLUSK

Iago wrote: »

I said close to.......some years will be higher, some will be slightly lower, but it's a reasonable ballpark assumption on the basis that occasionally she'll pay for meals/drinks/cinema whatever.

Why should a girl be able to mooch of the fruits of your labour?

AARRRRGH

SLUSK wrote: »

I don't know why you find this funny I am very concerned about the costs of having a girlfriend and it makes me feel almost ill that I might be expected to spend alot of my money on her.

During my two years in Ireland I lived like an animal to save money. I bought crappy shoes which were cheap. They made my feet bleed. I endured the pain just to save money. Me and the flat mates lived with hardly any heating during winter time just to save money.

I've bled, I've been freezing, I've been living in a cheap moldy house just to save money and I ain't about to let any girl take it from me!

Invest in good thick condoms too. Make her pay for them, but dont let her at them with pins. She'll have you by the curlies then.

Iago

SLUSK wrote: »

Why should a girl be able to mooch of the fruits of your labour?

who's mooching? It's a choice thing, you can choose to spend the money, or choose not to. I'd be shocked if she wasn't looking to spend money on you over the course of the year as well.

your figure of 500 wouldn't even cover a single weekend away so you're miles off.

SLUSK

Iago wrote: »

who's mooching? It's a choice thing, you can choose to spend the money, or choose not to. I'd be shocked if she wasn't looking to spend money on you over the course of the year as well.

your figure of 500 wouldn't even cover a single weekend away so you're miles off.

If this girl I might get together with is not willing to pay for her own tickets, drinks and so on she will not be my girlfriend.

Iago

SLUSK wrote: »

If this girl I might get together with is not willing to pay for her own tickets, drinks and so on she will not be my girlfriend.

I'm sure it'll be a huge loss for her.

jobless

ha this thread is hilarious.... where are you from my friend?

a lot of women will try to mouch off you but you'll notice that very quickly.... most will pay there way themselves....
you'll know soon enough if u are being taken for a ride

Aka Ishur

SLUSK wrote: »

If this girl I might get together with is not willing to pay for her own tickets, drinks and so on she will not be my girlfriend.

Look you clearly can't afford a girlfriend/are not mature enough for one.

SLUSK

Aka Ishur wrote: »

Look you clearly can't afford a girlfriend/are not mature enough for one.

If you have to spend thousands of euro per year on a girlfriend there are clearly other investments that are better. Girlfriends are not exactly an asset class that you can expect to increase in value as the years go by.

Odysseus

Oh my god, I thought your posts in the psych forum where bad, but this one is classic stuff. Finding a partner is about someone to share your life with. This includes your cash, whilst its down to individual circumstances 5,000 would not come near what I spent on my partner is the past 12 months, I earn more than her so I pay for a lot of things that we do together.

Whilst nobody likes a self-serving gold digger, if your focused on cash before you even date the said person, sounds like a doomed relationship to me.

AARRRRGH

SLUSK wrote: »

If this girl I might get together with is not willing to pay for her own tickets, drinks and so on she will not be my girlfriend.

Be strong my friend.

oldyouth

Perhaps if we all chiped in a few bob, OP could keep us posted on how his dates go. I'd expect itemised receipts though for any meal paid for beyond the Euorsaver menu.

SLUSK

Why do you guys want to spend insane amounts of money per year on your girlfriend? Is it really worth it?

baaaa

OP it sounds to me like you're looking a gift horse in the mouth.500 p.a is good value.
Say she puts out 3 times a week(allowing for womanly problems/headaches etc) on average over the year,which is 3 x 52 weeks=156.That works out about 3 euro a time,I don't know many getting better than that,best I ever had was about 3.90,and that was punts.

Nevyn

Hang on what do you mean by spending money on your GF?

Having a social life, going out and having friends means a certain ammount of expendature.
There are no ways around that.

AARRRRGH

Thaedydal wrote: »

Hang on what do you mean by spending money on your GF?

Having a social life, going out and having friends means a certain ammount of expendature.
There are no ways around that.

He means financing his girlfriends entertainment.
ITs good that he is examining this before getting involved. Its amazing the amount of girls who think buying one drink in 10 is fair.
If she looks good on yer arm you can take some of the coss but you have to work out how much she is worth.

Odysseus

When you ask those type of questions; it highlights the fact you are not yet mature enough for the answer. Come back in a few years and you may be ready for a relationship, becuase with asking those types of questions your not ready for one.

SLUSK

Odysseus wrote: »

When you ask those type of questions; it highlights the fact you are not yet mature enough for the answer. Come back in a few years and you may be ready for a relationship, becuase with asking those types of questions your not ready for one.

Look, I have been with alot of prostitutes in Asia and they did not cost me anywhere near €5000. For that money you could have at least 100 of them the last time I was in Thailand.

dolliemix

SLUSK wrote: »

Look, I have been with alot of prostitutes in Asia and they did not cost me anywhere near €5000. For that money you could have at least 100 of them the last time I was in Thailand.

So are you looking for a prostitute or a girlfriend?

Odysseus

SLUSK wrote: »

Look, I have been with alot of prostitutes in Asia and they did not cost me anywhere near €5000. For that money you could have at least 100 of them the last time I was in Thailand.

Their is a big different between prostitutes and being in a relationship, just fcuking about with women is one thing, but being in a relationship is something completely different.

As I said above gold diggeres are different, and cash should mean little is a relationship, but sadly most of the ways we express our love and affection for a person cost, there is no way out of it.


Once again as oppossed to fcuking about about; being in a relationalship is about sharing your life with another person, that will to some degree involve your cash. Remember if you talking about getting into a relationship your after more than sex, otherwise why not stay with street workers.

Pretty_Pistol

SLUSK wrote: »

It looks like I might be getting a girlfriend but I'm worried that she will be a financial burden.

Do you really want to be in a relationship? You seem to be over thinking the financial aspect of having a girlfriend so maybe you should stick with prostitutes.

smk89

SLUSK wrote: »

During my two years in Ireland I lived like an animal to save money. I bought crappy shoes which were cheap. They made my feet bleed. I endured the pain just to save money. Me and the flat mates lived with hardly any heating during winter time just to save money.

I've bled, I've been freezing, I've been living in a cheap moldy house just to save money and I ain't about to let any girl take it from me!

Are you from Cavan by any chance?

I'm tight myself but there are more important things to worry about in a relationship and life. Sure money may be tight but that doesn't mean you have to be.

L31mr0d

I spend about 1c for every bit of patience my OH spends on me. So... about €10,000 a year.

2manyconditions

WOW your a real catch! Your future girlfriend is ssoooooooo lucky to have someone so "financially conscious" as yourself. :pac:

mood

SLUSK wrote: »

Look, I have been with alot of prostitutes in Asia and they did not cost me anywhere near €5000. For that money you could have at least 100 of them the last time I was in Thailand.

So you are comparing this girl you are interested in to prostitutes! That is horrible. I'm glad I'm not that girl.

I think you need to mature and learn to respect women in order to have any meaningful relationship.

Having a relationship will cost money just like having friends and family... you have to go out, you have to buy birthday presents etc but it also costs them.

The Corinthian

dolliemix wrote: »

So are you looking for a prostitute or a girlfriend?

"The big difference between sex for money and sex for free is that sex for money usually costs a lot less" - Brendan Behan.

I think he's looking for a girlfriend, which is kind of the point. There are those out there who will never put their hands in their pockets - or will grudgingly do so once in a blue moon.

Of course, sometimes these things balance out in other ways - she may never pay for drinks, but she might pay for a big weekend away once or twice a year. Or if living together, she may never pay for anything, but then again he might never lift a finger in the house.

However, sometimes these things don't balance out. Some would-be girlfriends feel that are entitled to be treated like a princess and that this is the price a man pays for a sexual relationship with them - "because I'm worth it" as the advertising slogan goes - and that is a prostitute.

drunkmonkey

The Corinthian wrote: »

I think he's looking for a girlfriend.

Hopefully for the women of Ireland he stops off in the the clap clinic on his way to Coppers.

AARRRRGH

Odysseus wrote: »

Their is a big different between prostitutes and being in a relationship, just fcuking about with women is one thing, but being in a relationship is something completely different.

As I said above gold diggeres are different, and cash should mean little is a relationship, but sadly most of the ways we express our love and affection for a person cost, there is no way out of it.


Once again as oppossed to fcuking about about; being in a relationalship is about sharing your life with another person, that will to some degree involve your cash. Remember if you talking about getting into a relationship your after more than sex, otherwise why not stay with street workers.

Do you have some proof of this ? Links or its lies ?

AARRRRGH

mood wrote: »

So you are comparing this girl you are interested in to prostitutes! That is horrible. I'm glad I'm not that girl.

I think you need to mature and learn to respect women in order to have any meaningful relationship.

Having a relationship will cost money just like having friends and family... you have to go out, you have to buy birthday presents etc but it also costs them.

Hes already said that she is a prostitute. OP, if she doesnt give you the goods, dont pay her.

mood

AARRRRGH wrote: »

Hes already said that she is a prostitute. OP, if she doesnt give you the goods, dont pay her.

Where did he say she is prostitute?

SLUSK

By the tone of your posts it sounds to me like you criticize me for not being a walking ATM. Do girls expect to have a walking ATM and not a boyfriend?

Malari

SLUSK wrote: »

By the tone of your posts it sounds to me like you criticize me for not being a walking ATM. Do girls expect to have a walking ATM and not a boyfriend?

Come on OP! Sure you will find some girls are willing to let you pay for everything, but most do not expect that at all. Have a small bit of sense. Even if you split everything you do 50:50 you will still be spending money, so sounds to me like you're asking if a girl will be satisfied with never going out at all!

Plus it's not a lifetime committment! Go out with her for a month and if she's not paying her way you can always move on!

mood

SLUSK wrote: »

By the tone of your posts it sounds to me like you criticize me for not being a walking ATM. Do girls expect to have a walking ATM and not a boyfriend?

Not all girls expect the guy to pay for nights out etc. IMO only a small minority would be like that. You seem to have a very strange attitude to relationships.

What age are you? Have you ever had a girlfriend before?

Giselle

SLUSK wrote: »

If you have to spend thousands of euro per year on a girlfriend there are clearly other investments that are better. Girlfriends are not exactly an asset class that you can expect to increase in value as the years go by.

I usually hate Sundays, but I've been cheered right up by this.

OP, what do you think this potential girlfriend will gain by having you as a boyfriend. What sort of assest class are you?

I'm just curious.

Otis Driftwood

:pac:

SLUSK wrote: »

How much money do you spend on your girlfriend on an annual basis? It looks like I might be getting a girlfriend but I'm worried that she will be a financial burden. How much should one expect to spend on a girlfriend?

If it looks like it will be to expensive for me like if I'm expected to spend €500 on her annually I do not want her! :mad:

Yawn.

If you have to ask what you think you should spend on any woman then the relationship is fcuked from the off.

And way to go with your prostitute usage.

She is obviously a lucky woman.

SLUSK

mood wrote: »

Not all girls expect the guy to pay for nights out etc. IMO only a small minority would be like that. You seem to have a very strange attitude to relationships.

What age are you? Have you ever had a girlfriend before?

29, never had a girlfriend.

mood

SLUSK wrote: »

29, never had a girlfriend.

If you don't change your attitude and actions (sleeping with prostitutes) I don't think you will aver have a girlfriend.

SLUSK

mood wrote: »

If you don't change your attitude and actions (sleeping with prostitutes) I don't think you will aver have a girlfriend.

No one in these parts know I sleep with prostitutes of course!

mood

SLUSK wrote: »

No one in these parts know I sleep with prostitutes of course!

Is that supposed to make it right? Why are you referring to women as 'parts'. Again, very strange!

donfers

SLUSK is speaking in practical terms and a lot of people have a problem with it. His non-emotional detachment and cold-eyed analysis are a refreshing and modern take on the inequalities present in some relationships. I salute his openness and honesty. If he considers a girlfriend as an investment then he is perfectly entitled to weight up the value of same. Many men do this but don't admit it.

Personally I have been taken to the cleaners on numerous numerous occassions by women/dates. I find it degrading to even discuss who pays so basically I pay for everything unless she offers. In my experience only a few (i'll estimate about 15%) ever offer and the vast majority are happy to get their free meal/taxi/tickets/food/drinks all night. Having dated some die-hard feminists/womens right activists I found often that their notions of equality/female financial independence etc go out the window suddenly at the most inappropriate of times as far as I am concerned i.e. at the end of a meal, at the bar, when I am booking flights/tickets etc.
Funny that!!!

Giselle

SLUSK wrote: »

29, never had a girlfriend.

Slusk, you are looking at having a girlfriend in the same terms as a transaction with a sex worker.

Its not a question of how much she'll cost you. Most girls pay their own way so the costs incurred are just a part and parcel of nights out and socialising. The fact that you're wondering if its worth the monetary effort implies you expect some sort of material transaction to take place.

Relationships are primarily emotional transactions, and they don't bear any resemblance to your encounters with prostitutes.

Your attitude would make you a very unattractive prospect to be with tbh.

SLUSK

mood wrote: »

Is that supposed to make it right? Why are you referring to women as 'parts'. Again, very strange!

I did not refer to them as parts. When I said "these parts" I was referring to the area where I live.