Friends with the opposite sex

Mike 1972 · 15-01-2010 04:39PM

Nevore wrote: »

It is possible for adults.

Even Hetrosexual adults

orourkeda · 15-01-2010 05:07PM

dvpower wrote: »

This question was extensively dealt with in this documentary.

I also found this documentary to ber most insightful

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0077415/

bonerm · 15-01-2010 05:14PM

InKonspikuou2 wrote: »

No. Just head.

Spit, swallow or gargle?

Fracture · 15-01-2010 05:26PM

Here is an example of what it is for me, put it like this....imagine you have a good friend, who is of the opposite sex, you both think your good friends and you head out for a night on the beer with a few other friends, and say your friend (which was a girl in my case) score some lad at the bar, when you see it your just like "wtf" or get a bit uneasy with what your seeing. Its then that you realise you might have some feelings for her which never crossed your mind before. Now, if your a lad and one of your lad friends scores some girl your like sweet! so it different........for me anyway.

okioffice84 · 15-01-2010 05:31PM

bugler wrote: »

Girls think it's a great idea, because they're not men and don't understand us.

There is a word for a man who has platonic only female friends...what is it again...oh yeah: "homosexual".

We will screw you if given half a chance (assuming you're attractive). If you're not attractive, we still might screw you if we're drunk/horny/vulnerable enough.

It's not that we don't like you as people, or think you're wonderful, and intelligent and smart. It's just that we have an over-riding, hard-coded desire to put our penises in you. And while we can ignore it, or restrain it, it probably is only the lack of the opportunity that means we won't do it. If you think that this denial of biological desire is friendship, then yes we can be friends. Just don't be surprised when you wake up in the morning and your "friend" who slept in the bed beside you because you're so close in a platonic sense-like is poking you with an erection you could herd goats with.

If you are a man and you disagree with me, please consult your GP. You are probably a homosexual.

+1
At the very least ladies; that male 'friend' has had an auld **** while thinking about you. Fact.

orourkeda · 15-01-2010 05:34PM

Isn't contradictory and ironic. We're friends with the person we're banging but not supposed to be banging our friends

General Zod · 15-01-2010 05:36PM

Kiera wrote: »

Yup i'm durty

Stopped reading there.

Mike 1972 · 15-01-2010 05:41PM

Is it possible for a Bisexual person to be "just friends" with anyone FFS

brummytom · 15-01-2010 05:54PM

I'm mates with a few girls. Some of them, yes, because I want to ride them; but some of them just because I get on well with them, and can talk to them more openly than I could to a male mate.

It's slightly immature to assume relationships with the opposite sex can't be platonic.
I was texting a girl on the coach home the other night, the lad next to me said "Texting your girllllfrrriend?" "No, just a mate" "Yeaaah sure". That's the mindset of a 5 year old FFS

Chucky the tree · 15-01-2010 06:07PM

brummytom wrote: »

I'm mates with a few girls. Some of them, yes, because I want to ride them; but some of them just because I get on well with them, and can talk to them more openly than I could to a male mate.

It's slightly immature to assume relationships with the opposite sex can't be platonic.
I was texting a girl on the coach home the other night, the lad next to me said "Texting your girllllfrrriend?" "No, just a mate" "Yeaaah sure". That's the mindset of a 5 year old FFS

You put kisses at the end of your texts to you male mates, putting you into the homosexual category tbh. I'd hazard a guess that the ones you wouldn't ride are the ugly ones. Not only that but I'm sure if you were drunk and went of them made a move on you and one of them started heading down south you wouldn't stop her either. It's still possible to be friends, but there's no way a friendship between a straight guy and a girl is anything close to a friendship between two straight guys.

genericguy · 15-01-2010 06:28PM

Kiera wrote: »

Of course it can work. One of my best mates is a guy and we've been best mates for 25 years and have never crossed the line. I see him as a girl and he sees me as a guy target

fyp

genericguy · 15-01-2010 06:34PM

vinylmesh wrote: »

I think you can be friends in the sense of "they're in my top 10/20 etc." but i don't really think two heterosexual people of opposite sexes can be best mates without biology kicking in and those feelings growing untill they become something else.

If they are not attractive enough for you I don't think you would allow yourself to get this close to them for fear of sending them the wrong message.

Interestingly enough, I remember reading somewhere that relationships between people who were friends first have a higher success rate (I'm guessing because you already know them well so there's no surprises). I think having a short period of increasing friendship is a more natural way of starting a relationship than setting a sexual tone right from the beginning and then waiting for feelings to develop.

i sort of agree with this. i was friendly with genericgal for a good while before we actually started going out. however, i was only friendly with her because she's good looking, and I wanted to ride her. It's possible to be civil and polite with women, and get along with them to some extent. but I wholeheartedly believe that any guys who hang out with women are purely waiting for the opportunity to have sex.

i can't see any man meeting a girl for a platonic game of snooker, to watch a platonic movie or to go for a platonic walk in the park together. it doesn't happen.

rubensni · 15-01-2010 06:39PM

bugler wrote: »

If you are a man and you disagree with me, please consult your GP. You are probably a homosexual.

So GPs can "cure" gays then? Didn't know Iris Robinson posted on here!!!

Wibbs · 15-01-2010 06:44PM

Yep I have a couple of women mates that nothing has or would ever happen in the jiggy jiggy sense. A couple are good looking, but they just dont do it for me. If we were stuck on a desert island maybe, but even then it would be like sleeping with a sister.

genericguy · 15-01-2010 06:46PM

rubensni wrote: »

So GPs can "cure" gays then? Didn't know Iris Robinson posted on here!!!

i'd say talking can, because gays are made, not born.

admiralofthefleet · 15-01-2010 06:48PM

i have some very close friends that are female, one of them posts here kazzy_09. she is like the sister i never had

AnonoBoy · 15-01-2010 06:49PM

Wibbs wrote: »

Yep I have a couple of women mates that nothing has or would ever happen in the jiggy jiggy sense. A couple are good looking, but they just dont do it for me. If we were stuck on a desert island maybe, but even then it would be like sleeping with a sister.

So you'd sleep with your sister if you were on a desert island?

Jaysus! Family holidays must have been odd round your way Wibbs.

WanderingSoul · 15-01-2010 06:56PM

Definitely possible.

unreggd · 15-01-2010 07:28PM

genericguy wrote: »

gays are made, not born.

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

R0ot · 15-01-2010 07:31PM

Nevore wrote: »

It is possible for adults.

No it really isn't mate. Well not the legal definition of adults anyway.

DundalkDuffman · 15-01-2010 07:53PM

admiralofthefleet wrote: »

she is like the sister i never had

Fnarr fnarr

Little Acorn · 15-01-2010 08:01PM

admiralofthefleet wrote: »

i have some very close friends that are female, one of them posts here kazzy_09. she is like the sister i never had

Aww,that's a nice post.:)

I've usually hung around in groups of friends that were mostly male,with maybe 2 other girls that were similar personality to myself.

I've had lots of female friends as went to an all girls secondary school,but have only really had 2 very close female friends,who I could tell anything to,
the rest of the girls were more just great craic,and hung around with everyday etc.,but wouldn't have called them "best" friends.

From a very young age I've always felt closer to male friends.
Even in primary school,myself and another 2 or 3 girls preferred playing football with the boys than just hanging around the school chatting with the rest of the girls in our class.

All through secondary had close male friends that I hung around with every evening, aswell as the female friends I met through school.

From about the age of 18,I would say that 98% of my friends are male.
I have female friends,but although I do care about them,and would always try to help them if anything was wrong,and can have a bit of craic with them-I don't consider myself particularly close to any of them.

Female friends have always let me down in the past,whereas I've never being let down by any of my male friends.
I would prefer to sit in a room chatting with my male friends than sit in a room full of girls.
I enjoy their company more because;
I find them more entertaining and enjoy their humour.
I prefer their topics of discussion.(science,new technology,nature,history,politics,films etc.)
I find them a hell of a lot more loyal and less likely to bitch or make up stories.
I think they are more trustworthy.
(Above just applies to my friends,and not men and women in general)

It's weird but I just feel very comfortable,and more like "myself" around males,whereas I often feel abit out of place with some girls.
I don't know why this is as am quite stereotypically 'girly' in many respects,
-l love most things pink ,purple or sparkly,have an interest in fashion etc.,
but even if around girls who like similar things,I still feel more comfortable with male friends.

I have female friends who I've had for years, who are very down to earth,quite like me in many ways and I like them very much and enjoy spending time with them-consider them friends etc.,but I don't feel close enough to them to discuss personal things with.
I have a problem trusting female friends fully,and for some reason am afraid to ever argue with them whereas I'm never afraid to debate things with my male friends.

One thing I hate is this attitude that some girls have that"it's them(males) and us",or that you should " always stick with the girls"-and if you dare to take a males side in something,or prefer they're company you risk being practically shunned from the "girly" group-it's so silly!
Why can't everybody just hang out together? I much prefer a mixed group of friends,and like when I meet girls who are of a similar mindset to myself.

I would love to have a really close female friend again though,suppose I should just make more of an effort with my female friends.
Although I think I will always prefer male company-it's the way I've always been!:)

Pyr0 · 15-01-2010 08:26PM

I can be friends with girls easily if i'm not attracted to them. If I'm attracted to them I'd want to be more than just friends at some point.

Faithless · 15-01-2010 09:11PM

I'd find it hard to have close female friends. After all, I wouldn't want to hear about their day or how they look. Instead, they're just pieces of meat to me in all honesty. If that makes me a bad guy, then so be it. The world would be very strange if we were all the same.

What is interesting is that, even with a girlfriend, I find it hard to stay loyal. I mean, with such great talent out there it's hard to commit to one person. Perhaps, it is just different for everyone but I think it's your duty as a man to get the best experience while you're young. Why put all your eggs in one basket?

Rockn · 15-01-2010 09:29PM

Of all my female friends there's only one I wouldn't sleep with if given the chance. And that's my sister.

She's really ugly.

16-01-2010 01:23AM

The majority of my close friends are fellas. Granted about 70% of them are gay. And I've slept with a few of the non-gay ones. Nevermind..

Biggins · 16-01-2010 02:40AM

I know and am on friendship terms of quite a few good looking ladies, some of whom are models and/or well known.
Is it possible to stay just friends with them? Absolutely. Its all about trust, understanding, setting up your own boundries quietly and sticking to them for the sake of a good long term outcome.
(Admittedly, sometimes not easy but worth it in the long run.)

minidazzler · 16-01-2010 02:47AM

Kiera wrote: »

Yup i'm durty 30

*Breaks out Cougar chat up lines!

* (OK, I know 30 isn't quite cougar, but close enough :P)

NoQuarter · 16-01-2010 03:04AM

Biggins wrote: »

I know and am on friendship terms of quite a few good looking ladies, some of whom are models and/or well known.
Is it possible to stay just friends with them? Absolutely. Its all about trust, understanding, setting up your own boundries quietly and sticking to them for the sake of a good long term outcome.
(Admittedly, sometimes not easy but worth it in the long run.)

Yeah but thats just the thing, its possible to stay friends with them but only due to social restraints etc etc... I mean...would ya?? If there was no consequences? Of course!

Its very simple, if a man has a good looking friend of the opposite sex, its never completely platonic, as in, he definitly would if there were no consequences! Its different for girls i assume. I blame the testosterone!

Its possible, however, to be platonic friends with a minger. Fact.

dsmythy · 16-01-2010 03:16AM

InKonspikuou2 wrote: »

Anyways i don't see them as one of the guys just because i've slept with them. Why would i? It just means i can talk to them without any of that stupid flirting or sexual tension bullshít that i see existing between some of my friends for years. While they are dancing around it i've already danced on it and stomped it into the fúcking ground.

Charming!

king-stew wrote: »

Yeah but thats just the thing, its possible to stay friends with them but only due to social restraints etc etc... I mean...would ya?? If there was no consequences? Of course!

Its very simple, if a man has a good looking friend of the opposite sex, its never completely platonic, as in, he definitly would if there were no consequences! Its different for girls i assume. I blame the testosterone!

Its possible, however, to be platonic friends with a minger. Fact.

Oh boys will be boys....

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