Do you have a girlfriend?

Beruthiel wrote:

Excuse me, but you say you're twenty something, you have a good 60 years ahead of you if you're lucky and already you've given up.
Get a grip on yourself, from where I'm standing, you're only starting out on life and it's all ahead of you.
I have to tell you, you're attitude sucks donkeys balls.

LOl.. only 60 years beruthiel.. hell i am 42 and i plan on misbehaving in 60 years time .

Why should people when they are older be expected to lose all connection.
A good illustrative point would be my mid fifties friend who sent me this quote for the day:

"life should not be a journey to teh grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive, well preserved body. But rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, martini in the other. Body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming woo hoo what a ride!!!!!!!!"

and this has relevance to this thread and so many others.

So OP and others ..re-evaluate.

And if it seems i am tetchy..i am.
Because I have profound respect and admiration for a friend who has suffered horrendoulsy the worst form of physical and emotional abuse over a protracted period, and yet who knwoing the pain and long haul of it. She makes the monumental effort to reconnect, to live. It would have been so easy, and perfectly understandable if she had closed off, gone numb and accepted things. She hasn't, though it takes her years i have every confidence she will find what she is looking for. Someone with such spirit will achieve their aims and it is such an accomplishment that it is amazing to see, and shows just how the human spirit can fight.

To throw in the towel, because someone doesn't come knocking or because you have been dumped, grow a pair and live life to its full. Its in your hands. by all means show the hurt and pain, but learn by it and live. Anything else and, as the klingons would have it, you are a waste of skin

BTW: THIS ISN'T AIMED AT ANY ONE INDIVIDUAL.