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Do TEEN GIRLS bother you???
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15-09-2009 1:06am#1A lot of us have had it at school. You are the normal, respectful, happy-go-lucky confident teenager who gets on with everyone and avoids the 'in-crowd' a-holes.
But they're there. In your face.
Sizing you up and down. Passing hurtful remarks bout your jewellery, shoes, bag and even when you're talking to your OWN people,
they'll butt in.
Walking right up to you, asking what your parents do and what car they drive.
Sneers. Whispers. All deliberate. All to draw a public tear outta you.
These girls are SOOO like, purrrfect! Mom buys all the brands for me,
my perfume is really expensive, Bt staff know my name (and Im only 14), Dad drops me in the Merc, we're all going to the States for summer, I'm so good at everything...
ALL GIRL SCHOOLS SHOULD BE A THING OF THE PAST.
They are breeding grounds of bitchiness and insecurities
which in my opinion turns a lot of girls out to be haters of other women.
Why? Because we all know what most girls that age are desperate for
- a boyfriend. They are frustrated that they spend all day every day around their own kind - other teenage girls.
All they can focus on is themselves - how perfect they pretend to be, and each other - either the percieved 'competition' or the ones they can pick on to make themselves feel superior.
I'd HATE to be one again. Even to this day I dread being near them.
They barge into shops, very loudly giving their valid opinion on everything, in sad American accents.
You can feel their eyes burning in to you, ready to 'whisper' their observations to one another, trying to intimidate other girls/women who are shopping alone, basically taking their miserable girl-surrounded day out on random females.
I am 30 and completely at ease with myself, get tonnes of compliments about my hair, clothes, make up, figure ect but give me a shop full of school uniforms and I feel like Im back in the class again :eek:...
Anyone feel the same level of intimidation I do???
Any bitchy comments from strange teenage girls been directed at you???
Ive had a few, one being just before a night out I was going into a shop,
I was all done up and looking very classy indeed,
when two evil little bitches behind me said "let's stare at her and make her nervous".
now Ive heard some things in my time but that just knocked me
- I mean come on - HOW would anyone think of something like that to say??? that was WELL thought out and obviously used previously to desired effect. My god - that was PHYCOLOGICAL! :eek:
A NAME or SOMETHING and I could have forgotten all about it but that
I'll never forget.
Goes to show just how nasty some girls can be to each other,
and what goes on in their mixed-up heads.
I have avoided working in all women environments
and when in offices, shops ect; you can often sense the tension between staff and how they their treat customers.
All women. An awful place to be
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buttercupbee wrote: »
Any bitchy comments from strange teenage girls been directed at you???
Nope, but a youngfella called me a geebag out the window of a Nissan Micra yesterday, it made me laugh
You sound very very wound up about teenaged girls and all-women enviroments, and a wee bit paranoid about what teenaged girls are thinking and saying about you, have you considered maybe going to talk to someone about feeling that level of anxiety? Teenagers can be little sh1ts, I was around them in all girl and mixed schools and some people are just like that. A lot of teenaged girls are more likely to be walking around worrying that everyone is staring at their spots/bad clothes/bad hair etc than thinking 'haha, state of her, lets stare her out of it' tbh0 -
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I went to an all girls' secondary girls and had a wonderful experience. Maybe it was the school, or it was just an exceptional group of girls, but I never had any issues at school. Big groups of people, whatever the age/sex can be intimidating.
The "sad american accents" and type of clothes is just a trend that they'll probably grow out of. The bitchy attitudes comes from too much television showing affluent idiots and their "real lives". Unfortunately though some these princess-types don't grow up, but you can just avoid them To me it's the same as if they were goths, speaking in droning tones, dressing intimidatingly!!
After all this I've realised I'm only gonna be a teenager for another 3 weeks!!0 -
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Yeah in my experience it isnt limited to just 'teenage' girls, some of my workmates (some 10 yrs older) think its ok to pass comment on wether i wear make up, may or may not have a blemish, or wear leggings at my age, im 22, i have WAY too much to live for to be concerned with that stuff!
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I'm not a confident person by any means but I never feel, or have felt, particularly intimidated by teenage girls or girls in general. I try not to let my self worth be determined by what other people think of me and/or say about me. I mean, if I heard two girls say, "Oh let's stare and her to make her feel nervous", I wouldn't think that was a problem with me. I'd actually feel sorry for them for feeling the need to do it.
As the saying goes, "Those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter."
So really, as long as the people who matter and who I care about aren't making bitchy remarks to me or about me, I could not care less.0 -
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I know exactly what you mean.
I had 5 years of it in secondary not just from the girls, but fellas too. All spoilt, stuck up snobs they were. I was one very isolated young girl in school and if anyone did want to speak to me they were afraid to be seen doing it. I was lucky to surround myself in a variety of areas as far as mixing with people outside of school so i've grown up with an understanding of "sod them i'm not like them and don't want to be like them".
As far as nowadays I look at teenagers now and see them agonising over the most trivial of things - having the right mobiles phones, hair styles, clothes. Glad those days are well and truly behind me.
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I was ostracised by a significant number of women in one company because I flirted too much (read: "got on really well with" - I never set out to flirt/act the prick-tease) the men there, which obviously meant I was a "slut".
I worked in sales with all women being in sales. There were men too, on registers ect. The women were all much older than me and I knocked their (support) socks off every single day with my sales.
But anyway from day one they hated me cos they also hated my boss
(a woman), who initially hired me cos Im very young looking to piss them all off.
They would gang up on me, eventhough they were all themselves representing opposing companies,
and steal my customers right from under my nose,
tell them THEY had a better but cheaper product right over there,
pull mine out of their baskets and FROGMARCH them to the registers.
It was unbelievable! They were bullying ME AND THE POOR CONFUSED CUSTOMERS!
Not to worry though - I wouldn't stand for it - I confronted each and every one of them and told them in no uncertain terms that what they were doing were sackable offences and that i was more than cabable of fighting fire with fire. One burst into tears and ran to the office, where she was actually given a warning for what she was doing - other staff AND CUSTOMERS had complained them already. Walked herself into the dragons den! ratted on herself in a way hahaha!
Anyway, because they were all so nasty to me I used to talk to the menfolk - one of which was a good friend of my father's.
Another man, who they reffered to as 'loving the young ones'
I got on well with - and because I knew this I used play up in front of them to torment them. Basically I was saying 'ye'r all horrible bitches and I know this gets to ye' hahaha
All these experiences can make you sad and hurt at first but you soon get your strenght back and learn great social skills and confidence from them.
I mean the school bullies have made me what I'd never be without it.
People could shout and roar at me all day and I wouldnt flinch an inch.
I just cant abide STRANGE teenage girls about the shops ect
- you cant exactly confront them, they'd gang up on you physically and that could be really embarrassing.
But women you KNOW at work - GIVE AS GOOD AS YOU GET!
Take **** from no-one at work! :mad: You spend 40 hours a week there!0 -
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I don't get how chatterpillar indicated she spends her life insulting people/could have been a school bully - just because she said something you don't like reading. It's true: your posts do come across as overly angry towards teenage girls (some of the stuff you've written is more than a little laced with jealousy). And you do seem to let what they think of you affect you far too much.
You invited comments - that doesn't mean they're only going to be comments you like reading, nor does it give you the right to dictate who can and can't post.
Hi Dudess,
Im not getting into a slanging match here
but I AM going to explain myself - sometimes it isnt WHAT is said but HOW its said.
I mean - to quote Chatterpillar
- "In MY opinion..." - only a Doctor would conclude their findings with that term! TELLING me that I am the one with issues - I came on here for supportive opinions, not to be analysed and LABELLED a person with issues! Other people have said similar things but not in that way.
And to quote yourself "(some of the stuff you've written is more than a little laced with jealousy)" - look, if I was the jealous one, how come these teenage girls are staring at ME and my entire appearance,
which I take great care in. THEY are the ones who are jealous,
as I have cash to buy and look good. I also look about 18 but Im 30
(I constantly get asked for i.d.) so they probably think Im one of THEM :eek: :eek: :eek:
Also, why would I be jealous of confused identity, sexuality, exam stress, desparation for a boyfriend and not being able to escape my parents at home?
All I was ever saying is that they make me feel very uncomfortable bacause all they do is stare, whisper and comment. Ive overheard MANY of their conversations and its pretty nasty stuff and the example I gave of "lets stare at her and make her nervous" was just ONE thing Ive experienced by them.
Only today I heard "when are you going to beat up C*******?"
to the amusement of all around her.
Maybe you've escaped the wrath of the stuck-up twIT-girl so far
but I guarantee that one day you wont. And you will go home a little shaken and hurt by it.
But maybe you have a teenage girl at home, I dont know, or there might be one in your family. You might see them differently. I dont.
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You're 30...what makes you an expert on teenage girls? You've been to ALL girls' schools have you? :rolleyes:
You seem a bit self-obsessed, do you really think many teenage girls give a crap about how you look/what you wear etc.?
Yes I HAVE been to an all girls school actually
- and I left two days after my 16th birthday because of the bullying
& bitchiness I was on the receiving end of.
All it took was one miss popular to start , who then turned everyone else on me.
It was a super stuck-up school run by evil nuns who always sided with the poshies cos of their daddies' contributions and as we all know all the religious orders GIVE a **** about is money.
I left without an education, after getting 3 A's in my Junior Cert.
What makes me an expert on teenage girls?
When you are treated like I was you put people into categories
(as we ALL do) and you either like or dislike them.
I see the 'type' that I was ridiculed by, the little princess'
- Im hardly going to like these people am I?
I'm hardly going to want any daughter of mine to turn out like that am I?
These girls turn out to be even nastier adults, trampling over anyone who they feel are 'inferior'.
We all see them and most normal people are sickened by them
- out shopping, in work, on a night out ect.
You study the people you either want to be like
or the ones you want to be vastly UNlike.
To be a bitch to those who have done you no wrong takes years
of practice - and it starts at school.
And for the record - ya, they DO care what I wear - as all they do is judge people.
So I'm entitled to judge them too
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buttercupbee wrote: »
I see the 'type' that I was ridiculed by, the little princess'
- Im hardly going to like these people am I?
I'm hardly going to want any daughter of mine to turn out like that am I?
These girls turn out to be even nastier adults, trampling over anyone who they feel are 'inferior'.
We all see them and most normal people are sickened by them
- out shopping, in work, on a night out ect.
You study the people you either want to be like
or the ones you want to be vastly UNlike.
To be a bitch to those who have done you no wrong takes years
of practice - and it starts at school.
And for the record - ya, they DO care what I wear - as all they do is judge people.
So I'm entitled to judge them too
God you do know the human race well dont you, that all bullys in school will be bullys in later life? Clap Clap that perfect statistic is new to me.
And its funny you say YOUR entitled to judge them too-are you or are you not just contradicting everything you just said, that these people are bullys because they are judging you( be it out loud).
And most normal people are sickened by them? Sickened is an awfully strong word, i would be sickened by witnessing a stabbing or perhaps someones fingers being chopped off, but not by a teenage girl.0 -
buttercupbee wrote: »And to quote yourself "(some of the stuff you've written is more than a little laced with jealousy)" - look, if I was the jealous one, how come these teenage girls are staring at ME and my entire appearance,
which I take great care in. THEY are the ones who are jealous,
as I have cash to buy and look good. I also look about 18 but Im 30
(I constantly get asked for i.d.) so they probably think Im one of THEM :eek: :eek: :eek:
Also, why would I be jealous of confused identity, sexuality, exam stress, desparation for a boyfriend and not being able to escape my parents at home?
You're 30 and you're worrying about what teenage girls think and say about you? Yes, some of them are nasty little b1tches, but it is worrying how much it seems to affect your life.All I was ever saying is that they make me feel very uncomfortable bacause all they do is stare, whisper and comment. Ive overheard MANY of their conversations and its pretty nasty stuff and the example I gave of "lets stare at her and make her nervous" was just ONE thing Ive experienced by them.
Only today I heard "when are you going to beat up C*******?"
to the amusement of all around her.
You got upset because one silly girl said 'let's stare at her and make her nervous?' That's not even a personal insult. You need to develop a thicker skin! Honestly, I didn't enjoy school and I don't like having to work with these 'teenage b1tches who never grew up', but who cares about some random teenager in a shop?Maybe you've escaped the wrath of the stuck-up twIT-girl so far
but I guarantee that one day you wont. And you will go home a little shaken and hurt by it.
But maybe you have a teenage girl at home, I dont know, or there might be one in your family. You might see them differently. I dont.
lol
Honestly, most of us just forget about it. I can barely even think of an example of when a teenage girl was rude/mean to me, not because it doesn't happen, but because it's so unimportant. I just totally blank them out, and if I do happen to overhear a nasty comment, I've forgotten it 5 minutes later. It seems like you have some sort of deep rooted problem here!0 -
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[quote=[Deleted User];62144184]You got upset because one silly girl said 'let's stare at her and make her nervous?' That's not even a personal insult. You need to develop a thicker skin! Honestly,
It seems like you have some sort of deep rooted problem here![/quote]
Ahhhh bit harsh on OP there... in fairness... if someone said that in a shop it would freak most people out... its just weird!
I totally get what u mean.. in a few "upmarket" places I have been pushed out of the que by these bitches with their american accents! they then just skip the que with their mate... how can you react to that on a night out??!!
Anyway, I gave the girl a flithy look and she was all smiles like, oh u having a good night and then pissing herself laughing at me with her mate
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