Do you believe in love at first sight?

GirlInterrupted · 31-05-2008 09:41PM #1

Well? I do, although there was probably a lot of lust there too, but I felt sure things would work out without even talking to himself, and for a long time it did, things ended happily enough having run its natural course and we still talk.
I'm also pretty sure I fell in love with a penpal as a kid, but I was just a kid so I'm not sure, never even saw a photo.

So, do you believe in love at first sight?

And to spare anyone the effort,

Yes, with Yore Ma,
Yes, with your Da
And any other variation thereof....

Abi · 31-05-2008 09:45PM

I believe in strong driving-you-up-the-wall sexual attraction at first sight. Love may or may not follow. A strong friendship determines whether it can be love afterwards.

We are all just a bunch of animals man.

IvaBigWun · 31-05-2008 09:47PM

Well seeing as you asked Girl

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nI7gzXz1cHo

:pac:

Pompey Magnus · 31-05-2008 09:48PM

I find the idea of "Love at first sight" to be one of the most unromantic concepts out there. It focuses entirely on the physical nature of the partner and completely ignores their character. It is "Lust at first sight" and love may or may not follow.

Karl Hungus · 31-05-2008 09:50PM

Yes, I do believe in it.

GirlInterrupted · 31-05-2008 09:50PM

IvaBigWun wrote: »

Well seeing as you asked Girl

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nI7gzXz1cHo

:pac:

Ahhhhhhh!

Sherifu · 31-05-2008 09:52PM

Yep.

Abi · 31-05-2008 09:52PM

Depeche_Mode wrote: »

It is "Lust at first sight" and love may or may not follow.

:eek:

/sings...

Hello... Is it me you're looking for...

:pac: Post 2 tbh..

Tar.Aldarion · 31-05-2008 09:53PM

No it is bollocks. Sure you want to **** them, that's about it. If they turn out to be nice people too it's a coincidence.

GirlInterrupted · 31-05-2008 09:55PM

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

No it is bollocks. Sure you want to **** them, that's about it. If they turn out to be nice people too it's a coincidence.

I knew romance wasn't dead.:)

Latchy · 31-05-2008 09:56PM

Is that not what why have the stalker phenomenon ? were celebs and non celbs alike ie , you and i can be subject to the unwanted advances ( in most cases ) of a stranger ?

Seriously though i think it is possible to fall in love with sombodys physical attractions (such as a childs /teens crush on sombody older ) and i can say in all honesty i have during periods in my life felt like i was in love with sombody, several times in fact but never pursued the object of my attractions maybe due to my shyness at the time and the impracticalities of the situation ie, i came to my senses

GirlInterrupted · 31-05-2008 09:59PM

latchyco wrote: »

Is that not what why have the stalker phenomenon ? were celebs and non celbs alike ie , you and i can be subject to the unwanted advances ( in most cases ) of a stranger ?

Seriously though i think it is possible to fall in love with sombodys physical attractions (such as a childs /teens crush on sombody older ) and i can say in all honesty i have during periods in my life felt like i was in love with sombody, several times in fact but never pursued the object of my attractions maybe due to my shyness at the time and the impracticalities of the situation ie, i came to my senses

Stalkers are something else though they think newsreaders are sending coded messages to them in the weather maps and stuff. Beat the shyness though, 'cos you could have missed something fantastic..!

MooseJam · 31-05-2008 10:00PM

lust at first sight

Creamy Goodness · 31-05-2008 10:02PM

if i did you think i'd be replying to this thread on a bank holiday saturday?

Latchy · 31-05-2008 10:02PM

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

Stalkers are something else though they think newsreaders are sending coded messages to them in the weather maps and stuff. Beat the shyness though, 'cos you could have missed something fantastic..!

She is isint she ?? :eek:

Seriously (again ) i am with you on that and yeah , i will never know how the outcome would have being ( probably freaked them out ) as i was very shy as a teen but overcame it as i got older but yeah ,what if ?

Abi · 31-05-2008 10:05PM

latchyco wrote: »

Is that not what why have the stalker phenomenon ?

lol. so true. I blame it on the story books. Exhibit A.

And before you know it. Exhibit B.

Nobody said love cant happen. But expecting insta-love is a set up for a big fall.

IvaBigWun · 31-05-2008 10:43PM

On first sight? no that would be lust

On first conversation? definitely

GirlInterrupted · 31-05-2008 10:47PM

IvaBigWun wrote: »

On first sight? no that would be lust

On first conversation? definitely

Smooooth!!!!!!!!!

bellapip · 31-05-2008 11:14PM

You need first to filter out what love is. . . .

Is it the all consuming bump of your heart bang bush bash emotion or is it something solid and secure that grows with time.

When you say, I fell in love, do you think of evenings of solidified hand holding and forward planning, or do you think of that moment when nothing else could touch this elation this sick feeling of acid infected butterflys swarming your stomach.
Its not so much falling as plunging, dropping like you do in a dream, only in the dream something always stops you before you reach the fires of hell.

And it is hedonistic, it is unreal, it is falling. . . is it always at fist sight? maybe not, but maybe at first realization, maybe at first proper kiss, maybe at first copulation, and maybe, just maybe, there are the lucky few, who smile into each others eyes, who shake hands when they know the first touch will ignite a volcano, who say hello instead of you complete me,.

Love at first sight would perhaps mean that we see ourselves clearly, every so often we will allow our hearts free reign, who knows what we can see right at that moment?

callaway92 · 31-05-2008 11:30PM

Do you believe in love at first sight, cause if you dont, Ill walk past you again

IvaBigWun · 31-05-2008 11:31PM

bellapip wrote: »

You need first to filter out what love is. . . .

Is it the all consuming bump of your heart bang bush bash emotion or is it something solid and secure that grows with time.

When you say, I fell in love, do you think of evenings of solidified hand holding and forward planning, or do you think of that moment when nothing else could touch this elation this sick feeling of acid infected butterflys swarming your stomach.
Its not so much falling as plunging, dropping like you do in a dream, only in the dream something always stops you before you reach the fires of hell.

And it is hedonistic, it is unreal, it is falling. . . is it always at fist sight? maybe not, but maybe at first realization, maybe at first proper kiss, maybe at first copulation, and maybe, just maybe, there are the lucky few, who smile into each others eyes, who shake hands when they know the first touch will ignite a volcano, who say hello instead of you complete me,.

Love at first sight would perhaps mean that we see ourselves clearly, every so often we will allow our hearts free reign, who knows what we can see right at that moment?

What are you selling?

bellapip · 31-05-2008 11:32PM

Is vomiting an option?

Abi · 31-05-2008 11:47PM

What are you selling?

I'd be more worried about what s/he was sold tbh.

-Freebird- · 31-05-2008 11:49PM

Gotta say yes.

Happened me once, never went away. But nothing ever happened.

bellapip · 31-05-2008 11:52PM

SHE,,,

And what and why both apply,. I suppose...

I would have thought my answer was self explanatory, but question away??
If, the question is was I or Am I chemically enhanced the simple answer is no, . .

B

-Freebird- · 31-05-2008 11:58PM

IvaBigWun · 01-06-2008 12:09AM

Abigayle wrote: »

I'd be more worried about what s/he was sold tbh.

Pompey Magnus · 01-06-2008 12:09AM

-Freebird- wrote: »

Seconded. WTF???

bellapip · 01-06-2008 12:12AM

OOOOPS, sorry,

I was answering :Iveabigyoke: :wonthing:

Excuse the confusion,.

B

takola · 01-06-2008 12:19AM

bellapip wrote: »

or do you think of that moment when nothing else could touch this elation this sick feeling of acid infected butterflys swarming your stomach.

bellapip wrote: »

When you say, I fell in love, do you think of evenings of solidified hand holding and forward planning,

Realistically not everyone's feelings are going to be returned so being in love can't always be evenings of solidified hand holding and forward planning.

Then again the butterflies could just be a "crush" and you could just get over it after a while.

It's an interesting question really, might be interesting to see where people have realised they were/had fallen in love.

I've thought about it and I can't decide exactly where I'd fallen in love. Maybe in between the two. Where the butterflies you have during the "honeymoon period" were still there but the plans for the future were starting to come together.

I'm not sure I believe in love at first sight. I've never had butterflies for someone I hadn't spent time with. For me I would tend to become attractive to someone over time as I get to know them.

My mother always said she fell in love with my dad the first time she seen him. As a little girl I enjoyed the story and looked at the fairy tale aspect of it. As an adult I can see the disaster that it was so I'd be fairly cynical about it! :pac:

Abi · 01-06-2008 12:23AM

You speak Bellabipic?

Vurrry impressed. :pac:

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