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  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,361 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    Dan133269 wrote:
    Mark and Beruthiel, I concede I was a bit judgmental with regard to the 50 yr old women out finding boyfriends, I just never came across that before so that's why I'm a bit intimidated by the thought.

    Intimidated?
    Live and let live, what business is it of ours what others do, whatever their age? When I hit 50 I'm not stopping cos some 20 year old 'thinks' I should!
    He did, I did, we tried, unfortunately it didn't happen.

    Well now that made me smile. 'We tried' you say. Excuse me, but you say you're twenty something, you have a good 60 years ahead of you if you're lucky and already you've given up.
    Get a grip on yourself, from where I'm standing, you're only starting out on life and it's all ahead of you.
    I have to tell you, you're attitude sucks donkeys balls.

    Yesterday a mate in work here anounced he's getting married, he's 45. If your 47 year old friend actually made a proper effort he'd eventually find someone.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 6,395 ✭✭✭Marksie


    Beruthiel wrote:
    Excuse me, but you say you're twenty something, you have a good 60 years ahead of you if you're lucky and already you've given up.
    Get a grip on yourself, from where I'm standing, you're only starting out on life and it's all ahead of you.
    I have to tell you, you're attitude sucks donkeys balls.

    LOl.. only 60 years beruthiel.. hell i am 42 and i plan on misbehaving in 60 years time :).

    Why should people when they are older be expected to lose all connection.
    A good illustrative point would be my mid fifties friend who sent me this quote for the day:

    "life should not be a journey to teh grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive, well preserved body. But rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, martini in the other. Body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming woo hoo what a ride!!!!!!!!"

    and this has relevance to this thread and so many others.

    So OP and others ..re-evaluate.

    And if it seems i am tetchy..i am.
    Because I have profound respect and admiration for a friend who has suffered horrendoulsy the worst form of physical and emotional abuse over a protracted period, and yet who knwoing the pain and long haul of it. She makes the monumental effort to reconnect, to live. It would have been so easy, and perfectly understandable if she had closed off, gone numb and accepted things. She hasn't, though it takes her years i have every confidence she will find what she is looking for. Someone with such spirit will achieve their aims and it is such an accomplishment that it is amazing to see, and shows just how the human spirit can fight.

    To throw in the towel, because someone doesn't come knocking or because you have been dumped, grow a pair and live life to its full. Its in your hands. by all means show the hurt and pain, but learn by it and live. Anything else and, as the klingons would have it, you are a waste of skin

    BTW: THIS ISN'T AIMED AT ANY ONE INDIVIDUAL.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭Kell


    Dan133269 wrote:
    you can try and attract the opposite sex, woo them as best as you can and then be completely honest as to how you feel about someone, after that there is nothing you can do to win someone is there?

    I hear what said about not being the kind who doesnt talk to women etc. Question- have you ever had a good female friend that you fancied, got on really well with and thought you'd make a good go of it with? And then convinced yourself out of asking her out for fear of fúcking things up? THATS as far as you go- throwing caution to the wind and risking a friendship for the sake of possible happiness.

    You said that you werent defeatist, but in your early 20's to assume that theres no point in trying anymore, as Ruthie says, sucks donkey balls. At 32 I regard myself as a teenager in the grand scale of things. What does that make you?

    K-


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 232 ✭✭kryan1


    Would you think it would be better 2 arrange a group of single ppl and meet at a place and do something. Like on the radio, the Rick O'Shea show, is having an even called cin-dating, where they get 15 male, 15 female, meet 4 drinks, then watch a movie. Everyone is on the same level, and there is a group that u can mingle with everyone, and if there is someone who u do fancy well, u know that they r single, and it should make it a hundred times easier. If friendship comes out of it, nothing is lost, RIGHT?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    'just an update. i've met someone. now her situaton is very complicated to say the least (relationship of 4 years gone stale) so its unlikely to turn into anything too serious/long term but if nothing else, at least i've finally connected with someone.

    to all the guys and girls who replied to this thread with a similar situation to my own, i know its no comfort and i realise how cliched this sounds but....it'll happen eventually.

    while i'm here....a question - will a girl ever break it off with a long term bf (who she says dosnt look at her anymore and she says even if he found out about us he wouldnt care much) for a a guy she just met, gets on really well with and has an amazing passionate (cough) time with? am i being used as a dirty little secret?

    god when something finally happens to me it, has to be completely ****ed up. *sigh*'


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,128 ✭✭✭sweet-rasmus


    ah! well done! go with it. goodness knows what'll happen but i'm glad you get to experience a bite from the love bug ;) don't think about her pervious relationship; you are with her now :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    don't think about her pervious relationship; you are with her now :D
    ye see the thing is, this is not a previous relationship, she's still with him and as far as being 'with' her, i dont think she's telling any of her friends about be just yet if you get my drift....


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    'dude, I'm 19, never had a gf, been close to having one but distance between us came between us and stuff.. feck I've never properly kissed a girl!!

    I like being single, but often I'd like someone close... i've just never really found a really nice girl I'd be happy with... i have a few good female friends..

    Dont listen to wha ur friends tink about the girls U like, the girl I liked last and nearly started sumtin wit some of my friends had bad opinions about her ( as so did herself ) but I ignored them and didnt care, every1 makes mistakes, forget and forgive!'


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