Do TEEN GIRLS bother you???

buttercupbee · 15-09-2009 02:06AM #1

A lot of us have had it at school. You are the normal, respectful, happy-go-lucky confident teenager who gets on with everyone and avoids the 'in-crowd' a-holes.
But they're there. In your face.
Sizing you up and down. Passing hurtful remarks bout your jewellery, shoes, bag and even when you're talking to your OWN people,
they'll butt in.
Walking right up to you, asking what your parents do and what car they drive.
Sneers. Whispers. All deliberate. All to draw a public tear outta you.
These girls are SOOO like, purrrfect! Mom buys all the brands for me,
my perfume is really expensive, Bt staff know my name (and Im only 14), Dad drops me in the Merc, we're all going to the States for summer, I'm so good at everything...

ALL GIRL SCHOOLS SHOULD BE A THING OF THE PAST.
They are breeding grounds of bitchiness and insecurities
which in my opinion turns a lot of girls out to be haters of other women.
Why? Because we all know what most girls that age are desperate for
- a boyfriend. They are frustrated that they spend all day every day around their own kind - other teenage girls.
All they can focus on is themselves - how perfect they pretend to be, and each other - either the percieved 'competition' or the ones they can pick on to make themselves feel superior.

I'd HATE to be one again. Even to this day I dread being near them.
They barge into shops, very loudly giving their valid opinion on everything, in sad American accents.
You can feel their eyes burning in to you, ready to 'whisper' their observations to one another, trying to intimidate other girls/women who are shopping alone, basically taking their miserable girl-surrounded day out on random females.
I am 30 and completely at ease with myself, get tonnes of compliments about my hair, clothes, make up, figure ect but give me a shop full of school uniforms and I feel like Im back in the class again :eek:...

Anyone feel the same level of intimidation I do???

Any bitchy comments from strange teenage girls been directed at you???

Ive had a few, one being just before a night out I was going into a shop,
I was all done up and looking very classy indeed,
when two evil little bitches behind me said "let's stare at her and make her nervous".
now Ive heard some things in my time but that just knocked me
- I mean come on - HOW would anyone think of something like that to say??? that was WELL thought out and obviously used previously to desired effect. My god - that was PHYCOLOGICAL! :eek:
A NAME or SOMETHING and I could have forgotten all about it but that
I'll never forget.
Goes to show just how nasty some girls can be to each other,
and what goes on in their mixed-up heads.
I have avoided working in all women environments
and when in offices, shops ect; you can often sense the tension between staff and how they their treat customers.
All women. An awful place to be

???

Weidii · 15-09-2009 05:23AM

Kids will be kids.

To be honest, there are always going to be teenagers out there, so you should try to spend less time worrying about what other people say about you and try to find comfort in your own self confidence.

Jood · 15-09-2009 08:30AM

It's not just even kids to be honest its girls, of any age, some of us grow to be women and some just stay as girls forever.

Remarks like that say more about the person saying them then the person they are directed at. If I'm feeling really good about myself it would take more than two bitchy little girls to bring me down!!

Das Kitty · 15-09-2009 08:38AM

Jaysus no they don't bother me. Not that kind of behaviour anyway. I went to a mixed school and this kind of stuff went on so it's not girls' school exclusive.

shellyboo · 15-09-2009 09:33AM

buttercupbee wrote: »

They are breeding grounds of bitchiness and insecurities
which in my opinion turns a lot of girls out to be haters of other women.

Clearly. Think you've just proved your own point there. I've never been intimidated by other girls my own age, but then I did go to a mixed school.

MissFlitworth · 15-09-2009 09:45AM

buttercupbee wrote: »

Any bitchy comments from strange teenage girls been directed at you???

Nope, but a youngfella called me a geebag out the window of a Nissan Micra yesterday, it made me laugh

You sound very very wound up about teenaged girls and all-women enviroments, and a wee bit paranoid about what teenaged girls are thinking and saying about you, have you considered maybe going to talk to someone about feeling that level of anxiety? Teenagers can be little sh1ts, I was around them in all girl and mixed schools and some people are just like that. A lot of teenaged girls are more likely to be walking around worrying that everyone is staring at their spots/bad clothes/bad hair etc than thinking 'haha, state of her, lets stare her out of it' tbh

Crumble Froo · 15-09-2009 10:17AM

couldnt stand them when i was one, but they're not so bad now that im old :pac:

although i was stuck on the bus with no discman today, and had to endure 2 teenage girls dressed up to the nines with the little bits they had on show and hangin out, while two teenage guys were oggling and all of them were flirting in the most irritating way, hitting each other, and giggling just a few notes too loud and... no conversation, mostly just hitting, saying the name of hte person who'd hit you and then calling them bad, or somethign to that effect.

although i think this thread could be better suited in R&R....

neuro-praxis · 15-09-2009 11:40AM

Wow. It sounds like you have some healing to do from the playground.

I had a wonderful experience at an all-girls school. I switched to a mixed school for the LC and longed for my all-female compatriots...

Corb · 15-09-2009 01:30PM

I have to admit I do feel uneasy walking past a group of them. They can be far worse than guys. It's a real "I'm so cool in front of my mates" kind of attitude. I've had the odd comment but nothing too nasty.

Teenage girls in groups of gangs can be vicious though! I've heard stories of them picking on random people. I know that happens with guys too but it's getting more and more common with girls. More so in England with the happy slapping type of behaviour but it goes on here too.

candy-gal1 · 15-09-2009 01:33PM

lol teenagers scare the living **** outta me!

and piss me off sometimes too!

Creamy Goodness · 15-09-2009 01:36PM

no they don't annoy me.

annoying people annoy me, can be any age, any sex and from any background and not pigeonholed into one demographic.

Corb · 15-09-2009 01:37PM

Creamy Goodness wrote: »

no they don't annoy me.

annoying people annoy me, can be any age, any sex and from any background and not pigeonholed into one demographic.

Yeah damn those coked up old age pensioners who chase me in their wheelchairs :pac:

gidget · 15-09-2009 01:44PM

I know exactly what you mean.

I had 5 years of it in secondary not just from the girls, but fellas too. All spoilt, stuck up snobs they were. I was one very isolated young girl in school and if anyone did want to speak to me they were afraid to be seen doing it. I was lucky to surround myself in a variety of areas as far as mixing with people outside of school so i've grown up with an understanding of "sod them i'm not like them and don't want to be like them".

As far as nowadays I look at teenagers now and see them agonising over the most trivial of things - having the right mobiles phones, hair styles, clothes. Glad those days are well and truly behind me.

Twee. · 15-09-2009 02:08PM

I went to an all girls' secondary girls and had a wonderful experience. Maybe it was the school, or it was just an exceptional group of girls, but I never had any issues at school. Big groups of people, whatever the age/sex can be intimidating.
The "sad american accents" and type of clothes is just a trend that they'll probably grow out of. The bitchy attitudes comes from too much television showing affluent idiots and their "real lives". Unfortunately though some these princess-types don't grow up, but you can just avoid them

To me it's the same as if they were goths, speaking in droning tones, dressing intimidatingly!!

After all this I've realised I'm only gonna be a teenager for another 3 weeks!!

The Big Red Button · 15-09-2009 02:15PM

I went to an all-girls secondary school - a relatively rough one at that - but I had a great experience there.

Some teenagers (both male and female) can act like little sh-ts, but it's not fair to make sweeping generalisations about teenage girls as a group.

If your fear/hatred of teenage girls in general is actually having an impact on how you live your day-to-day life, then in my opinion you're the one with the issues!

Edgedinblue · 15-09-2009 02:23PM

im in college and their still like that :rolleyes:

candy-gal1 · 15-09-2009 02:29PM

chatterpillar wrote: »

I went to an all-girls secondary school - a relatively rough one at that - but I had a great experience there.

Some teenagers (both male and female) can act like little sh-ts, but it's not fair to make sweeping generalisations about teenage girls as a group.

If your fear/hatred of teenage girls in general is actually having an impact on how you live your day-to-day life, then in my opinion you're the one with the issues!

lol well i think being followed around, having abuse shouted at you, and sometimes things thrown at you when your just going to the shops or the busstop by mainly teenage girls and having that fear inside you in case it happens again should mean you, the victim, isnt the one with the issue!

15-09-2009 02:37PM

Edgedinblue wrote: »

im in college and their still like that :rolleyes:

Have pity on those people, you only have to put up with those attitudes for the short time they are crossing your path. In school, in college, in work, online etc. They have to be them asshole selves, everyday of their lives.

When I hear loud teenage girls, it makes me sad.
Because I miss having that energy and passion, and being around my old friends.

I was a bloody horrific teenager though. In a loud and disruptive kind of way, rather than bitchy. I think alot of people are happy she is gone!

xcarriex · 15-09-2009 02:48PM

Yeah in my experience it isnt limited to just 'teenage' girls, some of my workmates (some 10 yrs older) think its ok to pass comment on wether i wear make up, may or may not have a blemish, or wear leggings at my age, im 22, i have WAY too much to live for to be concerned with that stuff!

Its them i feel sorry for

Novella · 15-09-2009 03:13PM

I'm not a confident person by any means but I never feel, or have felt, particularly intimidated by teenage girls or girls in general. I try not to let my self worth be determined by what other people think of me and/or say about me. I mean, if I heard two girls say, "Oh let's stare and her to make her feel nervous", I wouldn't think that was a problem with me. I'd actually feel sorry for them for feeling the need to do it.

As the saying goes, "Those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter."

So really, as long as the people who matter and who I care about aren't making bitchy remarks to me or about me, I could not care less.

stovelid · 15-09-2009 03:18PM

I overheard a teenage girl recently referring to me as an aul fella.

I still shake with indignation when I think of it.

Zulu · 15-09-2009 03:30PM

Don't worry OP, they all get their comeuppance in their late twenties.
The skills needed to bully and bitch in the secondary school yard don't lead to successful existance in the adult world.
You see this soon enough in university, where, although these cilques exist, they become social parahia as no one has to interact with them any more.
...and as soon as you're working - noone employs them.

Haru · 15-09-2009 03:43PM

I honestly don't think it has to do with all girls' schools. The same happens in mixed schools after all. You get that kind of girl in any community, but not everyone is like that.

There's one thing I'll admit, I find girls more aggressive than guys when they decide to argue/fight.

Now, if those two teenagers decided to follow you and insult you, it's maybe also because they could read your fear on your face. I'm not saying it's your fault or whatever, but usually, when they see the guy/girl doesn't care, they give up. However, if they see their insults have an impact on the person, they'll continue to bully him/her.

I've worked in an all women's community for a while, and everything went well. Sure, we were talking about the last bag/dress/hat/make up we noticed around, but not necessarily in a bad way.

DD67 · 15-09-2009 04:04PM

My wife recently had an experience with the local teenage population

She was walking into town with our six month old baby in the buggy and came on a group of teenagers all male bar one female who was sitting on the footpath with her legs stretched across the path therefore blocking the path, cars parked on the road so my wife said excuse me can i get past the lads moved out of the way but the girl started mouthing off to my wife and would,nt move my wife gave her a piece of her mind still no movement so she had to go out onto the road around this P.O.S and back onto the footpath when the teenager shouted at my wife to take her fat ass and F off, at this point my wife turned to the teenager and said i gave birth 5 months ago whats your excuse for having a fat ass. The lads burst there holes laughing at the young one. My wife doesnt have a fat ass by the way.

Haru · 15-09-2009 04:05PM

DD67 wrote: »

at this point my wife turned to the teenager and said i gave birth 5 months ago whats your excuse for having a fat ass. The lads burst there holes laughing at the young one.

Brilliant !

Censorsh!t · 15-09-2009 07:30PM

I actually found girls to be more bitchy when I was in a mixed school.

Dudess · 15-09-2009 07:35PM

I can't say I've experienced such intimidation OP. If I were you, I'd try not to let them get to me.

I knew a bunch of ones like that when I was in school all right - they never did anything to me, just ignored me... probably because I was a rock chick, which made me officially "weird". :pac:

iguana · 15-09-2009 08:03PM

shellyboo wrote: »

Clearly. Think you've just proved your own point there. I've never been intimidated by other girls my own age, but then I did go to a mixed school.

On the other hand I went to an all girls school but I've never been intimidated by girls my own age either.

newmills · 15-09-2009 10:03PM

Nice to say to them "sorry children, are you ok? Do you need me to call your big brother or sister for you"

I've had young ones abuse me for not buying them drink in the off licence.

My reply "sure you're only children if you are not old enough to buy it yourself"

Passed them on the way out of the shop and hit them with "night, night kids":D

Papillon! · 15-09-2009 10:15PM

hated all my school life because of girls like this! just remember its their problem, not yours

buttercupbee · 15-09-2009 11:18PM

Corb wrote: »

Yeah damn those coked up old age pensioners who chase me in their wheelchairs :pac:

Yeah - and all "DIM WAAANS" trying to mow u down with 'DER bugg-iiies!'
You know, and you would'nt look sideways at them :eek:

Do TEEN GIRLS bother you???

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