kissing a guy = kissing a girl?

Kirnsy · 14-01-2009 05:26PM #1

i was wondering where the LL would stand on this??

is a girl kissing another girl while in a relationship perceived as cheating??

most lads(myself included) find the thought of two girls kissing pretty hot!

However if my gf were to be kissing another girl on a drunken night out id actually get a bit pissed off!!!

is there something wrong with me?!or does anyone else find this makes sense!!

Kimbot · 14-01-2009 05:30PM

Kirnsy wrote: »

i was wondering where the LL would stand on this??

is a girl kissing another girl while in a relationship perceived as cheating??

most lads(myself included) find the thought of two girls kissing pretty hot!

However if my gf were to be kissing another girl on a drunken night out id actually get a bit pissed off!!!

is there something wrong with me?!or does anyone else find this makes sense!!

My friend, if I were you I would be asking to join in!!

TBH would it really bother you if she was kissing a mate for a laugh or are you asking as if it was intentional and they were at it all night?

Kirnsy · 14-01-2009 05:33PM

no no this isnt a PI and i dont want it to turn in to it!!

its never happend to me im just wondering if other people would see it as bad as kissing a guy?!!

or visa versa but its rarer id imagine when guys kiss other guys!!

ps Mods if you feel this thread is more suited to AH or elsewhere please move!

Mr. Frost · 14-01-2009 05:35PM

jonny24ie wrote: »

My friend, if I were you I would be asking to join in!!

TBH would it really bother you if she was kissing a mate for a laugh or are you asking as if it was intentional and they were at it all night?

I'd say it would bother her if he was kissing his (girl) mate for a laugh.

Snowie · 14-01-2009 05:36PM

Id wonder why im seeing a girl whos an attention seeker....

shellyboo · 14-01-2009 05:38PM

Snow-Monkey wrote: »

Id wonder why im seeing a girl whos an attention seeker....

Yeah, cos that's the only reason a girl would want to kiss another girl :rolleyes:

In my head, kissing another girl wouldn't be classed as 'cheating' at all, I wouldn't consider it so... but if I was in a relationship, I wouldn't do it unless I'd talked about it with my partner and he was ok with it.

ntlbell · 14-01-2009 05:40PM

shellyboo wrote: »

Yeah, cos that's the only reason a girl would want to kiss another girl :rolleyes:

In my head, kissing another girl wouldn't be classed as 'cheating' at all, I wouldn't consider it so... but if I was in a relationship, I wouldn't do it unless I'd talked about it with my partner and he was ok with it.

wtf.

You're a journalist please don't use cos.....

Mr. Frost · 14-01-2009 05:40PM

shellyboo wrote: »

Yeah, cos that's the only reason a girl would want to kiss another girl :rolleyes:

In my head, kissing another girl wouldn't be classed as 'cheating' at all, I wouldn't consider it so... but if I was in a relationship, I wouldn't do it unless I'd talked about it with my partner and he was ok with it.

What if he wanted to kiss a bloke, or another girl? I wouldn't be that bothered though.

pingpongz · 14-01-2009 05:41PM

Ive told my GF i have no problems with her even ****ing another girl if she wanted to.
If she kissed another guy though i would have them both killed :cool:

shellyboo · 14-01-2009 05:43PM

ntlbell wrote: »

wtf.

You're a journalist please don't use cos.....

Unless you're intending on paying me the going rate for my writing skills, I don't intend to alter my informal language use for your sake, ntlbell. I also use txtspk in text messages, shocka.

shellyboo · 14-01-2009 05:44PM

Mr. Frost wrote: »

What if he wanted to kiss a bloke, or another girl? I wouldn't be that bothered though.

Wouldn't have a problem with him kissing a bloke, as long as he'd told me he was bicurious before he did it and knew it was ok with me.

I'd have a huge problem with him kissing another girl, though.

spurious · 14-01-2009 05:44PM

pingpongz wrote: »

Ive told my GF i have no problems with her even ****ing another girl if she wanted to.

What if the other woman was gay and not doing a Katie Perry?

Snowie · 14-01-2009 05:44PM

shellyboo wrote: »

Yeah, cos that's the only reason a girl would want to kiss another girl :rolleyes:

In my head, kissing another girl wouldn't be classed as 'cheating' at all, I wouldn't consider it so... but if I was in a relationship, I wouldn't do it unless I'd talked about it with my partner and he was ok with it.

:rolleyes:
Rioght....

So why would a girl kiss another girl ? when she in a reletionship with some one else, please feel free to inlightin me ?

Morgase · 14-01-2009 05:46PM

I would perceive it as cheating.

Experimentation is great and all but it's not cool if you're already going out with somebody else.

shellyboo · 14-01-2009 05:46PM

Snow-Monkey wrote: »

:rolleyes:
Rioght....

So why would a girl kiss another girl ? when she in a reletionship with some one else, please feel free to inlightin me ?

Because she's bisexual or bicurious and kissing a girl is different to kissing a guy?

And like I said, it's only ok if your partner has cleared it beforehand. The only definition of cheating that matters in a case like this is your partner's, so unless you find out what they think first, it's just irresponsible.

St Bill · 14-01-2009 05:47PM

Kirnsy wrote: »

i was wondering where the LL would stand on this??

is a girl kissing another girl while in a relationship perceived as cheating??

most lads(myself included) find the thought of two girls kissing pretty hot!

However if my gf were to be kissing another girl on a drunken night out id actually get a bit pissed off!!!

is there something wrong with me?!or does anyone else find this makes sense!!

I think there's something wrong with you. Why are you asking people does it make sense to be annoyed if your girlfirend snogged someone else?

Nevyn · 14-01-2009 05:47PM

Kirnsy wrote: »

is a girl kissing another girl while in a relationship perceived as cheating??

Yes if her partner views it as that with in the context of their relationship.

ntlbell · 14-01-2009 05:48PM

shellyboo wrote: »

Wouldn't have a problem with him kissing a bloke, as long as he'd told me he was bicurious before he did it and knew it was ok with me.

I'd have a huge problem with him kissing another girl, though.

bi curious lol

Just when you think boards can't get any worse a new level is reached.

shellyboo · 14-01-2009 05:49PM

ntlbell wrote: »

bi curious lol

Just when you think boards can't get any worse a new level is reached.

Do you want to explain that?

jellie · 14-01-2009 05:49PM

if your gf is kissing a girl she either..

a) is doing it for attention
or
b) wants to kiss other people

if its a) do you want an attention seeker for a gf
if its b) do you want your gf cheating

ntlbell · 14-01-2009 05:51PM

shellyboo wrote: »

Do you want to explain that?

If I have to explain that bi curious is just another name for a socially/emotionally/sexually retarded teenager who needs to take down the placebo poster.....then sure...consider it done.

Morgase · 14-01-2009 05:52PM

shellyboo wrote: »

Wouldn't have a problem with him kissing a bloke, as long as he'd told me he was bicurious before he did it and knew it was ok with me.

I'd have a huge problem with him kissing another girl, though.

I must say I'd be the opposite end of the spectrum - if my bf kissed either a man or woman I'd be equally annoyed!

I thought that this would be the typical view but it will be interesting to see whether other Loungers would be of the more lenient shellyboo view.

Snowie · 14-01-2009 05:53PM

shellyboo wrote: »

Because she's bisexual or bicurious and kissing a girl is different to kissing a guy?

And like I said, it's only ok if your partner has cleared it beforehand. The only definition of cheating that matters in a case like this is your partner's, so unless you find out what they think first, it's just irresponsible.

Thats a pretty big genrlization there...

bare with me here

Your in a steady reletioship with some one, you decide your bi curious..
Why in hell are you in a reletionship if you decided you where bi curious? If he agreed that you could kiss girls, does this mean he could kiss other girls to ?

Nevyn · 14-01-2009 05:54PM

ntlbell wrote: »

If I have to explain that bi curious is just another name for a socially/emotionally/sexually retarded teenager who needs to take down the placebo poster.....then sure...consider it done.

Post reported for being insulting to peoples sexual orientation and being personally abusive.

ntlbell · 14-01-2009 05:56PM

Snow-Monkey wrote: »

Thats a pretty big genrlization there...

bare with me here

Your in a steady reletioship with some one, you decide your bi curious..
Why in hell are you in a reletionship if you decided you where bi curious? If he agreed that you could kiss girls, does this mean he could kiss other girls to ?

It means you should probably count your lucky stars.

ntlbell · 14-01-2009 05:57PM

Thaedydal wrote: »

Post reported for being insulting to peoples sexual orientation and being personally abusive.

are you for real?

bi-curious is a sexual orientation now? it's an actual state?

it just means your fecking confused?? how is that insulting?

Nevyn · 14-01-2009 05:58PM

Snow-Monkey wrote: »

Thats a pretty big genrlization there...

bare with me here

Your in a steady reletioship with some one, you decide your bi curious..
Why in hell are you in a reletionship if you decided you where bi curious? If he agreed that you could kiss girls, does this mean he could kiss other girls to ?

Just because you are bi courous or even bisexual and in a relationship with a person of one gender
that does not mean you won't find people of the other gender attractive.

It does how ever mean that you do not act on it in a way which breaks
the terms of your relationship and if you find those terms to be too restrictive
then you should break up and them move on.

As for what ever arrangements or agreements people have with in the terms of their relationships
that is between them and of no concern of anyone else unless it effects the directly.

shellyboo · 14-01-2009 06:01PM

Morgase wrote: »

I must say I'd be the opposite end of the spectrum - if my bf kissed either a man or woman I'd be equally annoyed!

I thought that this would be the typical view but it will be interesting to see whether other Loungers would be of the more lenient shellyboo view.

I highly doubt it, I'm pretty sure I'm going to be in a minority of one on this. Prove me wrong, tLLers!

Snow-Monkey wrote: »

Thats a pretty big genrlization there...

bare with me here

Your in a steady reletioship with some one, you decide your bi curious..
Why in hell are you in a reletionship if you decided you where bi curious? If he agreed that you could kiss girls, does this mean he could kiss other girls to ?

Why shouldn't a bisexual/bicurious person be in a relationship? They're just as entitled to be in one as a straight or gay person.

No, it doesn't mean that he could kiss other girls, but it does mean that he could kiss other guys.
I'm not saying this should be allowed in all relationships, if someone considers it cheating then absolutely not, it's off limits. But if I have a boyfriend who's happy for me to experiment with women, then where's the harm? I'd be happy for him to experiment with men too, if he wanted.

As for a generalisation... it's not. It's fact. Kissing a girl feels different to kissing a guy. Unless you've kissed a guy, you're not in a position to dispute this.

Stheno · 14-01-2009 06:05PM

shellyboo wrote: »

No, it doesn't mean that he could kiss other girls, but it does mean that he could kiss other guys.
I'm not saying this should be allowed in all relationships, if someone considers it cheating then absolutely not, it's off limits. But if I have a boyfriend who's happy for me to experiment with women, then where's the harm? I'd be happy for him to experiment with men too, if he wanted.

I'd consider it cheating regardless of the gender of the person.

Mr. Frost · 14-01-2009 06:09PM

nouggatti wrote: »

I'd consider it cheating regardless of the gender of the person.

I think Shelly's point is that it's not cheating if both partners consent to it.

KnifeWRENCH · 14-01-2009 06:10PM

ntlbell wrote: »

are you for real?

bi-curious is a sexual orientation now? it's an actual state?

it just means your fecking confused?? how is that insulting?

:rolleyes:
Referring to people who are bicurious as socially/emotionally retarded teenagers is pretty offensive, although I guess it's not as offensive as it is mindnumbingly stupid and ignorant.

kissing a guy = kissing a girl?

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