Do you believe in love at first sight?

takola · 01-06-2008 12:27AM

Abigayle wrote: »

You speak Bellabipic?

Vurrry impressed. :pac:

I can read minds! I can translate it from there! :pac:

What'd I miss?

bellapip · 01-06-2008 12:33AM

Huuuuurlurrrious,.

Sweriorliously,. , . Tooo funnnnnny........

Abi · 01-06-2008 12:35AM

bellapip wrote: »

Huuuuurlurrrious,.
Sweriorliously,. , . Tooo funnnnnny........

lol.

01-06-2008 12:36AM

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

So, do you believe in love at first sight?

Does lust count?

GirlInterrupted wrote:

And to spare anyone the effort,

Yes, with Yore Ma,
Yes, with your Da
And any other variation thereof....

No Atari Jaguar?

Dave! · 01-06-2008 12:39AM

No, not at all. How could I? Love (or whatever term you want to use) is surely more to do with personality than appearance. If you no nothing of someone's personality, how could you love them? It makes no sense.

If by "love" you mean "extreme lust" or "I'd eat through a mile of her sh*te to get to her ass", then yes, I do believe in it.

Dudess · 01-06-2008 02:35AM

I definitely don't believe in love at first sight - I don't think such a thing is possible.

DaveMcG wrote: »

"I'd eat through a mile of her sh*te to get to her ass"

Now THAT is some sweet talkin'...

Cianos · 01-06-2008 02:55AM

The concept of "love" is over estimated. The conventional view of love is that love is infinite, that if you truly love someone or something, you will love them/it forever.

But as most divorcees know, love is not infinite. Those strong and assured feelings they felt in the infancy of marriage that made them truly and utterly (correctly) believe that they were in love with this person, eventually led to disappointment and rejection, and eventually the falling out of love.

So, in this sense, I believe that love at first sight is very true and a lot more true than the conventional positioning of the concept of "love" allows. It is, in my opinion, very real to love someone even for a few moments.

It's the enthralment of beauty that delivers one to the very present moment, to be rendered speechless and mesmerised by someone, that may only last a few seconds on a busy street but that triggers a response in you that is very real and very vivid.

So, my point is that you don't have to impose a restriction upon yourself when it comes to love. imo, we spend more time denying love than acknowledging it.

Tar.Aldarion · 01-06-2008 03:00AM

I don't think being in awe of somebody being hot equals love.

KnifeWRENCH · 01-06-2008 03:00AM

Love at first sight? Bollox.
Love is not something that magically happens, it takes time to fall in love with someone.
Wanting to shag someone moderately attractive within 2 seconds of seeing them for the first time is not love.

Intothesea · 01-06-2008 03:01AM

Agreed. Love at first sight is none
other than ye olde 100% egotistical
fascination with an unknown other.
If love is a verb, love at first sight
is eh, a reflexive verb :pac:

I think true love is infinite, buried
or twisted as it may become.

Cianos · 01-06-2008 03:05AM

square_igloo wrote: »

Love at first sight? Bollox.
Love is not something that magically happens, it takes time to fall in love with someone.
Wanting to shag someone moderately attractive within 2 seconds of seeing them for the first time is not love.

By whos definition?

sneezymonica · 01-06-2008 03:09AM

I guess I believe in 'connection' at first sight - not just lust, it's something more... maybe it's based on instinct or the like but I've met people and instantly felt something that's not love (cos I don't think you can love someone til you've seen and accepted their flaws) but is maybe a little more than lust..

That's probably linked to my (admittedly not very nice) habit of making character judgements within the first five seconds of meeting people. Instantly, I either like someone or I don't. Unfair? Yes. And I have been mistaken (once).. hasn't stopped me though!

So no, I don't believe in love at first sight!

Tar.Aldarion · 01-06-2008 03:12AM

Cianos wrote: »

By whos definition?

Most people. When asked this question most people have a clear image of what love is to them, and it is not a simple case of sexual desire. Otherwise I 'love' a lot of women. We call this other thing 'lust'.

Cianos · 01-06-2008 03:23AM

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

Most people. When asked this question most people have a clear image of what love is to them, and it is not a simple case of sexual desire. Otherwise I 'love' a lot of women. We call this other thing 'lust'.

So we're just talking about dictionary definitions now? Who said that seeing someone for a few moments is just about sexual desire?

KnifeWRENCH · 01-06-2008 03:29AM

Cianos wrote: »

By whos definition?

Oxford English Dictionary wrote:

love

• noun 1 an intense feeling of deep affection.
2 a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone.
3 a great interest and pleasure in something.
4 a person or thing that one loves.
5 (in tennis, squash, etc.) a score of zero. apparently from the phrase play for love (i.e. the love of the game, not for money).

1. You can't feel an intense attachment to someone after first laying eyes on them. It's ridiculous - if it's literally first sight you know absolutely nothing about the person (other than they're hot!) They could be a serial killer, a white supremacist, a Westlife fan...there are all kinds of freaks out there.

2. sexual attachment - possibly. Lust at first sight does happen. But lust is hardly "deep" now is it?

3. Great interest and pleasure - again I feel this is more lust than love.

4. See 1.

5. Well....that's clearly irrelevant.

EDIT: Linky

Tar.Aldarion · 01-06-2008 03:34AM

Cianos wrote: »

So we're just talking about dictionary definitions now? Who said that seeing someone for a few moments is just about sexual desire?

And what else do your senses gleam when you see somebody for the first time and form this deep connection?

01-06-2008 03:38AM

I'm going to confess. No, not in church, that's been too long ago. When I first encountered Tar about 2 years ago, it was love at first sight (both Tar "him" and Tar "her").;) (S)he was so poetic...

Cianos · 01-06-2008 03:42AM

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

And what else do your senses gleam when you see somebody for the first time and form this deep connection?

This is going back to my original point, that 'love' does not have to prove itself. You may feel a strong attraction that you know isn't just sexual, but, you don't need to convince yourself that this is a permanent emotional commitment for it to feel real beyond the elements of sexual attraction

Intothesea · 01-06-2008 04:23AM

I'd agree with Cianos, it is known that
facial features that mirror our own tend
to create an 'intimacy mirage' -- not to
mention the information that someone's
stance/walk/expression might convey
or be positively correlated with a
beloved/familiar other. Emotionally
immature ppl would tend to confuse
this fake sense of familiarity as
instant 'love'.

/0.02

allabouteve · 01-06-2008 10:04AM

I don't believe in love at first sight, but I'd still love it to happen to me.........

JangoFett · 01-06-2008 10:22AM

Love at first sight, no way!

Lust at first sight, definitly!!

Could there be infatuation at first sight?

Tar.Aldarion · 01-06-2008 12:14PM

Blue_Lagoon wrote: »

I'm going to confess. No, not in church, that's been too long ago. When I first encountered Tar about 2 years ago, it was love at first sight (both Tar "him" and Tar "her").;) (S)he was so poetic...

Shh don't let them know. Poetic? What's that?

Should throw them off the trail...

Cianos wrote: »

This is going back to my original point, that 'love' does not have to prove itself. You may feel a strong attraction that you know isn't just sexual, but, you don't need to convince yourself that this is a permanent emotional commitment for it to feel real beyond the elements of sexual attraction

What you are referring to I do not call love. I call that attraction, maybe a crush of some form.

Latchy · 01-06-2008 08:37PM

square_igloo wrote: »

1. You can't feel an intense attachment to someone after first laying eyes on them. It's ridiculous - if it's literally first sight you know absolutely nothing about the person (other than they're hot!) They could be a serial killer, a white supremacist, a Westlife fan...there are all kinds of freaks out there.
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Yeah ,even worse maybe a Boyzone fan .

taidghbaby · 01-06-2008 08:45PM

love at first sight............dunno if i believe in love!!!!!!

Degsy · 01-06-2008 08:52PM

I believe in "lust at first sight"...
Y'know when you're aching to be with somebody without getting
to know them.When you ARE with them its seriously great but you have nothing in common and you never see them again.

thefinalstage · 01-06-2008 08:58PM

I believe it creates stalkers. I have personal experience, take from that what you will.

kerry4sam · 02-06-2008 06:07PM

I spent 4years with someone but certainly wasn't love at first sight, what we had we built from the foundation ... As the song goes ["I]How can we be lovers if we can't be friends"[/I]

... I don't believe in Love At First Sight but i do believe in the strong driving-you-up-the-wall sexual attraction at first sight and creating something solid from that

CathyMoran · 02-06-2008 06:53PM

I believe that you can be attracted to someone instantly, lust if you will but you do not realise that you love them until you truely know them.

ART6 · 02-06-2008 06:58PM

I met my future wife at a dance when I was home on leave from the Merchant Navy. We spent a wild fortnight together before I was shipped off again, and the day before I left I proposed to her. I was away for six months, and shipmates asked me for photos of her that I didn't have (and to be honest I couldn't really remember what she looked like). On my next leave we got married in Waterford and I left the service. We have now been married for nearly forty years, and we have two grown up and very successful children who have managed to become very married themselves. Love at first sight? I don't know. It just felt right somehow, and anyway, it grows on you over the years to the point where passion dims and total reliance on one's partner replaces it.

beautiation · 02-06-2008 09:06PM

I have a habit (that's got me burnt a lot of times) of thinking the best of everyone until they prove me wrong, so yeah, when I see someone I think really beautiful I fall in love instantly. Usually fall out of love quickly about 5 minutes later, but it's never boring at least.

Do you believe in love at first sight?

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