Do you believe in love at first sight?

GirlInterrupted

Well? I do, although there was probably a lot of lust there too, but I felt sure things would work out without even talking to himself, and for a long time it did, things ended happily enough having run its natural course and we still talk.
I'm also pretty sure I fell in love with a penpal as a kid, but I was just a kid so I'm not sure, never even saw a photo.

So, do you believe in love at first sight?

And to spare anyone the effort,

Yes, with Yore Ma,
Yes, with your Da
And any other variation thereof....

Abi

I believe in strong driving-you-up-the-wall sexual attraction at first sight. Love may or may not follow. A strong friendship determines whether it can be love afterwards.

We are all just a bunch of animals man.

IvaBigWun

Well seeing as you asked Girl

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nI7gzXz1cHo

:pac:

Pompey Magnus

I find the idea of "Love at first sight" to be one of the most unromantic concepts out there. It focuses entirely on the physical nature of the partner and completely ignores their character. It is "Lust at first sight" and love may or may not follow.

Karl Hungus

Yes, I do believe in it.

GirlInterrupted

IvaBigWun wrote: »

Well seeing as you asked Girl

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nI7gzXz1cHo

:pac:

Ahhhhhhh!

Sherifu

Yep.

Abi

Depeche_Mode wrote: »

It is "Lust at first sight" and love may or may not follow.

:eek:

/sings...


Hello... Is it me you're looking for...





:pac: Post 2 tbh..

Tar.Aldarion

No it is bollocks. Sure you want to **** them, that's about it. If they turn out to be nice people too it's a coincidence.

GirlInterrupted

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

No it is bollocks. Sure you want to **** them, that's about it. If they turn out to be nice people too it's a coincidence.

I knew romance wasn't dead.:)

Latchy

Is that not what why have the stalker phenomenon ? were celebs and non celbs alike ie , you and i can be subject to the unwanted advances ( in most cases ) of a stranger ?

Seriously though i think it is possible to fall in love with sombodys physical attractions (such as a childs /teens crush on sombody older ) and i can say in all honesty i have during periods in my life felt like i was in love with sombody, several times in fact but never pursued the object of my attractions maybe due to my shyness at the time and the impracticalities of the situation ie, i came to my senses

GirlInterrupted

latchyco wrote: »

Is that not what why have the stalker phenomenon ? were celebs and non celbs alike ie , you and i can be subject to the unwanted advances ( in most cases ) of a stranger ?

Seriously though i think it is possible to fall in love with sombodys physical attractions (such as a childs /teens crush on sombody older ) and i can say in all honesty i have during periods in my life felt like i was in love with sombody, several times in fact but never pursued the object of my attractions maybe due to my shyness at the time and the impracticalities of the situation ie, i came to my senses

Stalkers are something else though they think newsreaders are sending coded messages to them in the weather maps and stuff. Beat the shyness though, 'cos you could have missed something fantastic..!

MooseJam

lust at first sight

Creamy Goodness

if i did you think i'd be replying to this thread on a bank holiday saturday?

Latchy

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

Stalkers are something else though they think newsreaders are sending coded messages to them in the weather maps and stuff. Beat the shyness though, 'cos you could have missed something fantastic..!

She is isint she ?? :eek:

Seriously (again ) i am with you on that and yeah , i will never know how the outcome would have being ( probably freaked them out ) as i was very shy as a teen but overcame it as i got older but yeah ,what if ?

Abi

latchyco wrote: »

Is that not what why have the stalker phenomenon ?

lol. so true. I blame it on the story books. Exhibit A.


And before you know it. Exhibit B.

Nobody said love cant happen. But expecting insta-love is a set up for a big fall.

IvaBigWun

On first sight? no that would be lust

On first conversation? definitely

GirlInterrupted

IvaBigWun wrote: »

On first sight? no that would be lust

On first conversation? definitely

Smooooth!!!!!!!!!

bellapip

You need first to filter out what love is. . . .

Is it the all consuming bump of your heart bang bush bash emotion or is it something solid and secure that grows with time.


When you say, I fell in love, do you think of evenings of solidified hand holding and forward planning, or do you think of that moment when nothing else could touch this elation this sick feeling of acid infected butterflys swarming your stomach.
Its not so much falling as plunging, dropping like you do in a dream, only in the dream something always stops you before you reach the fires of hell.

And it is hedonistic, it is unreal, it is falling. . . is it always at fist sight? maybe not, but maybe at first realization, maybe at first proper kiss, maybe at first copulation, and maybe, just maybe, there are the lucky few, who smile into each others eyes, who shake hands when they know the first touch will ignite a volcano, who say hello instead of you complete me,.

Love at first sight would perhaps mean that we see ourselves clearly, every so often we will allow our hearts free reign, who knows what we can see right at that moment?

callaway92

Do you believe in love at first sight, cause if you dont, Ill walk past you again

IvaBigWun

bellapip wrote: »

You need first to filter out what love is. . . .

Is it the all consuming bump of your heart bang bush bash emotion or is it something solid and secure that grows with time.


When you say, I fell in love, do you think of evenings of solidified hand holding and forward planning, or do you think of that moment when nothing else could touch this elation this sick feeling of acid infected butterflys swarming your stomach.
Its not so much falling as plunging, dropping like you do in a dream, only in the dream something always stops you before you reach the fires of hell.

And it is hedonistic, it is unreal, it is falling. . . is it always at fist sight? maybe not, but maybe at first realization, maybe at first proper kiss, maybe at first copulation, and maybe, just maybe, there are the lucky few, who smile into each others eyes, who shake hands when they know the first touch will ignite a volcano, who say hello instead of you complete me,.

Love at first sight would perhaps mean that we see ourselves clearly, every so often we will allow our hearts free reign, who knows what we can see right at that moment?

What are you selling?

bellapip

Is vomiting an option?

Abi

What are you selling?

I'd be more worried about what s/he was sold tbh.

-Freebird-

Gotta say yes.

Happened me once, never went away. But nothing ever happened.

bellapip

SHE,,,


And what and why both apply,. I suppose...



I would have thought my answer was self explanatory, but question away??
If, the question is was I or Am I chemically enhanced the simple answer is no, . .


B

-Freebird-

IvaBigWun

Abigayle wrote: »

I'd be more worried about what s/he was sold tbh.

Pompey Magnus

-Freebird- wrote: »

Seconded. WTF???

bellapip

OOOOPS, sorry,

I was answering :Iveabigyoke: :wonthing:


Excuse the confusion,.



B

takola

bellapip wrote: »

or do you think of that moment when nothing else could touch this elation this sick feeling of acid infected butterflys swarming your stomach.

bellapip wrote: »

When you say, I fell in love, do you think of evenings of solidified hand holding and forward planning,

Realistically not everyone's feelings are going to be returned so being in love can't always be evenings of solidified hand holding and forward planning.

Then again the butterflies could just be a "crush" and you could just get over it after a while.

It's an interesting question really, might be interesting to see where people have realised they were/had fallen in love.

I've thought about it and I can't decide exactly where I'd fallen in love. Maybe in between the two. Where the butterflies you have during the "honeymoon period" were still there but the plans for the future were starting to come together.

I'm not sure I believe in love at first sight. I've never had butterflies for someone I hadn't spent time with. For me I would tend to become attractive to someone over time as I get to know them.

My mother always said she fell in love with my dad the first time she seen him. As a little girl I enjoyed the story and looked at the fairy tale aspect of it. As an adult I can see the disaster that it was so I'd be fairly cynical about it! :pac:

Abi

You speak Bellabipic?


Vurrry impressed. :pac:

takola

Abigayle wrote: »

You speak Bellabipic?


Vurrry impressed. :pac:

I can read minds! I can translate it from there! :pac:

What'd I miss?

bellapip

Huuuuurlurrrious,.

Sweriorliously,. , . Tooo funnnnnny........

Abi

bellapip wrote: »

Huuuuurlurrrious,.
Sweriorliously,. , . Tooo funnnnnny........

lol.

Black Swan

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

So, do you believe in love at first sight?

Does lust count?

GirlInterrupted wrote:

And to spare anyone the effort,

Yes, with Yore Ma,
Yes, with your Da
And any other variation thereof....

No Atari Jaguar?

Dave!

No, not at all. How could I? Love (or whatever term you want to use) is surely more to do with personality than appearance. If you no nothing of someone's personality, how could you love them? It makes no sense.

If by "love" you mean "extreme lust" or "I'd eat through a mile of her sh*te to get to her ass", then yes, I do believe in it.

Dudess

I definitely don't believe in love at first sight - I don't think such a thing is possible.

DaveMcG wrote: »

"I'd eat through a mile of her sh*te to get to her ass"

Now THAT is some sweet talkin'...

Cianos

The concept of "love" is over estimated. The conventional view of love is that love is infinite, that if you truly love someone or something, you will love them/it forever.

But as most divorcees know, love is not infinite. Those strong and assured feelings they felt in the infancy of marriage that made them truly and utterly (correctly) believe that they were in love with this person, eventually led to disappointment and rejection, and eventually the falling out of love.

So, in this sense, I believe that love at first sight is very true and a lot more true than the conventional positioning of the concept of "love" allows. It is, in my opinion, very real to love someone even for a few moments.

It's the enthralment of beauty that delivers one to the very present moment, to be rendered speechless and mesmerised by someone, that may only last a few seconds on a busy street but that triggers a response in you that is very real and very vivid.

So, my point is that you don't have to impose a restriction upon yourself when it comes to love. imo, we spend more time denying love than acknowledging it.

Tar.Aldarion

I don't think being in awe of somebody being hot equals love.

KnifeWRENCH

Love at first sight? Bollox.
Love is not something that magically happens, it takes time to fall in love with someone.
Wanting to shag someone moderately attractive within 2 seconds of seeing them for the first time is not love.

Intothesea

Agreed. Love at first sight is none
other than ye olde 100% egotistical
fascination with an unknown other.
If love is a verb, love at first sight
is eh, a reflexive verb :pac:

I think true love is infinite, buried
or twisted as it may become.

Cianos

square_igloo wrote: »

Love at first sight? Bollox.
Love is not something that magically happens, it takes time to fall in love with someone.
Wanting to shag someone moderately attractive within 2 seconds of seeing them for the first time is not love.

By whos definition?

sneezymonica

I guess I believe in 'connection' at first sight - not just lust, it's something more... maybe it's based on instinct or the like but I've met people and instantly felt something that's not love (cos I don't think you can love someone til you've seen and accepted their flaws) but is maybe a little more than lust..

That's probably linked to my (admittedly not very nice) habit of making character judgements within the first five seconds of meeting people. Instantly, I either like someone or I don't. Unfair? Yes. And I have been mistaken (once).. hasn't stopped me though!

So no, I don't believe in love at first sight!

Tar.Aldarion

Cianos wrote: »

By whos definition?

Most people. When asked this question most people have a clear image of what love is to them, and it is not a simple case of sexual desire. Otherwise I 'love' a lot of women. We call this other thing 'lust'.

Cianos

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

Most people. When asked this question most people have a clear image of what love is to them, and it is not a simple case of sexual desire. Otherwise I 'love' a lot of women. We call this other thing 'lust'.

So we're just talking about dictionary definitions now? Who said that seeing someone for a few moments is just about sexual desire?

KnifeWRENCH

Cianos wrote: »

By whos definition?

Oxford English Dictionary wrote:

love

• noun 1 an intense feeling of deep affection.
2 a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone.
3 a great interest and pleasure in something.
4 a person or thing that one loves.
5 (in tennis, squash, etc.) a score of zero. apparently from the phrase play for love (i.e. the love of the game, not for money).

1. You can't feel an intense attachment to someone after first laying eyes on them. It's ridiculous - if it's literally first sight you know absolutely nothing about the person (other than they're hot!) They could be a serial killer, a white supremacist, a Westlife fan...there are all kinds of freaks out there.

2. sexual attachment - possibly. Lust at first sight does happen. But lust is hardly "deep" now is it?

3. Great interest and pleasure - again I feel this is more lust than love.

4. See 1.

5. Well....that's clearly irrelevant.

EDIT: Linky

Tar.Aldarion

Cianos wrote: »

So we're just talking about dictionary definitions now? Who said that seeing someone for a few moments is just about sexual desire?

And what else do your senses gleam when you see somebody for the first time and form this deep connection?

Black Swan

I'm going to confess. No, not in church, that's been too long ago. When I first encountered Tar about 2 years ago, it was love at first sight (both Tar "him" and Tar "her").;) (S)he was so poetic...

Cianos

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

And what else do your senses gleam when you see somebody for the first time and form this deep connection?

This is going back to my original point, that 'love' does not have to prove itself. You may feel a strong attraction that you know isn't just sexual, but, you don't need to convince yourself that this is a permanent emotional commitment for it to feel real beyond the elements of sexual attraction

Intothesea

I'd agree with Cianos, it is known that
facial features that mirror our own tend
to create an 'intimacy mirage' -- not to
mention the information that someone's
stance/walk/expression might convey
or be positively correlated with a
beloved/familiar other. Emotionally
immature ppl would tend to confuse
this fake sense of familiarity as
instant 'love'.

/0.02

allabouteve

I don't believe in love at first sight, but I'd still love it to happen to me.........